miscarriage

i went to the ER yesterday for bleeding and they told me i had a blighted ovum miscarriage.Of course this was a big shock to me because i thought it wouldn't happen to me. i'm kind of glad it happened now and not in a later month.I was 10 weeks and 5 days. I'm only 18 so there is still a lot of time to have little ones it's just this would have been my first.I still see it was being a mommy just my little one is in heaven. My question is the doector said i could pass the water bag and stuff on my own and go get a check up in a week or i can go have a d&c done monday!?! I don't know which to do and i heard getting a d&c done scars you sometimes. I'm really scared and confused can you guys help!?!

[vannessa]

I had a m/c around 7 weeks and passing the sac was extremely traumatic to me. If I could choose, I'd go for a d&c. The last one is faster and you basically don't feel or most importantly - you don't see anything. That's my own opinion, though. I'm sorry for your loss. Believe me with time it gets a little easier.((hugs))

[ange800]

If your bleeding I would let nature take its course when I started bleeding at 12 weeks pregnant a few days later I passed the baby although it was very upsetting everything settled down quickly and came back to normal I didnt even need a scan as nature took its course and passed everything the worse thing for me was I didnt know my baby had died I was due to get a scan at 13 weeks. Sorry for your loss and good luck for next time.

[lilfiery]

There are things to consider for both situations. I had a D&C and it was very atraumatic at the time. I didn't feel anything, recovered well, and went on to get pregnant fine a few months later.  However, I'm having bleeding/placental problems now...and I read about the possibility that the D&C may be a predisposing factor for placenta previa...I can't prove this is what is causing my problems, but it is hard to not consider that (ie. If I had miscarried naturally, I wouldn't be thinking this way).  A coworker had multiple D&C's and subsequently had cervical issues in her following pregnancies (She also blames the D&C's). I think its human nature to blame something, but part of me wishes I had done it naturally. However, it is what is easiest for you. If you are already bleeding/passing clots, it sounds like you may not need one.

Mine was also a blighted ovum. That means the baby never developed, so you should only really pass the sac and some tissue.  

I don't want to discourage you from a D&C. Like I said, mine went very smoothly and recovery was very fast. I think naturally miscarrying would have been more painful and prolonged in my situation.

[chubbies]

i miscarried this morning.i was 5 and a half wks.my first pregnancy,it hurt emotionally more than physically.im considering giving up ttc.its so much 2go through!!i admire u all 4being so strong.

[ally76]

Dont give up!  You just need time to heal...emotionally and physically...it will happen again.  I felt the exact same way.  It will get better I promise.

[ange800]

Dont give up I saw my baby when I miscarried at 12 weeks and thought there is no way I could go through that again but didnt give up 3 months later I tried again and got preg straight away and are now 23 weeks preg with a healthy baby good luck.

[ally76]

Im so sorry you are going through this.  I hope you have someone to help you through this and your not alone.  I just miscarried as well, and I also had the choice to pass the baby at home naturally or have a D&C done.  I chose the d&c only because it was quicker.  They put you to sleep and its a very quick procedure.  Ive had it done twice now.  Its not painful either.  Ive also heard passing naturally is better because they dont have to scrape your uterus.  This is what ive been told so please dont take my word for it.  The decision is up to you.  Can you talk to your mom about this??

[Babytaylor2007]

alley not really my mom can't relate. she had four kids and all came out find. She never miscarried. I don't know if i should do the d&c because i'm already bleeding and passing a lot of clots. I do have people there! thanks for asking! I have a great boyfriend and a wonderful family!!!

[ttc4awhile]

I had a blighted ovum too, and just started to bleed today.    My doc said that since my sac is measured less than 6 cm, it's possible for my body to pass it out on its own, and i won't need a d&c.  He prescribed Cytotec to aid the process.

I know m/c is suck, but I've find solace in the fact that there was nothing I could, nor could not have done differently to prevent it from happening.  I've loved this baby with all my heart and soul from the very start, and even our time together was very short at being only 6wk5d, it was my first baby, and will forever be remembered that way.

I'm keeping all of us who's experience the same thing, and are/will be ttc in my prayers.  

[baby4me?]

But if you keep bleeding or there is a smell, go to the ER. I had a m/c when I was 19 and kept bleeding and bleeding and I started having a rancid (sorry) smell, that when I would take a bath as soon as I got out of the tub it would stink(horribly) again. I finally went to the ER and they had to do a D&C anyway because I didn't pass everything.

[Adali]

On Thursady July 27 I was in the emergency room for heavy bleeding. It was very scary I have never seen so much blood and so many big blood clots in my life. When I got to the emergency room they attended me right away. The OBGYN came down and did and ultrasound. I was just knew she was going to give me bad news. But instead she told me that there was still a heartbeat and that my cervix was closed. She said I was still consider threated miscarriage. She told me to follow up with my OBGYN.

The next day I went to see my doctor. He also confirmed the heartbeat and a closed cervix. He made me get a formal ultrasound. When they performed the ultrasound they also saw the heartbeat but also saw a sac right next to the embryo. Because I did IVF and they transfer 4 embryos they believe I was miscarring two embryos. They said I should be fine as long as the uterus does not contract. I was told I was going to keep on bleeding until is all gone or until the body absorbs it. As of today I am 7 weeks pregnant.

Has this happen to anybody else. Can you miscarry one of a  multiple preganancy and still have the other baby? Or is it a matter of time for the other one to miscarry also.

I will be so sad if it happens. Please let me know if anybody has gone through this or knows anybody that this has happen too.

[baby4me?]

Yes, I had a boss several years ago whose wife was pregnant with twins. She miscarried the one twin at 3 months and had a healthy little girl. Yes it is possible I have heard of others as well. Good luck with those babies!:)

[Babytaylor2007]

Adali i have heard of it and i have heard that your baby could be fine. I haven't gone through anything like that before but my sister has 5 kids and i talked to her about a lot of stuff. As a matter of fact i called her after i got home from the ER and she told me that in mutiple babies the other baby can still survive!! Good LUCK and i hope everything turms out ok

[ally76]

if you are already bleeding then I would just let nature take its course.  Its easier on your body.   Im here to talk to  and I will keep you in my prayers.  Good luck!!

[ttc4awhile]

Don't give up.  My dh and I have been ttc for almost 5 years, finally I got pregnant, but m/c'd yesterday :( :(  We're deeply sad and disappointed, specially when this pregnancy is so badly wanted, but the thought of giving up has never crossed my mind.  

Please keep praying, and trying.  I'm sure you'll be able to have a healthy pregnancy in the future. (I'm also telling myself so)

[ange800]

I'm so sorry for you loss you will eventually get pregancy again hopefully real soon my best friends sister got pregnant 11 years ago and had a m/c and has found out she is pregnant now and has been trying all that time she is 37 now and will be having her first child so good luck.

[chubbies]

thx 4t support
my family all said t same tng,bt im considerin givin my body at least a 6mnth break and i'l decide then

[3Angel]

To BabyTaylor2007,

I've miscarried twice and I am sorry for what you are experiencing. My advise to you is to let your body continue to do what comes natural. There is a reason for this, although it is very difficult for us to understand at this moment.

If you are concern, like any other woman would be, that your body has not eliminated everything it should... then you need to see your doctor. From my first miscarriage, I bleed and my body did what it had to do. To asure myself I was okay my OBYN had blood work done a week after I finished bleeding and then once again one week later. They check your hormone level to make sure your body has washed everything done. This is a sure way for you to feel a little more comfortable and avoid any infections.

To those that have thought of giving up:

Don't!!! I have a 4 yr old beautiful daughter from my first pregnancy. Then 2 unfortunate miscarriages, and now I am pregnant again. The pain is HORRIBLE, but healing comes afterwards. Everyone heals at their own time.

I am excited to be pregnant again and when I look at my 4-yr daughter and see the end results, this is so worth it! Every moment and every tear! So, give yourself the time you need to heal physically and emotionally. Don't let anyone time you! You will know when you are ready to try again. I wish you all luck and you are all in my prayers.