someone needs to say this

I'm 8 weeks pregnant, spotting, cramping and sometimes bleeding. I had an ultrasound and the baby is okay for now so my miscarriage rate went down. That was the best news ever but the problem I have is that when you tell your DR that you have been spotting or bleeding they always say "it's normal to have spotting in pregnancy". Is it really!!!! I dont understand that if it's normal in pregnancy why didn't I have spotting with my 1st child? Why when you look on web sites about pregnancy they say nothing about spotting is normal? On the sites I visited I see if spotting or bleeding contact your DR. If bleeding is so normal why not have more information about it on pregnancy web sites and other places? If spotting and bleeding isn't normal then tell me and not have me hoping and wishing for a baby that may not be. I'm very upset right now because it's hard being pregnant, spotting, cramping, bleeding w/a history of miscarriage and all a DR can tell you is it's normall but cont. to make weekly or biweekly appointments for you. What makes it all bad is that i know how this DR works he delivered my 1st so with these crazy appointments I know something is wrong. I don't work so all I do is think about this baby and take care of my little one.

i just feel like all hope is gone but I don't want to give up on my unborn child.

[jay11]

I dont think theres much info on it because its not common during pregnancy, although some say its normal. Every pregnancy is different and where as all those symptoms bay be fine for one person they could mean something else for another. Obviously the doctors want to keep a close eye on you due to your previous history and perhaps thats all they can do at the moment. As horrible as it sounds, if something is going to happen then its going to happen. If the doctors thought that prescribing you something would help you keep the pregnancy then thats what they would do. Unfortunately it sounds like you just have to sit and wait to see how it progresses. If i were you i would take it very easy and look after myself. Unfortunately there is no magic wand so theres not much more can you do.
I hope everything goes well for you. I will be thinking of you.

[jjerzeegirl]

Don't give up! I am pregnant as well with my 2nd child. I am noticing that each pregnancy is EXTREMELY DIFFERENT!
To make you feel better I spotted (brownish/redish coloring) with my first pregnancy, and not with this one.
Unless you are having period like bleeding/cramping...then i would be concerned.
But a bit here and there is to be expected.
How often does this happen?

[Crritter]

It's so hard after you have had a m/c to try and relax.  I did bleed a lot with my first baby.  I called the oncall Dr. as it started on a Saturday and they told me to rest and go to the ER if I was in a lot of pain, otherwise all I could do was wait it out.  It was awful, I bled bright red heavy blood during the 6th week.  It went on through Wednesday, and when I went in I was sure they were going to confirm a m/c.  Everything was fine and he just turned 4 last week.  They never did know why it happened but I was told the same thing, it can happen.  I didn't have any bleeding with my second baby, but after a m/c it really shook me up and I was so scared till well into the second trimester.  Try to keep busy with your little one, maybe the time will fly faster for you.  Good luck.

[marie1210]

If the ultrasound shows good news, relax.  I've read on websites that spotting is common, not normal.  Many women have spotting and bleeding and everything turns out fine.  Unfortunately, I wasn't one of them.  Spotting for me signals a m/c.   I'm pregnant now for the 4th time.  I'm almost to the middle of my 6th week.  Things usually go wrong for me between 6 and 8 weeks.  I'm just praying I don't see any spotting or bleeding.  Unlike you though,  I haven't had an u/s yet so I don't know what's going on inside.  Stay positive, right now, everything sounds good.   A lot of women spot/bleed around the time of their period.  Is this about the time when af would show?  Good luck and try, as hard as it is, to relax.  

[deanne11]

I just wanted to say I know how you feel.  I spotted for three days and the Dr told me it's normal, it's normal....this after a miscarriage 3 months earlier.

They kept saying it's fine, it's not alot of blood like the last time....well it wasn't but it became a lot of blood after 3 days.

And I ended up losing that baby too.....about 3 months later, I lost a thrid baby.

I get so upset with the Drs who say it's normal early on....well it's not normal for everyone.  Now my mom...she bled her entire pregnancy with me....and I'm here...fine but I had no bleeding with my first child or with the one I'm carrying now....and I even have placenta previa....

I'm so sorry...it's a real shame that some Drs don't take spotting seriously.  

Everything they say is 'normal' really is nothing but an average that they came up with somewhere down the line.....just like all the testing they do.....I was high risk for Down Syndrome...because my levels of HCG weren't normal.....

Well every woman is different.   They scared me for no reason.  My child is perfectly healthy....

[LosingMyMindInGA]

I can totally relate...this is my 6th pregnancy...I have 3 kids, had 1 m/c and a stillborn.  I've been spotting since the day after a pos. PT.  The bleeding finally stopped this past tuesday night.  I went to the er on sat 8/18 and the doc there was really rude...no bedside manners at all.  He did say my HCG was either 656 or 696 I can't remember which.  Went to ob on Monday 8/20.  They did blood, turns out my hcg was down to 509 and my progesterone was only 2.9....yet he gave me a progesterone shot and took more blood...WTF?????  I'm scheduled for an u/s next wed.  But I put a call in for the doc and when he calls back and I'm telling him I want an u/s NOW so that we know what's going on.  I'm not gonna keep trying to "save" a pregnancy that's ALREADY terminated.  I'm still having feelings like the pressure you get around your cervix when you're close to delivery date, sometimes mild other times pretty sharp.  I'm pretty sure I've miscarried but I'm tired of this wishy washy ****.  If it IS what I think I just wanna have my d & c and get it over with and get on with my life.  This as been a week from hell!!!!!