Menomania

At this moment in my life I hate my husband.  When he asks me why I hate him I give him some valid concerns but they are not so bad that they should cause our marriage to end.  My menopause started a couple of years ago w/ night sweats and has now become a full-fledged obsession.  I am constantly depressed, tired, angry, and everything else that could possible happen.  I am also a control freak and the worst thing about my menopause is that I never know when it is going to hit me again.  My husband is on the verge of leaving me because he doesn't understand what has happened to me.  What should/can I do?

[Machelle Seibel, MD]

It sounds like your life has become very challenging and your relationship with  your husband has gotten very bad. Whether or not your husband is the cause of your feelings can't be determined from what you have written, but what is clear is that you are suffering a lot with your relationship with him and with yourself.

The best thing you can do is make two appointments. One with your doctor to see if there is some medical problem that is making you feel bad. The second is with a mental health provider to help you through this difficult time. While menopause might be contributing to how you are feeling, it might also just be amplifying something else that has to be treated in order for you to feel good again.
Machelle M. Seibel, MD