trying to get pregnant since miscarriage and d§c

[Christina S.]

I just recently had a miscarriage and D&C around October 20th at 10wks although there had been no fetus able to be seen since 6 wks just a yolk sac. I already have a 5 year old and a 14 month old. I have had one other miscarriage and D&C due to a blighted ovum in sept 2002 just 2 months before I got pregnant with my 13 month old. I don't know if anyone can answer my question's but..

I just had my 1st period since the D&C on Nov 17th and I was told that it is possible that I might not ovulate the first cycle after a D&C. Has anyone ever heard or gotten pregnant themselves the first cycle after a D&C? It took 2 with Nathan so I dont know! I had intercourse on every day starting from the day I got off my period on nov 21st until Dec 8th  with the excpton of like 2 days so I could catch it if I did. I have no idea if my cycle will be the same which is usually between 30 & 34 days. So I am a bit irregular. I am probably only making it hard on myself by taking a pregnancy test so early because I would have no idea when I ovulated  & it's not extremley hard for me to get pregnant, its just hard keeping the pregnancy. I am now having the low dull back pain I had when I had the last 2 miscarriages, but I have endo and I am due for a period in a week. The first test I took a couple days ago had one faint line and the 2nd was negative. Which one should I beleive?!! It's probably way to early don't you think? My breasts are tingling a little but not sore to the touch, its like really light tingling off and on.Sorry for the long post.Need advice! anyone had pms symptoms & be preg?

[Christina S.]

I hope my post made sense. Basically we have been trying to get pregnant since my D&C in October and I want to know if anyone else has gotten pregnant after thir first cycle (not right after the D&C, but after the first period following a D&C) the doc told me there would be a 50/50 chance I would ovulate the first cycle. Does anyone think my cycle will still be the same? I have no idea when I would have ovualted because I have never kept track of all that. I am havinng some pre-menstrual symptoms like dull low back ache (also a sign of a miscarriage, for me anyways and my mild endo and hormones seem to effect it),& bloating. I have also been experiencing tingling nipples/breasts and fatigue. Has anyone taken a preg test to early and got a false negative only to test a few days later to get a positive?? I think I might have tested to soon. I used a sensitive preg test for the  very faint positive and one that isnt to sensative for the neg. The test for the sensitive one says I can test 6-11 dpo.

[StephW]

Yes, its very possible that you may not ovulate the cycle following a D&C. (I think its cuz your body is still in pregnant mode).  With my first pregnancy, I got a false negative.  LMP was Feb. 28th and I tested on March 27th.  Tested again April 8th and it was BFP!  But unfortunetley I had a missed miscarriage and had to have D&C on June 2nd 03.  My menstural cycles were irregular for the first couple of months but has now finally become regular (since about Oct.)

But you have to remember, every is different, so what happens to me may/may not happen to you in the same way.  Alot of people who undergo D&C have regular cylces right after and YES i've heard of people who become pregnant IMMEDIATELY after having a D&C, So there is hope.  For right now, the only thing you can do is play the 'waiting game'.  Good Luck!

[kck]

I am now 6 weeks pregnant following a DNC.  I got pregnant right away after one cycle.  I have 2 friends who also got pregnant after one cycle (one period).  One has a 10 month old, the other has a baby due in January.  I have not read any info about not ovulating at that time.  I have only read and heard that it is easier to get pregnant following a DNC because your uterus is clean and is prepped to basically "suck up" a fertilized egg.  I don't know if it is "researched" or not.  But here are 3 cases where my friends and I got pregnant after one cycle following a DNC.  Take another test.  Good luck!

[kirsten00]

I too was able to conceive after one cycle post D&C.  I also took a test when I first started feeling the signs and it was negative.  I waited two days and sure enough the next three tests, I know overkill, were positive. The positive lines the next time were also relatively faint, but definately there.  
Wish you the best,
kirsten

[dawnna]

I just had a miscarriage and d&c on 12-7-03. l was 10 weeks pregnant,it was also my frist child.it has been very hard on me and my husband. our doctor told us to wait three months before we try again.but we want a baby so bad its hard to think about waiting that long.has anyone had this problem ? do you have any advise ?        
            sorry about your losses.
            and goodluck.
             dawnna

[dawnna]

I just had a miscarriage and d&c on 12-7-03. l was 10 weeks pregnant,it was also my frist child.it has been very hard on me and my husband. our doctor told us to wait three months before we try again.but we want a baby so bad its hard to think about waiting that long.has anyone had this problem ? do you have any advise ?        
            sorry about your losses.
            and goodluck.
             dawnna

[Christina S.]

It is so hard taking a pregnancy test to early and getting a negative and you really are...I HATE THE WAITING GAME!!!
I mean I know I might not be because I am cramping like menstrual cramps but I always do even if I am, I did this with all 4 of my pregnancy's, the 2 healthy and the 2 miscarriages. Has anyone had cramps and feel like they were going to start but were pregnant? I always forget how it feel's.

As for having to wait 3 months, all doctors are different. I have done plenty of research on this and all people are told different times. As for me I was living in Colorado at the time of my first miscarriage and D&C (dh is military) and that doctor told me to wait 3 cycles before trying again but after 2 I was pregnant with my now healthy 13 month old and he was born 2 weeks early still weighing 9lbs 3oz and I am very small. (my 1st was 9lbs 16 1/2oz and he was born right on the due date). Now this doctor told me to wait to get my first cycle before trying again, which is what most doc's will say. But I have heard of a few saying wait 3. I beleive it's up to you and how you feel, i had 2 cycles when I got pregnant and it was healthy. They just want to make sure you are ready emotionally and physically before trying again. I mean people get pregnant immediatley 2 weeks following a D&C from what I have heard and it was fine but not always safe. I am just concerned because the doc said I might not ovulate the first cycle though. I am being very imapatient, I feel like I am crawling out of my skin!!!
Has anyone been so sure that they were going to start there period with all PMS symptoms only to be preg? Also, I am supposed to be due for a period on or around the 17th, when do you think the earliest I could test again would be?
thanks for the responses! and good luck

[kck]

Dawnna: My doctor told my friend to wait one cycle and told me to wait 2.  When he told me that, he said I was young and in no hurry, so I could wait 2.  But I waited only 1.  The only reason they have you wait is so that your cycle is back to normal so it's easier to calculate a date of conception/due date.  If you are ready, try after 1 cycle.  It's not harmful to you or the baby from what I have heard.
Christina:  Everyone I know has cramps like menstrual cramps around the time your period would be coming. That is definitely NOT a sign that you aren't pregnant.  In fact, with my last 2 pregnancies I expected and waited for the cramps as a sign that I was pregnant.  I know for a fact that they are common when you are pregnant as well as when you are getting a period.

[Christina S.]

So, you had the dull menstrual cramps, like you thought any minute it owuld start? Or just mild cramps? I swear you think I would know but I always forget this early on, I alays cramped but I cannot remember if it felt like a menstrual crampy feeling.
My breasts are tingling and have this burning sensation like off and on too.
Also, one quick question since I am new here, What is an "open forum"? I see that alot on here.

Thanks

[Christina S.]

Sorry for the mis spelling..lol

[dawnna]

Christina s.
before i new i was pregnant for sure,i thought i was getting ready to start my period. i had stomach cramps, my breasts were tender as they always are at that time of the month.i got a frist responce pregnancy test and used it about five days before my period was supposed to start. and it had two lines but you had to look very close to see the second one.
            
                       Hope everything go's your way.
                       Best of luck.

Thanks to everyone for all the info
goodluck dawnna

[kck]

The cramps were definitely like a period.  With my first child, I kept telling my husband there was no way I was pregnant because of the cramps.  Even the doctors say it's totally normal.  My best friend didn't know she was pregnant for a while because the cramps led her to believe she was getting ready to start.  Very typical!
As far as the Open Forum, I have no clue.  I'm new on here too.  I just found the site the other night.  Sorry...maybe someone else will read this and let us both know.
Good luck with everything!

[Christina S.]

Good luck Dawnna. I hope it made you feel better that you do not have to wait 3 cycles but they all say something different so follow what you feel is best.
I want one more baby (2 is enough for me, but I feel like something is missing) I am hoping to conceive a girl this time but I am happy either way. I read my chinese birth chart (I know it isnt 100% effective, but hey its fun to look at, and its been right with everyone I know so far..hehe)But it says that if I conceive this month that it would be a girl, it also said for the 2 miscarriages that I had that they would have been girls too. hmm...I wonder if I cannot carry a girl, guess they are to much for me. My grandmother (dads mom) lost a few pregnancys pretty far along and so did my great grandmother and they lost all the girls with the exception of my Aunt who made it. They were surprised when I was born because boys tend to run in our family, although I know it's up to the dh what I will have. but it still seem's strange....well anyways good luck!

[dawnna]

Hope you get the baby girl you want.I was just wandering what is a chinese birth chart? and where can i find one? oh and by the way i have no idea what an open fourm is either. this is only my frist day on this site.when you do your next pregnancy let me know what it says.wishing you the best of luck.

                      Thanks Dawnna

[Christina S.]

You can copy and past this URL.... and it should pull up the chart http://www.bestbabyproducts.com/chart.html...if that does not work you can go to "search" and type in chinese birth chart and it will pull up some, but they are all the same only on differnt sites.
Thanks and I will let you know, hey you let me know too. I know this is a hard time for you. Its hard to deal with. If you need anyone to talk or "type" ..lol to email me anytime at ***@****

Christina

[materiagirl]

Hi! I have a 20 month old & I was pregnant with my second child recently until I had what they called a "missed abortion". It was hard on me to not be in control of what was happening to my baby. I couldn't stop the cramping & bleeding and so they gave me a d&c. Here's what's puzzling me now. It happened on Nov. 11th(last month) & my doc said my next cycle would start in 3 months. As of Dec.13th,this past SAt, I started to bleed very heavy & get all period symptoms like pimples, bloadiness, sore breasts, moodiness(pms), etc. Now, it's only been a month since my D&C, can I count this as a period? Or should I wait til next month to see if it happens around the same time and then count it as a period. I am very anxious to conceive again and I really want to believe this is indeed a period & indeed the start of a new cycle, but can my doc really be wrong about when I shoul've expected my first period? It was heavy the first 3 days & now it's getting lighter. Anyone have a period in only a month following a D&C??????

[kck]

I had a period 5 weeks after a D&C and conceived 2 weeks after that.

[materiagirl]

Hi!
  Thanks for responding to me & it's very good news to hear. Now, I have hope. I assume that everything went well with that baby since you left it at that & didn't mention anything else! You made my night & I am gonna start trying when my clearblue easy monitor tells me I'm ovulating. I bought the sticks & am treating what's going on with me as a "regular period" so we'll see. I am so scared of being in the first trimester again & being nervous all the time. How do u get passed the fear of miscarrying again?

thanks again!

[materiagirl]

Well, I am having my first period after my D&C a month ago. It was confirmed today by my doc. He also gave me the go ahead to try in about 2 weeks when I may be ovulating again to conceive. Now that he says it's okay, I asked my husband for his feelings on all of this & if he wants to try again & he says he's afraid of me getting pregnant & worrying and talking about miscarrying again all the time. He doesn't want to try til I forget about it in time. Meanwhile, I know for a fact that it'll always be a fear & factor if I conceive now or a year from now. I had so many hopes & dreams about this baby I lost that when I lost the baby. Am I so wrong for wanting to get those kind of feelings back? I know in life things aren't always guaranteed & yes it may happen again, but it may not and I think the possibility of having a healthy baby is worth the small chance of losing one. I feel very emotional & hurt by my husband's attitude.He's more concerned about me annoying him than my desire to have a baby. I also feel like he's lost faith in my ability to carry a pregnancy out & I feel he's really thinking I'll miscarry again. I am almost 31 years old & I really don't want to waste any
more time. My son is 20 months old today and I want more than anything to give him a brother or sister. Anybody going through being ready but your spouse feels you're not?

[kck]

My pregnancy following the D&C is current and healthy so far.  I am 7 weeks tomorrow.  I went last night for my ultrasound and they found a heartbeat and the baby measured the right size.  Let your husband know that while time heals wounds, it does not take them completely away.  I can tell you from my experience that I did have extreme fear of miscarriage again, but I can't imagine that anyone wouldn't.  I think I would be afraid no matter how long I waited.  At the same time, the one thing that has healed me enough is moving on with a new pregnancy.  You will always remember the baby lost, but it does not have to hinder your ability to enjoy a new pregnancy after getting through the intial stage when miscarriage is a fear.  Pardon me for saying it, but it sounds to me like your husband is the one who is afraid and he is placing that guilt on you.  Of course you need his support for the new pregnancy, so help him to understand that you can both heal from the loss by conceiving a new life.  And if he is worried about you talking about your fears all the time, then don't.  Come to this website and "talk" to us.  We will help you get through your fears.
GOOD LUCK!

[materiagirl]

This is a great website especially for those of us who have no one else to talk to & who really understands. Thank you kck for being so kind & caring. And bless you & your little baby. I have you both in my prayers. We are going to try again and put our love for this next baby in God's will for us. I am not a religious fanantic, I mention God alot because my miscarriage made me realize that some things we have no control over & there really is a greater force who has a plan for us. I am still on my period so I plan to begin trying in a few days. I am still taking my prenatals as an extra precaution as per my doctor. No alcohal (alcohol) for me this holiday & plenty of healthy foods & no stressful situations. I hope it's true that u become very fertile after a d&C so it'll happen within a few months.

[acecat]

Hi, Everyone -

How long did it take everyone to get back on a normal menstrual cycle after a d&c/miscarriage?  I miscarried on 9/11 (ugh) and have had a menstrual cycle of only 2 days each month since (but it does come every 28 days on the nose).  This is the first month since that it has lasted a little longer (3 days).

Also, has anyone had any luck with clomid?  I start taking that soon as well....

Happy New Year!

[msnya]

I just recently (Dec 1st) had a D&C at 10wks. It was my first pregnancy and would have been my first child as well. I have not had a cycle yet, as of Jan 3rd, and am curious if you plan to wait the recommended three cycles or want to try right away like I want to. What has made this experience even more difficult is that my best friend is now almost 14 weeks. We were ten days apart in our pregnancies. I try to stay positive but it is very hard for me. Any advice?

[msnya]

I just recently (Dec 1st) had a D&C at 10wks. It was my first pregnancy and would have been my first child as well. I have not had a cycle yet, as of Jan 3rd, and am curious if you plan to wait the recommended three cycles or want to try right away like I want to. What has made this experience even more difficult is that my best friend is now almost 14 weeks. We were ten days apart in our pregnancies. I try to stay positive but it is very hard for me. Any advice?

[Toocute]

Wow!  I've finally found a forum to discuss post-miscarriage events.  I think by  now I've gone through every emotion and have realized it is time to cope with the waiting.  

I had a miscarriage mid November.  Early December I could have sworn I ovulated at which time we tried then I had very very light spotting in lieu of a normal period.  Of course, I was sure I was pregnant...nope.  I was supposed to have ovulated again beginning Christmas (fancy that) but I didn't have my normal signs of ovulation.  I tried anyway.  So now, I have no idea whether my cramps and tender breasts are PMS or pregnancy.  I took a pregnancy test a week ago and the second line was so faint I could barely see it.  I've finally gotten to the point where if I don't just quit thinking about it I will drive myself nuts.

I don't have any advice other than to say be patient.  Fortunately and unfortunately our bodies are much better at understanding when they are ready for pregancy.  I have decided to trust my body!

[Toocute]

Wow!  I've finally found a forum to discuss post-miscarriage events.  I think by  now I've gone through every emotion and have realized it is time to cope with the waiting.  

I had a miscarriage mid November.  Early December I could have sworn I ovulated at which time we tried then I had very very light spotting in lieu of a normal period.  Of course, I was sure I was pregnant...nope.  I was supposed to have ovulated again beginning Christmas but I didn't have my normal signs of ovulation.  I tried anyway.  So now, I have no idea whether my cramps and tender breasts are PMS or pregnancy.  I took a pregnancy test a week ago and the second line was so faint I could barely see it.  I've finally gotten to the point where if I don't just quit thinking about it I will drive myself nuts.

Fortunately and unfortunately our bodies are much better at understanding when they are ready for pregancy.  I have decided to trust my body!

[Toocute]

Wow!  I've finally found a forum to discuss post-miscarriage events.  

I had a miscarriage mid November.  Early December I could have sworn I ovulated at which time we tried then I had very very light spotting in lieu of a normal period.  Of course, I was sure I was pregnant...nope.  I was supposed to have ovulated again beginning Christmas but I didn't have my normal signs of ovulation.  I tried anyway.  So now, I have no idea whether my cramps and tender breasts are PMS or pregnancy.  I took a pregnancy test a week ago and the second line was so faint I could barely see it.  I've finally gotten to the point where if I don't just quit thinking about it I will drive myself nuts.

Fortunately and unfortunately our bodies are much better at understanding when they are ready for pregancy.  I have decided to trust my body!

[dawnna]

Im very sorry for your loss,i no how hard it is. I dont think i could get through it if i didnt think i could have another child.
I finally got frist af yesterday,so far its been prety normal except its been relly heavy and i have been cramping relly bad.
But the doc said the frist one could be heaver than normal.the doc also to us when i went back on the 22nd of dec for a check up that we could try after 2 or 3 normal periods.So we are planning to try in feb after next af.I would love to try this month and i think it would be fine,but i am worried that if we did and the same thing happend again i would blame myself because i didnt do what the doc says.Sound crazy i know but i figure it would be better to wait that to worrie!I relly wish you good luck in whatever you decide to do.and i hope everything turns out great next time. I would have answered your question sooner but i just now saw where you posted.Let me know how things go:)Dawnna

[dawnna]

I dont know if you found my post because its so far down,but if you did let me know how things are going and how long you guys have decided to wait.I know you guys are going through a relly rough time right now.And thats so sad how you and your friend was so close together. But you cant give up faith because we will one day have the babys we have been dreaming of.When i start thinking i cant go on i like to think of that saying GOD NEVER GIVES US MORE THAN WE CAN HANDEL. And i relly believe that.
So dont give up hope it will happen for both of us soon!If you need anyone to talk to you can email me anytime,my email is ***@**** So let me know how things are goimg:)
Dawnna

[Kristen13]

I have enjoyed reading all the posts, it has helped me get through my miscarriage.  I had a D&C on December 18th and I am just starting my period for the first time.  My doctor also told me to wait a few months to start trying but from all my research that I have done it really is up to the individual person.  As long as you wait to get your first period your body should be back to normal.  I just started my period today so as soon as it is over I plan on starting!!! I just hope it works this time, I can't wait to be pregnant again.  Does anyone else feel empty inside?  I just can't wait for the day that I get pregnant again.  I have read that the first few months after a D&C it is actually easier to get pregnant, I just hope that is the case with me.  Wish me luck!!!!!  

Thanks for listening everyone!

[dawnna]

Frist of all i would like to say im verry sorry for your loss.I know how you feel there is nothing like the emptiness you feel after you lose a baby.When i frist lost my baby i thought i was going to lose my mind.I have never had anything in my life to hurt me as bad in my life.I to canot wait for the day when i am finaly pregnant again.we are going to start trying again next month.hope everthing gos great for you.IM SENDING BABY DUST YOUR WAY!!! keep us posted and let us know how things go:)
dawnna

[Morsie]

First time on website/forum, I found reading everyones thoughts very beneficial. We M/C our first baby at 12 weeks just before christmas. I am finally having my first proper cycle again since the D&C (6 WEEKS AGO) and am anxious to try again. Our doctors advice was not to wait, just keep timing for ovulation and try again asap.Everyone has different view points and no one seems to know the right thing to do. Emotionally I am fine, reading the postings has helped alot. Thanks for being here, Shelli

[dawnna]

Shelli,
        Im so sorry for your loss. I to think all docs have very different oppinions.Its great that  your doc told you to try again right away.I sure wish my doc had told us that.He wanted us to wait until i had 2 or 3 normal periods so we are going to try again in feb.Maybe the time will fly by,I sure hope so i hate waiting:)GOODLUCK!IM SENDING LOTS OF BABY DUST YOUR WAY:)
Keep us posted and let us know how things go!
dawnna

[Morsie]

Thanks will do,
at this stage we have floods and my husband is gauging them so hopefully he is back in time for the crucial days. all else seems quite well, it would be great to keep in touch, seeing as though feb is your next go etc, we could have an across the world creation thing happening,
keep excited shelli xx

[dawnna]

Hey
    It would be great to keep in touch:) Where are you at? Im im
West Liberty,Kentucky. Hope all gos well with you guys.If you want you can email me at yahoo.com. GOODLUCK IM SENDING LOTS OF BABY DUST YOUR WAY:)
dawnna

[dawnna]

I was trying to put ***@**** .lol.
dawnna

[Morsie]

Hi
We are in western NSW Australia. About 7 hours drive from Sydney it's mainly farming around here, I'm a teacher and just about to go back to work after 6 weeks christmas holidays.
Very tough, have gotten used to sleeping in.I tried to email you hope it worked,we are ready to have another go next week, so i'll keep you posted. keep your fingers crossed (and toes.)Of to
the coast for the weekend will be back on Tues.
Keep smiling:)
Shelli

[Morsie]

OOPS!!! forgot this important piece of info
***@****
drop a line :)

[Ismary]

On January 17 I had a misscarriage.  I was 21 weeks pregnant(my first baby).  It was like a normal delivery the only thing is that the baby's lungs were not ready and it died a minute after delivery.  Since this was my first pregnancy it has left me an empty feeling inside and worried that I may not be able to have another baby.  I am still bleeding ( it has only been a week) and I am not sure when the bleeding is supposed to stop.  I have to see the doctor on the 30th and hopefully everything will be fine.  I am dying to try again but I am extremelly worried.  Any advice?
Thanks
Ismary

[dawnna]

Frist of all i would like to tell you how very sorry for your loss.I was only 11 weeks when i lost mine i cant imagine being that far a long. My heart gos out to you:)I dont know how long you are supposed to bleed after a delivery,I had a d&c and bleed for about 12 days.And got af about 4 - 5 weeks after d&c. Hope this will be of some help. I am verry sorry,And i hope things will get better for you.
(((((HUGS)))))
Dawnna

[LivTruth]

I wanted to say thanks to all of you who are sharing your stories.  It gives me strength.  I had a miscarriage and DNC on August 19th.  I was 12 to 13 wks pregnant.  It has been such a loss.  My question is this-how soon after a DNC can you become pregnant?  Is it immediately?  I want so badly to become pregnant again.  Is it safe to start trying soon after?  Are you more likely to become pregnant right after?  Sorry, a lot of questions.

Kym
Louisiana

[chellybeans]

you are more fertile soon after, but you do need to wait two weeks after having a d&c to have intercourse. if you do sooner the cervix is not closed and you have a risk of uterine infection which can cause infertility in some cases.

it took me 9 weeks to get a period after i had a miscarriage and d&c at 12 and a half weeks. i am now 36 weeks with twin girls. we conceived naturally with no drugs on the cycle right after that first period.

i was told i had the same risk of another miscarriage as anyone else by my doctor, but some doctors may say differently. i think the main thing is to heal physically, mentally and emotionally. being pregnant soon after is scary.

best of luck

[LivTruth]

I know everyone tells you not to blame yourself when you miscarry.  I am trying not to.  It is hard though because we saw a heartbeat and everything was on track then at 13 wks. there was no heartbeat.  They did send the fetal tissue off for testing.  I haven't gotten the results back.  I am 39.  Does age make a difference in miscarriage rates?  Also, I took loratab for a root canal and phenagren(sp?) for nausea once.  Both meds. were okayed by the doctor.  I still can't help wondering if either played a part.  Has anyone else ever taken those meds. during pregnancy?  How about the anti-depressent Lamictal?  This was also approved by my doc since I suffered from severe depression during pregnancy.  Just can't shake the feeling that one or a combo of the three might have played a part.  Again, I know I shouldn't question-but just can't get it out of my head.

[CELTICMUM]

I have just had a m/c and DNC two days ago. I feel very raw emotionally but feel that if I could look forward to a healthy pregnancy and delivering a baby, the emotional scars would heal. I have found this website to be such a support. My husband dosn't really understand how I feel and just wants me to 'get back to normal'. I just feel such a huge loss and the only thing that comforts me is the fact that the doctor said there is nothing to stop me going on to have a healthy baby. I am 40 and very conscience of my bio clock ticking away. I would very much like to communicate with others in a similiar situation. I live abroad so am away from English speaking pals. Thanks to everyone for being there.

[mgoulding]

Just had my DNC a week ago today. I lost the baby between 8-9 weeks. I did go for my follow up appt with my Dr today too. He reissured me there was nothing I could have done to stop the baby from passing away. That just does not help out very much. I think they just say that to make you feel better but without testing how the heck do they really know. Hard part is my baby had a heartbeat for 2 previous ultrasounds that I had done. That gave me such hope. It was such a rollercoaster ride. Just a wave of emptions! No one in my family knows how hard this is for me. On the outside, I just keep the act up that I am doing well but on the inside I am just full of saddness. I just feel like they could never understand so why bother letting them know how I feel. I feel women who has been through this are the only true ones who can understand all the feelings. I am glad to find this post and you guys who have been through this. Did it get any easier for you now that it has been 3 weeks past your last post? I am wondering if it is just the pregnancy hormones left in my body and I am hoping as those levels go down these crazy emotions fade away.
I really hope you concieve again. Best of luck to you!

[jenniferalicia]

I just found out my bf and i lost our baby this past friday july 11th at 9 weeks. it was the most devastating pain ive ever felt in my life. i'm still in shock and feel this strange emptiness. the only thing that will fill that pain will be to get pregnant with a healthy baby. they didnt schedule my D/C right away, i go for it this wednesday at 3pm which is killing me even more knowing the baby is still there. after reading everyones comments and questions i learned that it is possible to get pregnant again i just have to pray. i'm so worried and scared that this is the final straw and it wont happen again. i always panic like that though. im just wondering when i will get my normal period or when to expect it and when should we start trying again?? i just want so badly to become pregnant again, as soon as i possibly can.