miscarrried december 24...shocked

[daisygirl79]

I was 11 weeks on december 22 when I started to bleed. I called my doctor and they told me to go on pelvic rest. I had my first dr.'s appointent 3 days before and they said it was normal to bleed after. They also said everything looked perfect on the ultra sound which was done november 28. Good strong heart beat. My bleeding was a little heavier so I went to the hospital on december 24. I was examined and they said everything still looked good. They saw some old blood but nothing to be concerned about. I was so relieved. I waited to have a ultra sound done. No heartbeat. 1 hour later I had a D&E. I also found out that being rh negative required a shot. I didn't know much about that(my husband is O+). Does this usually happen. A strong healthy pregnancy and then its gone? And they haven't explained why.

[cantwait4baby]

Oh I am so so so sorry that is horrible news.  So Heartbreaking.  I am not sure about the shot and all that stuff I am not familiar with.  It is so hard to hear that when you were so far along.  I will be praying for you.

[laura99]

I am so sorry. I know what is like to m/c but having it on Christmas eve and at 11 weeks must have been even worse. You won't believe this right now but time will heal.

[laura99]

By the way, the shot is because the baby had a high chance of being rh+ (it is the most common) and if that was the case, your body would create antybodies against it when the blood was mixed in the mc and this would affect future pregnancies, so it is a good thing you had it.

[laura99]

I forgot to specify: that is if you are rh- yourself

[stephd]

IM so sorry for your loss!!  That is awful!  Anyway with the RH negative thing, you dont get the shot until later on in your pregnancy if Im not mistaken.  I dont have to get it so i am not 100%.  My DH and I are BOTH A+.

[Want1more]

My Doctor's office was very up front about the Rh Factor during pregnancy, right from the start! This is what it is:
We don't often give much thought to the blood work of early pregnancy. Many of us never hear another word about those droplets given in the early weeks. However, one of the tests performed with this blood is a blood type and factor screening.

In addition to the blood group (A, B, O, AB), the Rh factor is written as either positive (present) or negative (absent). Most people are Rh positive. This factor does not effect your health except during pregnancy.

A woman is at risk when she has a negative Rh factor and her partner has a positive Rh factor. This combination can produce a child who is Rh positive. While the mother's and baby's blood systems are separate there are times when the blood from the baby can enter into the mother's system. This can cause the mother to create antibodies against the Rh factor, thus treating an Rh positive baby like an intruder in her body. If this happens the mother is said to be sensitized.

A sensitized mother's body will make antibodies. These antibodies will then attack an Rh positive baby's blood, causing it to breaking down the red blood cells of the baby and anemia will develop. In severe cases this hemolytic disease can cause illness, brain damage and even death.

I'm soooo very sorry for you loss!!!

[5preg2B]

I'm so sorry for you loss.  I too had one in July at 11 weeks and was completely taken by surprise.   words can't express what you are going through.  my prayers are with you..

[laura99]

As Want1more said, the antibodies are created when the blood of mother and baby are mixed. This only happens during mc or giving birth and that is why the antibodies will attack a future baby, not this one, so don't worry thinking that this was the reason for this mc. Only if you had been pregnant before it could have been a problem.

[projectbaby]

I AM SOOOOO SORRY, how awful.... there is nothing I can say or do to help but just know that I am praying for you!!!! I also m/c on Dec. 24....well actually my ectopic pg., the metho. shot started to work!!!  of course, great timing for both of us!!!!  Make sure the Dr. does testing so you can figure out what happened....  I am thinking about you...take care and vent here whenever you need to.....we will try to help you in anyway we can...... take care
Jacquie

[SierraD]

I am so sorry for ur loss I had a miscarriage Christmas Day I had just found out the Wednesday before that I was pregnant didn't even get 2 make 1st appt so I know exactly how u feel I wish u luck in the future

[jayhawk822]

Just wanted to say I am sorry and that I also m/c around Christmas.  Found out no heartbeat the Thursday before and started to bleed on Christmas Eve.  My D&C is tomorrow.  Ours was not a shock, however it was a miserable drawn out rollercoaster process that involved beign told we had a blighted ovum, being told they were wrong, being told our baby was small, but dates were probably wrong, being told heart beat was a little slow but probably good,a nd being told the heartbeat wasn't catching up and we would probably m/c.  The heartbeat went down very slowly at first and then when we accepted that we were in for the long haul, bam, it was zero.  So, in some ways I can relate my heart goes out to you.  btw, my name was doctorjayhawk, but they don't allow medical names so they removed it and all my previous posts and replies!

[jayhawk822]

Looks like they have not deleted my posts on this forum yet, but they did on the fertility/infertility forum so it is only a matter of time.  I am a frequent poster, so the poor guys have their work cut out for them!

[daisygirl79]

Thank you for all your thoughts. This was my first pregnancy. I have endometriosis so I guess I should have known it would be hard. When you all went for blood work (the first time screening for everything) did you recieve any results soon. I didn't get mine for 20 days (the next appointment). Thats when they told me about being rh negative. Have any of you heard the heartbeat, was told it was a perfect heart and that everything looked good? I find it so weird that things can be great and then they just go away. I asked about information and the doctor does not know why and told me its very common and try again in a few months.

[New Mommy 2 Be 2007]

im so sorry i just lost my first pregnancy at 11 weeks baby died at 8 weeks i found out on nov 9th my first prental visit and had a d&c the next day i got my af 4 weeks later and here i am in the tww hoping and praying to be pregnant again i didn't get lucky before i was trying 2 weeks after my m/c but i got my af but im glad cuz it is safer, best of luck to you and try again dont loose faith! God bless

[hoogie]

I'm so sorry.  Good luck next time and take care of yourself.  There are no good words right now.