My mother went through menopause about 5 years ago, and while we knew that there would be symptoms, my family and I were not prepared for the severity of the onslaught. But I'm beginning to wonder if there is more going on than just menopause. There were hardly any physical symptoms. No weight gain or night sweats. But my mum's anxiety is overwhelming. Its very difficult to get her to leave the house, and when she does, she insists on being home before dark. She almost never goes out with her friends anymore (those that she still has). Her wild scenarios of what could possibly happen are becoming legendary amongst friends and family, and I can't even begin to enumerate the various ways I could die that she comes up with. My "favorite" was a bus accident that killed several people. I don't even take the bus, but she called me every day, harassing me about not going to work--that I should take vacation time because I might die in a bus accident. She's completely paranoid. One of the reasons she refuses to leave the house is that she's convinced the neighbors will do something to it while she's gone. We have perfectly respectable, non-vandalizing neighbors. When she is away, she obsesses about what the neighbors "might" be doing while she's gone. She's convinved that the family/the world is conspiring against her. She came up with a scenario not long ago featuring my brother and the garage door opener. He moved out to his own place, but still had the opener in his car. She was absolutely convinced that someone would break into his car, steal the opener, steal his car registration, and then drive over an hour just to use the opener to break into their house. She called me everyday to worry about this, until he returned the opener. I think the worst is the verbal abuse that has cropped up. No matter how old you are, no one wants to be called fat, unattractive, a failure and worthless. When we call her on her comments, she sulks and retreats into the "everyone is against me" mentality. I really wish I were exaggerating about this behavior but I'm not. My father has tried to talk to their doctor, but he just claims its the result of menopause. Is it really? I am begging you ladies out there who have experienced the "change in life" to share your wisdom. My father and brother have put this on me, and I don't have any aunts or living grandmothers to ask whether this is normal behavior or something more serious. I'm truly a desperate daughter.