I know most of you don't know my story but it is very similar to tattoommy's. My bf left me around my 3rd month of pregnancy. We had been together for about a year and he lives 3 hours away from me so we only saw each other on weekends. Toward the end of my pregnancy I found out that the girl he had left me for was pregnant as well. She's expecting her baby in April and mine was just born in December. I also found out that he was a married man!! The house I went to visit him at was actually a home his parents owned that he set up like he lived there when he actually lived somewhere else with his wife. Since we dont live in the same town he was able to get away with it for as long as he did. After my baby was born he made me take a paternity test and then still refused to see her. It's been a really long emotional and bittersweet time. I love my baby girl so much but I hate him. I've really managed to get over a lot of my hatred though because of how much I love my baby girl. His family has been very supportive and they want a relationship with my daughter. Well here is the part that got me all worked up again. I found out that he told his family they have to choose between my daughter and the daughter he is expecting in a few weeks with his other woman. How messed up is that. He said its because his gf is uncomfortable with me being around and she's afraid that I'm trying to turn his family against him and she thinks they won't be able to love their baby if I'm around. As much as I hate this guy right now and I hate what he's doing I honestly haven't said anything about him to his family. I actually respect the fact that he is their son/brother and because of the family values I was raised with I absolutely don't believe in turning family members against each other. I haven't even pushed his family in any way to see my baby but she has a right to have a relationship with them if they want that. I'm just so frustrated. I feel like I come so far in getting over my anger and then he pulls something like this and it sets me back again!!! Whew!!' Sorry for the long rant!! I'm just so upset.
Wow lady he's a douche! ( we should start our ownclub lol)
It messed up he's doing stuff like that. Mine is pretty much the same. Just remember he's an ex for a reason and hang his *** in court! Don't give him a chance to slip out on our babe. As for the family give them time. They will wake up from his game soon enough. And they pregnant mistress sqrew her. She needs to get over her insecurities. If she's that uncomfy she shouldn't have spread her legs.
Your gonna be just fine! Were fighters.. were mommy's!
His family is being really cool about it. They told him they choose to love all their grandchildren equally and they will continue to see my daughter. I'm just having a hard time believing that someone could be so cold and heartless. I also can't believe that his girlfriend is feeding into it. I'm sure she has to somewhat know that he's going to do the same thing to her and that's why she's doing this. I just think its crappy. How are things going with your situation?
That's awesome that they stood their ground.
He's just scared I think. And trying to keep you two away from each other so you don't tell her all his games. My ex pretty much did that. But i m the jerk here. Like I said we will make it girlie.
I'm just taking it day by day. Trying not to think of him. His family thinks I'm the ****. So they don't even want to see me or the kids. Better for me I think.
Anyone who doesn't want to see your children doesn't even deserve to see them. That's so messed up. They aren't good enough for them and you're right that its for the best. I feel grateful that his family is behind me. They really do support me and I know it would be a lot worse if they wanted to see my baby but didn't support me. I know how easy it would be for them to turn their heads to how my ex is acting and blame me. I'm truly thankful that they are standing their ground with him.
Thoses guys are going to get karma soo bad and I cant wait !!! But that is really great that the other grandparents are sticking up for u and wanting to be in your babies life that must be a good feeling
I almost want to ask the guys name...sounds like a douche bag I dated when in Cali. I just didn't get pregnant...but one girl did. As for his tail he is sticking by....remember he's manipulative. He has to control het and everyone else around them. He convinced you of himself for awhile....their time tinder through his bull will come too. I applaud his family. All you can do is worry about you an your baby. Let the drama roll....its his way of trying to control everything. The more you react, the more he wins. Get your child support, allow relationships to develop with his family...and just do you. Keep your chin up hon. He's the loser in the end....and will end up alone and miserable.
Thanks ladies. The more he pulls sh&t like this the more ridiculous I think he and his girlfriend are. I can't even take him seriously enough at this point to be all that angry. I just hate that he's treating my precious daughter like this.
Glad you aren't taking it seriously. As Mich as you want the him to man up....can lead a horse to water, just.can't make it drink....you can leave options there, just can't force him to make the right decisions on how to treat your child.
If I wasn't in pain and preggo with twins ID go and show em both a can of whoop ***! ( maybe I should anyway... my hormones would really help with it! Haha) mizz I
Here for ya. Your baby girl will be stronger in the end too. My mother told me for every down there's an up ( or a plus can't remember) your ex will wake up one day. And it will more than likely be when he has lost everything!
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