Potty training

Posted By Joanna on August 23, 1998 at 10:53:51:







My child (son) is 3yrs old.  Will be 4 in April 99-  We have still yet to get him fully potty trained. He will urinate in the potty, and never 'pees' in the bed or his pants.. But the other.. he absolutely refuses to do.. on occasion, if I set there with him long enough, reading books, playing, for 1/2hr or more at times.. he will go.. but he tells me its going to hurt.  he's never had any problem with constipation or anything.  We can set there for 1/2 and nothing, yet 5-10 mins after we get up, he will go hide and go in his pants. I've tried taking him once an hour to see if we can just catch it at the right time, but still he will wait until we get up from the potty and go hide to do it.   Im afraid to punish him for not doing it, or for going in his pants - like some relatives tell me to do.  I dont want to damage him in any way mentally on the idea of goin potty.. Im at a loss as to what to do.  I also know that children do things at different ages.  Any suggestions?