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worried about being pregnant at 48

hi, I am 48 years old and wound-up pregnant by accident.  I thought I was going through menopause and had unprotected sex.  My life was good until now. Any advice for me?
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Have been trying to conceive since 45. It finally happened at 47. I am 31 weeks. I got pregnant at 47 and will give birth at 48. And I am scared.
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Congratulations, Erinn! You are almost there!  Sending you all the best wishes. You got this!. You will handle whatever comes your way.
congrats! best of luck and hope everything worked put.
Hi Erinn.
Im 48 this year. How are you and your baby?
Many of us here waiting for your happy story about your baby.
I luv kids and thought of having a last baby at this age.
May be you can share your story with us here.
Thank you dear..
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ErrinnLizanne,
How are  you doing ? I am new to this forum. I am also 48 years old and have been trying to get pregnant. I have missed my last period and am so scared to take a prego test! For fear its menopause.
Anyway di Erinn have a successful pregnancy so far?
Please follow up.
I relize your post is from 10/28/15
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Erinn, I would love to hear your updated story! Please let us know how everything turned out? You were 31 weeks pregnant when you posted last in 10/28/15. I may be pregnant too and I'm 48. Looking forward to hearing from you! Thanks!
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Did you wind up being pregnant ?
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Does anyone know what happened to this lady??
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I see that people who haven't been able to conceive, feel like it's a gift to be able to get pregnant. But at 48, there are health risks to both you and the baby. Also, the practical matter of being able to provide for the baby financially, emotionally, and physically can get more and more difficult as you age. Pregnancy is a constant battle between the baby and mother's body, and the baby mostly wins, taking a huge toll on mother's health. So, I completely understand if you are uncomfortable.

What does your partner feel? If you decide to go through with it, is he onboard?

So, you decide what's good for your body and your life. If it's not something you want to go through, do what's right for you. Don't take a decision based on social or any other pressure. I don't mean to sound negative. But, after all its the matter of bringing a life into this world.
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Yeah I feej her pain. I'm in the same p.g. boat! Not ok with this
especially because it could have been prevented buy my husbans was not willing to get the v snip so now I'm paying he price. We have an eight year old and I mc five years go so am afraid I will have to go thru it again!
Not a settling feeling!
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You do realise you've commented on a 7 year old post????
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One thing I haven't seen mentioned here is the risk of birth defects. My wife was 45 when she had my son. He became autistic at the age of 2 and can't even really speak, he can't use the bathroom himself - not smart enough so he wears diapers and is 12 years old. There are no tests that will detect this. My wife's amnio test was fine when she was carrying him in 2002. Think twice before trying this because it can negatively affect everyone's life. You can become crippled financially as well because mywife's sole job has been tasking care of him the past 12years. Living on one income check-to-check. Also my normal teen daughter's life is adversely affected too. Thanks and good luck.
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Hi there

Im in your excact sitution - going through menopause had a one night stand  as been on my own for  donkeys years - No Excuss I know and  now im PG.
Im only 14 days past my period due date and today had  a slight pink discharge which i assume is implantation.
I lost my last set of twins at 42 after  - so  now i am in a debate as to  go ahead  or  not as im also RH0 negitive blood group and this causes problems from day one :(

Also on my own no partner. Work with a contract so would get  some benifits.
Advice anyone
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Happy for you
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its been 7 years.   can you share with us what happened?  thanks
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Be happy hun.some women in their 20's like me have difficultly conceiving or can't at all. It's a blessing and I'm sure you'll be ok health wise and financially. Don't know if you believe in god but he dosent put more on your plate than you can handle. You will be just fine. Congrats and take care.
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James 1:17  "Every good thing bestowed and ever perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation, or shifting shadow."  All babies are a gift from God and if He wants you to have another baby; then age will not be a problem!  Keep praying to the Lord for your miracle baby.  He is listening and up all night waiting to hear from you!  Be strong in the Lord!!!

Your friend in Christ,

Katherine
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Thank you for your thought, I am 47 and want to get  prgenant, as my husband has no children  of his  own and I would love to give him  a child,so thank you  for not making me feel like it is wrong to want a child at 47
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Hi Sarah,
I am 48 also and pregnant! At first I was seriously freaked out. I never thought it could happen to us- AGAIN! (I was pregnant last September and miscarried.) I thought THAT was just a crazy accident, but here I am again. After the initial shock, I decided that if all my testing goes well, and I am able to carry her to term, I will keep my baby. My man was freaked out too, but now he has come around. He  is  scared but excited, like me.  
Make sure YOU are healthy and safe first, and whatever YOU decide, it will be fine.
Good luck!
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I am 48 years old and have been on the pill for 22 years...I skipped 2 weeks without taking the pill waiting for my Dr. appt.  Now I am 2weeks late..Is their any chance I could be pregnant...I's afraid to go take a pregnancy test in case it is postive.
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Amen, Lisa!  I, too, am 48 and have never been successful at becoming pregnant - even after two rounds of IUIs.  After the 2nd month of doing that and it not "taking," I decided it just wasn't mean to be.  Children are miracles from God and I knew if HE wanted me to have children, HE would be the one to give them to me.  I'm thankful sometimes that I don't have any because my husband and I are divorced, and things would have been much more complicated with a child.  BUT I'm in a relationship of almost a year with an amazing man now who, incidentally, was not able to have children either.  He and his ex-wife adopted two infants who are now grown.  I think it would be so cool to have a baby with him since neither of us has been able to; this would indeed be a blessing!  We aren't trying to get pregnant, of course, but if it happened, even at this late stage in our lives, I think we'd both be shocked and happy at the same time.  
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I think its really  great  a new beginning something so very special. embrace your pregnancy
Take care of you !!!!!!
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well i am rita i am german so my rihteng isent all dat i am 48 yhe resen i riht you is we hafe a simeler story my boy frend is 30 i lost my sohn and husbend 5yahrs ago mak my story schort i hat my tups tiht and now i am pregnet not schure i am still in schock
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Thank you so much for that wonderful advise.
God bless you for the good counsel.
Pretty
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Menopause or pregnancy.. getting test to find out.  Age 48, regular menses, just started getting hot flashes but only for a few weeks, and now no period for over 2-1/2 months (beginning 3rd month late), no more hot flashes.  Only 1 other pregnancy at age 42, ectopic, tube removed and other tube was supposed to have tubal ligation at that time ... will keep all informed .. mixed feelings, but would be happy after 24 years of marriage to finally have a child, we have no children and the ectopic was a big loss for us.  Interested in finding out if other 48 year old had successful pregnancy and was there a prior tubal ligation.
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I wholeheartedly agree w/ur comments!  I am on the way to 47 in  a few months and really wanted to have a baby w/my hubby of 4 years.  We already both have kids in their 20's, but it looks like my eggs and progesterone won't cooperate. Only my natural doctor and another lady were wholeheartedly in support of me.  Everyone else seemed "mad" that I would even DESIRE a child at this age.  So I am processing through the acceptance stage. Unfortunately adoption isn't an option because we don't meet all the requirements : (.  I pray your prayers are answered...blessings to you!
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Having a baby is a gift. I only wish I could get pregnant. I know all the risks but if I could get pregnant and have a chance at having a biological child, I would consider it a gift from God. I wouldn't be sad or mad or anything but HAPPY! If you take care of yourself and your baby, I believe you'll be fine. Remember, miracles can happen and with God you can do ALL things...ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE. For those of us who have tried a long time to get pregnant, I for one consider it an insult when I hear someone upset because they have the wonderful opportunity to give the gift of life! Congratulation on being pregnant at 48 or any age. I only hope and wish the same for myself.
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i am 48 years old and want to have a baby but because of my age and the my health issues my doctor wont take the risk and treat me. by the way my health issue is lupus
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Hi i am 48 years old and thinking of havine another baby under ivf this is my second marrage and my husband is an only child and has never had any children of his own ***TERRIFIED*** my daughter 23 is going to donate one of her eggs as i do not ovalate any more we have been threw all the procedures for this, the doctor we are under is fantastic and has been sending me to specialist for my high blood preasure whitch is under  control  now  what do i have to look out for please advice.
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