Vaginal Changes post hysterectomy

My sexual partner insists I am having an affair becuase he feels changes in my vagina, as if I were sexually active with someone who had a larger penis and possibly stretched me out.  Is it possible that if I don't take my HRT daily, diet, exercise, length of time since surgery could have a result in this?  Is it possible that if we tried something crazy like "fisting" that it could result in a permanent stretch factor?  I am going crazy trying to figure this out.

[Machelle Seibel, MD]

The vagina is able to stretch quite a lot. It lets a baby pass through it and also is able to fit snugly around a penis. Fisting could stretch the tissue temporarily, but it is really not possible for a man to tell if another man has had sex with a woman by the way her vagina feels around his penis.

It might be helpful to ask him why he feels this way, if he is worried that you might see other partners, or if there are other issues going on in your relationship. It might also be helpful to talk together with a mental health person or counselor who could help understand if there are other issues leading to this concern.
Machelle M. Seibel, MD