Why does a Fetal Heart Stop Beating?

[Hopingforasign]

I just found out that I m/c for the second time.  This time the baby was 9weeks and fourdays.  I'm supposed to be 11 weeks pregnant.  I thought everything was find...but Iwas wrong. I'm going in for a D&C tomorrow.  

I'm just wondering...will the D&C lessen my chances of having a healthy child?  

Why did the heart stop beating when everything else was just fine?

Should I have my OB examine the fetal tissue?  She says that it will not really show anything.  She says that it is more helpful for us to just have a work-up done for myself and my husband...what will this entail?

Life is a nightmare right now...and I don't know what to do.

[EmmyK]

First, I'm sorry for your loss.  After my m/c, my OB offered to test the tissue to make sure that whatever was causing the m/c wasn't genetic.  In my case it was not genetic, just abnormal chromosomes.  The testing really helped ease my mind.

My thoughts & prayers are with you.

[AnnieBrooke]

Hi, this is from a British medical site.  I've posted it several times before, because it was useful to me when I had a miscarriage.

"Despite their prevalence, it is always devastating when a woman experiences a miscarriage. A large portion of women will experience at least one miscarriage during their reproductive years. If you have had a miscarriage, take the time to understand better why these occur and why it is not your fault.

"When you conceive and a baby is created, it takes half its genes from the sperm and half from the egg that ovulated that month. At the exact time of conception, the cross-over of these genes takes place. Sometimes, for no reason other than bad luck, some information is lost and the pregnancy is destined from that point not to be.

"It might be that this lost information is not needed for many weeks, and the pregnancy will continue as normal until that time. When the needed information is not there, it is then that the baby dies and you begin to miscarry.  Another cause might be that the baby did not implant, or bury itself, into the womb lining properly - once again, just due to bad luck.

"These are the most common reasons that women miscarry. Not because of something you did or didn't do, but just because of chance. Not because you drank alcohol, ate some unpasteurised cheese, or didn't take folic acid. Certainly not because you had sex or didn't rest enough.

"Whether you lay in bed from the day of your positive pregnancy test or went hang-gliding every day wouldn't have changed things. Its nature's way of making sure that when you do have a baby, it has the best chance for all of its life. Miscarriage does not mean that you won't be able to get pregnant again.

"A D&C (dilatation and curettage) or evacuation may be carried out to reduce the chance of infection and ensure that you don't continue bleeding over the following weeks. Very rarely, it can cause infection of the uterine lining. It is believed that the chance of this is less likely than had you not undergone a D&C. If this happens it usually responds well to a short course of antibiotics. The D&C doesn't weaken your cervix or make you more likely to miscarry in subsequent pregnancies.

"The risk of miscarriage decreases as pregnancy progresses. It is possible that as many as 50% of pregnancies miscarry before implantation in the womb occurs. Early after implantation, pregnancy loss rate is about 30% (i.e.; still before a pregnancy is clinically recognised). After a pregnancy may be clinically recognised (between days 35-50), about 25% will end in miscarriage. The risk of miscarriage decreases dramatically after the 8th week as the weeks go by.

"Many women miscarry more than once in their life. Considering the frequency of miscarriage, about 1 in 36 women will have 2 miscarriages due to nothing more than chance. Any miscarriages after that might prompt your doctors to suggest some tests to ensure that it isn't happening for some other reason."

Hope this helps.  

[Hopingforasign]

Thanks Annie for the information.  It really helped me in a way reason out what happened.  Still really sad, but my husband and I won't stop trying to have children.

[Hopingforasign]

Should I have my OB run lab tests on the fetal tissue after the D&C?

[projectbaby]

Yes, I would.... They didn't find anything in mine though...it wouldn't hurt and maybe you will get some answers... I am sorry for your loss... I am going to m/c... I have to wait until Thurs. before they see what they are going to do....  I have also m/c twice....why does this happen to us???

[kierstynsmommy]

hi, i just went through the same thing and was devastated as you are. I am so sorry this happened to you. I was supposed to be 10 weeks and my baby stopped developing at 8 weeks, a few days after my next to last ultrasound. I previously saw the heart beat two other times and when i went in for another sono, it was gone. I too asked my doctor if the baby would be tested and he said that since it has already been so long, there is really no use. He says that it is just something that happens and like that article that anniebrooke posted. I wish that if there was something wrong with the baby at the very first first part of pregnancy that it wouldnt  continue. It is so much harder as time goes on and you are thinking that everything will be perfect. We were almost out of our third trimester and just knew that everything was ok this time. I know exactly how you are feeling and i am so sorry for you. This site really helped me through my loss and these ladies here are so wonderful in supporting you through your hard time. My heart goes out to you. Please just know that you will get through this, not today, or tomorrow or even the next day, but you will eventually and then you can begin trying to have a baby again. The odds are in our favor with the next baby, they have to be!!! Please, if you wanna talk, just let me know. I am here for you as well as all the other ladies here on this site. God bless you and you are in my thoughts and prayers tonight.
Amber

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kierstynsmommy is so right about this site. I found this site earlier when i went through my miscarriage and then found solace in it when i went through my ectopic. The greatest comfort is knowing all these pple here will hear you out a thousand times and not judge your pain and be there to read your posts. SO please know you have friends in these sad times "HUGS"

[laura99]

I read that too and also found it very useful!! I have also found out too that at week 9 all the vital organs are developed, so it makes sense that mc chances go down a lot (the fetus has "used" all the information it needed from the chromosomes). This is something I also found helpful (from a British mc website too): "Research has shown that if you see a heartbeat at 6 weeks of pregnancy, the chances of the pregnancy continuing are 78%. A heartbeat at 8 weeks increases the chance of a continuing pregnancy to 98% and at 10 weeks to 99.4%. So things could still go wrong, but as long as there is a heartbeat, the risk of miscarriage decreases as the weeks go by".

[kiwi1969]

Thanks for your comments Annie, it means a lot.  I have just found out at 8wks that the heart has stopped.  This is my 4th m/c and tomorrow morning i go for a D & C.  One week before xmas it really sux.  Why is it so hard?  Why does everyone else seem to get pregnant and so easily?  I am so sick of getting my hopes up, "staying positive" which didn't do me any good this time.  I did everything right... stopped exercising (now I feel fat for no good reason), didn't drink, slept, rested, no coffee, everything i was supposed to do and it still didn't work out.  Life is so unfair sometimes I wish things would get easier for me and my husband, just give us this one break please.  Found this amazing book which really helped me (got it off amazon for $1) and I really encourage anyone out there who feels like they haven't been listened to or need information to get it... "How to Prevent Miscarriage and Other Crises of Pregnancy - a leading high risk pregnancy doctor's prescription for carrying your baby to term" by Stefan Semchyshyn M.D.a nd Carol Colman.  Although it didn't stop me or help my baby's heart beat it gave me the questions to ask.  This sucks, I am going to put away all the baby clothes I got out (again) and put away my maternity clothes.  I'm so sad.  How do I deal with all the sympathy without getting angry?  Sometimes those 'looks' although they mean well just make me feel so much worse.

[emilysmommy]

I just faced a misscarage, on 12/11/06. I went to the doctor for a regular check up I was 22 weeks along. He could not hear a heartbeat and sent me for an u/s. Unfortunately little Emily's heart was not beating anymore. I had seen her u/s 2 times before and everything was normal and she was in PERFECT health ( that is what the u/s and doctor had told us.) They sent me home and on 12/12/06 they put me in the hospital and induced labor, on 12/14/06 at 4:12 a.m. Emily was here, the doctors had talked about testing and etc but it was evident when she was born what the problem was. Little Emily had wrapped herself up in the umbilical cord and it had cut off her lifeline! I never thought I would be faced with this and this has been the most difficult 11 days of my life! We burried our little Emily on 12/16/06 she weighed 8 oz and was 9 inches long , It is so amazing how developed a baby is at only 22 weeks. We were able to hold our precious baby, she was so tiny yet all fingers, toes and etc perfect in everyway, yet her tiny heart was no longer beating. My heart goes out to the women on this site and every other women that has ever faced such heartache and tragedy in there life. I have a 12 yr old son and I am so thankful for him!!! My husband, my son and myself have never experienced such a loss in our lives!!! We were so excited, nursery is done bed is up and everything bought for her all we needed was our baby and within a matter of moments our excitement turned to such heartache. I can't tell anyone that it gets better, everyone keeps telling me that but I am still an emotional wreck and I feel so broken. God Bless everyone.

[matate]

Everyone keeps saying "God Bless" am I the only one that thinks that God has given up on me?  I have had 3 miscarriages before and just found out Christmas Eve that I am pregnant again.  I am sure this pregnancy will end in miscarriage also.  I can just feel it I have been spotting and I went for blood tests and all of my hormone levels were low.  I am just so tired of trying with no results.  My husband wants a baby so bad and I am afraid that he is going to leave if I can't give him one.  Thanks for listening.

[emilysmommy]

NO i don't think God had given up on us, I think that he knows what is in the future for the children and might be keeping them from some tremendous harm or etc. I was angry towards God when i first lost Emily, I think sometimes that most all parents are and have to ask a million times WHY OR WHY ME OR HOW COULD YOU? But I do beleive in God and I think without him I couldn't put ome foot in front of the other!

[Angel's mommy]

Im 10 weeks pregnant. Last week Baby's heartbeat was very faint  but everything else was perfect  baby was growing well. did another sonar today,no heartbeat and the baby stopped growing Im going in for a d&c tomorrow.

[Heartbroken211]

I came to the doctor when I was 10 weeks and 3 days along to find no heartbeat.  The fetus (as my husband wants me to call it) stopped developing about a week earlier.  I had a d&c on Sept 1st.. I had to redo it 3 weeks later due to some fluid that didn't drain out properly out of my cervix.  Because of the 2nd d&c, the whole ordeal was very long and heart-wrenching.  It was one doctor's visit after another.  One day I come to see my baby dancing for me, and the next my uterus is empty.    Here I thought I was going to have an easy, fun pregnancy.  I sat there reading pregnancy books and flipping through pregnancy magazines one day- and this HORROR the next.  It's been almost 2 months and I am a wreck.  I can't get over it.  My heart is broken and I can't sleep at night.  My husband's stance is that it's better this way than giving birth to an unhealthy child.  I should just move on and we'll try again in a few months.  He might be right, but I wanted THIS child to be healthy.  What the hell did I do wrong?? I followed doctor's orders to the T. No coffee, no alcohol, plenty of rest, no this no that.  Wasn't there some way to prevent this.  No test to predict it??

[mommyluv217]

hi

[mommyluv217]

HI, i dont know how to get over it.....i found out in Aug. that i was pregnant i was so happy to find out after one miscarrage (miscarriage) in April at 4 weeks. and then in Oct. i had my first ultrasound to also find that i was pregnant with twins all i remember thinking was that god blessed me with two for the one we lost months ago....everything was going great they were growing healthy, i heard their heartbeats twice before and saw them one more time before going to the doctor on the 7th of Nov. i went because i was worrying about them and didnt know why but when i went they found no heartbeats none. i was sent for an emergency ultrasound only to find that their little hearts had stopped at 14 weeks i just dont understand it why this is happening i dont know how to get over it how to stop crying i cant get the picture out of my head them lying there lifeless in me and there was nothing i could do. does anyone having any adivce for me i should be some what happy i have a little 21 month at home i just cant to deal with the fact that this is what god thought was best for them. and then to make matters worse 2 days after my d&c i got my milk in i just cant stop thinking i have milk for my babies but there not hear to feed.but like my mom says i have plenty of time i am only 20 years old. and emilys mom i dont know how you do it your a very brave women my heart goes out to all of you....but if anyone does have any adivce or what you did to ease your heart i would greatly appreicate it.

[Nurse_515]

im sorry for all your losses i myself have once been in your shoes and it is not easy, but do not lose hope and do not blame yourselves for something that is completely out of your control, there are reasons why it has happened ones you may not know of now ,or may never know but I assure you it is not because God is against you although that is how it feels, but in truth this is a test you must overcome in your life a very trying one, I know its hard and you feel like its just not fair and feel as though something has been stolen from you,please have faith and know that it is not in your hands you are not the giver nor taker of life and one day things will get better, you will want to try again and it wont hurt as bad and God willing you will carry this new life to term
i know i may sound abit crazy but you really do have to trust that God wants only what is best for you in all his actions as hard and trying as life can get if you stay near faith during these times you´will reap the benefits the only thing that consoles me is knowing that my unborn child who was taken from me will one day speak for me on the day of judgement

[mlaura]

Hi, I just lost my baby. I was 141/2 weeks pregenant when I went for my check up and the heatbeat was not there. My doctor sent me for a u/s right away and the baby was gone. It died a week and a half before. On 12/28/07 I went for a D/C. I know what all you women are going  through or went through, and I only wish you all the best in furture pregenacy. For all you first time mothers keep you chin up. This was my fourth pregenacy and the only one this has happened to me to. I hurt for all of you as I do myself, and we all have to have the strengh to get through this terrible thing that has happened. I cry everyday and hope one day I will be back to me. Best of luck ladies.  

[Monica74]

Hello, I went in Monday to see my o/b wasnt feelin well. They check the heart beat n couldn't find it. did sonogram and baby was there but no heart beat he had stopped growing. I would've been 11 weeks wednesday Jan. 22, 2008. I have 1 daugther age 17 and couldn't get pregnant cuz I was over weight. I lost 46lbs and got pregnant. I taught this was a miracle but now I feel so helpless, angry, sad. I still have baby in me, going for D&C Thursday. I cant believe how things happen to good people this would've been my husband 1st child by blood. He raised my daughter at age 3, n has been a great father.  The only thing I can do is have hope and wonder why this happens. thanks

[littleft4]

I too have been in the same situation. I went in for an ultrasound at 5 weeks, the doctors told me everything was fine. Then two weeks later I went back, and there was no heartbeat. It stopped shortly after the first visit. The only thing that keeps me going is my faith in God. I know it sounds cheesy, but at times like this that the only thing that we have to hold on to. We did everything right, but it still didn't work out. I know its hard, but if you believe that He will never leave or foresake you, and you hold on to Him with all your might, things will be ok. Im not saying you'll forget, but you will find yourself at peace with the situation.
God Bless

[HisDV9Lady]

I too have been in the same situation. I recently had a D&C on 3/26/08. I found out that I was pregnant on 2/15/08, I went to the DR on 3/10/08 and had an U/S to confirm the pregnancy, and sure enough I was pregnant, 8 weeks, 1 day, and I was abl;e to see the baby & the baby's heartbeat. The heartrate was strong, 172 BPM. On 3/21/08, I had another U/S due to the previous 2 miscarriages that I had, and this time the Baby was still visible, but there was no heartbeat. I was truly devestated! The previous 2 I only made it to 5 weeks, but this time was different, my baby was actually growing. I just couldn't understand why this was happening, I had no spotting/cramping/bleeding, no signs of a miscarriage whatso ever. The U/S tech told me that my baby stopped growing at 8 weeks, 5 days. So 4 days after seeing this strong heartrate, my baby died. My OB, had the fetal tissue sent off for genetic testing, but the results haven't come back to me yet. My fiance and I are really confused and frustrated that this keeps happening to us. We have a 9yr old girl, and that pregnancy was normal, and she was born a healthy baby. I myself has questioned God to why he keeps letting this happen to me. So, I truly understand how some of you feel. I am slowly coming to peace with what happened. I pray for all of you for better outcomes in the future as I pray for myself & my fiance. We will try again one.

[carlysmom44]

I just found out yesterday that I miscarried again.  The first time was Dec of 2007 and they called it a 'blighted ovum.'  This time I was 10 weeks and 5 days.  The doctor says the heart just stopped beating at around 9 weeks and the baby stopped growing.  I sympathize with all the women that have written in and truly feel your pain.  The first time for me was bad, but the reason why this one seems even worse is because I do feel like I caused the m/c.  Thinking back, at 9 weeks, which was only a week and a half ago, I ate a couple of pieces of smoked salmon.  Stupidly, I didn't realize 'smoked' was really pretty much raw!  I got really sick for 3 days after w/ stomach cramps, feeling like I wanted to vomit, and just extremely tired.  However, thinking it would just go away eventually, and not thinking it was so serious or would hurt the baby, I didn't go to the doctor.  I did call a couple of days after I felt better b/c I saw a tiny bit of blood on the toilet paper.  It was very light pink - very faint.  The nurse told me it was probably nothing and told me 'just to keep an eye on it.'  I haven't even set up my D&C appt yet and the baby is still inside me.  I still can't believe this is really happening.  I thought I'd wake up this morning and find out it was just a nightmare...  I feel like an idiot for not going to the doctor to make sure everything was ok.  I hate going to the hospital and never like to over-exaggerate an illness.  I guess I really paid the price this time!  I don't know if what I ate is the reason for the m/c but it makes so much sense w/ my getting sick and everything.  I feel it must have been listeriosis that I got.  Has anyone else had this problem?  I feel like I'm going to be kicking myself about this for the rest of my life.  

[icklejosie]

just found out today that the baby stopped growing a week ago and despite seeing a heart beat two weeks ago the baby is gone.  they have told me that this time on the scan there is two yolk sacs and that next week they will rescan me to see if there is any hope for the other one but at 8 week i think they should be able to tell by now.  its ok for people to say that there is still hope but they dont have two dead babies inside them.  people seem to think that just because i already have a baby that i should be fine.  i am sooo thankful for my little boy but cant help feeling i have done something wrong.  i want to wake up tomorrow and be pregnant again.  its cruel of them to give me hope but inside i know there is none i feel empty and confused.

[p2bamom]

I just had a D&C May 30, I was 11 1/2 weeks pregnant with twins and two weeks ago I had some light spotting since this was my 3rd pregnancy I went to the ER and they did blood work and the dr checked my cervix and they did a ultrasound they babies were fine moving around and I heard the heart beat for the first time I was so excited and the dr put me on pelvic rest for a few days. The spotting stopped and I waited a week to see my dr. I went in thinking everything was still fine but no heart beat on either of the babies. My heart is broken and I want answers as to why I keep miscarring.

[basill1970f]

hello, i saw your post and my heart litterally goes out to you... as well as all of the others on here... i just went through my 4th mc/ this past wed... its the furhest i have gotten 9 1/2 weeks but baby stopped growing at 6 wks.. dr gave me high dose of cytotect to pass it..... thought i was done but dr said to take another dose.. i took it a few hours ago and not to be gross or anything but i am passing extremely huge clots... ive been going good but my heart is aching tonight i just want to feel better...............

have you ever been checked for progesterone levels?

[brokenheart20]

I just had a D&C two days ago. Tomorrow will be exactly a week that my doctor told me that my baby was no longer alive. I was something I didn't understand because I am supposed to be 15 weeks pregnant almost four months. That is definitely out of the first trimester. It hurts so bad because i did get to see my baby bouncing around and hear its beautiful heart beat. I felt good. tired but good. What hurts the most is that this is the second child that i lose. i can only feel guilt that maybe its because i try to do so much. Full time school, work three jobs and fiancee. I did elect to have testing done on my baby and I will be going in also. I want to know what the problem is because i cant endure another heart break. im tired of seeing pregnant woman when that is all i want now. I really want my baby back!!! I want what others take for granted. Moments I feel strong and see things in positive light and others Ican help but feel hurt, anger, and envy. I just don't know what to think or feel. im in a daze most of the time.

[Hannie2000]

have your dr told any of you why the haert stopped beating?

I just had my 2nd m/c and I also heard the haertbeat 3 weeks ago.

They have done tests but the dr said everything looked normal. The problem is that me and my hubby have different bloodgroups....

We really want answers so....

[bird508]

I had a miscarriage 6 months back. Now I am 6 weeks preg,  but the u/s showed 4weeks 5 days no fetal node. The doctor has advised  complete rest..hoping it might help. If God is doing the best for you why does it hurt so much..  The only thing i can do now is pray.. All of you are in my prayers.. I hope our prayers reach Him

[Melissa2608]

All of you want to know why you miscarried at 9 weeks. I was 19 weeks yesterday and went in for an ultrasound found out it was a boy. Then got a call from the doctors, the baby has not formed any of its organs. But yet it has a perfect heartbeat and did yesterday too. And yet it can kick and move with nothing inside of him. I dont understand it. They want to induce me and have me go in labor to push a baby out that will die, and it would have been my first one. I can go full term with the baby and have him kick, move, have the body grow and the heart beat perfectly but when it comes out and hits air it will die. Im just so angry and upset, of how this can be happening.

[shay29]

I just had a D and C done yesterday and this was my first miscarrage (miscarriage).  I was horrified and I still am.  If I were you I would thank God that the baby is still alive and trust that when you birth he or she will come out with all organs.  God is in control and he knows best.  You have to have faith and believe that God will bring your baby out alive and well.  Don't give up!

[JenDen1022]

I had my second d&c yesterday.  I was 15 weeks and went for my amnio.(i am 35)  just 2 weeks pryer to that i went to the doctor and the baby's heart beat was strong and it was jumping around like crazy....i joked to my husband that i hoped the baby didn't come out to be as hyper.  Before the amnio they did the u/s to measure and prepare the test,  i didn't see the heart beat.  they brought in 2 specialists who both didn't see it either.  my heart dropped and broke in a million pieces on the floor.  My husband had to leave work, he hasn't stopped cying, he is not taking this well at all.  He has an 11 year old daughter and i love her, but i really wanted this baby.  Our baby together instead of sharing his.  I just thank God we never told his daughter.  I wanted to wait until I got the results back from the amnio that everything was ok...I was still nervous because of my last miscarraige.  That only lasted 81/2 weeks, and this time once we pasted that point I felt great, my doctor even said the last visit before that I was pretty much in the clear.."most missed pregnancies are within the first 10 weeks".  
This pregnancy I did everything by the book...I felt like a nerd a little.  I stayed clear of all cheese, only ate shell fish 2x a month, drank only decaf coffee, soda, iced tea, whaterver.  I took my pills the same time everyday, I even stayed away from salty foods.  I thought all this would help....none of it did.
I get mad when I think about all these women that are such horrible mothers, mothers who abuse, mistreat, just take for granted the fact that they have had a healthy beautiful child.
I will try again and keep on trying....nothing is gonna stop me from having a baby of my own. they are testing the pregnacy, then they are taking some tests on me, then they said if everything goes well we can start trying again....and we will.
Best wishes to everyone....although you will NEVER forget, especially the next time you get pregnant, the pain in your heart will get better.

[imsuzym]

After having three healthy boys, I got pregnant with my fourth. I was very excited and saw the baby bouncing around on the u/s at 10 weeks. The tech said I had a very active baby. Then one night as I was watch ER and everyone else was in bed, I suddenly felt the baby's spirit leave me. It was a quiet woosh that went up from me. I cried and said no, don't go. The next day, Valentines Day, I went to my scheduled appointment, and told my doctor what I had felt the night before. She assured me that everything was okay, however when she went to listen to the heartbeat, it wasn't there. She grabbed the u/s machine and didn't find a heartbeat or movement either. I had to wait a whole day before I could get scheduled in to the bigger u/s machines that show color/blood flow. This was the longest night of my life, but when I went in it was confirmed that the baby had died. I got to deliver my little Johnathan, who was so perfect in every way. There was no reason why his heart stopped, only that it did. My heart ached for months and was in zombie land. However 9 months later I got pregnant with my daughter, who was born healthy and strong.

Now thirteen years later, I found out I was pregnant with a suprise! I'm now 8 weeks pregnant and felt that same feeling of the spirit leaving me again. I went in to urgent care last night to confirm my feelings, and they could not find a heart beat. They told me to keep my appointment next week and have another u/s, but I know that this baby has gone too.

The presense of life is so powerful, and when it leaves... if you're quiet enough, you can feel it leave. Has anyone else experienced their baby's spirit leave? I love my children who have gone, and I can't wait to meet them in heaven. I know this baby I just lost was a girl... no doubt. See you soon my little angels!!!

[AndrewsFather]

I rarely see any posting from fathers on this site, but it impacts us as well.  My wife has health issues and one of our good friends volunteered to carry our child.  We attempted IVF one time with no success, but the second time, our surrogate became pregnant.  We made it to 18 weeks with all tests and doctor's comments favorable.  Then our surrogate had some bledding.  We went to the emergency room where we were told it was only a clot behind the placenta and that we should be okay.  We requested an ultrasound with our own doctor one week later and, sure enough, the baby's heart had stopped during that one week.  Our son was delivered on Tuesday morning and we got a chance to hold him.  One of the most difficult days of my life.  We were amazed at how much he had developed - all body parts looked perfect, just no heart beat.

My wife and I are devestated and looking for answers.  Unfortunately, we cannot find any.  It was very selfless of our friend to volunteer, and we feel guilty asking her again. So much effort has gone in to this with such disappointing results. These things are not supposed to happen at 18 weeks.

[irisxoxo]

two days ago I found out that my baby's heart was not beating. I was sent to the ER to make sure everything was fine but there were no vital signs. My doctor gave me some pills to induce my body to expell the baby but I didn't take them I refuse to believe that my baby is not alive. I truly believe in God and that miracles can happen...I'm 15 weeks...and I've been crying so much but I do expect a miracle...

[chulat31]

I was 16 weeks pregnant and went to the doctors for a regular check up but no heartbeat. They sent me for an u/s and no good news. Had a D&E done on 1/15/09. I really want to have another baby soon cause i'm getting up there in age but, I'm scared to get pregnant again because I have 3 girls and that was my boy. I was very happy that I was haveing a boy. Now if I get pregnant with a girl I don't know how i'll take it. Can someone give me some advice...

[florida2004]

I just found out 2 days ago my baby's hear stoped beating.Everything was going great!I am in perfect health.I just don't understand.The doctor don't have an answer.Nobody does.I still want to know WHY?At ultrasound(i had a 4D)it showed that the baby developed great,the sac measured the right size....everything was good,I am going for d&c monday,but before i will i want to ask one more time for another ultrasound...for my peace of mind.Maybe,just maybe something happened that day and they culdn't hear..i don't know..it happened before.Or maybe i am not that far that i think i am,maybe i ovulated later in my cycle.I don't know...
How do you go on with your life?How do you keep your eyes dry,when i can't stop crying?How can i start to live my life again when everywhere i look i see a pregnant woman,a baby,a comercial with gerber food,toys or other baby stuff.Than is the birth control...Sad...Some woman have babies and they don,t want them.The abuse the kids,even kill their own kids.Others are pregnant and they use drugs,they drink,smoke do all the bad stuff and still give birth to healthy babies.And i did everything right and my baby died.Makes me so angry!!!Why?Why,can't woman who wants kids can't have any?Life it so unfair!!!I just wish i can go on...At least try to,but right now i just can't.My husband is so great.He is my rock and he is just as hurt as i am,but he dosen't show.We cryied toghether tuesdat when we got the news,but now he is strong for me.I love him so much.He is great!We will try again soon as i recover from this ordeal.
I wish all of you the best!!!

[suhenza]

I had a miscarriage about two weeks ago. I was pregnant nearly 13 weeks when we went our  first scan we found out our baby stop developing when it was 7 weeks. It was a shock. There was nothing we could do. I had D&C 10th February. I thought as soon as I finished 12 weeks everything will be perfect, it wasn't ;-(((
I was pregnant at the same time 5 of my other friends, my one would be the youngest one...but it did not go well...
I would like to have a baby soon but now I am so scare, I have no courage anymore…Please advise me

All the best for all of you!!!!

[beckywal]

I recently had a miscarriage - I was 10 weeks along. My husband and I had gone in for a routine visit. We were so excited as we were going to be able to hear the baby's heartbeat. Unfortunately - there wasn't one. Like stated by so many others, one minute I'm pregnant and excited to see how my baby has grown and the next the Dr. is telling you that there is no fetal heartbeat and there is nothing that can be done. I felt to helpless - here I'm supposed to protect my child and there was nothing to be done. They confirmed everything the next day and in the afternoon I was already in for a D&C. I go back to the Drs. on Wednesday to make sure everything with the D&C went well and that I am healing properly, I'm hoping they have some answers for me as to why it happened. My guess is that it is because they found out that I have hypothyroidism. I was first diagnosed with sub-clinical hypothyroidism when I found out I was pregnant, but they don't give you any mediciation for that - only when it becomes full-on hypothyroidism. Which of course, then it is usually too late. Having a thyorid condition means that a woman has 4 times a greater chance of miscarrying than normal.

Knowing this doesn't make it any easier - I still lost my child - but it helps to know that they are in heaven and I will see them again one day.

But please always have your doctor run thyroid tests (you can develop hypothyroidism from becoming pregnant) specifically ask for it or else they will just run the regular tests on your blood and it may not show up on those results. If they tell you that you are just sub clinical - then set up appointments to have it checked once a week. This way if it does develop further - they can put you on medication asap and you'll know that you did everything to prevent a miscarriage.

[nammie]

I was exactly 19 weeks 6days when I started having some bleeding. Having had a really bad first trimester - bleeding throughout - I went to the doctors. I had two lovely twins whom we had nicknamed Luke and Leah of Star Wars. The doctors did an ultrasound and one of the twins has no heartbeat. This is the smaller of the twins...it was so sweet and struggled to survive from week 6 and had finally settled and now it is dead. What is so sad is they cannot remove it since I have the other twin who ironically is doing very well. I know I should be happy that one is alive but I can't keep feeling I let the little one down. It lies there so small and still and I cannot touch it or do anything to say goodbye. Nothing can be done to remove the dead twin...its tissue will be re-absorbed back into my body. I will actually 'eat' my own baby !!!! My doctor says it will take a month or two for it to disappear. By then it will be 7 weeks when I would have expected to be delivering the twins. What scares me is what if the other baby's heart stops beating too... I will literally go mad. We cannot conceive naturally, this was an ICSI pregnancy.

I agree with imsuzym, I felt it when my baby died, I just did not know that is what was happening since it is my first pregnancy. I know I should be grateful for having one alive but I really wanted my Luke and Leah.

[sandrabetts]

I just had my second m/c. I should have been 11weeks and went in because I didn't "feel right" (I knew something was wrong) The dr. could not find the heartbeat. They did another u/s and still no heart beat. My husband was there and he was finally able to see our baby (he had not been there earlier as he had to work) but our baby was dead. It is really hard to not think that God is mad at us for something. I know that I am supposed to praise him through this storm but it is very difficult... I feel hopeless and empty. My husband has been great but I can't help but feel that I let him down too. I did everything I was told and did not push myself. I just don't understand.. I want my baby back. I hate this, will it ever stop hurting so bad. I really feel like I want to just give up all together. Please email me and let me know what I can do to stop this pain. ***@****

[Zara03]

Hello ladies..

I would first like to say sorry for all your losses.  I too am going through my second m/c in a year.  Hubby and I TTC in January 09 and were successful.  At 6 weeks 5 days I had sharp pains and fainted at work.  Had an u/s and was told the babies heart stopped beating.  2 hcg tests a few days later confirmed the terrible heartbreaking news.  I had a d&c a day later.  After 4 months of recovering and unpredictable cycles we fell pregnant again.  We were soooo excited - finally, there was no way we could m/c again as we were told there was only a 1% chance.  This past Monday I went in for my first u/s (8 weeks 2days) - supposed to hear the h/b but learned the baby was only measuring  7 weeks 4 days and no h/b!  I was/am devastated.  They want to do a f/u u/s in a week but i can already feel my pregnancy symptoms fading.  My husband and I are heartbroken and soo afraid to m/c next time.  We have no children but really want to have a family.  I can only pray we are lucky next time.  I will be asking to have the tissues tested after dnc and hopefully get some testing done on hubby and I.  We had the tissues tested the first time and all I was told was that it was normal placental tissue which tells me nothing.  I hope 3 times the charm.  My question is literally - why does the fetal heart stop beating?  I really would like to know.  I wonder if progestterone treatments would help in missed miscarriage?
Baby dust to you all!

[ariali]

I have had 3 miscarriages, and I don't have any "living" children.  My last m/c was just over a year ago and I am just now able to talk about it, think about it or deal with it in any way.  I've tried to convince myself that I don't like children and don't want any, but I know that I'm just lying to myself.  I try to stay away from kids because it is just too painful to even look at them.  I wish that no one had to go thru the pain that we all have, but at the same time I am glad that there are people who truely understand how I feel.  Thank you to everyone who has posted comments about their experiences, it has been very comforting to me and to others I'm sure.

[nav79]

I have been through a missed miscarriage too. I was about 16 weeks pregnant and went for my regular appontment and the midwife couldn't hear the heartbeat on doppler and arranged for scan for next day. when the scan was carried out, they informed us that there was no heartbeat. it was such a shock and my heart just dropped as my baby was alive at 12 week scan and i clearly remember sonographer pointing at the heatbeat. I was told that baby was about 13 weeks old, when the heartbeat stopped. I had to go through induced labour and give birth to my baby boy. I already have two baby girls that i knew in my heart that i will have a baby boy, which will complete my family. but didn't know that we will have to go through this. I ask god sometimes, why has this happened to us. what have we done to deserve this? It is so hard to move forward and if i get pregnant again, i will be having horrible thoughts in my mind!!.

[sian_sacha]

I want to say thank you very much. I can relate to your feelings and I am glad that I am able to read these message and get some peace. On Monday this week, my baby's heart stopped beating and I was devastated. I had my D and C on Tuesday.This was my 3rd pregnancy. My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage at 6 months. I later had a son, he is now 5. I asked why me and how come? I was angry at God. I doctor said most likely it had to do with the chromosomes and it was nature's way of saying stop something is wrong. I thought he was bull-shitting me until I read your comments.
Thanks much. I feel better.

[Latinliefje]

I've found this wonderful site, and I thank for this comments, yes Its very difficult moment, I had a m/c last year and i just came from doctor appointment, and there isnt hearbeat since 2 weeks ago. Im 11 weeks,
Is such a bad new u cant handle it, i have the D&C on thursday. But as others ladies said dont stop keep trying. Bless for all of you.

[chahalrani]

Hi to all
I lost my first baby boy at 40 week just before my schedule induce labor, suddenly heart beat was stopped my pregancy was 100% normal till end its just i was not lucky one to have him. there was nothing wrong till last date i always say why me. but I know god has another plan for me.
its very hard to lose your first child on valentine day 14 feb 2009 i am still recovering from this shock.
I will always love him in my heart no matter how many kids I have in future.

[SS32]

I am a south-east asian. I found myself pregnant last October and was so excited about it. I went to my mid-wife and had my dating scan booked. I was so excited eventhough i was experiencing all the sickness. I thought 3 months of torture will be well worth it as long as I get a healthy baby in return. But at 11th week (the week before i was due to have the dating scan), i suddenly experienced bleeding which flows out like a period but no pain at all. I therefore went to have an emergence scan (on my husband's birthday. What the scan found was that there were a few patches of tissue in my uterus and there was no sign of a foetus. I was so shocked and was told by the consultant at the hospital that I had a molar pregnancy. This is a type of pregnancy which is rare to western people but quite common to south-east asian, and i need to ensure it is completely removed from my body before i try again as i might be getting the same thing a gain if there is trace of it remaining in me. I was devastated when i heard about this, and thought this is what I am giving to my husband on his birthday?? I had a D&C the next day to clear out everything and spent the 10 months after that collecting my urine sample month for testing by the hospital to ensure my hormone has returned to normal before I start try again for the next baby. In that 10 months, i kept thinking: Why me?? I couldn't help but just cry and cry....
In September this year, I found out I was pregnant again. this time i was very careful and went for an early monitoring. So i had my first scan on which i thought was the 8th week of my pregnancy. The result of the scan (although not very clear) showed there was a foetus of 2mm long and with heartbeat. wierd that i was not as big as i expected but this will do as long as it continues to grow healthily. I was so happy thinking that it is going to work out this time and I am going to tell all my family members soon. Two weeks later (which was yesterday) i went back again to have another scan to re-assess viability. But this time there was no heartbeat and the baby has just grown to 3.8mm. I was, and still shocked by this news. The doctor told me that I will need to come back to do another scan next week as I am not convinced by the result. So I agreed to rescan. I was told that I could just stay put and do nothing until the baby is discharged from by body naturally. I think I am going for this option as I don't want to go through another d&c again....I was crying all day yesterday and thinking what else is going to happen to me again? I had the molar pregnancy, now i have the miscarriage....Why are these happening on me? Am I really that bad luck? or is it something wrong with my body? i am really lost now.....

[jenn39]

i am so glad to have found this site. i am 39 years old and my husband and i decided last year to have one more child.(he really wants a son) my youngest is 12 years old. i have hypothyroidism that i have been treating for 2 years and i assume is under control. i was able to become pregnant pretty easily in january of this year, i had early pregnancy hypertention, but none of the medical people seemed concerned with this. everything else seemed to be going pretty normal. i had all the pregnancy signs and we were so excited. i went for my first dating u/s at 8 weeks, but the baby had no heartbeat and only measured at 6 weeks. i was devastated. it took almost 6 months to become pregnant again. i had early hypertention again and this time they started me on meds. i woke up yesterday morning with some mild bleeding that progressively got worse with cramping. i went to the emergency room, where i was forced to sit in a waiting rm. for 3 hours only to be taken in the back where i would wait another 5 hours to have an u/s and find out that once again....no heart beat, im supposed to be 8 weeks and measuring only 6 weeks. exactly like before. is it my hypothyroidism? is it whatever is causing hypertention? is it my age? the doctors dont tell me anything. i really dont think i want another dnc. not sure i can try for another anymore. any advice? i feel so sad and alone.

[dana81]

Thank you all for sharing! On Nov10, going for a regular check up I found out that my baby does not have a hart beat. I was supposed to be 11 weeks, but the baby was measuring only 8 weeks. I saw the baby's hart at 7 weeks, my previous check up, when everything was fine. The same day I had a D&C, after another doctor confirmed no hart beat. I am trying to understand how and why it happened, looking back what I have done on the 8th week, what might have cause it. I can not get out of my had the ultrasound with my baby without a hartbeat. It hurts so bad. I can not understand why no signs of a miscariage for 3 weeks, why no bleeding or cramping. Everything seemed fine, I even gained weight.