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22 with porn induced erectile dysfunction?

The first two times I tried to have sex I couldn't get an erection at all, one time was sober one drunk. Then the next girl was kind of a 3-night stand over a weekend with the only improvement being getting a half-erection and penetrating momentarily before it was too flaccid to go on.

Now, I've met the woman of my dreams, definite soul-mate and drop dead gorgeous...I ended up telling her about my past failures in intercourse and she joked it would happen with us but I was sure it wouldn't because theres a real connection with this girl, unlike the other two. And she's beautiful too, out of my league even...But sure enough the other night it was time and of course I couldn't get an erection...

I managed to get a decent halfer at first when the clothes started coming off and she grabbed around, but then it just wimped out and went away...

I've looked at internet porn since I was 12, now I'm 22, There have been times where the internet porn addiction got kind of bad, but it always mellowed out to calmer more normal routines, but always frequent. Sometimes I'd masturbate daily, multiple times daily, but then other times I'd go for a few days or so without any porn or masturbation.

Either way this girl is really cool and understanding and we talk about it openly with next to no embarrassment on my part anymore, I was going to see a doctor but then we decided it might be porn induced or psychological, and after that night I've written off all porn and I'm not masturbating again for a while.

My question I guess is was this enough for any of you? What was your porn addiction like in level of seriousness/frequency?

I'm hoping just abstaining from any kind of porn or sexual release for a while and only allowing myself to get off with her will work...If not I'll be crazy bummed...but I guess I'd go to a doctor...I'm just hoping porn has Temporarily (hopefully very temporarily) given me this problem and its on its way out very soon.

Any help or anything at all is appreciated, its kind of hard to talk about this stuff openly with your friends or "the dudes" and my girlfriend isn't knowledgeable or experienced in this...
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hi, i'm posting this as a self confession, i suppose we all have to tell someone at some time to aid the process.

i'm 45 years old married, i've been in to masturbation from an early age, but it was always with soft porn and getting the odd peek up a girls skirt, that is until the dreaded internet made it so easy to look at very hard core porn, like many on here i've had to find more a more extreme things to get me off. as my marriage isnt really ever been based around sex i used the porn to fill a gap. however i've now met another lady who really wants me like ive never been wanted before. so im sort of trying to cure myself before i make a hash of making out with this new lady. now ur probably saying how do i know i have a problem, ive noticed a few things of late, went to a lap dancing club before xmas and although i was aroused the old man had different ideas, i have tried to have sex with my wife but again i can only get hard and orgasm if she hand jobs me... she puts it down to my age. this new lady invited me round to hers the other night, as i had watched porn twice that very morning again all the old man wanted to do was sleep. arrrrrrrrrrr so i've made my mind up i want to have proper relationships with actual women not pornstars .......

so as of friday i'm staying away from porn driven masturbation....hopefully this will help me start to feel real feelings instead of impossible situations that wud never be......

gud luck everyone

sid james
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Hey guys, I'm back after 2 years of posting that I cured myself.
Guess what, you can fall back into the same thing.
I had stopped watching porn for 3 months and mentally trying to get off on only my girlfriend during that time. This pretty much cured me, but it did take 3 months and lots of will power.
After being able to have sex with my girlfriend for about a year, I told myself I could watch porn again and be unaffected. Slowly, over the years our sex became worse.
My GF of 4 years has now separated from me, no doubt because of this problem as a root, among other things.

DO NOT get cocky[haha] after being successful a few times. Stay away from the porn and live a normal, healthy life. I've abstained from porn over a month now, and hope to recover my normal sexual self, and my girlfriend.


In conclusion: Self inflicted ED is definitely curable, it just takes time and willpower. After curing yourself, it's also possible to fall back into disastrous habits.
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go where?
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It happens to the best of us. I had a one night stand with this gorgeous woman and I got it up for a minute. I think it was the mental block from using a condom. But then it happened when I didn't. Too much porn and not enough confidence. That fear of not performing makes you not perform. After you get thru that .... Then you can knock her boots . I know it's been 4 yeas since this thread started but still the issue comes up time to time. Less porn and build up ego. That's the answer.
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I really like this forum, so I am gonna tell my last progress.
In April I managed to make 8 weeks of rebooting and my situation was really good. My mental and phisical health were amazing.
But In August I started watching porn and masturbating again.
Nowadays the situation is so bad that I masturbate 3 a day with porn.
That is why I am gonna make a 10 Weeks stop in order to cure this problem.
I will put here my progresses.
Regards
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@jamesmoon...That's a helluva rat trap but seriously, what's wrong with you? Spell casting?! Lay off that shi.

@wickedsquirrel: With manual orgasms too much pressure is put on the penis, which would make vaginal intercourse not as pleasurable for you (in the long run) and thus weaken erections. As for oral....go for it! She can warm you up that way. If you get hardons from oral, then move on to vaginal. As for the one-month abstinence from sex...I don't see the point. You don't have to put your penis in her but you can stimulate her with mouth, fingers and toys, and make her satisfied anyway (if she has the need). And she can service you too. If during petting you feel the urge to put it in her, and everything works like a charm - you're cured!
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