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[baby4us]

I recently posted a question "worried about low hcg levels". the dr. didn't find a heartbeat last Friday so she scheduled a d&c for tomorrow. My body started to m/c naturally on Saturday. I have had bad cramping and medium bleeding. I have yet to pass any tissue. The dr. is now leaving it up to me as to whether or not I still want to have the d&c tomorrow. I don't know what to do. I am so ready to move on from this, let my body heal, and ttc again. I have heard that your body will heal faster with a d&c but I also don't want to put my body through surgery that isn't necessary.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

[JDLAWSON]

I would personally not due the d&c is you have already started the process normally.  It is much better for your body to do this naturally if you can.  I have been there I waited for three weeks after I learned of my b/o--it was a long haul but I didn't to take the cahnce of having something happen while they wer performing the d&c--just my personal opinion

[Berko]

i'm so sorry for your loss. i've m/c twice so know your pain and am sorry to hear that you're going through this. my personal opinion is if you can pass all of it naturally why put yourself through the surgery? i m/c both naturally and quickly (within a day). the first one i felt and saw the sac come out, but the second time i didn't feel anything and didn't look just in case (didn't want to see it again). i thought for the second one still had more to go but i went to the dr. the next day and he said i passed everything naturally. i'd hold off on the d&c for now. did your dr. say to come in to be checked out that everything passed? obviously if having trouble getting rid of everything naturally then a d&c may be in order, but for now i'd wait and see. sometimes you don't even realize you passed everything b/c mushes together and don't see much tissue. what week were you in? good luck with everything and i hope that everything goes as quickly and painlessly as possible and again i am sorry for your loss. thinking of you.

[low22]

I am so sorry!  I have never heard that a D&C is more conducive to healing.  I would think the oppositie.  I think with a D&C you are more at a risk for getting an infection.  You should probably discuss the decision with your doctor.

Hang in there and you'll be tcc again before you know it!

[luv_babies]

I am sorry for your loss. I had a m/c in Aug 05. It was a drawn out process. I ended up passing the baby, but not the sac. I had the D&C. If I m/c again, I will have another one. It's just my personal opinion. I would rather get it over with. My cousin had a m/c also. Her dr didn't really giver her the option of a D&C and she wishes she would have. It's all in what YOU feel comfortable with. Good Luck! (((((hugs)))))

[zippgirls]

I M/C in March and decided to have the d&c done. It knew it would be to hard on me to have to wait it out to be finished naturally. I know no one wants to have surgary and I believe it is a very personal decision for anyone who has to make one.
I am sure you will make the right one for you...I think it is just one of those things you already know in your heart what is best for yourself.
I am sorry for you loss.

[JJety]

I am so sorry you're having to go through this!  

One thing to consider - if you do have the D&C, this will ensure that all of the tissue is successfully removed.  With a natural miscarriage there is a chance that some tissue might remain thus causing your hcg levels to remain elevated and possibly an infection.  

If you do not opt for the D&C your doctor should monitor the drop of your hcg level with regular blood tests until it returns to zero.  That would ensure everything went fine.

You'll have to decide which route is best for you.  I wish you the best of luck, honey.  I'm so sorry!

[Tia Lucila]

When I miscarried I cried so much my eyes were nearly swollen shut.  I chose to have a D&C.  After the D&C I cried like a person in mourning.  I think that the D&C helped my body to figure out it wasn't pregnant and that in turn helped my hormones to calm down.  With my hormones calmed down I was able to calm down emotionally.

[mariea]

I'm sorry your going through such a decision.  I know it's hard when there are so many conflicting opinions on whether to due it naturally or have a D&C.  Ultimately, it's up to you and your husband.  How much can endure the waiting whether it happens today, tomorrow, next week, etc.  I think it's more a personal preference.  I've lost 2 babies.  In FEB O6, i had a cervical pregnancy.  I was given a shot to try to pass it naturally.  That was the worst 4 weeks of the whole process.  I bleed, had 24 hour bouts of explosive bleeding, until finally 4 wks later I began hemoraging and had the D&C anyway. Last week I had another D&C.  For me, I waiting until I had confirmation from 3 separate doctors there was no heartbeat and the baby stopped growing with an irregular sack.  I personally, could not go through the waiting till it happens, and the visual turmoil of seeing more blood.  6 days later, I'm still grieving, however I know it's over, I know all the tissue is gone, and I can begin to heal.  Like I said, it's a personal preference and your journey thus far, may help you make that decision.  Good luck and either way your choose, eventually, it will be over and you can move on and grieve for your loss

[debmejia]

I'm soo sorry to hear of your loss I was really rooting for you , because we were in similar situations. My heart breaks for  you. I really hope everything works out for you and if you choose to try again that you have luck. As far as how to handle you m/c its entirely up to you and what you feel comfortable doing. Whatever you choose i hope the best for you in this time of sorrow. good luck in the future.

[stormy1373]

I was really hoping and praying that yours would be like others cases, bad medicine, and everything would be fine....I am sooooo sorry you are in this position.  You are not alone if that is any comfort at all.......I am so sorry.  I am faced with a similar situation (to a degree) I am scheduled for a d&c tomorrow........my outcome is inevitable....I have had since last thurs to prepare myself....and would rather let nature take its course, but I have a young step daughter's feelings to consider besides my own...if not for her? I would let nature take its course, no matter how sorrowful in the end...it is a horrible position to be put in, very painful and unfair...at first, I wanted to "go to the dr right away" so I could put it behind me (kind of like it didnt really happen).  I have had 4 days to realize that wasnt a healthy attitude (for me).  This is soley my personal opinion so you can totally disregard it...but I would let nature take its course provided you are in no danger of infection...Good luck and I am so sorry........best wishes and baby dust to you......

[baby4us]

Thanks for your comments. You are all so helpful and supportive!! I was 8 1/2 weeks pregnant but we think the baby stopped growing at 6w 1d. Does it matter that my body has already started the process when considering to do the d&c or not? My fear is that if I do the d&c there won't be much left since my body has already started the process and it will be pointless. The pain is getting worse. My dr. said that I would heal faster and it would be less painful with the d&c.

[duehring]

I would not do a d&c. I would at least wait. My last miscarriage I was 11-12 weeks and I didn't see any tissue or sac come out. It was probably hidden in some of the blood and I didn't look closely but I sure wouldn't have wanted to go through a miscarriage naturally and then a d&c. I have been through both before.

I would tell them that you want to give it a few more days and then get your hcg checked to make sure they go down like they should.

[luv_babies]

My body was in the process also. I passed the baby on Wednesday. I was still bleeding and cramping and Friday I had the D&C. Like someone else said, it helps your body realize it's not pregnant anymore, you'll get af sooner and be able to ttc sooner if you feel ready. But it's all what you feel most comfortable with. I am really sorry for your loss. I hope things go well for you.

[baby4us]

Thanks for your comment. It helped to ease my mind. I think that I will go ahead with the procedure. I am so ready to move on from this!

[stormy1373]

I didnt realize the amount of time,,,,,,,,6w1day until 8 1/2 weeks, at this point I would urge you to go ahead with the d&c to prevent infection.....I am sorry again for you........

[baby4us]

Thanks for all your comments. I ended up passing the pregnancy last night after about an hour of severe pain. I decided not to have the d&c since I think the worst part is over. I am going in next week to have my levels checked. Now all I have to do is wait for my next period to ttc again.
Thanks again for helping me get through a really rough time!