not pregnancy but accident.... i am so scared...peek, ruby,pops, immortal anyone?

a man pointed  a gun into my husband face, in his way back from work, at the complex door, i was waiting for him downstairs in my car to go to the store. i saw the police coming in hurry at the door, but could not see the cars, it was like 15 police cars. i walked to the complex door and saw my husband car, but could not understand what is going on, i start crying, there was police every where, i was scared and not sure if they will letme approch, but i approched and asked my husband what is going on, i though that he was speeding and he is gonna take a ticket, but he was scared, and i know my husband, a  speeding ticket will not scare him. he told me that the man poijnted a gun into his face, and the laser light was on his head, because he said that my husband don't belong to the appartements community. the guy was drunk, my husband called the police and now the guy was sent to jail, because he was driving under the influence of alcohol, and he pointed a gun into my husband, and he has a previous cases.
i don't know what to do, we are so scared and don't know who to contact or what to do. i just wanted to vent and see if you know what should we do

[NewMommy08]

If i were you I would move out, find a different complex!  That is very scray though! Glad everything was okay!

[nermineagain]

we just moved in in july, i like the appartement, it was my dream to live here. but i don't know why this happened, they told us thatt they do background check to all people who live here, but it seems like it is lie. we are really scared, my huusband  is in shock and can't talk. don't know what to do to relax him.

[1nana]

Sorry to hear what happened, but really glad that your husband is alright. Does this man live in your apartment complex? Your husband deserves a stiff drink just about now (make that a double)!!!

[nermineagain]

it looks like he lives here because he entered from the residence entrance and he has the card that open the door.

[1nana]

If it were me I would try to find out if he is a resident there or maybe he is just a visitor.

[nermineagain]

i will, i think i want to know if he has family living here, he is going to jail for good as the police officer told us, i am scared from his family reaction, i think i want them out.

[1nana]

Good luck, I'm sure things will work out for the best.

[peekawho]

When things like that happen, it is very scary.  Its normal to feel traumatized and victimized.  Thank God he didn't shoot your husband.  He was very lucky.

I don't really know what to tell you to do.  You and your husband did nothing wrong, so there is no reason to fear what his family will do.  Likely they are embarrased that he was so drunk and got sent to jail.  

But I'd feel scared to.  I'm not sure what I would do.  I'm sorry this has happened to you.

[rosie1600]

I would talk to the manager about him and try to find out through the manager where his family lives so, you can talk to them regarding why that man told your husband about him not being able to live there. Try to work things out in a calm way with his family and if that does not work then I would just move out instead of having anymore problems. Do you think this was a racial thing? Because I think his comment sounds really racial but then I don't know.

[nermineagain]

well we are ARAB and MUSLIM and my husband name is MOHAMAD, but we are not scary people, dearborn has the majority of arabs, any how i don't now, i am tired of this, whay people would think that all of us are bad, we are not, some arabs and muslims did something wrong to this country but they ae not real muslims, they are doing it to my country too (lebanon) if any one knows about the wa there, OH GOD,WE NEED PEACE EVERY WHERE, NO EXEPTION!. we live in peace and did not have any problems with no body here, in contrary my neighbors are vry nice and they are diverse(white, black and indians). i don't tink that this man know us.

[Weaversgirl]

Several things: TALK TO THE APARTMENT MANAGER FIRST THING! Tell them what happened, be prepared to give police report case #'s, and they will evict him if he lives on property! It usually takes about 15 days minimum to get someone evicted for that. Also go to the courthouse and get a restraining order. That way he has to move also. If neither happens, you have the right to break your lease. If you are scared for your life, and can prove it, they have to let you out of your lease.  I wish you and your family the best of luck. If you have any questions about anything that has to do with your complex, feel free to ask since I work at an apt complex!

[cyndy_07]

see if you can break the lease by what happened to your husband that way you can get your deposit back and move out. i would definitely move since the guy will get out of jail soon and might be really upset at your husband.

[lovethebops]

This does sound like a racially motivated incident...the guy was drunk and probably wanted to scare you. I am sorry you experienced sometime like that, I would be scared out of my mind too! If he does indeed live in your complex, You can expect more problems once he gets out of jail, if he does. He will be angry to begin w/ and then he will be even more angry that you sent him to jail for his actions. There is no reasoning w/ maniacs like that. I know you just moved there and you love it, but If I were you, I would move. I don't think I would feel safe there again after something as scary as that...That is what I would do, especially if the guy is indeed a resident. There are extremest's (SP?) everywhere, no matter what race or religion you are, I would call what this idiot did pretty extreme. Not everyone is like this in America, and I am so sorry that members of your community experience things like this everyday. Best of luck in whatever you decide and I hope you are able to get back to normal as soon as possible.

[Nicole624]

I am soooo sorry you had to go through this!! ((((((((hugs))))))))

[rubyolivia]

That is so scary! I'm sorry this happened to you! People need to open their eyes and realize that not all Arab and Muslim people are hateful, hurtful people!! People judge based on looks, which is pathetic and very unfortunate. You did nothing wrong, nor did you your husband. I would just try to go about your business the best you can and hope that this man gets put away for awhile! Can you talk to the head of your complex about the incident...perhaps they could kick this  man out, especially if it's not his first offense! If they won't do anything about him, I would consider moving if you can!

I wish you the best of luck trying to get through this! Just try to stay strong! :)

[have 2 kids]

I'm sorry your husband had to experience that.  I would try talking to the manager and find out if he is a resident and if so what can be done.  Also, maybe you could get a restraining order.  It doesn't seem fair that you and your husband should have to move from a place you love.   Good luck!

[tiredbuthappy]

i agree that you should get a restraining order to protect you for now. but if i were you, i would definitely consider moving. it's not fair at all for you to have to uproot yourself, but since you are trying to conceive you should consider your children's safety as well. i would be absolutely terrified. i agree it sounds racially motivated and it's so upsetting that this exists. stay strong, but remember that people like that don't change easily. i know you haven't been there long, but have you established any relationships with other neighbors yet? perhaps they can either give you honest insight into some of the people living around you or help keep an eye open for you.

[amberd5191]

Hi sweetheart, You need to go to the office and talk to them. Maybe they would even be willing to switch you to a different apartment so that there is no worry of someone knowing where you live. Talk to the police again and see about getting a restraining order on the guy that did this so he can't go anywhere near the apartment complex. I'm sorry you had to go through this, one side of my family is from Lebanon. After the trade towers I was in school and trust me I don't look Lebanese, somehow someone picked it up from my eyes and asked. I left school that day, in a frenzy because people were so nasty just because I was part Lebanese. I wish you the best, this country can be cruel. However, not everyone is and people need to get over their ignorance. My thoughts and prayers are with you please keep us informed. We are all here to support you.