want to concieve as soon as possible

[anxietyX5]

I am a 24 year old mother of 1, and I have been hapily married for 4 years. I was trying for 4 months to get pregnant, and I finally did. At about 12 weeks along,I found out that I had lost the baby at 9 weeks. I had a D&C done last week, it has been a hard time for my husband and I. But all I can think about is how much I want to have another one as soon as possible. My concern is I don't want to cause any problems for my next pregnancy by concieving too soon, but if possible I would like to try after my next menstruel cycle. I have heard that you can try after your first menstruel cycle, and I have also heard that you should wait 3 or more months. Any ideas? Does anyone know if trying too soon can increase the chance of miscarriage? I really would like to get pregnant as soon as possible. Does waiting for your 2 mestrul cycle make much difference?      

[2ndBaby]

I'm sorry for your loss.  I AM NOT a doctor, but I have always heard that they advise you to wait for reasons like  easier dating of a new pregnancy and emotional healing time.  I have never heard anyone say that you are at any greater risk for m/c because you didn't wait the 'required' time before TTC again.  I am currently 6.5 weeks pregnant, and it happened before my first AF after m/c.  My doctor has no concern with this fact. Good luck to you!  While I am nervous as could be possible over this pregnancy due to the fact that I did m/c last time, this pregnancy has allowed me to put aside the grief of mc.  Good luck to you!

[aimntrev]

You should ask your doctor how long (s)he thinks you should wait. I had a miscarriage mid October, had AF end of Nov. and then again end of Dec. And I got pregnant right after that AF. I have heard of many women getting pregnant before there first AF and nothing being wrong. But I also go to webmd.com and go to trying to conceive after loss and pregnancy after loss. One of the girls had 2 mc's in a row and the doc thinks the 2nd one could have been because her lining was not fully built back up after her miscarriage and D&C. I don't know how true it is though. Ask your doctor what (s)he thinks, and follow your heart. If you feel like your body has recovered go for it and good luck =) Lots of BABY DUST!

[anxietyX5]

Thank you for your comment, and congradulations on your new pregnancy. I am praying for a healthy pregnancy. does anyone have more comments on what they think, or what they have heard?  

[Tia Lucila]

I too have heard that the reason they tell you to wait is that they want you to establish a normal menstrual cycle first.  Once you have a normal cycle they can easily date the age of the baby.  If they can't accurately assign an age to the baby they are worried you are going to freak out with anxiety because of your perception that your baby is underdeveloped.  However, 7 months after I m/c I still did not have a normal cycle.  I conceived anyway, stayed calm, and convinced the doctor for an u/s.  The u/s indicated how old the baby was.  All was fine.    

[empty]

hi there. firstly i am sorry for your loss.  I had a D&C and landed up not trying for 3 months. I did it because my doc said that there is an increased chance of infection for the first few week as your cervix needs to go back into position. I didnt want to take my chances with another medical drama. Also  I simply wasnt ready. Having said that though 6 months after i had my D&C, i had an ectopic so go figure! Good luck whatever you decide.

[Trudy80]

I too am no doctor but have big opinions! lol.  I truly think you should let your body heal.  I had close contact with my gyn and after the 1st cycle he was happy that was was healed enough emotionally and physically to start treatment again to fall pregnant...it still took  another 3months to do so and I question daily if it was my body just holding me back until it truly was ready.  Talk it over with your doctor, see how your first cycle goes...you dont want to be asking the same question again on here or even worse, doubting getting pregnant too early and loosing it again too.  

[tina1111]

I'm sorry for your loss. I mc at 12 wks and had d&c 1/4. I didn't wait for af ttc again. I got a bfp and had hcg checked same day was 55, two days later was 4 or 5. So, I can only assume egg didnt stay implanted. Maybe lining wasnt thick enough. However, everyone is different. There are so many moms-to-be on this forum that conceived after mc & b4 af and are doing great. Good luck, I really hope you get pg soon.

[anxietyX5]

From what I have heard, and everyones suggestions, I think I will wait until my 2nd menstruel cycle to try again. I would rather wait then have the same thing happen to me again. I think that 2 months should be enough time, what do you think?

[chellybeans]

my doctor told me that i could try again as soon as i was ready, that the only reason to wait was to make sure i was emotionally ready and to date. he also told me if i did conceieve before af an ultrasound would date just as well.

good luck to you and i am sorry for your loss

[ohmomma]

I am new here, i have been reading atloe online about miscarriages and decided i would like to see if anyone has experienced anything similar..
I am the mother of three children all healthy uncomplicated pregnancies. So my husband and i we elated to find out we were prego again.  Heart FHT at 10 weeks with doppler, then again at 12 weeks i am a nurse so at ten weeks a friend form work and i found babies herat beat for first time.  then 12 weeks was my doctors appt.  160bpm....sound good we scheduled my first ultrasound for Jan5 2007...I was sooo excited i would be 16weeks and 5 days so we would find out what we were having.  two days before my ultrasound i had a dream that i left the unltrasound crying ad that the doctor kept apoligizing to me....then the day came i went for my ultrasound and immediately new something wasnt right,,,baby only measured at 13 weeks 1 day and his little heart had stopped beating...they admitted me to the hospital and induced labor in order to expel my baby who was no longer alive,  i got to hold my baby he was beautiful.. You could tell he was a boy we named him and said our goodbyes,  i am a firm believer in eternal families but this was still so difficult.  I had no problems at all.  The hardest thing is that everyone around me is pregnant and due at the same time as i was.  my sister and a friend are due actually the weeks after i would have been due.   the doctor told us to wait atleast 3 cycles until we ttc again but i feel like i am ready, losing my child will never get easier but i feel ready now and dont want to wait..scared to not listen to the doctor and lose another little gift....

[anxietyX5]

I would say from the suggestions that I have gotten, to save ourselves from heartache, we should at least wait 1 full cycle to make sure our bodies have fully healed. I would say that 6-8 weeks after a D$C, our bodies should be ready to try again. But before you try, you could have your doctor check everything. I'm sorry for your loss, and best of wishes for getting pregnant again soon.