update......D&C performed

Hi,

Don't know if you rememember me. I have posted a couple of times. I was posting because I was supposed to be 10 weeks pregnant but baby was showing 5-6 weeks. We first thought that it was a miscalculation and we were just off by the dates because everything seemed normal, no cramping, bo blood, no spotting, rising hormones, doubling actually. I had a miscarriage in the very beginning of March and got my first periond after that on March 30, and conceived again right after that. The doctor was therefore monitoring me very closely. Well it turned out that when I went in on Monday for a very advanced ultrasound that the baby had died and stopped growing at 5 weeks and I was about 10 1/2 weeks. The doc scheduled me for a D & C which was performed yesterday. I feel so empty and as if something were missing. I am very sad and I am having a hard time dealing with this as this is my second loss in 3 1/2 months. The doc said he was going to run studies on me to see if he finds anything wrong. His guess is that nothing is wrong because I seem to be a very healthy, normal 26 year old woman. But he wants to rule anything out just in case. I am really devestated. My husband and I want kids so very bad and this is just so heart breaking. Its just very scary to think that this might happen again. We are going to rest for 3 months, and then try again and hope and pray for the very best.......

[jifnif]

I am so sorry that you are going through this.  It is soooooo hard and the hurt really hurts bad.  I know you probably can't see the sunshine yet but you will and everything will work out.  It always helped me a little to think that it happened for the best and that the next time it will all work out.  it eventually does and you will be holding a lil one someday soon.  I know this sounds absurd, but my husband and I went to see the march of the penguins when I m/c and I cried the entire time when some of the penguin babies didn't make it.  After, I felt soooo much better b/c I realized that this was life and that it has a way of working itself out.  Even animals go through it and go on to have other babies.  I know it sounds dumb, it just helped me feel a little better.  Hugs work good too.  Hugs to you and i hope you can get lots more from others around you!!  

[marsxp]

ooohhhh........ im so sorry to hear that...... my heart goes out to you and your DH..... hang in there... id be praying for you that you have the strength to go through this.......

[Kellygirl77]

Jen, I am so sorry for you loss and to experience this again so soon and sudden. There are not enough words to help heal what you are going through. I think that resting for 3 months seems like the thing to do. I myself suffered a miscarriage in April. I had a missed miscarriage. No sign of anything being wrong. My very 1st ultrasound appointment was also the day the told me my baby had died. I wad 8 weeks 6 days. Its very hard.

Hang in there sweetie and take care. I wish you the very best. God Bless.

Kelly

[anxiousmomtobe?]

So sorry about your loss, I have been in your shoes, I had a mc at 11.5 weeks in May and then at 9.5 weeks in October.

Hang in there, you will have a baby, I promise.

[Jenny100]

I am SO sorry to hear this. What a terrible time you are having. I know you are devastated. My cousin had two miscarriages in a row, and then the third one (which happened IMMEDIATELY after the 2nd miscarriage---stuck and she is now due in 6 weeks.
So don't give up hope. They didn't even do any testing on her---she is young and healthy like you and her dr felt it was just a fluke thing.
So DO NOT give up hope. You WILL have a baby soon.

I am so sorry for what you are going through.

[Belmom2]

I'm sorry for your losses, I was like what you had and this is my 2nd miscarriages in a row, I'm 40. I'm probably different than you, but this situation what you are describing is what I had.  Well, both of my miscarriages ended up having the same thing, and then the dr. had run studies on the 2nd tissue and it shows "An abnormal female chromosome complement with an additional chromosome 20 (trisomy 20) was observed."  I have two healthy children from the same father as well.....the dr. is sending me and dh in for a genetic counseling next Friday.  Things can happen, who knows what it is because this is my first time.  The dr. was explaining that humans are composed of 23 pairs of chromosomes - 46 total - which includes 22 pairs of autosomal chromosomes (numbered 1-22) and 1 pair of sex chromosomes. The baby that miscarried was a girl who, instead of having only 2 chromosomes for number 20 had 3 (trisomy). Down's Syndrome is trisomy 21 so this wasn't the same thing. So, it's called an abnormal chromosomes that always happen in miscarriages. That does not mean that you would not be able to have any kids. You will unless you may go in for a genetic counseling if you have had 2 or more miscarriages if your results show anything.  Try not to stress about this and have a nice 3 months rest.  Hugs and good luck.

[Jenny33]

Expect to be very sad for a while.  It is normal.  My only 2 pregnancys both ended in m/c (6 wks and 19 wks).  For the last one I was in the midst of planning my baby shower.  I cried for a solid month!!  Some women try for years.  I was reading an article about a woman who had 12 m/c and was still trying.  Wait till you pain subsides b4 you try again. You want to be in a good state of mind...the hormones fluctuations in early pregnancy are enough on their own.   You are still very young and have plenty of time!  Best of luck