Should I be the one to leave the bedroom???

[Harley-girl]

Hi all, me again!!! Here I am am missing for days and now I am back and ya'll are going to get sick of me. :)
I am 30w2d and am very uncomfortable in bed at night. I feel like a whale and when I change positions I literally shake the bed as my pubic bone has already separated and causes a lot of pain. I am also snoring like crazy and lots of positioned pillows do not help. DH says I am driving him nuts. Should I just deal with the notion of sleeping on the couch until Quinn arrives or should my DH show me some damn sympathy???? I do not want to move to the couch as it is not comfy but then again I hate every morning waking up to a bear of a husband who cannot relate at all to my discomfort.

[Tasha456]

Hi Honey.  Well.. hes my two cents.. but remember Ive never been that pregnant before.  :)  I completley relate to your husband.. my BF snores like a freaking chainsaw and i get woke up a ton of times in the night by the animals.. so I am not very nice in the morning.  Now I dont think you should move to the couch because you are 30 weeks.. so is he is so miserable he needs to go to the couch.. or buy himself a blow up bed to put in Quinns room!

[Tasha456]

yea.. i need to read over my posts before i send them.  :)  I meant to say that You SHOULD NOT move to the couch.

[nanis]

Hey,girl how have you been?Hows quinn?growing,growing.30wks already?Well, about the slepping arangments I think he should sleep on the couch.After carrying such a big load,waddling up & down & being so tired all day,how can you not snore?When I was preg. my son would have a party at night,he would move & kick,,he had his own disco in my stomach.Dh would get sooo upset & tell me to turn around b/c baby was kicking him & he had to work the next day.So I kicked him out to the couch!!He slept awfull instead of not sleeping b/c of baby he did'nt sleep b/c of the back ach of the couch.Needless to say he never conplained.Atleast till baby was born & all the crying.D/h will complain for everything!Be prepared for 2 babys dh & baby..lol..Know I have daughter(7)He will never rest at least till she joins the convent(thats what he says)...nanis

[texangirl]

I know what you mean girlfriend!  I hog all the bed all to myself and leave my husband in the smallest corner where if he moves, he'll fall off the bed, lol...  He told me too that i've been breathing very heavily and that's only because my nose is congested and I just can't breath at night for some reason.  I say if he complains, he should sleep on the couch, but  I know I can't have Chad sleeping on the couch cause I can't sleep without him so i'd rather him suffer just a little bit..  I also have a hard time moving around on the bed since I can feel the heaviness on my abdomen and when I do move I put my butt all over him and he hates it, lol.   ahah!

[aimntrev]

I think that if you are more comfortable in the bed, then you should stay put!=) I mean you are having his child,and it is harder for pregnant women to move and get comfy. you should be able to stay in the bed. If he is really that uncomfortable, he can go on the couch =)  Now i am only like 3 weeks, so i dont really know if I am right or not, BUT, my bed is much more comfy then my couch, and im not going to be the one moving =)

[newbie2b]

My humble opinion :-) he should move to the sofa.  Screw that.  I'm only 13 weeks but I told my partner that if I get uncomforable, he's sleeping on our futon. lol And he wasnt to happy but he understood.  Its bad enough we have to go through all the sickness and go through the pains of labor and worry everyday about what we eat, how we sleep etc.  It's the least they could do.
Sorry for the strong opinion but I think it's the hormones! :-) Good luck.

[Cletus_VanDamm]

I told my dh to go to the spare room. Why should you be any more uncomfortable than you already are eh?!

[low22]

You're the one carrying the baby for nine months so the least he can do it sleep on the couch.  No question about it!

[deanne11]

Make DH put up with it.  Mine was wonderful the last few months.  DH needs to understand this is no picnic in the park for you either and you need your rest....HE and every other man in the world has NO IDEA - what you are about to go through for his child.

Now after the baby was born it was a different story...he wasn't so understanding...LOL

with all the crying and nursing and everthing...I moved to the couch or nursery during the 'awake' periods of the night.

[who_dis]

Give him a choice: He goes to the couch, or you check into Embassy Suites or someplace nice for the duration.  ES has an awesome breakfast buffet.

[thendricks]

I'm in your boat as well but I decided my daughters (who is 7) bed was way more confortable so now I sleep in it, As for your situation I say he needs to find another place to sleep,

My 2 cents

[Harley-girl]

Damn checking into the Embassy Suites is sounding better and better.
DH will just have to deal with it. He said he will not move to the couch no matter what and I told him neither am I!!! His big thing now is that he is the sole bread winner and he needs a good night sleep so he can be rested for work. What about me???? I need my rest too and have been getting by with 3-4 hours of sleep a night since I am so miserable.
I asked him what is he going to do when Quinn gets here and he said I am in charge of the night time feedings and he is going to wear ear plugs so he does not have to hear her cry.
Arrrghh, he is really rubbing me the wrong way lately.

[babyprayers]

ok well here is my theory. do you have to get up and go to work in the morning. does he?? if you dont you can rest during the day. its got to be 50/50... I know it is difficult. but he is your hubby. the father of your child, he had part in this as well. just something to think about

[luv_babies]

I agree with the others! I am already uncomfortable because of my severe hip pain, I think I may be the one to leave but I also have two other beds to choose from. If the only other choice was the couch, I'd make Jon leave! It should only be about 7 more weeks anyway. He can handle it! Stay where YOU are comfortable. : )

[anxiousmomtobe?]

Tell your dh to "suck it up".  You are the one who needs to be pampered and catered to.  Soon that bebe will be here and the world will revolve around that little stinker, so get spoiled now!!!

[Hope2OneDay]

Hey girl! Glad to see you on the boards again!

It's funny, because as much as I move around trying to get comfy, and as often as I get up to pee in the night, I worry about my dh losing sleep. As it turns out, HE is the one who shakes the entire bed when turning over! It's as if he "bounces" up and down instead of just turning over...The bed actually feels like a trampoline! I sleep in the guest room a lot, but that's my choice because I love the atmosphere in there better than my own bedroom! LOL (It's just got that cozy "country" feel to it:-)

Anyway, as for you...I would tell your dh that either HE sleeps on the couch or he can buy you a comfortable DayBed to put in the baby's room (if you have room for it). My sister had a DayBed put in her baby's room so she could sleep in there on the nights the baby was up every hour. She grew to love it so much that she eventually slept in there when it WASN'T crying all night! LOL

If he says no to those options, tell him the only thing left to do is buy himself a nice blow up mattress so he can camp out NEXT to your bed.

Good luck! :-)

[AnnieBrooke]

The better quality blow-up beds are actually pretty nice.  Don't just get a cheap air mattress, but the real thing that cost like a hundred bucks or more and comes with an inflator motor.  Then you can put it in Quinn's room and flip a coin for who sleeps on it.  If you are the one who gets it, go out and also buy a really thick mattress pad (those egg-cartonish foam ones are great) and some really nice linens and a super-cushy blankie, new pillows for the head and also a full-body pillow.  Then tell him he CAN'T HAVE THAT BED.  He is working for a living, so he can afford to pay to get you out of his room, after all.  (Who knows, the "give" of an air-based mattress might be more comfortable for you anyway, and you can even run a humidifier at night to help you breathe.)  You might want to keep that extra bed in Quinn's room for a few months after she is born, too.  Good luck, I think your husband is being a big poop.  Annie

[petanka]

Just kick him out! My DH and I had a problem like that 4 weeks ago. He was traveling a lot and therefore would come home early in the morning, (1 or 2am) exhausted and snoring....

Asked him once and he moved to the guest bedroom upstairs! No fuss or hass about it. We both work and on top of it I am carrying this baby...he got to know my hormones pretty well in the last 30weeks, so he just does it!

Whatever you and I are doing right now, carrying a cild, is a full time job as well. The only difference is that when you worked, you were working double of him. Now you are equal!

Anyway, that is m opinion!

[HIS GIFT TO US]

Give him the couch, besides once your little one arrives he'll gladly be running for the couch, so just tell him this is a head start :) LOL especially if he has to get up early like my DH. W/ds#1 dh camped out on the couch during the week & on the weekends or any off days he had he came back to the bedroom :)

[myproblem]

Hey, you're the one who's pregnant. Why not let him have a little of the discomfort. You get the bed, and if he can't stand you, he needs to go to the couch. How much more awful would you feel if you had to sleep on the couch?!

[cugirl]

I know how you feel...luckily DH just deals with me keeping him up all night.  I have really bad hip pain and sometimes it shoots down my leg and up my spine...so I have a hard time getting comfy.  Plus I have to pee every 30 mins to hour and 1/2 and I look like a beached whale trying to get out of the bed.  Plus I cant breath so I snore constantly!  But some how DH manages to get a little sleep with me and 20 pillows in the bed and then go to work everyday.  He's asked me if I want him to sleep on the couch or the other bed room...and I say no.  I know he would sleep even worse on the couch and the other bed is a day bed and the matress is like 1/2 inch thick.  He would be all crippled up the next day.

[2songbirds]

HE needs to move to the couch since he's the one bothered by it. Not you honey. My DH moved to the couch, and I didn't care. We were both more comfy that way.

[Agiesmom]

Dh would never complain, so we didn't have this problem.  I did ask him at one point if I had started to snore and he said yes, but that was the end of the conversation.  LOL!

I don't think I would move while pregnant (unless there were another comfy bed to which to move) and I definitely would not move if I were told to or it was implied that I should.

However, I did jump up and take care of the baby when he was born.  I just felt that since I wasn't working outside the home and could nap in the day with the baby, that I would just do it.  If I had pushed dh and asked him to go get the baby for me to feed, he would have done it, but I saw no point in doing that since it wasn't preserving my sleep in any way.  Again, though, had it been expected of me, I would probably have felt differently.

[galjazzy]

What!!! off course he needs to go to the couch!!!! Give him the only guilt trip....play with his mind!!!!

[Trentonsmom]

I haven't been on in a while either and I was just thinking about you yesterday and was wondering where you had gone. I know what you mean about the bed moving, I am 27 weeks and I feel bad when I am trying to get comfortable. We just recently got new bedroom furniture and due to a delivery issue, we are waiting for the right slats to come in to put out mattress on. In the meantime, our mattress has to sit on the floor, and to my surprise it has really limited the movement the bed makes when i am tossing and turning. As far as snoring, my husband can really saw some logs at night and I have found the the ear plugs made out of foam, like the ones used at the races cut out almost all noise. Those might come in handy for your husband if it really bothers him. You need to do what is best for you and the baby right now and you only have about another 2 months to go.
All the best,
Amy

[surfergirl602]

we got a sleep number bed.  solved out same problems and I've never had a better night's sleep.

[Harley-girl]

You ladies are great. I am gonna stick to my guns and stay in the bedroom. He can hit the couch if he wants or stick it out with the mother of HIS baby girl. :)

[DollChina]

Actually my dh sleeps with me until I snore really bad then he goes to the other bedroom on his own in the middle of the night.  I ain't moving girlfriend.  Hang in there, it will be over before you know it.  I am 38 weeks and extremely uncomfortable.
Dolly

[newlywed05]

It's funny you made this post today! DH just slept on the couch last night!! Hhaha. I have been needing a humidifier though, and he was too hot with it on, so off he went to the couch. I do feel bad because he is the one that gets up for work every morning, but hey, like the other ladies have stated over and over...right now is your time!!

What does he plan on doing when the baby comes and is IN your room crying every few hours? Is he going to try to kick you AND the baby out then??

[Harley-girl]

He said he is going to wear ear plugs..... I will be damned if he kicks us out. :)  He thought the possibility of sleeping on the couch is uncomfortable well I will send him outside to his damn garage and he can sleep on his Harley.

[who_dis]

I hate to point this out, but there are NO ear plugs that can block out an infants cry.  None.

[who_dis]

I say stick with the Embassy Suites plan.  Have your bags packed and ready when he gets home from work tonight.  Be all sweet and act like you're only concerned about his rest.  I bet he'll flip at the thought of that bill, and will rethink his stance on the couch.  

[emma10]

My chiropractor says NO ONE should ever sleep on the couch. I bet that is much stronger for pregnant women who need a firm support.  DH totally loses, there's not even an argument possible. We have a current similar argument over the airfilter. I need it (cannot breathe with pregnant allergies/asthma) on HIGH(!) all night long; DH can't sleep with it on HIGH (too noisy).  I win. I'm breathing for two, sleeping for two, etc.  You can always put a mattress on the floor (for him). GOOD LUCK!

[my2zipps]

I read most of the other posts and it sounds like everyone else they are the ones keeping the hubbys up at night :)
I say you need to be where you can get the most sleep not, cause when the baby comes you will most likey be the one getting no sleep!
I have the other problem....I can't sleep if DH is snoring while I am prego and we have not slept in the same room for a while now and it makes me really sad :(
I wish I new what I could do??????
I am oinly 23 weeks....thats a long time be apart :(
Any ideas let me know :)

[AnnieBrooke]

who -- don't spoil the surprise.  He thinks he has the answer, ha ha ha ha ha.

harley -- tell him his Harley can sleep on the couch and he can go sleep on the garage floor.

[mandymoo1983]

lol only 30 weeks and you already feel like a whale honey this must be your first child is it i tell you it will get much worse over the course of 10 whole more weeks to go the baby triples its size and as for the sleeping issue kick hubby out your already sacrificing sleep so should he lol

[tam2girls]

Just my 2 cents worth if you want it. I think your hubby should be more sympathetic to you. Tell him it is both your baby and if you have to have a sleep less night it wouldn't be so hard for him to put up with it. If he is not happy move him to the couch. My DH was very sympathetic to me with both my DD. Every night for the last month or 2 the only way I could get comfy was to lean up against him with my lag over his hip. I slept soundly like this and didn't move so much so he put up with it. Plus if bubba was kicking me all night then he could hav a kick or to aswell. Good luck hope he understands.

[my2zipps]

mandy....No this is my 2nd....LOL :)
I guess I am feeling so big cause I showed alot faster this time....didn't seem to have as much time to get use to my expanding tummy :P
Trust me I know what it will be like and what is to come in the next months....this is nothing now..LOL :)
Just want to sleep :)

[rileybaby]

I can't really relate to you not being able to sleep at night.. I thank God sleep like a rock!! I am 32 weeks pregant, I hope I dont get to the point were this becomes a problem. But if it does I think that I would tell my husband to either suffer or sleep on the sofa.. I would tell him we are in this together! Ask him does he think that u like not geting any sleep at night?