Sex during pregnancy

[Butterfly25]

Hello,  I am 13 weeks pregnant and my husband wants to know if it is safe to have sex and "release" inside me while I am pregnant.  I told him yes because I believe the cervix is closed at this point and it can't get "in"  Am I right?  

[sarubers]

Im sure you are right. I have heard of sperm irretating the cervix though. But when my husband and I have sex, whe "releases" inside of me eveytime. He says he cant help it. I hate it. Im 24w5d pregnant, I dont need his stuff in there anymore. Plus it's gross when your not trying to conceive.

[jd1419]

You are right.  Also, tell your hb he will not hurt the baby if he thinks he is going to touch it or something--and as long as your are comfortable and have no complocations you can have sex up until you have the baby...congrats on baby

[Butterfly25]

Thanks for the answers!!  :)  Have a great weekend and a Happy St. Patrick's Day!

[ImmortalOne]

Perhaps they were trying to scare you 20 years ago, after all you were 15 yrs old and they were probably already upset.  I know my family was when I got pregnant at 16.

[ImmortalOne]

What the heck is wrong with you flower?  Having sex will NOT hurt the baby.  Millions of people have children, hundreds of thousands have sex throughout their entire pregnancies, and if it were wrong then perhaps God wouldn't have made it possible for us to have sex and sewn us up the moment we got pregnant.  

What you said was totally unneeded, disrespectful, and down right rude.  If you can't be a reasonable and INFORMED adult, please don't post on our forums.

[ImmortalOne]

If your doctor told you that those "risks" were present then your doctor was probably misinformed and or practicing under the older school (less learned) of medicine.  I can post numerous things to you about how save sex actually is during pregnancy.  

If you are grossed out, that is your feelings, but stop imposing them upon others.  Not everyone is grossed out by something that is completely natural and completely safe if there is no complications in the pregnancy.

[waitingwithhope]

Sex when pregnant is perfectly fine. The only reason not to have sex is if your cervix is sensitive or if you are having bleeding, etc. and it is considered an "at risk" or "high risk" pregnancy or you are at risk for pre-term labor. In those circumstances, a doctor will suggest you abstain for a while. Other than that it is totally fine and there is no risk for harming the baby....he/she also has a really nice thick sack and amniotic fluid protecting him/her.

[kapj]

flowerforyou-  I have read many of your comments and they are all very negitive and a little rude.   Maybe you aren't meaning to come across that way.  Can you tell us a little about your self  - age, kids or not  
It might be helpful for us to try to understand you a little

[ImmortalOne]

Here are a few links for you flower:

http://www.kidshealth.org/parent/pregnancy_newborn/pregnancy/sex_pregnancy.html
http://pregnancy.about.com/cs/sexuality/a/sexinpreg.htm
http://www.babycenter.com/refcap/pregnancy/pregnancysex/390.html
http://parenting.ivillage.com/pregnancy/psex/topics/0,,4rsd,00.html
http://www.marchofdimes.com/pnhec/159_516.asp
http://www.babyworld.co.uk/information/pregnancy/sex_pregnancy/sex_during_pregnancy.asp
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/health_advice/facts/pregnantsex.htm

Several of those sites are extremely reputable, and if you need more I'd be more than happy to provide those.  I am pregnant with #3, and had sex during both of my pregnancies with my daughters (14 yrs and 9 yrs), and now that I am cleared for this one after having major surgery when I was 12 weeks 5 days, I've had plenty.

[brentlie]

When I was pregnant for the first time I asked my dr. about having sex, he said there is no reason not to have sex as long as I was not having problems, he even suggested I have more sex towards the end.  I have never heard of this causeing brain damage.  The only way I could see that is possible is if your dh has something much longer than what mine does.

[jwetzel]

Sex is great during pregnancy. It makes you feel sexy again! Your just usually limited to only a few positions. As long as it does not hurt you and the doctor did not say no then have all the sex you want. I've been on bed rest for the last 5 weeks and will continue for another 2 weeks until the baby is here. I never realized how much I enjoyed sex while pegnant until now. But every woman will feel different. Some are completley appalled by it but I've been completely opposite. I wish I could have sex right now. But docotors orders. The sperm will not harm your baby. Your husband will not poke the baby. As long as your cervix is closed you should be fine. If your dilating I have heard you could cause an infection. Your still early in your preg to where it should not matter if you have sex. Besides I also heard that if your at the end of the preg and you aren't going into labor that sex can start things happening. An orgasm causes your uterus to contract that is why you can feel crampy afterward. These contractions can lead to labor. Do what you feel comfortable with. Good Luck with your preg.

[Jaces312]

Sex is fine during pregnancy. Wont hurt the baby at all. Unless of course your doc tells you to abstain (which may happen if you have a condition that may make your pregnancy high risk) God bless!

[Alicia1983]

If you have no complications, sex is fine. And yes, you are right, your cervix is closed and there is the mucous plug lodged in it so no bacteria can get it and harm the baby, also the amniotic sac protects the baby as well.