pregnancy

I just had a misscarige on the 30th of may its now the 22 of june and i have been trying to have a baby even though everyone said its to soon. Since Saturday i have been feeling dizzy and felt like trowing up. I wonder if i am pregnant again or if its something else.

[Kimmyblueiis]

Have you been cleared to try again by a doctor.  After my miscarriage my doctor had us wait 6 mos before trying again. When was your LMP?  I hope it works out for you.

[Christie2004]

There is no way to tell from this side of the internet.  Wait a week and test.  

So many things can mimic the symptoms of early pregnancy.  Hopefully everything will work out for you.

[blondie72]

It is possible to be pg again.  Like Christie said wait a while and test

[Still_AndiJ]

With my last m/c even after my levels went down, a month later  was having a lot of signs and symptoms of pregnancy. I think more of it is mental.

I got my first period 6 weeks to the day after completing my m/c and got pregnant that cycle. Take some time to heal emotionally before trying again. Make sure you feel like you could handle the possibility of losing another (you will never be 100% sure, but it is always a possibility)

And also make sure you aren't just trying to fill the void left by the loss of the pregnancy. In time things will work out, patience really does pay off.

Andrea

[gonza]

Sorry to impose on the open forum, but it would not let me start a new one.  This is really just to vent.  I want to start off by saying the I love DH's family.  They are all great people.  Now, let the bitching begin....
DH has 3 siblings; an older brother, an identical twin, and a younger sister.  DH and I get along with all of them, but they are all so jealous of each other.  The older brother and his wife claim that they are always getting the shaft when it comes to "presents".  Now, his twin and his fiance are saying the same thing.  Over Christmas DH and I went up to visit.  We were planning to drive, but would not make it in time for Grandpa's bday.  DH's parents surprised us with plane tickets so we would be able to visit with the extended family (that we would miss if we drove).  This pissed older brother and sisterinlaw off.  They said that we get everything and they get nothing.  Now, the twin and fiance say the same.  DH's parents are selling the condo that the twin and fiance have been living in RENT FREE for the past 8-10 years.  DH's parents asked them to do some cleaning and repair work and this pissed them off.  Now we along with the sister and parents are the bad guys.  There is alot more stuff, but this is the jest of it.  Do any of you have this ridiculous stuff around you?  I mean, they wont even speak to DH's mother and are just plain mean to her.  Then, to top it off, this past weekend they told her they didnt come to see her, just to see grandpa.  THEN had the nerve to ask DH's father if they were going to pay for their honeymoon.  GRRR!

[Still_AndiJ]

I see this kind of stuff with my best friend. Her mom took me in when I was a teenager, so I have been a part of the family for many years. Anyway my friend has an older sister who is at best irresponible with her life and decisions, yet she is treated like a saint and my best friend gets treated like garbage. When their Grandma was in the hospital, Bree was there every night,  all night (despite being pregnant and having a 4 and 5 year old at home) When Grandma came to stay at Mom's for a month, whenever Mom was at work, Bree was there taking care of Grandma. Whenever Mom goes out of town, Bree takes care of the animals and house, yet again she gets treated like ****.

Don't even get me started on my relationship with my dad, step-mom and older brothers! My kids have never met my dad, have received nothing (not even a card) yet they handmade captains bed cribs for each of my older brother's kids. Gave my brother and his wife everything they needed for both kids, along with paying for college, giving them large amounts of cash when they got married and had kids, bought them cars, and actually supported them when they were teenagers (I didn't get a dime as a teenager and actually spent a year on the street because things were so bad at my real mom's house) That is just the tip of the iceberg. They bought me a car, paid cash and then sold it to me at 10% interest! My own parents,lol! I haven't spoken to them for over 2 years, not even when my real mom died did I get a call. Nothing from them when I m/c in June 2003, now when I had Tristan in 2004. Not a word, not a card, nothing. When I was attacked and raped in my home, despite them living 20 miles away, they didn't even come to hospital, didn't even call. My husband called to let them know what had happened and what hospital I was at and initially my step mom thought he was kidding. He was stationed in Spokane, yet he was on the phone all night with me while I was in hospital alone until he got his flight the next morning. My own parents couldn't be bothered with getting out of bed.

Family life can really bite and despite the promises we make to ourselves and our kids,there is stil the chance the same cycle will continue. Do right by your life and try to let the other stuff roll off your back : )

Andrea

[gonza]

Oh gosh, I feel like a dummy for complaining.  You are about the strongest person ever to go through that and still try to see the positive side.  God bless you and your family.  :)

[jluhart]

I believe your body does need to heal after a misscarriage, so please ask your doctor when they think is best.  They did go to medical school and can use their heads when thinking whereas we tend to think with our hearts.

[carolyn55806]

Don't let anyone tell you that it's too soon. Go with when YOU feel ready. Doctor's don't always know best, either. I got pregnant 2 weeks after a micarriage and I am now 20 weeks. good luck.

[Still_AndiJ]

No, we all need to vent. I hate posting sometimes because I don't want people to feel like they are being "one up'd" I had a crappy childhood and went through some ****, but I also see that some of these things have made me stronger. Hopefully some of my experiences will make people understand that things do get better and it is possible to move on from tradgedy and hold you head up high!

Sometimes it helps to see things from the other side. I never knew what it was like to be the one that was favored (middle child,lol), so I can understand why your siblings may feel that way. But then again, living rent free in your parents condo is a pretty big handout. My in-laws help us out a lot when we need it, but they always know they will be paid back as soon as possible. John's brother isn't married (well, he is engaged) no kids, yet he borrows more from them than we do,lol.

Don't let their attitudes affect you so much, easier said than done. I have learned to not take it out on my siblings, it is my parents that need the kick in the rump.

Andrea

[happiface]

Wow.
I know that nobody is trying to 'one-up' anyone-- but your posts probably make us all think of the **** that we have to deal with in our daily lives.... obviously some people have a heck of a lot more **** to deal with than others.
Luckily, most of the people who seem to be dished out the biggest piles of **** are the ones who can handle it. Sadly, some of them can't, but I think that the more struggles we are faced with, the stronger we become.  Andi- you are one srtong chick!
I have had my shares of the short-end of things (so much more so than my brother & sister) and it seems like they are always getting hand-outs and getting catered-to... but at least I know that DH and I are working our butts off to have the life we live, and we can feel no guilt over anything. Unlike my sister, who uses my poor retired father as her personal handy-man.
Anyways- I don't know if there was a point to this, but I guess I needed to vent too. One more day till the weekend!

[cinnamonheart]

I agree with happiface..Life is unfair sometimes .There is one in every family who gets more, one who gets less, one who makes bad choices,,etc....etc...
I always figure to live my life with choices, I Can live with,
All of us could write a book on things that have happened in our lives, some good ,some bad its how you deal with it, what you have learned from it, that makes us all unique..

But yes feel free to VENT.Its nice just to get an opinion, or just to get it off your chest.

[happiface]

It's funny because when I read how you said there is always someone who gets more/less....
My mother believes that she is hte most fair person in teh world.  She LITERALLY spends exacly -- to the penny-- the same amount on each of her children. At Christmas, if one kid gets a more expensive present, the other will get a cheque for $12.32.  Really. Whatever the difference was.
But what good does that do when you dish out the stuff that CAN'T be measured?? That's where it gets sticky.  Things like time and attention and help. Hmmm....

[cinnamonheart]

How true....
I would sooner take time,and help over anything!!
We just had a situation with a fathers will  too long of a story to mention...He had 6 grandkids at the time One only got something...that was in part he didnt have it redone before his death but it pissed a few of us off..And you know I can honestly say if it was one of my kids I would have made them give it to the others equally..
The oldest grand daughter got 30,000 dollars not even her brother  or the rest .... If i was the mother of Dana i would have made her share...Thank God my kids were too young to understand..or even know about it..

Im with your mom  equal equal...we had this situation with wedding gifts...
Dad gave so much to me and my sister..years back Now the younger ones are getting married years later and they are getting more..(well weddings do cost more now but it depends on how lavious you want it if we knew we would have got more  we probably would have done things differently.

I am with my kids (3)  give them so much and whether they get married and times change well there all getting the same!!

[MandaJo111]

I also got pregnant right after my m/c.  I am now 6 1/2 weeks with a due date of 2/11/06.  

My DH and I are so excited.  We heard the heartbeat Friday.  

We were between 5 & 6 weeks when we lost the last one.

My mom fussed at me when she found out we did not wait to get pregnant again, but the doctor called when I hit 0 HCG and said we were good to go.  I think since it was so early (and technically probably considered a blighted ovum) that it was physically fine for me to try.  

Doctor's are quickly turning from the old idea of waiting 6 months.  It is understanable if you were a few months or more along that you would need to wait for your body to heal.  However, other than that, I think that it is fine.  Mentally we are fine with it.  We did not do it to replace what we lost.  We simply have wanted another child for a while and were ready to try again.  

So far so good.  It just depends on the person.  I am glad to hear someone else who did not wait.  I was beginning to feel a little alone on that.  

Take care,

Amanda

[mgi]

sounds familiar.  My mom has always done that.  When we were little we all got one umbrella one pair of gloves.  etc.  Now we are grown and we each get exactly teh same amount so do all grandkids
BUT YOU ARE EXACTLY ON THE POINT - what about love affection and time!  I finally emailed my mom last Thanksgiving and let her have it.  I asked her how she thinks it feels to be alone every single holiday and she and my dad if they are with any kids are with teh same one or ones every time!!
Of course she didn't reply but it felt good to get off my chest!