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? about male libido nose dive

I am a male in my early 20s.  I have a girlfriend I've been with for almost 3 years and we have had sex almost every day for most of our relationship.  But these last couple of months, I just haven't been interested.  We still do it sometimes because I know she wants to, but even then I have been finding it harder to perform.  I just don't know why I've lost interest when I used to be so horny all the time.  Some facts that may be helpful:

Neither of us have really changed appearance lately.
We're both in decent shape and neither of us are at all over-weight.
I recently started working out a lot three times a week.
I've cut a lot of sweets and fats out of my diet.

Could it just be that I'm getting older?  I find it hard for that to be the reason since it is such a drastic change in such a short amount of time.  Any input is greatly appreciated.
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Every body gets a "lean period" in their sexual activity.Taking it lightly and some break may restore the libido.
Kegel Exercises are good for male and female. It may be used as a for play also if the female coperates.
Massaging perinium(muscle between anus and scrotum) in a rotatry fashion may also add zest in sexual activity.
Do not resort to Pills and porno.
Other methods on can apply:
Compress scrotum: Take the whole content of the scrotum in your hand(palm) and compress and release.One compression per second. Do iit 25 times.For female put the palm on vaina and compress and release.that too also 25 times. These are harmless and effective exercises.
Use of G band in vagina i is rarely discussed. this is very erotic for woman as well as men.After pumping wheb you want to rest withdraw your penis keeping the head of your penis inside the vagina.This will be approximately half an inch inside vagina where there is a G band.She can automatically grip the neck of the head of the penis.It thrills you as well as her. Idea is to bring some healthy novelty in the act.
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You should definitely wear protection when you do mixed martial arts to avoid any injuries that could be permanent.  Also, you may be getting such a punishing workout that your body is at least somewhat depleted when it comes time for sex.  You are in your early 20s, so it is way too early for any normal declines.  Do you have any fetishes or interests that you could work into your sexual relations to change things up a bit?  Some men are into breasts and do things with those, while others are into butts and do analingus or anal intercourse, and so on.  It might help to have sex every two or three days instead of every day to put more tension and anticipation back into it, so you don't know it's coming, so it's not just something you do automatically every day.  
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I wouldn't say that it's mechanical, but I guess we have been doing the same thing a lot.  We always do a lot of foreplay but even that has developed its own pattern.  Maybe I should try to vary it up somehow.

Another thing that I left out is that my work out involves mixed martial arts.  So I certainly take a punishing and often have at least a few bruises on my body.  Or maybe wearing a cup is doing something?

We both really enjoy the sex that we do have.  I just wish there was a way that I could be able to have more of it like I did less than 6 months ago. (without taking pills)
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How are you two doing with the foreplay?  Has sex become mostly mechanical or do you show the love between the two of you?  Sexual relations are most vibrant when love and emotions are flowing combined with a hefty amount of foreplay leading up to the actual sex act.  Quite often the foreplay is more interesting than the "main event", as there is no performance involved, but just showing interest and helping the other person become turned on along with yourself is quite a feeling.  If you've otherwise fallen into some patterns, you might want to throw some variety into the mix.
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