Ultrasound no heartbeat

I had my LP on June 25th and went to the Dr. on August 25th.  They did an internal U/S and there was a 6 w/o fetal pole with no heartbeat.  The dr. advised that it might not be viable and I'm going back this Friday for another ultrasound.  I'm 40 years old and this would be my first baby.  I'm on an emotional rollercoaster.  What got me through this week was realizing that I'm not alone and that a lot of other women are going through the same thing.  I'm also getting married on Sep 9th and am supposed to leave on the 11th for Mexico for my honeymoon.  If there is no growth or a heartbeat would you all recommend a D&C or should I try and wait it out?  I'm afraid of having a m/c in Mexico.

[bookerswife]

At my 6 week appointment they didn't hear a heartbeat either! I am currently 14 weeks and 3 days. I think you should wait it out for a week or so and see if you will really m/c. I have heard a lot of women on this site that said their doc. said to expect a m/c and it never happened! Stay in there and just wait and see.

[nichopes4baby]

It may be too early to see anything yet,  many women on here waited and went back a week later and were able to see something on the u/s - maybe u ovulated late??  I had a d/c in Jan and they put you out for it so when you wake up its done with.  Good luck on your u/s I hope they see a heartbeat!

[Momicita]

Get a second opinion. Maybe HE just didnt hear the heartbeat.  God bless.  I pray that everything turns out okay for you all.

[ErikaS]

Good morning Shar. I would advise you to please wait it out. If you go through older threads on this site, you will see that many women don't necessarily hear a heartbeat that early but weeks later there will be one. I just wouldn't want you to do anything too soon. I think doctors are sometimes very quick to jump the gun.

[ima1]

Deffinately wait a week and get a second opinion.  As for the honeymoon, I thik you should wait and see what happen at your next appointment.  A dnc isnt the biggest deal, usually within 24 hours you feel totally fine, although sex is restricted for about six weeks.  At least, for me it was.  I htink you should geta second opinion now, since you have so much going on next week.  Congrats on the wedding, and i hope everything turns out fine.  i know what your feeling now sucks, Ive been through it twice.  Im so sorry it is coming at such a time - one that should be all happy and all about you.  Hopefully next week it WILL be all happy, and all about you.  Keep us posted.

[misseltoe]

I keep seeing "get a second opinion" and I have no idea why this is being suggested.  Your doctor told you that it might not be a viable pregnancy.  It is the truth.  

Wait another week.  Really, I'd postpone your honeymoon.  Chances are you'll still be going through this.  Now, the baby was measuring at 6weeks0days which means that you won't see a heartbeat most of the time.  Most women won't see a heartbeat at 6weeks exactly.  That's normal.  It does sound like you should be further along.  You do need to be aware that this might not be a pregnancy that makes it. But it might just be!  We really can't know at this point.  Wait for the next ultrasound. If the next ultrasound shows no growth or very little growth I would probably consider a D&C at that point.  You want to see a heartbeat at the next US.  If you don't then things are probably not going to work out.

Good luck and keep us updated.  I hope to see good news from you at your next US.

[sarubers]

I dont seem to sound negative and correct me if I am wrong also, but shouldnt you be measuring somewhere around 8 weeks? I would go and have your levels checked if they havent do so already. That is the only way that they can see if something is wrong or if you have a healthy baby. We all want you to have a healthy baby so please keep us posted and we all will be praying for you. Also have fun in Mexico.

[Angelabee]

I'm sorry for your stressful time.  I would wait and see what happens.  Good luck and my prayers are with you.

[Lake918]

I've never done this before, I just ran into it while i was researching a m/c...but maybe someone out there has words of comfort for this unbearbable loss. My husband and I were 8 weeks pregnant for the very first time....so excited, I had every preganancy book, magazine, and have always been a healthy person. I went to the doctor yesterday becuase of some very light spotting on and off over the weekend. I wasn't even that concerned, and figured I would be told everything was o.k. and get the chance to see my lil' baby. I had an external and internal u/s and the tech was showing no emotion, wouldn't allow me to see the screen, and then asked me to dress and wait for the doctor in the waiting room, I was scared, although I had my sister there with me who has m/c before and she said when she's been in for a u/s that they are trained to show no emotion. Needless to say, I went in the dark u/s room when the doctor came in and told me the news. My baby didn't have a heart beat and had died. I couldn't speak, and I spent the entire night crying last night. I've never wanted anything so bad in my entire life....and now I'm so scared that I did something wrong, or I will not be able to have another child. As I've read, this seems to be common, but I could never imagnie it being o.k. just because it's common, it makes me feel worse that there are so many women out there who have gone through this terrible pain. I wanted to hold THIS baby, and nurse THIS baby, and have my FIRST baby....Now I don't know whether to wait to miscarry of have a d&c. I still don't have anybleeding, and the spotting wa so light, I orignally thought it was just old blood. But waiting seems like forever.....I'm asking for any support, just from someone whose gone through this terrible tragedy and still surviving. Someone who ahs some words of wisdome about a d&c or how long it will take to pass. I just can't beleive this happened the first time. I just need some words of kindness.

[happy2bpregers]

First, i want you to know how sorry i am. My first pregnancy, which ended on Feb 3, 2006, I went to the hospital with bleeding. They did an internal u/s and there was no heartbeat. I was also devastated. I opted for the d&e. I is a very common procedure. It only took about 20 min and the recovery time was minimal. My 2nd pregnancy, which ended june 3, 2006 I passed naturally. It was much more difficult for me to let things go. I bled for 3 weeks vey heavy, and had VERY bad cramping. My doc didn't want to do another d&e because she said that the more times you manually open the cervix the more chance there is that it wont stay closed for future pregnancy. I am now 4wk4days and my doc is doing many tests and she says that everything is good. My u/s is scheduled for Sept 16, so I'll know then if this is a viable pregnancy. Keep your head up, girl. I know how hard this is for you. Just have faith that everything happens for a reason. If you need someone to talk to, this is my e-mail addy: ***@****

[shar7222]

Update - I went back to the dr. on Friday, Sept 1st and there wasn't a fetus anymore, just some tissue.  I had the D&C done on Saturday Sept 2nd.  I'm still getting a little bit of cramping and light bleeding but am doing ok.  Some people, including my fiance, tell me it'll be ok and that I'll get pregnant again.  Of course rationally I can say that, but I think unless you've gone through it, they don't realize that I'm still going to be sad and still mourn for this baby.