Pregnancy

[Norseman]

My girlfriend has been on birth control for almost two years and we just recently had unprotected sex(Without a condom. the day we did it was the day after she started her period, she just started the day before we had sex without a condom and we used the withdraw method. she takes her pill EVERY day and is really responsible. She has a regular period ever cycle. She always starts on a saturday and its always the 28th day. Could she be pregnant if we had sex on the 2nd day of her period and she always takes her pill? Im scared and i know to not do this anymore. please help!

Thank you!

[familybugs]

I doubt it. Especially if she knows her body and is regular every month. Some women have ovulated while on their periods, but not likely. I wouldn't freak out unless she misses her next period. Shes on the pill, on her period, and you pulled out.. you should be ok. TALK TO HER ABOUT IT AND HER BODY(CYCLES!)

[Norseman]

I have talked to her about it, she says there is no way it is possible. but i still worry....

[AnnieBrooke]

I agree with the previous poster that it is possible, but unlikely, to ovulate during one's period.  But something else to also keep in mind -- pulling out doesn't work.  The secretions the man has at the beginning (enough to get ... um,,, shall we say, upright) also have the capacity to get a woman pregnant, whether he pulls out before orgasm or not.  Do talk to your girlfriend, not just "do you think you're pregnant?" but about what ovulation is, when she feels hers is in relation to her cycle, how long her cycle is, what she thinks about being on the pill, all that stuff.  A guy who cares about all of this, not just the consequences, is a good guy.

[Norseman]

If the pill is taken everyday.... how effective do you think it is? Also when a women is on her period doesn't the flow of blood flush everything out?

[Norseman]

Also if a women were to ovulate during her period then the cycle wouldnt be 28 days every time would it?

Please help...

[AnnieBrooke]

The pill, taken correctly, on time, no skipped days, etc. is almost 99% effective, I think I have read.  A period will usually flush everything out (very rarely, a baby will be there and survive it, but it must have implanted in the uterine lining at least 5-10 days before the period to do that).  And ovulation is highly unlikely to happen when a period is happening.  Think of a woman's normal cycle as, say, 28 days long from one period starting to the next period starting.  Day 1 is the first day of a period, the flow stops at day 4 or 5.  Not until at least day 12 does ovulation normally arrive, and often around day 14 or 15 (nature sets it up so ovulation is right at mid-cycle, so it is as far from a period as it can be).  Then the new period comes at about day 29.  If your girlfriend was on the pill the whole time except the period, it is very unlikely she ovulated at all.  That's what the pill does, trick the body into not ovulating.  It doesn't sound likely that your girlfriend is PG.  Again, talk to her about all this, read a good book about reproductive systems, learn about this stuff!  Men who show they care about this-all are pure gold, and you will be so adored if you understand such things and can discuss them calmly and in a friendly way.  If you can learn the finer points of the offside kick and what makes a car go, you will have no trouble learning about this.  And the women in your life will bless you a thousand times.

[Norseman]

My girlfriend has been on the pill for almost 2 years and we have never had a problem. this was the first time we ever did it without a condom. . . Im just really worried that it could happen this time. Her period runs like clockwork. she runs on a 28 day scale over and over again. She's never missed a pill be fore. We had sex on day 2, ive read that spearm can only live for 2-3 days. Since we had sex on day 2 and "Ovulation" occurs around 12-16 days then we should be in the clear? Correct? we are 10 days or so away from ovulation.... Have i done my work correct?

[AnnieBrooke]

Strange things happen with human bodies, and there are no guarantees, but it sounds like you guys are in the clear.  Remember that being on the pill does require a break to have a period every month, and simply having a period is part of the pill cycle, and it is not unsafe to have sex then, if the pills for that cycle were taken properly and the pills for the next cycle are begun when they should.  The pill keeps ovulation from even happening at all.  Don't worry, and keep learning.  You're doing fine.

[Norseman]

Thank you sooooo much! Have i done my work correct? Are my girlfriend and i safe? And are you a doctor?

[AnnieBrooke]

I'm not a doc, just someone who sweated out a few pregnancy scares as a young woman and had to learn a lot, fast, about the pill.  Keep learning, love your sweetheart, and remember that kindness is the biggest aphrodisiac of all.

[latina_love_goddess]

You know I may be wrong...but from how I understood the pill, that the pill tricks your body to "think" you are already pregnant..hence the fact of not getting pregnant...

It was also understood that when on the pill since it tricks you body to think you area already preg. then you do not ovulate.  I could be wrong.  That was just my $0.02.  Thank you.

[Norseman]

If we did have sex on the 2nd day and she doesnt ovulate till the 12-16 thats a 10 day window, sperm cant live 10 days! am i right in my research... are we safe?

[ateague]

latina_love_goddess - You're right in thinking pills trick your body to think it's already pregnant, and most pills work that way.  All pills protect you in different ways, some make you not ovulate, some thicken the wall of your uterus or make the texture slick so the egg can't attach, some thicken the cervical mucus which keeps sperm from penetrating.  They are all different, and some pills do all of the above.  

norseman - if your gf isn't worried about it, you shouldn't be either.  She knows her body better than you do, so until she starts worrying, I wouldn't stress out about it.  I remember the first time I had sex w/o a condom while on bcp ( I had been on bcp for almost 10 years and never had sex w/o a condom, just for my own peace of mind), I was freaked out too.  But, the pill is very effective and it is very rare that it doesn't work if used properly.  Even if it somehow wasn't working right, your gf was on her period and when you're on your period, you typically don't ovulate.  So, there's a double whammy.  I'm not a doc either, but I'd almost gurantee you guys aren't pregnant.  You might do what I did and just wear a condom for your own sanity, so you're not doing this every month.  Especially if you're not ready for kids yet.  Good luck!

[ateague]

Yes, you're safe.  She's not pregnant and stop worrying.  If she's not worried, you don't worry either.  She knows her body better than you do, and women rarely if ever get pregnant on their period while taking birth control pills (bcp).  Bcp regulate your period which in turn regulates your ovulation, so it's almost impossible that she was ovulating during her period if she was on bcp.  You sound very concerned, so why don't you keep using a condom when having sex eventhough she's on bcp and save some grief from doing this every month?  Just a thought.

[Norseman]

The birth control that she is on is Ortho Tricyclen lo. ive heard its one of the best. and it inhibits (Stops) ovulation. She takes it everyday and her periods onset like clock work. We had sex on day 2, she had heavy blood flow at the time. Are we safe?

[Norseman]

Thank you! I hope you're right...

[blue eyed beauty]

we are going through the same thing i am 8w 3d and i started bleeding no cramping so i went to the hospital and they did my hcg level check and its gone down from 20982- 20226 im still bleeding lightly and when they did the scan they saw the fetus and the yolk sac but no heart beat im holding on to every bit of hopE i can CAN ANYONE HELP? AND HAS ANYONE GONE THROUGH THIS

[dont_know1987]

hi

i had unprotected sex with my partner after starting the pill on that day.
i have a 28 day cycle and i would have had unprotected sex on day 12 and 13 of my cycle.

what are the chnaces i am pregnant? ???
ow long can i wait before i check to see if i am?

iI am in day 15 now of this cycle just wondering how probable it is that i am?

[ateague]

Depends on when you ovulated.  If you ovulated on cycle day 14, then your chances of pregnancy are good, but not guranteed.  But, unless you're taking temperatures or using ovulation prediction kits, then you might not have ovulated until earlier or later than thought.  If you don't get pregnant this month, you might try those alternatives to check when you're most fertile.

Just a side thought....I couldn't help but notice your screename having 1987 in it.  Is that your birth year?  If it is, that would make you 18 or 19 right?  Just curious, I don't know what I'd do if I got pregnant at that age, but I'm sure you know what you want.  Good luck!  Hope you get what you're looking for.

[dont_know1987]

yes that does mean i am 19. i will be 20 in jan.  i have been with my partner for over two years so i am not worried about him leaving or anything and i am a little worried about if i am i just was wondering what the likey ness of me being pregnant is? i  really dont know what to do. when should i start getting symptoms if i am?  thank you