Words of advice/positive things to say? Sooo scared...

[ErikaS]

Hello everyone. I went to my first doctor visit last Friday, so excited to get my ultrasound and all doctor saw was a sac. He said everything looked very grim and said I had a 1 in 10 chance of going on to have a baby. Since then, I've switched doctors (hated this guy's bedside manner. Oh, and when I started to cry, he told me to please stop.) I have an appt. with my new doctor this Wednesday afternoon but I am sooo nervous. My mother said that I shouldn't be too concerned because when she was prego in the times before ultrasound that they didn't find my sister's heartbeat until about 16 weeks. Is it possible that maybe my last doctor was jumping the gun, and perhaps maybe this time or next time we will see something? I'm sorry if this post isn't making any sense, I'm just so scared!!

[AnnieBrooke]

When was the first day of your last period before getting pregnant?  It might be too early to see anything.  Have you had beta hCG counts done?

[ErikaS]

Hi AnnieBrooke! First day of last period was June 11. I went and had my levels tested on Saturday and again this morning--the lab was going to release the results to my new dr.

[tinad]

What a jerk! I have read about many women on this site who have only seen the sac but have gone on to have successful births. You definitely made the right decision in getting rid of that horrible doctor. I'm glad you're getting a second opinion. It's always better to wait and see what happens because you not be as far along as you thought. Good luck with everything. Don't give up hope yet!

[ErikaS]

Thanks so much Tinad! That makes me feel better :) I've been worried all day--I'm at work right now but i've been on this site and doing research more than doing actual work all day! I think it's great that there's a website that all us ladies can go to and get the words of comfort and the support that we need. Thanks again :)

[mami1323]

What a terrible and unsupportive doctor.  I would recommend a female doctor, maybe she will be more understanding about your feelings and issues.  Good luck, and hopefully you will not have anything to worry about.  You are in my prayers.

[ErikaS]

Thanks so much mami :)

[AnnieBrooke]

So you are right at week 8 counting from last period?  Well, if you ovulated late, there's still a possibility that a sac may be all that you can expect at this point.  I'd wait to hear from the new doc what your hCG numbers are.  If they are low, that would support the idea of a late ovulation in June.  The key thing will be if they are rising.  (If they are doubling in the normal time period, that's good.)  Also, have another ultrasound before you decide anything.  I think Dr. Poo-Poo-Head should be reported to whoever is in charge at his clinic, for lack of tact and clarity, as well as for jumping the gun.  You aren't out of the woods, but he could have given you much better explanations.

[ErikaS]

Thanks AnnieBrooke, I agree. I was in shock when I walked out of the doctor's office. I was really upset and not even the nurse said anything. I mean, it's not like I was expecting who knows what, but sometimes a little "hang in there, it's ok" is good. When I called his office this morning to make sure they were transferring my records, the office manager wanted to know why I was switching. So I told her it was because I thought the doctor was on crack. Jk. I explained the situation and told her I thought he could have used a little more tact.

[ErikaS]

Haha!! I love it! Thanks for the words of encouragement. You wanna hear something? My mother's family is from Italy, so all of my relatives on mom's side are still there, and all my friends/cousins/aunts that I've spoken to in Italy in the last few days have all said that there they usually don't do u/s until you're three months along because by then you will for sure be able to see something definite. Kinda got me thinking...I personally think three months is a really long time but they didn't seem to concerned and said that it was probably still early.

[lilfiery]

did he do an abdominal or a transvaginal ultrasound? at 7 weeks they saw a baby and heartbeat for me (transvaginally).

Your hcg levels should tell you alot also.  

What a jerk that doctor was, I would for sure let someone know at that office--he needs a lesson in bedside manner.

[ErikaS]

Yeah...he did a vaginal ultrasound and all we could see was the sac. He didn't say anything about a heartbeat though.
Blah.

[mary345]

i can't believe some doctors. let me tell you when i was about 6 wks i had an u/s done b/c my hcg numbers were not doubling and the dr was concerned anyway they only saw a sac and i was only measuring 5 wk 4 days i went back a week later and there was the baby. the dr tell me there was a 50/50 chance of miscarry but things turned out good. i am now almost 15 wks i hope all goes well for you and good for you for switching doctors. when i had my first m/c my first dr told me that it was better i m.c b/c i was only 17 years old and too young to have a child. when i got pregnant again i made sure i didn't go to that dr.

[ErikaS]

Thanks Mary, I feel better now. I'm so glad I posted my question. I've been looking at the other forums on this site for the last 3 days and some of the things people were saying were making me not-so-hopeful. I'm going to keep my fingers crossed and I'll be sure to update after my appt. on Wednesday. Thanks again!

[ima1]

I htink you should kick your dr. in the testies and when he starts to scream, say "please stop".  When I found out about my blighted ovum -(not this pg, dont freak out anyone, all is good currently:)) I was crying like a baby and NOONE, not the nurse, us tech, or any of the drs made anything but supportive comments.  What a world class @$$.  Oh, and if you ovulated late, you could totally be fine, I didnt see a hb till 7w5d with this pg, just wait it out hon, and go to the new dr.  Maybe mail your old doc a box with some dog feces or something... just kidding, I had a bad day.

[projectbaby]

What an insensitive *&^%$!!!!  I cannot believe he would even be allowed to practice with a bedside manner like that!!! maybe he really is on crack!!!  I agree with the rest of the posts...wait to see another Dr. and maybe he/she will give you an idea of what is going on...  I don't want to make you feel bad but when I m/c and had to have a D & C, my Dr. hugged me and called me "sweeetie" which only made me cry harder....but it was very caring of him...so see there are Dr.'s out there that do care!!!  Take care and PLEASE keep us up to date about what is going on with you!!! Sticky Baby Dust to you!!!!

[ErikaS]

Thanks so much--I will definitely keep you all updated....1 more day to go....My appt. is tomorrow at 2:15.
Thanks!

:)

[Northern Mommy]

Hi Ladies,
I am currently on my 5th pregnancy, all ended in m/c with either Trisomy 18 or Chromosome Abnormalities.
I am 7 weeks and 5 days along and the baby measured 1.09cm CRL on Tuesday when I had my first ultrasound.
The DR. says all is okay and the size is where it should be, although I had a feeling he was just filling my head with what I wanted to hear (I was emotional in the office). The heartbeat was good, but he wants to see me again next Tuesday for another u/s.
Does anyone know if this size is normal for the gestational age? I am finding conflicting reports on the internet. One site said the baby would be 10 cm by now!
PLEASE HELP!
I am so scared!