i need help bad.....

[unknown66]

Hi , im 17 y/o guy my gf is 15 .....we have a problem, well shes pregnant and i have no idea wat to do. if her dad found out id be dead hes a physco and so would she, shes already  been hit by him enough without this. is there any other ways other then abortion of killin the embryo?? because i dont want her to go through all the pain, ive heard its very painful and aftawards u bleed alot. she cant get off work because we dont want anyone to find out its a very small town. And plz nobody post "well u should have used protection" we did..... but neither of us new about pre-*** ,i thought it was just stuff without sperm in it but nooooo. could have taught us that in sex education the fu*kers. i heard u can starve yourself long enough for it to die then get miscarriage or something ? or hit ur stomach and all these other ways we heard of , plz someone thats going to help post on this ... or email me i dont really wana post it cos i dont want anyone i know reading this .....

[sweethome2]

Hello. I know that your scared and reaching out for help is the best thing to do. First of all, starving yourself will not kill the baby, it will only hurt the mother. Hitting your stomach or anything of that nature will not serve your purpose either. What you need to do is sit down and think about your options. I know your young and you probably never thought this would happen but it has and now you have to be a man and step up whether you decide to have it or to abort.  Abortions do not always hurt physically as much as they will emotionally. You need to weigh your options and make sure your girlfriend knows what she wants to do. You cannot make decisions out of fear.  Do you know how far along she is?  All I can say for now is be there for her, now is not the time to turn your back on her, if you would like to talk to me please email me at ***@****.  I will pray for you both.

[sweethome2]

Hello. I know that your scared and reaching out for help is the best thing to do. First of all, starving yourself will not kill the baby, it will only hurt the mother. Hitting your stomach or anything of that nature will not serve your purpose either. What you need to do is sit down and think about your options. I know your young and you probably never thought this would happen but it has and now you have to be a man and step up whether you decide to have it or to abort.  Abortions do not always hurt physically as much as they will emotionally. You need to weigh your options and make sure your girlfriend knows what she wants to do. You cannot make decisions out of fear.  Do you know how far along she is?  All I can say for now is be there for her, now is not the time to turn your back on her, if you would like to talk to me please email me at ***@****.  I will pray for you both.

[nurse12hr]

Heather, I couldn't add anything to your excellent reply.

Unknown, you need to stand up now, and be a man.  This is not a situation that you can wish away, or try to solve without help.  Go to Planned Parenthood, a school counselor, minister, trusted older friend, anyone.  

Be a man.  It is time to grow up and face responsibility.

[sweethome2]

Hello. I know that your scared and reaching out for help is the best thing to do. First of all, starving yourself will not kill the baby, it will only hurt the mother. Hitting your stomach or anything of that nature will not serve your purpose either. What you need to do is sit down and think about your options. I know your young and you probably never thought this would happen but it has and now you have to be a man and step up whether you decide to have it or to abort.  Abortions do not always hurt physically as much as they will emotionally. You need to weigh your options and make sure your girlfriend knows what she wants to do. You cannot make decisions out of fear.  Do you know how far along she is?  All I can say for now is be there for her, now is not the time to turn your back on her, if you would like to talk to me please email me at ***@****.  I will pray for you both.

[Chloe2003]

Hello,
        You need to tell someone and get your girlfriend out of her dads house.. Dont sit around and play around.. You dont need to be letting her starve herself and you dont need to let her hit hey stomach either..that can hurt her and you dont need to hurt the baby.. that is the wrong way to go about it.. i know you scared and everything but that is just the wrong way to go about it.. you just need to tell someone and they will take her out of that house.. there is so much id like to say to you but i think its not my place to say it.. and plus id probably get in trouble if i did say it.. let me know what you decide..


~*Chloe*~

[Chloe2003]

And one more thing.. DONT COME ON THIS WEBSITE TO ASK PEOPLE IF THERE IS OTHER WAYS OF KILLING THE BABY OTHER THAN ABOTION!!!

[capermom]

Wow, you have your hands full. First of all, don't let her hurt herself, she's so young and scared. Please go somewhere to get help, she's only 15 you say. You're 17, well you are much to young to be out on your own. How far along is she? Has she seen a doctor? Maybe you should call a help line in your area, they would be able to give you information on what is available around you. Good luck, let us know how you make out. Please think all your options over before you jump to make a decision.

[hther]

You haven't mentioned telling your parents and seeing if they can help.  Do you live with your parents?  There are some ways to handle your situation without hurting anyone, if you would like to talk email me ***@**** and we can talk.  I have to agree with Chloe when she requested you not look for ways to hurt that baby or your girlfriend here. A lot of the women here have had miscarriages and are hurting or they are trying very hard to conceive and seeing something like that is upsetting. Thank you for understanding. Again, email me and I can discuss this with you.

[heather2003]

Hey there Unknown...

You need to stand up and be there for her.
You're not responsible for what her father does, but you are for what you do / did.

If you're seriously afraid that her father will physically hurt her (or you), get her to a women's shelter. (You can either look in the internet or call 911)

If you're afraid that he'll get extremely angry, say horrible things, etc.. Well, it happens. Take it, and move on.

She / you cannot make a decision in this state of mind. It's a decision that will haunt her / you for the rest of your lives... You need to have adult help and you need to get your "ducks in a row."  

If she were posting and able to tell us her thoughts and feelings, I'm sure she'd get alot of support / advice here.. But, for you- you need to be strong for her right now.. Even though you're not adults, you need to start acting / thinking like adults now.  

Do not panic.... And DO NOT make this decision on your own (the two of you.) Either get a shelter involved, a medical personnel, etc... You wouldn't want to try to kill the child and end up having a handicapped baby... or end up damaging this girl's future options for having children, etc.. There are a whole slew of problems that you can't tackle on your own.

-Heather

[Mumto3girls1boy]

Lets first say, if she tries to starve herself, she will probably end up dead before the baby would. The embryo/fetus/baby sucks everything it needs out of the mother. If its lacking, it tries harder.

Second, my dad used to knock the **** outta me all the time. When I came home at 17 and said I was pregnant, he said Oh Sh*t, walked out and didn't talk to me the rest of the day. The next day, he came home with a baby crib. People can surprise you.

Third, if you are really that scared about it, find a crisis pregnancy center. They will lead you in the right direction. My brother went thru this same thing, but they did the grown up thing as hard as it was. They told each others parents, together, and then placed the baby up for adoption as neither was prepared for such happening.  She is 15 years old and has no business dealing with this alone and trying to kill off this "thing" yourselves is not the way to go. I am all prochoice, but if you don't watch it, not only will you kill the embryo, but you will also kill your girlfriend. Now ask yourself it what you are asking is really worth it.

If she can't think of anything else, please feel free to email me. I will do whatever I can to help. I know alot of people who would love to adopt and there are many MANY agencies out there who would be more than willing to help. I can at least point you in the right direction if not more.

Good luck and please think about what you are considering!
Amy

[Mumto3girls1boy]

Heres my email address if you need to email me:

***@****
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[unknown66]

thanks guys , i know the only way now is for abortion, we've only been goin out for 2 months now i really love her and same with her. shes been pregnant for 2 weeks now, i know it wont hurt us emotionally were to young for this kinda thing its stupid how she got pregnant, were goin to get abortion a bit later on without anyone knowing. can someone plz list the affects and give me imformation on it? i live in new zealand its alot different here then overseas, post a web site or sumthing i dont know where to get information. we are happy 4 now she doesnt know im on this web site asking for help, ill tell her not to worry about starvin her self etc she been eatin heaps lately lol :) im not worried to much now. btw how much is abortion? i know my parents will understand , ive told my trusted 2 best friends if they told anyone we would be in so much trouble...... but again thanks for all your comments ive enjoyed reading :) i have 2 go to bed now long day 2morrow