Through a Rapist's Eyes (No Joke)

Through a Rapist's Eyes (No Joke)

When this was sent to me, I was told to forward it to my lady friends, but I forwarded it to most everyone in my address book.  My men friends have female friends and this Information is too important to miss someone.

Please pass it along and share it with your children.

A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is  hairstyle.  They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed  .  They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair  .  Women with short hair are not common targets.

2) The second thing men look for is clothing.  They will look for  women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly.  Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.

3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse,  or doing other activities while walking because they are off-guard and can be easily overpowered.

4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5: 00a.m.  And 8:30a.m.

5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store parking lots. The number two:office parking lots/garages.  Number three: public restrooms.

6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.

7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.

8) If you  put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands

Keys are NOT a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon.  So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.

10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it?, or make general small talk: 'I can't believe it is so cold out here,' 'We're in for a bad winter.'  Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.

11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP! Or STAY BACK!  Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back.  Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

13)  If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can by  outsmarting them.  If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the Arm (between the elbow and armpit)OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD.  One woman in a class t his guy taught to ld him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches.  Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it - it hurts.

14)  After the initial hit,  always GO for the GROIN.  I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful.  You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble.  Start causing trouble and he's out of there.

15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing dow n on them as possible.  The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

16) Of course the things we always hear still apply.  Always be aware of your surroundings,  take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!

You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

1. Tip from  Tae Kwon Do : The elbow is the strongest po int on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!

2. Learned this from a tourist guide in  New Orleans   :  If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse.  RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy.  The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc, and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc..)  DON'T DO THIS!  The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go.  AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.

[Lonelymom]

a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head  DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car.  Your Air Bag will save you.  If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it.  As soon as the car crashes bail out and run.  It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.

5 A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or parking garage:

A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.

B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door.  Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out.

IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOT  be a vital organ. RU N, preferably in a zigzag pattern!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic:  STOP! &nbs p; It may get you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked 'for help' into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her 'Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.'

The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, 'We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do,DO NOT open the door.'  He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby.  He said they have not verified it, but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're home alone at night.

Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby --- This should be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory was mentioned on America's Most Wanted this past Saturday when they profiled the serial killer in  Louisiana   .

[PrettyKitty1]

Wow, a lot of these things, I didn't know. My cousin (almost my sister) was raped when she was leaving work in the afternoon. She did have a pony tail that day.

It's so sad that these things are seen as common practices mainly in countries like Africa, where women get raped by the police. When they get raped, their families reject them because those women are not worth it anymore, so they get kicked out with absolutely no hope of getting married. Most of them get hospitalized for a very long time as their sexual internal organs get completely mutilated in the act. Where is justice?

[dominosarah]

Thank you.........I will be passing this on to my adult daughters.

[MJIthewriter]

These are good. Thanks for posting. I want to save this for refrence. I've heard of some of these such as throwing your wallet or purse and to break a hole in the tail light, but not some of the other things.

I went to a safety workshop to practice behaviors to look more alert and less like a target.  They said that posture is important. People need to stand up and walk tall, look confident and keep head level.

Also when standing, stand with your feet parallel to your shoulders.  If you put your feet too close together, then you can be knocked over easier.  But spacing them apart a little makes it tougher.

It was also suggested to carry a whistle with you. If anyone gives hassle, to blow it as loud as you can.  It goes with making noise to deter people.

[Lonelymom]

I was shocked when I read it as well. I thought this would be the one place I could warn the most women and hope that men would read and pass on to women friends as well.

I am always aware of my surroundings. I always have been. Someone wants told me "to be aware is to be alive" that saying just kind of stuck in my head.

[Cherie762]

most important thing of all according to John Walsh never ever let someone take you from point A to point B you will be raped and likely murderd...its better to get shot or stabbed and take your chances...dont go like above said crash your car


also if your ever being followed in your car drive to the nearest police station keep doors locked and lay on the horn.

[April2]

All of these are great ideas and I did forward this on to my girlfriends. Just the last part about the babies crying appears to be untrue, according to Snopes. But these are great tips to remember, including what Cherie just said about going to a police station if you think you're being followed.
Also, if an unmarked police car pulls you over and you're a female traveling alone, wait to pull over until you get to a well lit place (You are allowed to do this) with lots of people and activity. Keep your doors locked and call 911 and tell them you've been pulled over by an unmarked police car and would like to check to make sure it's a real police officer. When the police officer approaches the car, just crack the window and politely ask for his badge and explain that you are just checking to make sure everything is safe. Legally, you are allowed to do this. They've gone over this on our news more than once.
We've had several instances of people posing as a police officer and pulling over females to rape them. I'm not kidding. Anybody can buy the flashing light that can be put on a car and get a fake badge. Be careful!!!
I'm passing all this on to my teenage daughter who's just getting ready to get her license. Take care, everyone, and just be careful and use common sense. And trust your instincts!