Sex Frequency

I probably shouldn't even discuss this...but does anyone else have a husband that has a hard time with DAILY intercourse?
It stresses me out so much, because I know that it's best to have it every day during the few days before O and then the day of, and preferably even the day after. But it is so difficult for him to do it that often--he basically cannot do it more than two days in a row.
It's not his age, (39) because he has always been like this, since we were married at 21.
Is there anything he can do, or a pill to take that will make him have a stronger libido?
Or do you think this is enough sex to conceive---the day before and the day of ovulation?
Sorry if this is too graphic, but I don't know who else to ask.

[siren of the sea]

honestly i think every other day is just fine. if he has a lower sperm count then this gives his boys time to multiply. sperm live more than 24 hours (typically) so you should cover your baseline. when sex becomes more than a chore who wants it you know? or you could feed him oysters, put on a "movie", strip for him! jk but seriously dont worry about daily. my nurse practioner told me every other day. everyone has a different opinion though. best of luck

[lawgirl17]

I would agree that every-other day should work as well. If your cycle tends to be a specific length, I would recommend starting to bd every-other day starting about four days before you believe you will O. If you use OPK, bd daily the day you get your positive and the following day (which would be the day you O). You can try to go for a third day in a row, but if he is unable to, you can always skip a day and throw in another one for good measure the following day.

I always joked with my husband that we needed to find a way to freeze, thaw, and turkey baste sp*rm at home like a fertility clinic or something so we didn't have to bd each day, but we would still have a fresh supply ... obviously we didn't end up doing it, but how convenient would that be for all of us ttc'ers? If someone invents something like that, they could truly make a lot of money. It takes so much time, energy, etc to ttc, and some days you just really don't feel like bd'ing!!! Best wishes to you!

[nel06]

Yes, i agree, every other day should be just fine.  It's true that it gives him a chance to build up more sperm.  And my hubby and I only had sex once during my O time and we actually concieved then!  It was like it was meant to be:)  And if it isn't a "chore" to have sex it is so much more enjoyable, and you're also more relaxed if you're doing it for pleasure.  I hope the best for you... sticky baby dust:)

[Jenny100]

Thank you, girls. I know I should relax and that every other day is supposed to be okay, but I always stress if we don't do it every day over the MOST fertile days.I just don't want to miss a chance, ya know?
Thanks for your replies--nell06---I was glad to hear you conceived with only one act! That gives me hope.

[New Mommy 2 Be 2007]

I hope its good to  have sex everyday I've  been having sex since last Friday everyday actually its overwhelming lol not that fun when u do it so much but its baby making love that makes it special

[alisoncw]

We conceived our son almost accidentally four years ago.  When he was one, we started trying again, and then after a year we got pregnant and miscarried very early.  Then after another year of trying, we just got pregnant this past October and recently miscarried after about a month.  SO, as someone who has basically been trying to get pregnant for two years, I will tell you that the two times it happened were the two months that we had the LEAST amount of sex and I literally thought there was NO WAY we would conceive either time.  Two years of trying has (finally) taught me that I am not in control.  There were so many months where we would have sex a TON and pregnancy never happened.  I think (as hard as it is) the best thing to do is to let it go, realize that you're not the one in control over this (God is), and have sex only when both you and your husband WANT to.  Otherwise, it's a slippery slope all the way down to a place where sex is a chore and neither one of you can enjoy it.

[zippgirls]

I have always heard that it was better to BD every other day during the days before you O. That way sperm count has a chance to recharge and he will have more.
Then maybe when it is close to your O day do it that day and the day after.
That way it is not every day for a week.

It worked for us :)
I have had pain during Bd ever since my daughter was born...and everyday is too painfull for me plus when it became a chore it lost something special.
So we did every other day and tried (it was hard) to not think about what we were trying to do but to just have fun!

Good Luck :)


25 weeks here :)