she changed her mind:(

hey guys,
My cousin changed her mind yesterday about letting me adopt the baby girl which i already had a name and clothes and stuff for already im really sad and depressed I have planned on this for atleast 6 or 7 months the baby is due the end of next month well in february it suxss!!! if yall could give me some encouragement that would be great thanks!!

[jennifer1977]

So sorry to hear this.  It must be very hard on you, and I imagine it was a tough decision for her.  It is probably hard not to be mad or bitter at her, but there is an overwhelming bond between a birth mother and the baby moving and growing inside of her.  I really admire you for stepping up and doing something so honorable.  I know you already love that baby, and I hope you get to be a big part of his/her life.  My best wishes to you and I sure hope she knows what shes doing, bc she doesnt sound like she is ready for this at all, but hey, you can support her all you can, and if she finds out she was wrong, you can be there to take that baby with loving arms!  (That may sound wierd, but there are actually mothers out there who can and do give their babies away for a number of reasons.)  I hope all goes well for you and that this is not the emotional roller coaster it has been so far.

God Bless you and I am praying for all of you!

[anxiousmomtobe?]

How your heart must be aching.  But it is better for her to change her mind now than weeks after you have been mothering that child.

I hope you are able to forgive and give this mum support.  I have a feeling this baby will still need you.

[kris123]

I know it must be very hard on you that now you find out you are not going to be able to abopt the baby.  I lost a baby this year due to a m/c and it broke my heart.  The one good thing is a least the baby is in the family not that it makes it easier.  Just as hard as it is for you to lose this baby, it would have been just as hard for your cousin.  I know because I gave a baby up for adoption when I was very young.  It was the worse experience of my life and I would never do it again - not unless I had to.  I gave birth to my son and they came and took him away - I know to a better life, but a part of me died that day.  It is like a death because I have never seen him since.  It was the best thing but it is something that is very hard for a mother to due - to give a child up. I'm sure this is how you feel right now, like a death has happen.  At least or I hope you will get to see the baby and you never know maybe she will change her mind. Sometimes birthmothers go back and forth, which I did.  I had no support, so I had to give my baby up.  I am so sorry you are going through this and hope the best for you.