children with ADHD

I have a problem with my 14 year old step son.  That is staying with us from the beginning of 2011.  He is a constant liar, and I dont know how to handle him.  I need some help.  And to make things worse, he mastrubates everyday.  WHAT CAN I DO???

[kellym]

My thoughts are:
He is testing you.  The surroundings are new to him and the rules are too, I'm sure. You need to be firm (but gentle) and set boundries now. He is at a really tough age, did he switch schools too?  Also, you and your husband need to be on the same page about everything, including discipline.  I think that if you give him boundries, set rules and make consequences, just be sure to follow through with them.  Give him lots of love and lots of prayers and patience your way!

[Beccabb]

Is he taking medication for it?

[kellym]

My thoughts are:
He is testing you.  The surroundings are new to him and the rules are too, I'm sure. You need to be firm (but gentle) and set boundries now. He is at a really tough age, did he switch schools too?  Also, you and your husband need to be on the same page about everything, including discipline.  I think that if you give him boundries, set rules and make consequences, just be sure to follow through with them.  Give him lots of love and lots of prayers and patience your way!

[MULDER1509]

He is on concerta 54mg.  

[mum2beagain]

As far as the lying goes I think you all need to sit down as a family and have a talk about how it is important it is to you as a family that everyone is honest, if he is staying with you he needs to feel part of the family but also has to abide by the family rules. Kelly is right in saying boundaries need to be set now and I think they are really important when a child has something like ADHD to cope with too As for the masturbating....well he is a 14 year old boy and I would think this is pretty common. So long as he is doing this privately then that is really his business.