16 day cycle, etc.; perimenopause; out for the count?

[blingo]

hi, doc, i'm 40 years old.  had a tubal reversal oct 07.  ttc since then, utilizing first vitex (evened and lengthened cycle alright) and later, hearing it can help egg quality, dhea.  admittedly i made myself a guinea pig but then unfortunately hadn't seen ANY women trying dhea stating it caused anovulation.  2nd month of dhea i had a 40 day, day 28 ovulation, cycle.  this was WAY off for me.  next two months have been anovulatory, complete with almost irritating, alternating ewcm -even when flow started.  nausea and sore nipples as well.  none of these are even minutely typical for me.  last two cycles were not as long as that one.  ceased dhea first anovulatory cycle.  started vitex again this cycle, aug 1, and NOW my temps during the follicular phase are higher than ANY in last 3 cycles (98.23 pretty much last week).  what is going on??  could i just be out of eggs?!  barring that, will i ovulate in the near future?  why is my temp consistently high NOW when even during the luteal phase they wouldn't reach 98 consistently (they used to during luteal, of course)?  vitex didn't cause this when i took it before.  i'm at my wits end as at 40 1/2, with no insurance coverage for fertility (ivf is OUT of the question), i really desire a child with current dh.  also, why would the clinics in new york allow women to believe DHEA is so helpful if it can potentially be disastrous?!!!  lol.. .kidding... i know you can't answer that.  


**edit, aug 15 08.  I’m cd 15.  this morning I had cramping!!!  I’ve had nausea for two days.  It’s like that one time I had a 19 day cycle.  Angry, I told Steve’s we’d missed ovulation, thank you very much, since we’ve been snippy and obviously BD is not happening.  This morning my temp is about the same.  But he decided we should try to get it on and it hurt.  I don’t know if it’s the infection or what.  After, despite the fact he couldn’t finish, I had a spot or two of blood.  Very minute.  It must be the False Unicorn – maybe as well as tightening up the uterus, maybe the cervix is irritated.  Maybe the infection.  Whatever…. It wasn’t pleasant.  I got in the mood and all but it did hurt, tightness and kinda burning on the lower bottom.  Weird.  I thought the infection had pretty much changed or cleared up.  Maybe the ACV is changing my chemistry so much…. I dunno.  The other 19 day cycle was just like this except a) I wasn’t on Vitex and b) I still had tied tubes.  So I’m definitely not pregnant, we know that.  And I’m not ovulating.  My temps were everywhere but now are HIGH for this stage.   I think I’m a classic case of perimenopause.  Sniff, sniff.. right?  

Did some research:  LOSING ESTROGEN – PERIMENOPAUSE - SYMPTOMS
• Hair falling out more
• Nausea
• High temps follicular
• Weepy today; mood changes; irritability
• Also symptoms of hypothyroid but I think my thyroid is fine?
• Vitex not kicked in yet?
• Out of eggs?  No ovulation
• Why periods despite no ovulation?  Why one very light and one not?  
• Total fogginess – forgot exit and was on wrong highway!!!!   For 15 mins!


CD 16 – spotting, cramping again; assume this is it for this month.  16 day cycle.  Can I be out of eggs completely?  (I mean, quality eggs?  Or eggs period, I suppose).

[blingo]

sorry, this above was mostly to myself.  i was editing for doc question.  in any case, oops!  it's all wrong.... and messy.. and personal!  please ignore TMI and hope it makes sense!  wish we had an edit or delete option - i think it's terrible we can't fix things.  haa....

[peggy64]

WHEWWW>>that is TMI !! you must have really been stressing when you posted that.

Hope you are feeling more calm now....

[A_Muse4u]

Wow!  What an adventure . . . talk about being on a roller-coaster ride!  This one takes the cake!  No hard feelings.  I pray I never get that weirded-out!  I'm weiRd enough . . . already.  LOL