Sucessful Pregnancy soon after Miscarriage/D§C

[Stacie30]

Hi Everyone,

I had to have a D&C about 2 weeks ago. My Dr. is insisting that I wait 2-3 months to get pregnant. This makes sense to me (sort of), but I was wondering- how many of you have personal experiences with this? If you got pregnant in the 1st 2 cycles after a miscarriage- did you miscarry again or go on to have sucessful pregnancies? I'm considering ignoring my Dr. which I'm sure is some sort of medical sin, but it just doesn't feel right to try not to get pregnant when I have been trying so long (took 3 years to get the pregnancy I miscarried). What do y'all think?

[Still_AndiJ]

I am not the best at taking the advice of doctors either. I just had a m/c in late june/early july and thought I may have gotten pg again. Turned out I was wrong, but I am sort of relieved. They wouldn't tell us to wait for no reason. i have yet to really hear of a doctor who gives the okay before 3 months. My OB wants to make sure my lining has a chance to build up through a few cycles. Some OB's also want you to wait for emotional health reasons. It takes times to heal from that loss and trying too quickly can impeed that process.

At least give yourself 1 cycle, just to make sure everything it okay. I have heard of many women not waiting and having healthy pgs. I would definitely take the advice of your doctor as this is a widespread practice.

I am very sorry for you loss : (

Andrea

[TONIA24]

I had a missed miscarriage in april and i waited three cycles i am pregnant right now i am 10 weeks and praying so far everything i going good so there is hope after a miscarriage there is a couple of other girls on here that also had a miscarriage around the same time i did and is haveing a succesful pregnancy aswell good luck to both of you and all of you  i know it is hard i have been through it and i couldnt wait to try again but i did wait and so far the wait has been well worth it so i am praying for you

[Stacie30]

Thanks for the answers girls. It's really hard to wait, and I think I am just going to put it in natures hands and see what happens. Probably won't happen right away anyhow. :o)

Andi- Hope you get good news soon. I've read alot of your comments on the boards. You are so supportive to everyone else that I think if anyone deserves a healthy happy baby it is you!! :o) I'll cross my fingers for both of us. Wish me luck!! :o)

[Still_AndiJ]

Thanks, Stacie! My hubby and i pretty much decided to do the same thing. If it is meant to be we will conceive soon enough. Actually, my prob isn't just with conceiving, it is making it through that dreaded first trimester too : )

Take care of yourself!!

Andrea

[slhc70]

I had my D&C on April 28--I got pregnant again May 23--no period in between--I am almost 15 weeks with no trouble--I think the wait time is more of an emotional issue than a physical one. When your body is ready you can conceive again. My doctor only said I had to wait one cycle but I didnt even have that--Stay postive! Baby dust going your way.

[schatz]

I had a mc on the August 13/03, i had a D&C the next day, I had a very bad experience, but I am now wondering about aftercare, should I be resting alot? I still have bleeding and some cramps/aches in abdominal area, my occupation is very physical work(sports massage therapist) and I plan to stay off for two weeks or should I stay longer?, I am very possitive about trying again and we will wait for one cycle before trying again, so your comments ladies are really uplifting to read, I know I will be nervous,  but, I do feel that at sometime in the future I will be a Mum, I just think this baby was not to be, I am now coming to terms and starting to accept everything that happened,maybe some of you could advise from your own experience, I was haemorraging and lost a lot of blood, so Iam still feeling very tired, but I am on one a day iron supplement, maybe if there is any help/advice you can give me I would be very grateful.

[JustME9]

That happened to me and I was weak and very anemic for a long time.  My doc suggested taking more time off of work.  I was taking iron supps for a few months afterwards as well.  I would suggest getting a CBC and seeing where your hematacrit and hemoglobin are at before going back to work.  Seriously, don't overdo it.  You've been through a LOT emotionally AND physically.  Fortunately I work in labor and delivery so my OBGYN just told my boss and I was able to have more time off" but you need to take care of yourself physically first...and then you will have sooner recovery and hopefully sooner conception! =) Good luck to you! Wow, I just realized we just went through our d&c's the same day! ((((((HUGS)))))

[Cyndee Jo]

I had a miscarriage in January 1998 with my first pregnancy and I had a D&C.  The doctor said I should wait until I got my first period.  It didn't happen though in February 1998 I got pregnant again.  And today I have a healthy 4 year old who just started school.  And it also depends on the doctor on how long they will tell you to wait.  After my last miscarriage in 2000 the doctor said we could start trying after the bleeding stopped after the D&C.  But we decided to wait.  And on the 29th I will find out if I will add an addition to the family

[TammiLee]

i had a period 2 weeks after my d&C, then i got pregnant a week or so after that, my baby seems just fine, i am 20 weeks.

[brumy]

Hi There!!

I had a misd miscarriage on 9/1/03.It was painfull both physically and emotionally.The bleeding almost stoped.My doctor sad there is no reason to waith months to try again.It took me 18 months for this pregnancie and I am 34 but I do hope it will happen sooner this time.Good luck to you all and it's good to be here to share.thank's Bea

[Dani 99]

I had a miscarriage on Aug. 21 and a D&C five days later.  My doctor told me to wait 2 cycles before trying again.  It is so hard to wait!!!  I do have two other children 4 and 2 and never had a miscarriage before this one.  It was such a surprise and shock to my husband and I when it happened.  Anyone in similar situation?  I am so scared to try again!!1

[lync]

I recently had a missed miscarriage. I went in at 13 weeks to hear the heartbeat and there wasn't one. I ended up having the miscarriage naturally 4 days later, the day before my scheduled D&C. I am posting this comment because I am so inpatient, I want to start trying right away but the doc says 3 months. How do you get by for 3 months when all you can think about is conceiving? It is so hard. I have read everyone's comments and hearing other stories is very consoling. thanks!!

[Tammy (28)]

Hello!

I have experienced the same thing that you all have been thru. Actually, I am going thru it now. I found out on Oct 1 that I was pregnant and was excited. After trying unsuccesfully for 2 1/2 yrs, my husband and I finally accomplished what we have long been waiting for.

We had our fist ultrasound on 10/8 and was told that the baby looked healthy and everything. At that time, we were 5 1/2 wks and she could not detect the heartbeat, so we went back for a 2nd ultrasound on 10/16 and the same thing, she still good not detect the heartbeat. Today we went for a 3rd miscarriage and received not so good news. Since last thursday, the fetus has shrunk in size and the sac has began to collapse. They are not sure why this has happened, but if I don't pass the fetus by Wednesday, I will have to have a D&C and the dr has told me that I will have to wait 3 months after the D&C to try again.

After reading up on it, I have found that they want to make sure that you are healed and your body is ready to try to carry another fetus. If I am wrong please correct me.

It is heart breaking for me, because I went thru surgery in March to have my fallopian tubes unblocked so that we could get pregnant. I took fetility pills for one month and then stopped taking them. Now I feel that I am going thru a state of depression.

Is all of this normal?

Tammy(28)

[Tammy (28)]

Hello!

I have experienced the same thing that you all have been thru. Actually, I am going thru it now. I found out on Oct 1 that I was pregnant and was excited. After trying unsuccesfully for 2 1/2 yrs, my husband and I finally accomplished what we have long been waiting for.

We had our fist ultrasound on 10/8 and was told that the baby looked healthy and everything. At that time, we were 5 1/2 wks and she could not detect the heartbeat, so we went back for a 2nd ultrasound on 10/16 and the same thing, she still good not detect the heartbeat. Today we went for a 3rd miscarriage and received not so good news. Since last thursday, the fetus has shrunk in size and the sac has began to collapse. They are not sure why this has happened, but if I don't pass the fetus by Wednesday, I will have to have a D&C and the dr has told me that I will have to wait 3 months after the D&C to try again.

After reading up on it, I have found that they want to make sure that you are healed and your body is ready to try to carry another fetus. If I am wrong please correct me.

It is heart breaking for me, because I went thru surgery in March to have my fallopian tubes unblocked so that we could get pregnant. I took fetility pills for one month and then stopped taking them. Now I feel that I am going thru a state of depression.

Is all of this normal?

Tammy(28)

[Cindy912]

Hi, everyone.  I am 35 and had miscarried on Oct. 6, 2003.  I was 7 weeks along.  I have 2 other children, 9 and 6.  We are now trying to conceive again.  I have so many questions.  When can I get pregnant again, how long will it take?  After my miscarriage, all pregnancy symptoms were gone.  About a week ago, my breasts were tingling again.  Is that a delayed reaction to the miscarriage? I am heartbroken over this.  I'm sure I will conceive again, but can't wait. If anyone has any info that will help, I would really appreciate it.  Thanks, Cindy

[lorbloom]

I just had a d&c after 10 weeks because of 2 ultra sounds (10 days apart) and no heart beats (there were two).  It was crushing.  I have such confidence in my doctor though.  She specializes in infertility too (which I didn't need) and has had her own practice for 18 years.  She delivers at Cedars Sinai here in Los Angeles which is one of the top hospitals.  She said to wait one cycle and get pregnant around the holidays like everyone else.  That is what my husband and I plan to do.  You should follow your doctor's orders if you feel he or she is doing what is specifically right for you, but just know there are other great doctor's out there that say to wait 1 cycle.  Hope that helps and good luck to you.

[Ronnie J]

Hello,

I had a D&C on 9/19/03. My question is I have not had a period since.  Is this normal? My doctor said it should happen any time.

I wish everyone the best!

Ronnie

[blondie72]

Hello.  I am brand new to this site and I just wanted to let you all know I know what you are going through.  Here is my story.  I went in for a routine u/s on September 22 and everything looked fine but we could not find a heartbeat.  I went in for a D&C the very next morning.  After about 4 days I was cramping and bleeding.  I thought I had started my period a week later I passed a piece of placenta when going to the bathroom.  I thought that was it but again, 4 days after that I was cramping again real bad and woke up in a bunch of blood.  I had to go back in for a 2nd D&C on Oct 5.  I had a period 4 weeks later.  It did not seem like my normal period though.  It was shorter however my husband and I have started trying again already.  I hope it goes well this time if we are able to get preg. again.  I will keep you all posted.  Good Luck to all of you who are trying or who are pregnant.  Thank You for listening.      Angie

[Brandy Lynn]

I have been reading all of your stories and am so sorry for everyone that has had to endure a miscarriage. It is comforting to know that some of you have also miscarried and have gone on to have healthy babies.  I conceived sometime around Oct. 28th and just lost the pregnancy on Nov. 14th.  I passed the baby naturally and didn't have to have a D&C. I too want to start trying right away but my doctor told me to have protected sex for at least one month.  I am so eager to get pregnant again but definitely do not want to go through another miscarriage so I am struggling with the emotional vs. the physical aspects of trying again.

Do any of you know how long I am suppose to wait to have sex again protect or otherwise after the miscarriage?  I started miscarrying on Nov. 14th and am only lightly spotting now.  I'm not sure if there is a certain time period before it is safe to have intercourse.  

Thank you all for your very personal stories and I wish you all the best!

Brandy

[Billie76]

I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks and got pregnant again before my next cycle, only to have another miscarriage at 5 weeks.  Having these happen so close together has been very difficult for me to deal with.  This time I am trying to wait at least one full cycle to try again.  It is VERY hard to wait because I want to be pregnant so badly.  I have done a lot of research online to see what I could find about how long I should wait.  It seems that the only reasons I could find were emotional reasons rather than physical ones, and now that I have experienced it first hand, I know how painful it can be emotionally.  I now think waiting at least one cycle is good advice, even if you are physically able to get pregnant again without waiting.

[fran19]

Hi everyone.  I myself recently had a miscarriage, and I must say reading everyone's remarks have helped to somewhat soothe my pain if you will.  My experience didn't come at the best time.  I was diagnosed with a threatened abortion 12/6 and just this past Monday, my worse fears were confirmed.  I am in the military and currently on leave for the first time in six months, visiting my family.  I did not have a D&C done, though I am beginning to get a little concerned because my cramps are still rather strong and I am beginning to pass more clots.  This was my first pregnacy so top of that I am a little afraid to start trying again.  Another concern however, is what my husband is going through.  I know he is just as devastated as I am.  I just want to ensure that I am there for him just as much as he's been here for me.  I know that there's a light at the end of tunnel but I am scared.  I wish everyone the best of luck and send out my thoughts for you have been in this same situation.  God bless.

[Heather Australia]

HI,

I too have a very similar story.  I miscarriaged at 13 weeks but found out the foetus was only the size of a 7 week old. I started miscarriaging naturally on the Thursday afternoon and went in for the D & C on the Friday morn.  I am still bleeding after one and a half weeks. The cramps are still quite strong as well. I am  going to wait for the bleeding to go down before my partner and I start trying again. My gyno told me there was no need to wait a certain time period to try and conceive after a D&C or natural miscarriage. He said that the body looks after itself and if it wasn't ready to conceive it wouldn't .........but if it is ready ...it will. Go natural. The body is a very complex intelligent mechanism and will only do what is best for itself.

Trust your body.
Heather Australia

[Chrissy28]

Hi,

After listening to your stories, i don't feel like i am the only person this has happened to. I have two children, my daughter is 9yrs.old and my son just turned 5 in dec. My husband and I decided to try for our third. I had been on the pill for almost 5 yrs. I stopped the pill at the end on 08/07. I got 2 periods in 09/07, one in the begining of the month and the end. In 10/07 I noticed I didn't get a period at the begining of the month nor the end. I waited 3 days after my period was supposed to come and took a pg test. We found out we were expecting. We were so excited. In my office there are two other girls pg and we were all do almost at the same time. I started spotting brown for a while, and became alittle concerend, but was sent for lab work. Everything came back good, and i was told this sometimes happens. According to my last period  I should have been alot further along than what my blood work was indicating, but a refused to believe anything was wrong. I had an u/s with my ob doc and the baby was measuring alot smaller, and he could not detect a heart beat. He was measuring me ant 7wks when i should have been at least 10wks. I was sent for a more extensive u/s that same day. The tech told me she could see the baby, but know heartbeat at this time. She sounded positive, that i was to early to detect a hearbeat. I still remained very positive, because i wanted this baby so badly. On 12/20 i started bleeding just alittle. They sent me home from work to get some rest. I slowly started getting better on spotting alittle less by the next day, but was having some cramping. My husband and sister insisted on me going to the hospital, but i refused. I DID NOT! want to loose my baby. On 12/22 @ 12:30 am i went to the bathroom and i felt something come out of me. I screamed and my husband and sister came in and i was bleeding non-stop. They rushed me to the emergency room and i bleed all the way there. Later that morning they gave me potosuim to help me contract and pass my baby. I lost my baby a couple of days before christmas. A nurse came in to tell me congratulations on my baby. I felt like someone had riped my heart out of my chest. Everything i went through, the labor the pain, and i did not have any baby to show for. I wake up in the middle of the night because i think i hear a baby crying. I feel like I am loosing it sometimes. I ask myself why me? What did i do wrong? I guess i have to take it one day at a time. My husband and i really want to try again, and i want to start trying right away, but i am scared. I dont think i can go through the same disappointment again. Thanks for listening.
Chrissy

[mari81]

I found out i was pregnant on sept 10th, but around sept 15th i started spotting, at first my doctor told me spotting was normal but we wouldn't know anything concrete until we saw the heartbeat. On Oct.17th i had an ultrasound that confirmed I had indeed miscarried.  I was spotting from Sept 15th to the 13th of October. When I asked my doctor when I should expect my period, she told me to count all the spotting as a period, and that I could try conceiving again immediately. Is there anyone who's ever been told that?  Also, I thought I was starting my period on November 2nd, but i only had 3 days of light spotting.  Could I be pregnant again?

I would like any feedback, i fell like i'm going nuts...

[Pips]

Sounds to me that the ultrasound confirmed you were ready.  If you have any thought that you are pregnant, just go buy a test and give yourself some piece of mind.