no fetal pole and no fetal heart beat

hi guys i'm new to this just need to get a bit of advice as i don't know wether i'm coming or going. went for a scan on tue no fetal heart beat or no fetal pole by my dates i was 7 weeks 1 day  but by dr it was 9 weeks 1 day but earlier in preg i was told my dates were right as yolk sac measured to this. on this they the dr wanted to arrange for a d and c but my mam is very ill in hospital so i put it off had very slight bleeding when i was 3 weeks preg but nothing much and scans to date showed sac was growing and hcg levels rising i'm so bafeled because i still have all the signs of preg my boobs are sooooo soar aspecially at night. i have no cramping and no bleeding at present some people said just hang on and wait to see what with all the stuff about miscarriage all up in the air do anybody have any sugestions on what to do would like to hear good and bad at present i'm not very hopeful and also had the same happen to me in may but i bled at the 6 weeks in may plz help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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How much blood and what color? I had a scan around 7 weeks and there was no yolk sac, just one little bean with no heartbeat. I was scared to death until the next scan, two weeks later, but then there was a strong heart beat and every thing looked perfect, I measured at 8weeks 6days, so literally in two weeks I went from measuring at 5 weeks and expecting a m/c to having a healthy fetus. I never had bleeding but I had severe, fall to the floor, cramps and I really thought I would m/c.

Just wait and have a repeat scan, doctors dates can always be wrong and maybe you're just measuring smaller? Either way it's not good to stress about it. Try to distract yourself.

Are you still tired? I know this sounds weird, but my mother gave me some comforting advice when I thought I was going to m/c - she told me if I was still fatigued then the baby was still getting nutrients from me and growing as it should. My parents have had 8 children, so I completely value all the pre-natal advice I get from her ;)

I hope this helps, good luck! SSBD!