Umbilical Cord Strangulation

[Tam9096]

My Name is Tammy & I realy wanted to post this to let other mothers know how inportant it is to realy pay attention to your baby's movements and kicks. I was 38 weeks pregnant and was going to be induced in 2 days. I went in for my last ultrasound to see the position of the baby, They put the gel on my tummy and then the probe thing and all eyes where on the screen to see the baby,But something was wrong..the first thing you usually see is the heart beating, But we saw nothing beating and other doctors came in and confirmed my beautiful healthy Baby Boy had died due to strangulation of his cord. My world had crumbled and I cried and screamed and cried so much and so hard I got sick all over the place. I was being seen by High Risk Doctors and had 2 High Resolution Ultrssounds a week for the past 4 months and they where told that we almost lost our last baby due to the same thing and every ultrasound we would ask them to check the cord and make sure it was not strangeling him in anyway. I remember feeling Connor turn in my stomach and later that afternoon I had laid down for a little bit and felt two big kicks and then 2 big jolts. I remember putting my hand on my stomach and asking Connor what in the world he was doing in there. That was the last time i felt him move. i cry everytime i think about that moment. They took him c-section on Nov.2nd 2005 & we our 8lb 3 oz. Baby Boy Connor on Nov.6th 2005. PLEASE do not hesitate to go to your Doctor if you believe your baby,s movements are not right. I waited and the end result was the death of my baby. I still cry everyday.

[Tam9096]

We buried him on Nov.6th 2005,
I messed up in my first post....Sorry

[AnnieBrooke]

Oh, sweetheart, what a horrible, terrible loss, I don't know how you even had the strength to write the story.  What heartbreak you must have endured and still be enduring!  Fate can be so cruel, and where does one turn for answers in the face of such pain?  That you wrote the story to help others is a good thing from this tragedy, but it is not possible to understand why things like this happen.  I am certain there is nothing that you could have done even if you had known at that very moment what was happening ... you were not in an emergency room then, and by the time you would have got there it would have been too late, but there is probably little comfort in even that.  All I can say is that every loved one of mine who has died, I think I will see again some day, and Connor himself will probably be able to tell you why he was given to you to love for only 9 months.  I am so very sorry to hear of your great loss.  I wish you and your family strength and healing.  Annie

[Nissi Isreal]

OH I am so sorry for you lost…. I'm sure it took alot ot currage to tell us this story but thank you so much, this will help alot of us. Again I'm so sorry I cannot even emaging what you and your family are going throug....May God Bless you and your family...

[girlybuff]

I just wanted to extend my prayers to you and your family.  I am 31 weeks and I cannot even imagine going through what you've went through.

[blondie72]

I am SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO sorry for your loss - That is awful.  Your post brought tears to my eyes.   I do hope you can recover soon from such a tragedy.  I think that is a fear of every mom.  Thank you for being so brave to share such a story.  You are in my thoughts and prayers.  He is in a good place and one day you will both be re-united again.

[BlueBirdSchless]

I am so sorry. The same thing happened to my husbands aunt about two years ago while we were visiting. I was able to go to her funeral and see her little Jubilee. It was the sadest moment and I couldn't imagine how she felt. Six months later I had a very early natural m/c and she was a very good person to talk to about it. Then a month later she and I both announced our new pregnancies, we are weeks apart. I was scared out of my mind but still cannot imagine how she must be feeling. I pray for her baby when I pray for mine, and now I will pray for yours also. Thank you for shareing your story with us, love Tricia

[Tam9096]

Thank-You all for your prayers and thoughts and I do have to say that since I have been writting about this I have felt a little more at ease. Most days I am okay, I work at Wal-Mart in the Photo Lab and some days when I develope pictures of births or see a baby in tha same car-seat and the same clothes I had bought for Baby Connor it gets to me. I just wait until I am in the Car by myself on the way home and just cry all the way. This is the first job I have had in 17 years, I have had the honor of being a stay at home Mom with my other two boys 16 & 10. They also was very involved with my pregnancy, They went to alot of ultrasounds and looked forward to being bigger brothers. I finally got my youngest son to stop calling it the baby room and to call it the spare bedroom, He is always wondering if i am okay and always asking me if i am crying and looking at my eyes. Poor thing...He did not deserve to have to go through something like this. None of us did...I wrote a poem for the preacher who came to the hospital and was there when they brought Connor into the room for my family to spend time with and to say there goodbyes and he also did the funeral and really helped us through it all. i would like to share the poem with ya'll if you would like.

NOVEMBER 2ND 2005,NO FIRST BREATH,NO FIRST CRY
WE DIDN'T EVEN GET A CHANCE TO TELL HIM GOOD-BYE.
THE STRENGTH OF YOUR WORDS MADE US STRONG,
TO FACE THIS WORLD THAT SEEMS SO UNFAIR ALL SO WRONG.
IN OUR MOST DARKEST HOURS,THERE YOU WERE,AT THE HOSPITAL BY OUR SIDE YOU CAME.TO SHARE THE BURDEN OF ALL OUR PAIN.
WHERE THERE WAS DOUBT AND SORROW, YOU GAVE US TRUST AND A HOPE FOR BETTER TOMORROWS.
WITH A HEAVY HEART AND NOT KNOWING WHAT TO DO, YOU HELD OUR HAND AND CARRIED US THROUGH.
WE BOWED OUR HEADS TO HEAR YOU PRAY,WONDERING WHY HE TOOK OUR BABY CONNOR AWAY.
THE WORDS YOU SPOKE WILL FOREVER STAY,CLOSE TO OUR HEARTS EACH AND EVERY DAY.
HE WAS OURS TO LOVE,CHERISH AND KEEP,TINY HANDS AND LITTLE FEET, AN ANGELS KISS UPON HIS CKEEK, THERE LIES OUR BABY FOREVER ASLEEP.

[lucky mom of 2]

I am so sorry. I had a scare like that, my second daughter also had the cord wrapped around her neck. I went in for a v-back and her heart rate dropped really low, so they thought my uterus was ruptering, they did an emergency c-secion, and said had I continued to go through labor, which I would have had I not had the c-section before this one, she would have died. Her movements were also unusal and the stress test done should some drops in heart rate even before labor started, but they didn't do an ultrasound. My instincts were telling me something wasn't right, but luckily I went into labor and was being monitored when it started choking her. Otherwise there is no way I could have known. My prayers are with you, thankyou for the courage to tell your story, yours might save another baby, you never know. God BLess.

[have 2 kids]

I'm so sorry to hear about baby Connor.  Thank you for sharing your story.
When I was in labor with my son I had a feeling something was wrong, his movements were completely different.  The OB on call would not listen to me.  I ended up calling my family Dr and telling her I thought something was very wrong, she came to the hospital and called the head Dr in.  They did an ultrasound and it showed the cord was wrapped around his neck twice. I had an ultrasound the day before and everything was ok.  They did an emergency c-section so my baby survived.

[nomore babies]

I had a baby 13 yrs ago that had the cord wrapped but was lucky enoughthat had added more saline solution to me so the cord loosened up. My nephew and his wife just lost their baby due to the same thing  but before their due date and my mom said I had the same thing when I was born so it seems quite common

[Daisybaby]

I can empathize to a certain degree.  I lost my precious little girl to the same thing 2/half years ago at 13.5 weeks gestation.  I was so schocked to go in for an amnio and have them tell us that the baby was already dead. I had to then deliver her, a very traumatic experience for us. To see her so perfect with that cord around her neck is something that will always stay with me. It was all made worse by our precious little boy dieing 3 years earlier at 2 and a half months old due to heart problems.  We have been lucky enough to have a perfect little angel in the meantime who is now 4 years old. But last weekend we lost another baby at 6 weeks,  I won't let it stop me though, we will give it one last chance and if we succeed in having a healthy baby then it is meant to be.  Heres hoping.  Hang in there, time does help all wounds, just ask an expert!

[calvinbenedict]

I had just lost my first baby due to the same reason. He was 41 weeks when I had labor pains. I was admitted at the hospital at 9am of Dec 16th. They monitored his heartbeat and it was okay. After the enema procedure they monitor his heartbeat again and it was gone. I felt that I was gonna lose my mind. The doctor said he had a short, tight cord wrapped around his neck. He was a healthy 7.92 lb baby.
I still am in great pain right now. I can't help but ask why my baby had to leave.

[MOM2B24]

THAT IS SOOO SCAREY. I AM SO SORRY THIS HAPPENED TO YOU!! LET JESUS'S BRIGHT LIGHT OF LOVE AND PROTECTION, SHIELD OF BLESSINGS, AND ANSWERED PRAYERS SURROUND YOU.
I HOPE ALL IS WELL. AGAIN I AM SOOO SORRY.

[bjbbeauchamp]

I am so sorry for your loss.  That must have been terrible to go through. I can't even imagine.  During labor with my DD they started to get scared for a minute, b/c the cord was wrapped around her neck twice and her arm once. They told me I needed to push right then or something bad could happen, so I did and THANK GOD she made it out ok.  I will be 34 weeks next Tuesday and I just wouldn't know what to do if I were put in that type of situation.  I have been paying close attention to this one, just b/c I don't want the same thing to happen to her.  About two weeks ago I got scared, b/c she was moving, but just not like she usually did. So I told the doctor and the nurse and they put me on the monitor and when they did, she started moving away.  Her movements have slowed down and sometimes I get worried, but I am not at all afraid to ask about getting put back onto the monitor. I rather be safe, you know;)  Well, again I am soooooo sorry that you had to even go through that.  That is wonderful you are sharing your story with others. Thank you and God Bless;)

[lovefamily]

I am so sorry.  Words cannot describe how much my heart is breaking for you.  May God give you the peace and grace you need to get through this.

[mami1323]

That picture is the most heartbreaking thing I've seen in so long.  I'm sooooooo sorry for your loss.  I can't even imagine what you must be going through.  I am at work and seeing that I almost broke into tears.  I really want to send you my prayers and hope you get the strength to get through this terrible tragedy.

[CYW]

wow that is the scariest thing ever...i couldnt even imagine...my dr said he KNEW my baby had the cord around his neck..hence why my pb was going up and i was induced..he was born with it twice around his neck...it was scary but fortunately he is here..but i cannot even want to begin imagining this..i am soo sorry for all of your losses...i will keep you in my thoughts in prayers...that wonderful little angel is watching over you..

[saj39]

I am at a loss for words. I am so sorry for your loss. I am currently almost 34 weeks with my 4th child and I have really been very worried about something like this happening. I have actually been really obssessed with worry b/c I so want her to be okay but I just can't help worring. Maybe I am feeling like I am tempting faith by having another baby. I want to thank you for being brave and unselfish and sharing your story. I know it must be very difficult and I want you to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers!! God Bless!! Sheri

[calvinbenedict]

thank you so much for your prayers. i am hoping that my husband and i will get through this very difficult situation, and have the strength to try for another baby. i know my little angel will always be around to guide us.

to Tam9096 and everyone who are coming to the homestretch,
please try to relax. put your faith in God, He really is in control right now.

[mami1323]

I know your little one is with you.  Good luck to you and your husband and I hope you are blessed with another baby soon enough.  

[calvinbenedict]

The doctor said his cord was short... If only he had a longer cord, he could have survived...

[mami1323]

I couldn't even imagine how awful that feeling is.  It just is so hard to understand why a little baby would be taken like that.  You are in my thoughts and prayers.

[Meme914]

I am so sorry for all of you who have lost your babies. I completely feel your pain as I just lost my baby girl last week, May 22, due to umbilical cord strangulation. She was 4.5 months old. The cord was wrapped around her neck twice. It was so tight that her neck was swollen and made it look deformed. The night before my OB appt, I felt a lot of movement...kicks and waves. Perhaps that was her last struggle. As a friend of mine puts it, the umbilical cord is a bad design. I am still in shock but I've accepted her death and am trying my best to believe that all things happen for a reason.

[momwithnochild]

I lost my daughter on april 26 th 2008 due to umbilical cord strangulation. I stll can't believe she is not not with me. She is my first and only baby as I had complications delivering her and had hysterectomy. I pray to give us the strength to overcome this painful period .

[hnap]

I never knew that somthing like this could happen until I had my 20 week ultrasound on May 27.  We found that her umbilical cord wrapped around her neck and also entangled her arms and one leg.  She was my first baby and my husband and I are trying to find strength to move on and try again.  My heart goes out to all mothers who have lost a child like this.  

[Mommy_miss_BabyCaram]

The same thing happened to me right now,just two weeks ago.I'm in my 39 weeks checked up,when the doctor checked the heartbeat   and we couldn't heard it anymore.After,checked it in ultrasound they confirmed that the baby was passed away. It's so hard for me to believed it. My baby boy was died before he was born. Until now I kept crying about it. He was buried last Nov. 16,2009.

[Mommy_miss_BabyCaram]

...and his my first baby. I still delivered him normal. He's 7lbs and 5 oz.He's such a cute little angel.

[blueeyedtabbycat]

I am so sorry for your loos. I hope God blesses you again. We also have a great baby angel forum if you would like to check it out. God bless.