behaver prob

[Mother of bailey]

My 5 year old has cancer. He is in remison right now but he is stell in treatment and will be for the next 3 years..He has goting out of hand. I just dont know what i should do to punish him..keep in mind he acts like any normal 5 year old..and he is on a lot of meds that make him hipper..i got 3 other chrildern that dont or never have got away with what bailey dose..all the dr say he needs to have punsments it makes me fill bad when i do punnish him becuse of everything he has to go throught on a dailey bases..someone please help me with this problem...thank u

[momof11]

My friend has a boy with downs and as much as she can she treats him like the other kids with bounderies and punishments, I know it is not the same as you, and Im sure I would feel the same as you in this situation, but sometimes the other kids might resent that he gets treated better than them, just my opinion but that has happened to people I know with disabled kids, stucture is good for him and he needs it just as much as other kids, good luck with you sit. and know that I will be praying for you.

[RockRose]

I don't do a lot of punishing,  even for healthy kids.

I DO have a lot of expectations,  and when the kids fall short,  just acting really angry and disappointed almost always does the trick.  

I think having the same rules for him is a good idea,   "we don't hit",  "don't backtalk". "don't take things that don't belong to you",  etc.  

But I think expecting him to help out around the house when he feels like vomiting,  or expecting him to respond cheerfully when he's sick as a dog are completely out of range, and the other kids need to understand he's going through something they can pray they never ever have to go through.  

Best wishes.  This is the most awful thing,  I think,  watching a child suffer.  My prayers are with you and with your son,  that he recover fully.

[myproblem]

I am sorry that your little boy has had it so rough physically. It sounds like he is though the worst of it now, and you will make it hard for him to do well in school if you do not set boundaries. He needs to know that rules do apply to him. 5 year olds are smarter than you think. Sit him down and have a talk with him. Tell him that now that he isn't as sick, that he is going to have to learn to obey the same rules the other kids do. List the rules you expect him to obey, and make him a chart, to be rewarded for good days. Let him know what the consequences will be if he breaks major rules, like hitting, or throwing a fit. It should be the same as your other kids at that age. When he does begin to misbehave, warn him, and remind him of your discussion. Remind him what the punishment will be if he does not behave. You must follow through if you tell him that he is going to be punished. Don't give him too many chances, or he will see that he is in control, not you. In my family, if someone is not feeling well, they still need to try to be nice. You will be doing him a disservice if you do not teach him to follow rules now. He needs to know that even though he is very special to you, that he's not too special to be held to the same standard as your other kids. Good luck.

[Mother of bailey]

Thanks for all the adtvice..all was very good..sometimes u need other peoples persptivs on what needs to be done..thanks agean