Wanting to have a baby!

I'm only 21 so this may sound i don't know stupid i guess is what i could say, but anyway i want to have a baby more than anything, i feel that i am ready as far as financially and really think i know what i am doing but i have medical problems that well the doctors say will make it pretty hard to make a baby, is it stupid of me to want one being so young? and if not i dunno I'm just curious but nervous to see what is said on this post i am new to this and very shy! but i also want others opinions about this if you read this and reply if you think I'm not totally out of my mind maybe someone could help me by listing things i could do i dont know if this post even makes sense so ill just end it here!

[Mom2be530]

Tell me more about your situation.  I don't think its stupid to want a baby at 21, I always knew I wanted to be a young mother.  I have medical issues too.  What are your medical problems?  Lets start with that.

[krissy24]

Hey, I dont think you sound stupid at all.  I'm only 20 and my husband and I have been trying to have a baby for 6 months now! everyone is going to have a different opinion and tell you different things. I think its really up to you if you feel that your ready financially and physicly to care for a baby then why not start a family! I myself always wanted to be a young mom but I also had medical problems that kinda made it hard for me to get pregnant. But i think I might be this month! im going to test today actually!

[LisaMarie86]

well i don't have periods at all like i used to but then it stopped i have tried all kinds of drugs but nothing has worked to keep it going, i have a very bad hormone issue which for some reason my body doesnt want to give me much estrogen and on top of it i am overweight and want to have the gastric bypass surgery but i feel like i want to have a baby before i lose all the weight only to gain it back, everyone tells me i would make an amazing mom because i love children alot. i don't know what to do i don't think i can adopt and i'm not sure what other things i could do to have a child with my hormone issues

[LisaMarie86]

thats good to hear good luck and i hope everything turns out good!!

[Mom2be530]

On this page another person posted on obesity and gastric bypass...I gave my in put on that and I think you would benifit in reading it.  What have to done so far to try to concive?  Have you counciled w/ your doctors??  Is it your boyfriend or hubby??

[LisaMarie86]

i will have to find the post and read into it about what you said as far as what i have tried to do o have tried intercourse I've thought about adoption or even getting a donor and getting them implanted (sorry if that is spelled wrong) i think i just really need to talk to my doctor and ask her what it is that i can do i have wanted to say something about it to her many times before but have had my step-mom there with me and thought it would be awkward to mention something about it in front of her, as far as it being the b.f issue i'm not sure it could be he says he is fertile and has a son from a previous marriage and that happened first try and not what he says "on purpose" i'm clueless as to what i should do i know i want to do this and have since i was 18 so i guess the smartest way to go at it is go with my mom to the doctors and figure out what i can do! thanks for your help Mom2Be530 and Krissy24!!!

[potts20]

I dont think you sound stupid for wanting a baby at the age of 21.  I wanted one since I was 17.  I got married at 18, and now, I will be 21 next month, and I have 2 kids under the age of 2.  My best advise to give you is, just relax.  Dont stress about it, and maybe it will happen.  With the fact that you have problems that make it hard to conceive, definatlly talk to your doctor and hopefully he or she will be able to help.  Everyone always told me, jokingly, that you are NEVER finacally (spelled wrong :}) ready to have a child.  To a degree it is true, but there are so many places out there that could help.  I wish you the best of luck.  TONS of baby dust to you.  Also, trust in GOD.  He knows if you are meant to have a baby.  

[CYW]

its what society makes it out to be.. i know im 21 almost 22 and when ppl see me with my son they think a baby with a baby but first off im not a baby...been non my own out my rents for 3 yrs i take cre of myself n my son n my bf..we manage n our son has more than he could ever need...hes got alot of love care nurture all his needs are met and more...so dont feel stupid..think about it this way some want to start their family in their late 20's early 30's well my parents are 44 and almost 46 and ive been oput the house for 3 yrs...my uncle is 37 n has a 4 and 5 yr old...so..my parents have been enjoying life...my uncle unfortunately wont be for a while of course he does with his kids but you know....good luck girl ttc..i will pray for you

[cantwait4baby]

I always wanted a baby even in my early 20's.  I chose not too because of my living situation - I lived in a bad area.  I dont think there is anything wrong with wanting a baby as long as you can provide for him/her. Since you have health problems it may be better to start early.

[suzettee]

Why would you think its stupid well i wanted a baby from i was 19 now i'm 24 and nothing so its good to start early since i know that we have a problem i'm looking forward to seek medical assistance as i really need a child well i ovulate monthly so i don't know if its my Bf but we are still TTC and praying that God will grant us one naturally.

[Avas Mom]

I dont feel your age has much to do with it. If your emotionally ready and financially it doesnt matter. There are ppl in their 40s who arent even mature enough to have kids. I had my baby a few wks before my 20th birthday and she was wanted also..everyone thought it was a mistake since i was so young but it doesnt matter to me. I had been living with my bf of 4 yrs anyway and was working and going to school and he has a good job. What kind of medical probs do you have?

[LisaMarie86]

thanks everyone for your helpful posts i realize it wasn't so dumb to think like i was and all of your posts have been so helpful to me, i'm looking into different ways that i can get help unfortunately at the moment my health insurance has been canceled :'( but ill have things situated i have decided that i want to try and conceive before having the gastric bypass surgery i have talked to my family and they all agree its a good idea plus my mom wants to be a grandma real bad lol, now that my b.f and i have broken up i am pretty much doing this with the support of my mom on my side and also my sister i will keep everyone up to date on things and also if you happen to read this if you have any links or information as to what i can do as far as methods like ivf or something please let me know! thank you everyone for your help and HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!!