Is this a perimenipausal symptom?

[HELP0316]

I'm 44 years old and have been dealing with menipausal symptoms for a few years.  Over the past year I have been becoming more and more anxious.  Most of my anxiety seems to involve my husband.  Sometimes I have feelings of disgust and hatred.  I love him very much, so these feelings are very confusing to me.  These feelings usually last for a few days and are then gone, but, of course, by then we are usually fighting because of how I have acted.  The things that bug me are things that have always bothered me,  but they seem to get overwhelmingly huge.  I can see or think of nothing else during these few days.  I'm really struggling.  Please help.

[bioidenticalbob]

Menopause is a time of significant hormonal changes, and these changes, typically occurring in women between the ages of 45 and 55.

More than 50% of women experience mood swings as they approach menopause.

During menopause, women commonly experience mood swings because their hormones, which regulate mood and emotions, are thrown off balance.

These constantly fluctuating levels of estrogen, progesterone, and androgens have a definite effect on your mental state.

There are a few simple things that you can do to help yourself feel more in control.

First, you need to recognize the intense emotion as a mood swing. Just knowing that you are not crazy and that there is a reason for your emotions can help you feel much more in command of your body. Recognizing situations of stress and finding a way to put them on hold for a while can also maximize your control.

Exercise and diet can also go a long way to helping control mood swings. Exercising 20 minutes a day, three times a week can help you to focus your energy and forget your emotions for a little while.

Eating right can boost serotonin levels in your brain, helping you to feel more upbeat and energized. Healthy foods that have complex carbohydrates like peas and beans help raise serotonin levels. Eating small meals and a number of snacks throughout the day can also give you the energy you need to deal with fluctuating emotions.

Some natural solutions include yoga, meditation, massage, and acupuncture. These activities can provide stress relief and give you time for personal reflection.

Herbal supplements like black cohosh have also been proven to help balance moods.

Also, 20 minutes of sun exposure every day can also lighten your mood.

http://www.bhrt-resource.com/natural-help-with-menopause.html

[LisaH1960]

YES! The anxiety and ANGER are very common menopausal symptoms! The crazy part is that it doesn’t even have to make sense. For me, little naggy things that I used to just brush aside can turn into major drama events. One minute I’d be fine, then attacking like a badger, then half the time I’d wind up sobbing. Sometimes I knew very well that I was being unreasonable, but I just couldn’t seem to help myself.

It doesn’t seem right, but those closest to us are usually the ones who catch the most heat, probably because we trust and feel comfortable around them. Sounds crazy, but that’s just the way it is.

For me, the anxiety, moods swings and rage were at their worst at about the same time when my hot flashes were at their worst. I don’t know whether that’s common, but that was my experience. Thankfully, things have been a lot better lately.

Do a bit of reading on the emotional effects that menopause can have on us, and maybe share some of that with your husband. It may not solve everything, but at least it will help you both to understand that it’s all hormonal, and NOT some huge personality flaw.

Try not to be too hard on yourself!

Lisa