cio?? need advice very lost need change NOW

I have never been this confused or unsure of what to do with my children. Of whats is right and wrong whats best or whats the most damaging. I don't think people who haven't had children will realize how even the smallest choice you make has a life time effect. Who know putting an infant to sleep could be such an emotional confusing decision. I'm not sure why I'm so confused about what to do either. I'm not a new mom or even a second time mom even. I have had 6 beautiful intelligent unique children (please people hold your condoms are cheaper comments or anything else you have to say judge mental about me or my choices you don't have a right to judge me you have no clue how i ended up pregnant with six kids or anything else about my life in whole so please keep your mean hurtful comments to yourself it's human nature to judge others but it doesn't mean it is right)who regardless of all their faults I feel confident with the moat of the decisions I have made so far. No one will get everything right we all have to do it wrong to learn and do it differently. My first child my son Michael who is now 8 and so smart people tell me all the time how intelligent he is and I don't mean book smart which he does just fine with but life and choices smart (although he is a little bit of a rebel and pushes the limit or sneaks a toe over the line) I thought the CIO method was horrible how could anyone especially a mother just sit there and let their child cry for them to hold and love them? how can someone be so lazy selfish or heartless? I couldn't even imagine doing it to my son all he wanted was his mommy to love and cuddle him. I have to add in real quick I am so sorry to any and all people but especially to mothers through out time and even future mothers who have even if only once or for a few minutes to see if they could and that do or will or are trying to decide if they should use the cio method that i am truly completely whole-heartedly sorry for judging you. No one has a right to judge the choices people make in their lives. It's not ok for others to judge someone when they don't know what's going on. And even if you are there every second you still can never really know because everything in life effects people differently as long as there are emotions involved and i can't think of anything that does involve emotion no matter what type or how much than you can't 100% relate or understand what someone is going through even when you have been in the same place because it effects people in different ways. Although I have never met someone in my exact place or even close to my place. Anyway this is getting really long and off subject now. My second child who is now 6 Marshall is my mommys boy and will be for a long time to come I did the same thing with him until he was about 13 months and I was tired and worn out and couldn't take a child being so demanding and in control of my every action somedays. My third child my first daughter Mackenzie turns 5 this month is the most thoughtful little girl was an easy choice to make. I had learnt more about what worked for my boys and decided it would probably be better for her to start a little earlier I have done a lot of reading on peoples opinions of the CIO method nothing written or said can ever be called fact because you wont know until its too late if you made the wrong or right choice for your child but anyway the only opinion that seemed to be close to the same is that age makes a difference on the effect it will have on a child. My son had a very hard time with it he spent 14 months sleeping with or mostly next to or on me so it was not an easy transition for either of us it was even harder with my oldest he was almost or had just turned 3 by then. My daughter was hard but not like my other two my oldest was the hardest and it took him over a year to transition fully into the change and it just be a routine for him. I knew being pregnant with my 3rd i had to change their sleeping routine one way or another and nothing else worked. so she was almost 6 months when i started with her. She got more upset but transitioned in so much shorter of a time within 6 months she didn't cry at bed time for even a minute. It's got shorter and easier after the first couple months. It was harder though for me because she was so little and so so sad at first i would put her down wait 15 minutes if she wasn't done i would go in comfort her for 5 than start again. When she was 20 months along came Daniel my baby boy who tested my ability to handle stress and worry from day 1. He had 2 scheduled surgeries and 1 emergency surgery by 6 weeks taught me that the cio method depends more on the child than the age. With him I started at 4 months but couldn't make it into a rountine he had a very hard time with self comforting no matter if we were also comforting him or not he would turn purple his eyes would roll into the back of his head he would pass out and stop breathing. It was horrible. But now Daniel is three and baby number 5 and 6 are here twin girls. I know twins are harder than single infants and all but this is unbearable right now. They are 8 weeks old and I'm lost on what to do at this point. I am there sole caregiver their father isn't a help right now really. He does take one of them occasionally but not the one I need him to. I don't think it would be an easier if Blair wasn't a twin though her sister Sadie is the most content infant I know when not overstimulated by her twin. Up until 3 or 4 days ago she was content all day sleeping most of the night and hardly ever cried. But after 8 weeks of constant screaming and no sleep no breaks 5 kids all day alone I'm really worn out and losing my coping ability I'm fighting to keep going day to day. the most sleep I have got in one night in 8 weeks is 2 hours. That has only been a few times. Some nights its none maybe even a couple nights in a row. I went 76 hours before i got to finally sleep but only for an hour. Is 8 weeks too young for cio and is ok to let one twin but not the other I feel worse about sadie because she is fine when she isn't dealing with blairs screaming and my stress please give me your thoughts I can't physically or mentally do this anymore I need something to happen now or i dont know what i will do i just want to run away and fight not to and like I said before please if you are going to answer with some mean judge mental comment at least ask me a few things first I'm an honest person but writing this and admitting that I'm lost is hard for me thats why i'm at this point of despair I want to prove to all the people who judge me for being 26 and having 6 kids that I'm not some stupid trailer park trash who can't keep their legs closed. Because I'm not I think I'm smart, kind, thoughtful, responsible, and very mature for my age. I may be 26 physically but not mentally. I have had many people tell me I have more wisdom and insight than people twice my age. If only I had someone to help or give me a break but thats not a possibility my mom can't lift more than 5lbs without suffering from pain weeks later she walked around with blair when she was 2 days old and whos birth weight was 4lbs 11oz and spent 3 days in bed unable to move is it wrong to let them cry or to let just one cry when sadie would go to sleep without crying if not for blair what do i do

[tiredbuthappy]

Honestly, at 8 weeks, it sounds like Blair may be colicky, and if that is the case, CIO won't work. I would look in to some techniques that help with colic, and that may give you relief. Because a colicky infant will continue to scream if left alone.
I had a colicky baby and it was terrible.
First, you need to speak to a pediatrician to rule out a medical reason for her screaming (ear infection or something). Chances are, the pediatrician will find nothing and declare her to be colicky. You can look into changing her formula. If you are breastfeeding, you can look at your diet.

A baby that age who screams all day may very well have reflux. Reflux and colic often come together, although not always. Do you see any signs of reflux? Does she arch her back or get stiff? Does she scream when she hiccups or burps? Does she spit up a lot? Or not at all? My baby had silent reflux, so she never spit up. Instead, she swallowed everything back down, so it burned on the way up and down. If it is reflux, medication can provide a huge relief. Other techniques, like changing formula, sleeping on an incline, keeping baby upright after feeding, etc can help.

Tips for colic-
~wearing the baby in a carrier
~swaying, bounding, rocking. My little one calmed if I bounced on an exercise ball.
~white noise. sometimes, the louder the better.
~minimal stimulation. While some cases of colic are digestive in origin, some are due to an immature neurological system. Bright lights, loud noises, TV, etc... can all aggravate it.
~Swaddle!! A tight swaddle. The baby may fight it at first, but after a minute you may see her relax. My colicky baby was swaddled for months. At her worse, she was swaddled almost all day. We even found a way to swaddle her in her swing, her carseat, etc. This was the most effective.

Is there anyone who can come and help you a bit? You sound like you are very overwhelmed.

[AnnieBrooke]

If it is really colic, also try infant probiotics.  I mention them often to people who have babies with colic, since they test well scientifically against Mylicon and other OTC things.  My idea from this is that they help set the stomach up with friendly digestive enzymes, and the problem for babies is often that they don't have these yet.  If it doesn't work, there is no harm done, but if it does, what a relief.

[overwhelmedandlosingmymind]

thanks for the advice she was doing better until the other day but right now its because she just got shots and her ears pierced even sadie is a little crankier than usual im not sure what happened to change anything i never changed her formula or anything the only difference is i stopped asking anyone for help I think my stress was causing it. Once I gave up on my moms help I calmed down and so did my beautiful baby girl it also helped to let it all out so once again thanks for the advice and thanks for listening