Waiting for *something* to happen.

[msjwilson]

Hi people

As you have read before I've just had a "miscarraige" and I think I went through the greif process before I was given the news via the phone today. I did all of my research online and I knew that my chances aren't good, the things is that I miscaried about 3 years ago at 14 weeks to a man I was seeing that had commited suicide.
I am with a different partner now, my husband. I was wondering, does this mean there is something wrong with my body? Do I need to go to a fertility clinic? Or am I thinking too much?
We have decided to try again but I am afraid!! I don't know if I want to go through this waiting game, I'm so tired and this pregnancy has brought on the greif of loosing my mother, my boyfriend and miscarrying within 6 months of each other back in 1999..
I've already been through so much loss and I don't know that I can take anymore!!! I am scared to death of being hurt again but I am also scared to death of thinking of my life without a child to love and call my own..
I told everyone I was pregnant, now I sit here wondering how to *UNTELL* everyone!? I wish I hadn't have said anything, I dread telling my father I have misarried for some reason and I am dreading telling everyone else.. One thing is for sure, I wish I could talk to my mum!! But she's not here either...
So now I sit here, I am not sure what to expect, but I have a level of 19 HCG, so, do I wait for a period in a months time? My period was due today,.. Is it true that 75% of pregnancy's don't make it in the first 4 weeks?
Where can I go from here?

[msjwilson]

Wow not 3 years ago, it was 5..

[Niki73]

Sorry to hear about your miscarriage...I had a very similiar situation to yours....I had a miscarriage with my first husband and then experienced 2 more miscarriages with my second husband which was about 6 years later....I would have to say yes that it is a pretty good idication that it is something with your body but I don't think it's a bad thing. We went through a lot of testing after the third miscarriage and of course the focus was mostly on my body because like you said we had miscarriages with two different people. Thier is hope so don't be afraid- I know how you feel I was afraid too but I'm going to tell you a happy ending and hope that it helps you feel better.... With my four pregnancy the doctor had determined through testing that everything seemed fine except he didn't think I produced enough of the HCG hormone to support a pregnancy...which includes the hormone Progesterone. So as soon as I became pregnant for the fourth time I had hormone injections twice a week up until I was eleven weeks pregnant because at that point the placenta takes over nourishing the fetus and your body no longer needs to supply the hormones.... I delievered a healthy baby girl! I am currently 21weeks pregnant with our second baby by doing the same exact process....This may be something for your doctor to look into you may have the same problem as I did my body just did not produce enought of the HCG Hormone to support a pregnancy....Good Luck and please let me know of things when you decide to try again....do push your doctor to run some tests for you!

[Cyndee Jo]

I know how you feel.  I have had 2 miscarriages in the 8 years I have been married.  And I was scared something was wrong with me.  The doctor told me that a miscarriag means that something is wrong with the baby.  And that it would be hard for the baby to survive out of the womb.  It is the bodies way of taking care of things.  And don't worry too much..  Even after the miscarriages.  I have one healthy 6 year old son and another one due in January.  When it is meant to be it will happen.

[Still a mom]

My doctor told me after I lost Jacob, that after 2 miscarriages his office likes to test and after 3 he insists on testing. I do know that if you loss a baby earlier, it usually is something that is wrong with the baby, so they would probably test genetics.
Mandi