throwing it out there

Why is there no newborn forum? Why am I having such a hard time with this baby? 1st one is now almost 4 and things weren't too bad but she was the only one so I could eat sleep and do whatever on her schedule , well baby #2 is almost 15 months and she wasn't too hard either as baby #1 still did naps... Baby #3 will be 7 weeks old on Thursday and I can not catch more than 2 hours of sleep a day.. my husband is using the "oh I'm afraid of the new baby" excuse and don't do much of anything for her, I have to beg him to hold her so I can potty , I'm at my witts end with him and ready to call of quits, ontop of no sleep we also have new well newly discovered issues of I say cheating, he says self release, thanks to baby monitors I have caught him on atleast half a dozen times "waxing his board" and twice he has done it while I'm in bed and he thinks I'm sleeping, he don't know that I'm not because he doesn't even try to see if I want to partake in adult activities with him ( I've never no matter how tired or sore.denied him sex) he always apologizes says it won't happen again but it does, he is also looking at a lot of porn, movies , magazines and such which bothers me because I'm not a skinny , shaved, barely legal looking woman, I am a over weight woman with no sleep and extremely emotional ... I was a lot smaller when we met 4 years and three babies ago... I know I'm rambling but 4 hours sleep in 3 days its been nothing but coffee, rockstars, cigarettes babies crying toddlers needing, cooking cleaning, diaper changes, snacks, drinks, preschool and the list goes on... I just needed a lil vent before I file for divorce or end up on wives with knives lol BREATH KAYLEEN BREATH

[tattoomommy03]

Yes please breath Kayleen. Your going to be OK. I'm sorry you're going thru this right now. And they hubby needs to get his head out of his bleep and help. Its not healthy for you to be so run down. I would try to sit down and tell him you need his help and that you can't do this alone. 3 kids is a lot to tackle. If he doesn't want to then see about your mom or other family that will come over and watch them while you crash for a few. Its OK to ask others for help.

I'm divorcing my hubby for being a bleepin cheat and just had a baby with someone else. So I know the feeling with the porn issue. Lay down the law.tel him that filth isn't allowed in the house unless you both watch it together ( if you do ) and only the ones that you both enjoy.not the one with those skinny tramps willing to take it anywhere for their paycheck ... as far as him whacking off I would confront him on that too. Let him know how you feel about it. If it doesn't work kick him to the sofa. Again I'm really sorry you're going.g thru this. Men are bleepin bleep holes!

[tattoomommy03]

Yes please breath Kayleen. Your going to be OK. I'm sorry you're going thru this right now. And they hubby needs to get his head out of his bleep and help. Its not healthy for you to be so run down. I would try to sit down and tell him you need his help and that you can't do this alone. 3 kids is a lot to tackle. If he doesn't want to then see about your mom or other family that will come over and watch them while you crash for a few. Its OK to ask others for help.

I'm divorcing my hubby for being a bleepin cheat and just had a baby with someone else. So I know the feeling with the porn issue. Lay down the law.tel him that filth isn't allowed in the house unless you both watch it together ( if you do ) and only the ones that you both enjoy.not the one with those skinny tramps willing to take it anywhere for their paycheck ... as far as him whacking off I would confront him on that too. Let him know how you feel about it. If it doesn't work kick him to the sofa. Again I'm really sorry you're going.g thru this. Men are bleepin bleep holes!

[Flickan]

I'm sorry your going through all that. Wish I could think of something else to say to help. Anytime you need to vent...we are here.

[katngary143]

Ya I mean all thoses responsibilities are alot to handle all by yourself I mean it takes two to make a baby so your husband needs to def help out more before you have a nervous breakdown...the porn issues is always a sensitive subject and has been broughten up many of times in other forums and It used to drive me crazy I dont like porn I think its degrading but it is there and its something that men will watch but it doesnt mean he loves u less or thinks u r less attractive...he is married to u for a reason but just explain to him that it bothers you and he needs to be more reassuring and pay more attention to u...I told my husband if he does anything like that I dont want to know or see it lol

[tattoomommy03]

I'm weird. I hate porn but there are some out there that I would watch with my ex. Can actually learn a few tricks here and there I guess lol. Bit ya its not OK he's doing that behind your back.

[katngary143]

I mean I think porn is funny I had an xbf that used to watch it all the time so I kinda got used to it and accepted it...I mean the fact that u are catching him in the act wouldn't sit well with anyone obviously he is watching it so he needs to be more vocal about it but the thing is is men are such visuals and horny creatures more so then women and that isnt an excuse but its how they are programmed we can turn off and on if we are in the mood or not guys have their members that point out lol so releasing is something normal and they need to or else it can lead to cancer true story bc one of my xbf had it bc he wouldn't like to masterbate and its not so much the women on the porn its just the sex part idk how to explain and being married making thr bedroom a lil more spicer is much needed to make it interesting not sayung u arent doing that but im learning it as being newly married idk maybe go to a adult shoo that has sexy clothes and shoes and just look around there are actually really funny things in there but maybe that will make u more comfortable with the relationship and with him looking at it u go with my hubby and joke around or look at outfits just come at the situation at a different angle

[Flickan]

I think most of the excuses about men being visual creatures, ext ext ext is bull crap (expecting stars over that word)!!! Kinda embarrassed to admit it...but my husband was a virgin when we got married. He was 36. He never watches porn. Never rubbed one off ever before me. He was raised an extremely strict Christian family. He was raised that porn is a sin and so is stroking Mr happy. So I know for a fact how those excuses are just that...excuses. I'm corrupting him, but he still has limitations. If I say no to sex, then he goes without. Even if I say its ok for him to take care of himself. I made no question that if needbe I can take care of myself and he should be able to. Hasn't happened and was told it never would.

[katngary143]

Well some men arent like your husband and u found a diamond in the rough im just saying what I have learned in college with sexually psychology but most of it depends on the person being secure with themselves and their relationship but yes men do need to release themselves it isnt good

[katngary143]

Ruff*

[Flickan]

I took some of those same classes. I guess my point is if one can, they all can....I wonder if the excuses are really more of what has been passed down generations about men....kinda like that tampon commercial about all the myths that are continuing about it.

[katngary143]

Well just bc one man can doesn't mean all men that is saying that all women can have babies but not all women can I know two totally different situations but same principle meaning everyone has their own opinions about this touchy subject but I really think it does have to do alot with self confidence communication and trust and my own personal story once again my xbf didnt like pornrn or to masterbate and he was endanger for cancer and had enlarged ball sac and had to take medication and even his own doc told him he needs to masterbate lol so after experiencing that with him we remain close but not together when ge was going through that my mind kinda changed I means girls masterbate also and I mean our husband's wouldn't tell us to stop I mean im sure they would want to join but im sure that there are females who watch porn or think about gurls

[katngary143]

Well just bc one man can doesn't mean all men that is saying that all women can have babies but not all women can I know two totally different situations but same principle meaning everyone has their own opinions about this touchy subject but I really think it does have to do alot with self confidence communication and trust and my own personal story once again my xbf didnt like pornrn or to masterbate and he was endanger for cancer and had enlarged ball sac and had to take medication and even his own doc told him he needs to masterbate lol so after experiencing that with him we remain close but not together when ge was going through that my mind kinda changed I means girls masterbate also and I mean our husband's wouldn't tell us to stop I mean im sure they would want to join but im sure that there are females who watch porn or think about gurls

[katngary143]

Well just bc one man can doesn't mean all men that is saying that all women can have babies but not all women can I know two totally different situations but same principle meaning everyone has their own opinions about this touchy subject but I really think it does have to do alot with self confidence communication and trust and my own personal story once again my xbf didnt like pornrn or to masterbate and he was endanger for cancer and had enlarged ball sac and had to take medication and even his own doc told him he needs to masterbate lol so after experiencing that with him we remain close but not together when ge was going through that my mind kinda changed I means girls masterbate also and I mean our husband's wouldn't tell us to stop I mean im sure they would want to join but im sure that there are females who watch porn or think about gurls

[katngary143]

Well just bc one man can doesn't mean all men that is saying that all women can have babies but not all women can I know two totally different situations but same principle meaning everyone has their own opinions about this touchy subject but I really think it does have to do alot with self confidence communication and trust and my own personal story once again my xbf didnt like pornrn or to masterbate and he was endanger for cancer and had enlarged ball sac and had to take medication and even his own doc told him he needs to masterbate lol so after experiencing that with him we remain close but not together when ge was going through that my mind kinda changed I means girls masterbate also and I mean our husband's wouldn't tell us to stop I mean im sure they would want to join but im sure that there are females who watch porn or think about gurls

[katngary143]

Well just bc one man can doesn't mean all men that is saying that all women can have babies but not all women can I know two totally different situations but same principle meaning everyone has their own opinions about this touchy subject but I really think it does have to do alot with self confidence communication and trust and my own personal story once again my xbf didnt like pornrn or to masterbate and he was endanger for cancer and had enlarged ball sac and had to take medication and even his own doc told him he needs to masterbate lol so after experiencing that with him we remain close but not together when ge was going through that my mind kinda changed I means girls masterbate also and I mean our husband's wouldn't tell us to stop I mean im sure they would want to join but im sure that there are females who watch porn or think about gurls

[katngary143]

Omg please erase some of thoses posts I cant figure it out and im using my phone

[tattoomommy03]

My opinion.... men are bleepin dogs! Speaking from experience..im not a Mormon... but man those guys are HOT! Lol ** down hormones!Down!**

[Flickan]

I'm on my phone as well...can't help.

I by no means mean that one so all...there are always exceptions to the rule...but may e looking at it as how much us excuses and or myth based in a male dominated society for so many years.

Sorry...guess I like to over analyze things. :).

[katngary143]

I love it how the person whom posted this post isnt commenting with us but o well lol

[tattoomommy03]

I know... but she is going thru a lot. Just hope she knows were here for her.

[Flickan]

I hope she knows that as well....

[katngary143]

I hope so also bc we r giving her useful advice that would be useful

[3girls0boys]

Thanks for having my back tattoo and flick, sorry I'm not conversating enough Kat but last week I have had rough issues lack of sleep, sick 1 year old , 3 year old jacked my phone and lil bitty was on a feeding binge... I'm doing my best , just had to venta lil ... Ok nap (break) time is over back to work lol

[katngary143]

Its ok no need to apologies well all have our thingd that we r going through I just wanted to make sure that u were getting the advice so we could help u and sometimes my filter to my brain and mouth doesnt work well so don't pay attention alot lol I have good intentions to what I say usually