POTTY TRAINING, help me :)

[momttc]

Ok, My son is 2 at the end of next month.  He goes pee everytime I put him on the potty.  I read that you can officially start training when they poop at the same time every day.  So ok we're there.  How do you get them to poop on the potty?

He goes every time we finish breakfast.  I've spent 2 hours every morning chasing him around and sitting on the potty.  When I think he's not going to go, because he's tried a couple times and nothing..  I leave him for a few seconds.  boom, he goes.  I've heard kids like to be alone to poop?  So how on earth do you get them to go on the potty?  I can't sit with him ALL day?????  I have a job here at home.  I know once he does it once he'll understand.  Too after that first time, I'm moving him to training pants.  Or should I just go ahead and do that now?

Ugh.  I know he's holding it because I'm there.  He pees but can't/won't poop.  What's the trick girls!

My baby girl will be here in 3 months (or less hee hee) so I really want to give this my all now.  Or is 2 too soon for boys???

Thanks for the help!!  Momttc

[jluhart]

If you are at home, try leaving his diaper off.  

You can also try 10 minutes every hour letting him know that he is in the bathroom to go potty.  If he doesn't the first time, wait an hour and try it again.  He'll go eventually.

[firsttimearound]

I know this isn't helpfull, but your story kind of reminded me of one of my cousins trying to potty train her son. He refused to poop on the potty too-but it was more a matter of will than not understanding. He would find himselt a spot in the living room (sometimes next to the little potty his mother had placed there in utter desparation) and plop his poop right on the carpet as soon as she had her back turned...(so, it could be worse):^).

[TraceeH]

Boys do tend to take longer to potty train than girls. My experience is usually they are around 2 1/2 or 3 before they are fully potty trained. Sometimes if you buy them some underwear that they really like, with their favorite character or something, it helps. They want to be able to wear them and be a big kid. You just need to make sure that they understand that they have to go in the potty if they want to wear them, so they don't mess up their favorite new underwear.

[nanakay]

well i say be patient...he may actually still be too young, just remember that he has spent 2 years pooping in his pants and it was exceptable....now all of a sudden you want him to go in the potty and it isn't ok to poop in the only place he knows.

it is something he will do, he isn't going to go to highschool pooping his pants.
good luck, take a deep breath and relax
~nanci

[Christie2004]

I agree--he may yet be a little young.  Bowel control tends to come a bit after bladder control.

I like the favorite "big boy" underpants approach--look for undies with his favorite character on them.  I got my boys a big fishbowl and filled it with little toys/trinkets/candy.  They could choose a prize when they had a "success".  I didn't scold or punish accidents--we simply walked into the bathroom together and sorrowfully looked at the big fishbowl and said  to him "maybe next time".  

It didn't take long before we had consistent successes.

[momttc]

Thanks guys.  I hope I'm not too early!!  I really would love to have this tackled by the time the baby comes.  We tried when he was 15 months old, because he would pee on command.  but of course that was ALL he would do.  haha  So I hate to keep starting and stopping?  He's going to pick up on that if i do.

I'll just head to the store for underwear!!!  Thanks again, momttc :)

[kck]

I am terrible for advice in this area because I have yet to get my DD to poop in the potty.  With many children, putting them in underwear will help because once they poop in the underwear, they decide it's gross and don't want to do it again, so they go on the potty.  Problem with that is...if they decide it's not so bad and they continue to poop in the undies, you ruin a lot of underwear and end up tossing it.  My DD asks for a diaper when she needs to poop.  She totally knows and never has an accident in her panties, but she is seriously traumatized by the idea of pooping on a potty.  I have tried every one of Dr Phil's tricks and every other idea I or anyone else has ever come up with. Oh well, I guess she will learn eventually.  Good Luck!

[mgi]

my son was trained at one and "completely trained"  at 18 months.   Think of it this way.  Is your dog trained?   Is a two year old smarter thna  a dog?  Yes!  Usually if you miss the opportunity  (they'll show signs of awareness - like leaving the room to poop in their diaper - around 18 months)  it is harder.  Be vigilant for those signs in a 13-20 month old and your training will take one or two days!   Once they know their actions and go in a diaper - the mind starts with power.  Best of luck.  I say keep him on teh seat at the tiems you think he goes!

[Christie2004]

I've said this before, and am running out of patience with your dog analogy.

Dogs do TONS of things very quickly within the first weeks and months after birth, and it doesn't make them SMARTER than humans, it makes them a DIFFERENT SPECIES than human babies.

This analogy just doesn't "hold its water" (no pun intended).

  Do not toilet train children by force.  You are setting them up for problems that may not surface for decades.

[nanakay]

applause, applause, applause!

just thought i'd add that a dog is usually ready for retirement or a nice dirt nap by 13 or 14....would you like children to do that too.
~nanci