miscarriage

Hello all,

thank you to everyone who helped me and answered my questions. I did miscarry this morning. It was quick and relatively painless. I feel saddened and somewhat empty knowing I am no longer pregnant, but I will be fine. My OB told me I could bring in the tissue so they can test it for abnormalities or I could keep it and bury it or whatever.....since I have two healthy kids, I don't think it was a problem with me or my hormones or my uterus. This may seem cold, but I was wondering what people have heard about getting pregnant right away after a miscarriage....I have heard that when docs recommend waiting a certain number of months, it's so that dating the pregnancy would be easier, but that you are actually MORE fertile the first 3 months after a mc....and I have also read that there seems to be no corrolation between getting pregnant right away and having another mc. Any thoughts? thank you again to everyone who helped me during this tough time. I also thought I'd write that women should go with their instinct. Right from the beginning of this pg I knew things were different. I was worried. I had NO symptoms....none. That's why I requested to get my HCg levels checked, which were low and not rising properly. Hopefully this is not the case for other women who are having the same problems that I had. Good luck to you all.

[jluhart]

I'm so sorry.

[Stacie30]

i know what you mean. when i got pregnant and miscarried i felt like there was something wrong from the beginning. everyone thought i was crazy... wish i had been, but i wasn't.

most people will agree doctors tell you to wait 3 months... i think that is primarily for emotional reasons. i was torn up about it for at least 6 months. hit me pretty hard. everyone is different though.

sorry you had to go through this. it is by far the worst thing i have ever had happen to me in my life.

don't be afraid to cry, ok?

[Siren]

Yes, it's perfectly fine to TTC right after miscarrying, but one very important reason doctors advise you to wait is that your cycles can be screwy for up to 3 or 4 cycles after a miscarriage, making it difficult to predict when you'd likely be receiving AF, hence making it difficult for you to know when to test.  I'm personally going through this right now.  It's my third cycle since my m/c and we started trying, however, my previous cycles were totally screwed up and I sort of wish I had waited a bit until they were more "normal" so I could predict more easily what's going to happen with my body.  But really, aside from that, there's no real reason to wait, other than allowing yourself enough time to grieve the loss properly.  I'm sorry for your loss - good luck with your TTC efforts.

[cmn]

I'm very sorry to hear about your loss, i will keep you in my prayers. I had a m/c when i was 17, and i was devistated it took me a long time to get over it.

[christie_danielle]

Im sooo sorry about your incodent this morning. i'll keep you in my prayes. i hope everything turns out well for you on your next little one.
christina

[momttc]

I conceived my son exactly 2 months after a d&c.  I would wait until after you get your first period at least so your body can shed anything it needs to. (in other words use protection from now until then)

Other than that, YOU GO GIRL.

I hate to hear you guys talking about "your gut feeling" because I'm ignoring mine.  I'm not attached to this pregnancy yet?  I don't know if it's because we tried for over a year or if it's because I lost a pregnancy?  I just keep thinking in the back of my mind it's not real.  My numbers are good and the u/s are ok too.  So it must just be disbelief.  I'm thankful on a daily basis (except yesterday... but we won't go back to yesterday , hahah) and don't allow myself to embrace the negative!  I pray everything works out...  for all of us.

oxox momttc

[gallerygirl]

I had 4 mc this year and tried after one cycle each time.  I believe as you said that the body is fertile right after a preg whether viable or not.  I had my mc last month my period is due this weekend...it finishes then we will try again...I am so sorry for your loss I know it is hard believe me. Good luck...my thoughts are with you.

[hther]

I've heard that about being fertile right afterwards, but I thought it was when a D&C was involved. Anyone else heard that?

[dreamreacher]

Hello everyone.. I had a miscarriage in March of this year.  I had to have a D&C. My Doctor told me to wait at least 4 complete cycles .. better six.. he said my chances of miscarrying were 50% If I didn't wait.  Besides the fact that I was an emotional wreck!  I had to go on an antidepressant for a few months.  I waited the six months and we are now ttc.  This is my third attempt and we're praying for success this month.  I am so sorry for your loss.. I will pray that  God blesses you with a healthly little one soon.

God bless you
Robin Harris

[carolyn55806]

That is so weird that he said your chances of mc were 50%?!?! Everything I have read says the total opposite...that there is no higher chance of mc if you don't wait. I wonder why your doc told you that?

[Debra_Maine]

I'm a so very sorry. Wanted to let you know what my doc said. He told me to wait 1 cycle and that was for dating purposes. We tried after 1 cycle and got pg. I am currently 10 wks 2 days. I have never heard of 50% chance of m/c if you don't wait months. The longer they tell you to wait is usually for emotional healing. You are definitely more fertile after a m/c. My doctor told me that when I had my d&c. I say go for it after your next AF which should come in the next 4-8 weeks. Good luck :o)
Debra

[Kristen26]

My doctor also told me to wait (3 months) after my miscarriage before trying again. She thinks the chance of having another miscarriage is higher if a person doesn't wait. I have heard and read so many different things. My best advice is to talk with your physician, do your own research, and then decide between you and your DH what is the right choice for you. I'm pregnanct again and I'm 14 weeks! My miscarriage was a year ago. I did wait 3 months before TTC again, but it took me a little longer than I thought it would to become pregnant. I was convinced since I got pregnant the first month I tried the first time, it would happen quickly again. Don't be too discouraged if you don't get pregnant right away again, it will happen! Good Luck!

[clevelandlady]

I'm so sorry ,your in my prayers.

[carolyn55806]

I just got back from my OB appt. Everything looks fine with me...it was complete and I don't need a D&C. my doctor also said that there is NO increased chance of miscarriage if you get pregnant again right away. She said that docs tell you to wait for emotional/dating purposes. So I think I'll go with what she said...I hope that this never happens to me again. It's so hard to adjust to not being pregnant. I went for so long without any caffeine and today I realized I could have a big coke. It tasted great, though. I have decided to buy a special necklace to wear in rememberance of the baby I lost. I think having something tangible to hold and keep will help me through this difficult time.

[2005STI]

I am new to this forum and am so glad i found it!!  About 6 weeks ago I suffered a MC at 5weeks.  My doctor has been sending me to have my HCG checked every week and it seems like its taking forever to be done. It seemed to drop pretty quick in the beginning, now its been dropping slower.  I just stopped spotting a week ago.  My most recent Number was 4!!!  My question is, does my number have to be 0 before I will ovulate?  And also, how long does it usually take to ovulate after miscarriage?  The waiting period is driving me nuts!!  I'm not very patient, even though I know I have to be.  Its hard when there are 6 people pregnant all around me at my work!!  My Dr says to wait for one cycle before TTC, but my issue is that since I've been off the pill, a year ago, my periods have been so irregular.  In fact I had gone 2 months without getting one, and when I finally got it, my husband and I tried, and BANG I was pregnant, only to miscarry soon after.  I need answers!!

Thank you to anyone who responds!!

[lovinmom]

I'm so sorry for your loss.  After a natural miscarriage, you can usually try again after your first period.  After a D&C, it is much longer in order to have a healthier pregnancy.  A couple of friends of mine who had natural miscarriages, conceived right afterwards and had healthy babies.  I wish you the best!