Vasectomy/Tubal Ligation thoughts?

[amberd5191]

The original plan was that my husband was going to get a vasectomy as soon as or before this baby is born. I'm getting a bit uncertain about this decision. We are both very young (23) but this will also be our 4th baby. Its not that we can't afford the baby, its just that everyone is pushing for both of us to get "fixed". Being as young as we are we are very well off, we own two houses one is a rental, I have 2 college degrees and am working on my Bachelors at the moment. So its not really my age/income that worry me about a baby. I guess I just have this I'm only 23 what if 5 years from now we want another. Right now it doesn't seem reasonable; but does it ever?

Just worried about making an uneducated or too quick of a decision. Any tboughts would be great. Sorry this was so long!

[peekawho]

Do not get your tubes tied or let your husband get a vasectomy until you are 100% sure you don't want any more children ever again.  

You sound very uncertain to me, so I wouldn't recommend doing it.  

[nalla]

I agree with Peek.  You are still really young.  You have many more years of fertility.  You may want another baby in 5 or 10 years.  Don't do it untill you are 100% certain.  But the problem with that is if you are certain now, you may change your mind years from now.  It would be a differnt story if you had 4 kids and were closer to 40.  I would wait.  And you can get on another form of BC.  The IUD worked great for me.  I didn't have to remember to take the pill every day and didn't have to go up and get a shot every few months.  One of them lasts for 5 years and the other is 10 years.  Or there are other forms of BC.  You and your Dr. can figure out which is best for you.

But if you do decide to do this, then have your DH do it.  It's a lot easier for him to do it. You would need surgery if you did it.
And I have heard if you get a vasectomy reversed there is a 75% chance of it working, but insurence won't pay for the reversal.  But I think if you get your tubes tied the chances of a reversal are a lot lower than if a man did it.

[jenstam]

What about an IUD? I definitely would not get your tubes tied or vasectomy done. You're right...you're young and it would be a shame if you wanted more children and couldn't. I nearly had my tubes tied in my 20's after four children. I went with the IUD and I am now 33 and 34 weeks pregnant with my fifth child. My situation is a bit different...hubby and I divorced after we had our children. He did get a vasectomy, so more children for us was out of the question, but we were comfortable with that decision. Once we divorced, I met a wonderful man who had no children of his own and asked me if I would have one of our own. I think all the time about how our relationship would have most likely soured early on if I had gotten my tubes tied. I'm so glad I didn't. If you don't feel comfortable with making a permanent decision like that, then don't. It's nobody's business but yours.