Aa
A
A
Close
Avatar universal
22 with porn induced erectile dysfunction?
The first two times I tried to have sex I couldn't get an erection at all, one time was sober one drunk. Then the next girl was kind of a 3-night stand over a weekend with the only improvement being getting a half-erection and penetrating momentarily before it was too flaccid to go on.

Now, I've met the woman of my dreams, definite soul-mate and drop dead gorgeous...I ended up telling her about my past failures in intercourse and she joked it would happen with us but I was sure it wouldn't because theres a real connection with this girl, unlike the other two. And she's beautiful too, out of my league even...But sure enough the other night it was time and of course I couldn't get an erection...

I managed to get a decent halfer at first when the clothes started coming off and she grabbed around, but then it just wimped out and went away...

I've looked at internet porn since I was 12, now I'm 22, There have been times where the internet porn addiction got kind of bad, but it always mellowed out to calmer more normal routines, but always frequent. Sometimes I'd masturbate daily, multiple times daily, but then other times I'd go for a few days or so without any porn or masturbation.

Either way this girl is really cool and understanding and we talk about it openly with next to no embarrassment on my part anymore, I was going to see a doctor but then we decided it might be porn induced or psychological, and after that night I've written off all porn and I'm not masturbating again for a while.

My question I guess is was this enough for any of you? What was your porn addiction like in level of seriousness/frequency?

I'm hoping just abstaining from any kind of porn or sexual release for a while and only allowing myself to get off with her will work...If not I'll be crazy bummed...but I guess I'd go to a doctor...I'm just hoping porn has Temporarily (hopefully very temporarily) given me this problem and its on its way out very soon.

Any help or anything at all is appreciated, its kind of hard to talk about this stuff openly with your friends or "the dudes" and my girlfriend isn't knowledgeable or experienced in this...
Discussion is closed
Cancel
453 Answers
Page 2 of 23
Avatar universal
I've been looking at porn since I was 9. I'm 21 now. Its only during the last year, once I started to get seriously sexually active that I realized I had an ED problem.

After going through the requisite freaking out about how I was too young to have ED and embarrassment when I couldn't just pop up and go the way guys my age are supposed to be able to, I began to suspect there was some connection to porn. I have no problems when watching porn, but I'm dead when it comes to me being with my girl friend. And I love her.

It is scary how little awareness there is on the net that ED caused by too much porn is a very real problem. It's not about us lacking confidence, or being uneasy around our lovers, I truly believe its all about desensitization. Although my heart and soul are in my lover, she just can't physically arouse me. She can't compete, no girl can ever compete, with the endless sexual visual fiction porn offers.

So, after reading through a lot of similar stories on medhelp, i've decided to give up porn and hope that my penis starts functioning normally, with the girl I love, and not with meaningless fantasies online.

BananaJoe, your story is truly a source of faith for me that my problems can be worked out. It's been 3 days since I've been off porn, and will be visiting my girlfriend at her home in Colorado in three weeks. I hope years and years of visual desensitization and addiction aren't going to destroy my chance to ever have a normal sex life.


Ps - I think we really owe a round of thanks to the wonderful women in our lives who have stood by us while we face our worst fears and wrangle with this debilitating embarrassment. I hope for all of you to have a supportive girl in your life as I do.
Discussion is closed
Cancel
Comment
Avatar universal
yeah same thing happened to me...

laid off the porn for 2 days and it solved the problem...

but porn was never really the problem...it was HOW i jerked off to porn...

you have to learn to jerk off with less and less use of ur hands, more control of ur mental stimulation and more use of ur imagination...

if you think about it porn and sex are practically the same thing...
but when u jerk off to porn ur hand is doing all the work, and in sex ur penis has to do the work...

if you want to stop porn, u can stop, but dont stop masturbating...
u have to learn to masturbate using ur imagination and as little help from your hands as possible...

DO NOT STOP THINKING ABOUT SEX....the aim is to get hornier...
practice makes perfect...

its like learning to ride a bike...first u had training wheels (when u used ur own hands and watched porn) now u should take the training wheels off and if u keep falling down u keep trying again(but WITHOUT the training wheels)

in the meantime to satisfy ur girlfriends there are stuff u can do for them that can make up for ur erectile dysfunction...and who knows maybe when u do that stuff u'll get so horny ur penis will want to join in on the fun...

u'll get it...everyone does eventually...no one has a penis that just "doesn't work"...and i dont care if u've been watching porn for 100years, ur not gonna be sexually retarded for life...as long as UR HAND can do it, YOU CAN do it too...
Discussion is closed
Cancel
Comment
Avatar universal
Thank you all!!

I've been in a total desperation and depression for almost a year!! From when I failed in a real situation.

Now I know the cause of my problems for sure!

-Jerking off for a long time (>4 years)
-Watching dirtier and dirtier porn to get it up (starting with pictures of girls)
-Hitting the old man harder and harder in a crazy, non natural way

All this applies to me!

I've even visited two urologists who both said I was totally healthy. I did not belive them. There had to be something wrong physically! Now, I know they were right!

I hope I heal soon!

Discussion is closed
Cancel
Comment
Avatar universal
Hi MrGeekhead,

I'm sure within 1-2 weeks your body will relearn normal sexual response if you see a hot girl. It will take some willpower, but its definitely worth it!

Wish you the best,
Banana
Discussion is closed
Cancel
Comment
Avatar universal
Thanks man! You cheer me up.

I will report my progress.

I'm 25 BTW.
Discussion is closed
Cancel
Comment
Avatar universal
I been masturbatin to porn since i was 12 im 21 also just like all these stories i read, ive also been in and out of jail ive done 2 years. 2 weeks here, 3 months there, 6 months here, on and off.  I just recently caught herpes from eating a couple girls out on their periods.  sso it makes some people stupid you dont use your whole brain it intoxicates your brain this stuff is ok as long as you plan on living in a place for intoxicated brains. a porno world! My advice is to try stopping jerking off to porn. Its not going to work if youve been doing it as long as me or mowdabyke.  But try if it dont work dont keep trying and shooting yourself for it. Just put yourself somewheres that you cant have it like a psych ward. or 6 feet under. Or you could always find a girlfriend who supports you , i dont think thats very practical though u need lots of people who support you not just one girl (maybe being homeless for a while is the answer)

My problem is i wake up in the morning so depressed im not with a hott girl that i have to masturbate to porn 1st thing in the morning! Or I just go back to sleep because I know that after I Jerk off I won't get anything done that day, Ill end up more and more depressed I need help Im close to going back to prison or being homeless because its gotten me to a point where i Don't care about anything.  My penis is very small because of this addiction there is no way out its hopeless drugs porn and death i should write a book! I think building a treehouse and cutting all ties and living out in the woods is a good idea!
Discussion is closed
Cancel
Comment
Avatar universal
I am 24 and I've been having low sex drive for about 18 months now. Im still unsure if this has been caused by a drug for hair loss called Propecia (finasteride), because lowered sex drive is a side effect of this drug. However, I stopped propecia 18 months ago, and my sex drive is still worse than ever.

After seeing a bunch of doctors and doing blood tests, all doctors have said I am healthy and that this is psychological. Before my sex drive disappeared, I was the horniest person on earth. I was masturbating at least twice a day, and having sex with women was never a problem.

I never preferred porn to real sex, but I would spend hours everyday watching porn. Even then I could ejaculate and have sex multiple times a day. I've been watching porn since I was like 12.

However, I noticed I started having erectile problems and low sex drive when having sex with my girlfriend at that time back in summer 2007. I immediately blamed the propecia drug, but doctors couldnt find anything hormonally or physically wrong.

Since then, I have found many claims that porn can desensitize you. Although porn had never affected my sex drive and performance with real women for all my life, I noticed I was watching increasingly graphic porn to get aroused. They call this "escalation" for porn addicts. I never once thought that too much porn could be unhealthy or lower my threshold for becoming aroused until I read all these stories of porn overuse.

Im still unsure whether the Propecia drug has affected me, but I have completely cut out porn from my life (stopped watching 2 weeks ago).

I feel like one clue that my problem may be physical is that since I lost my sex drive, I have also lost my normal morning erections (I used to get morning erections everyday of my life until June 2007 when my sex drive disappeared). Every guy is different when it comes to morning erections, but I know I personally used to get one everyday until this started happening.

So, my question for you guys is this: when you started noticing sexual dysfunction, did you notice any loss in your morning erections?
Discussion is closed
Cancel
Comment
Avatar universal
To Bananna Joe and IWasNeverHere,
You 2 are totally right AND Inspired me ! Seriously. I had the same issue. Had no problems getting hard off porn but when it came to sex with a woman I would go limp after a few minutes. 1. Masturbating to porn everyday for several years is part of the problem. 2. Like Iwasneverhere said , Its not just watching porn its HOW you masturbate. The grip of your fingers wrapped tight is much more intense then having a condom on and sliding in and out a nice soft Vagina. Over years of masturbation I became acustom to my hands and the Soft vagina just wasnt doing it for me.  I orginally stopped masturbation for a week. After just a few days I was getting spontaneous erections again. When I do masturbate I try to keep it down to once a day and use as little pressure from my hands as I can so I dont train my Penis into its old ways. Yesterday I had my 1st orgasm/longtime errection in a woman with condom since ... 5-6 months. So to all those readers out there down get down on yourself like I did. Just quit the porn and masturbation for a couple weeks. And if you do make it short and sweet. Dont masturbate with an erection to porn for over 5-10 Min or it may effect you like ifeffected me!  - GL to all of you and God speed!
Discussion is closed
Cancel
Comment
Avatar universal
I'm having exactly the same problem and it happened to me tonight. I met a girl in the park i talk to her and everything was alright she was good looking but i wasnt feeling her but like i said she was good looking its just that i'm picky but everything was so smooth that she invited me to her house so i said ok and it was my first time that i was about to have sex. So when we were on her bed i said to my self that like most guys who's having sex for the first time i will probably ejaculate prematuraly but after that i will be ok. And when she start giving me a ******** i just couldn't get an erection so i had to tell her that i was just too nervous but i know it wasn't that cause i wasn't scare or anything it just i saw her breast and since i wasn't into her at the begining it was probably that. But then i start thinking maybe it's all the porn that i watch since i'm 13 now i'm 22 and i always watch nice girls with huge breast and she wasn't like those girls so i really think it's that. The funny part it's that i almost ask her if she had some porn so i can get hard. After reading all your comments i do think it's also the way i mastubate so now i will lay off this "gift and curse" that we call porn for a while and try to be in love with every kind of girl big or slim breast or no breast pretty or ugly blond hair or black hair. I'll try this method and try to get with a girl and i will give news to say if it worked
Discussion is closed
Cancel
Comment
Avatar universal
After reading posts like these I finally decided about a month ago that i would give up porn once and for all.... TOTALLY... I'm thinkin that watchin porn when u have a girl around that loves u loads is like cheating on her.... so i went off it totally and i've been off it for over a month....I really love my new girlfriend ....and she really loves me.... conversation on the phone at night (Nothing erotic) keeps me away from the porn i'd have been watchin at that hour.... bein with her is so much fun!!!!

So I wanted to give her birthday sex but in the middle of foreplay it went limp once again.... and I bust out the fingers to finish the business! It's gonna get lame soon.... I know.... why can't I get it up even though I went off the porn???!?!  I masturbated 2 days ago after a break of over a month without porn  and i used my imagination after a really REALLY long time.... it felt great.... but my erection was so half -assed!  It kept fallin flat when left unstimulated for more than 5 seconds.... but I climaxed and climaxed good.... with her on my mind... that's good right???

Also, what's worse is that I have almost totally stopped gettin random erections during the day since I stopped watching porn and masturbating frequently.... my penis feels kind of lifeless... i can feel it... and Since 2 weeks ago or so the morning erections have stopped too.... i wake up with a flacid penis and feel SOOOOOO frustrated that i try massaging it juss to see it get up.... even after the massage it's not fully up n falls flat in a couple of seconds.... the head and the front area are quite hard but the bottom of the shaft is really weak....this never used to happen.... I ALWAYS used to wake up with wood.... so much so that if i was sleepin in the same room as some other person I'd have to wait it out before I get out of bed.... what the hell is happening????  Is it some sort of withdrawal symptom???  Has this happened to anyone else?  Does anyone know how to put life back in it???  Suppelements, etc? .... I'm only 24, I don't smoke, I drink only one night or 2 nights a week, I work out 2-3 times a day and ride a bicycle at least 4 KMs a day.... pretty briskly too.... I think I'm in top shape but I haven't had my blood tested for the usual levels in a long time.... Please help me.... I have a girlfriend that I really love and i really don't wanna disappoint her....

Discussion is closed
Cancel
Comment
Avatar universal
Well I'm older than you guys 48 and I am diabetic..
But I have been a stud all my life...not a big **** but rock hard and after it everyday. I either had sex or masterbated everyday since I was 14...
Even when I was 40 I'd have a woody so hard I couldn't pee in the toilet..I'd have to count backwards from 100 till it went down.
Then I got a laptop..watching porn everyday masterbating one or twice a day...then one day I went limp on my sexy wife...then again....due to work we spent 6 months apart lots of porn...now I get hardly any night woodies and when I masterbate my **** is half limp...or less..without viagra I doubt I could get it up with my wife...
I know diabetes causes ed..but I am in shape lift, run, and have no other problems...My balls are used to cumming everyday...but the **** is limp...I am addicted to porn...I now believe the combination of porn and overmasterbation has caused this rather than diabetes...I have only been able to cut back to 5 times a weeks..no improvement...I have decided after reading this thread i am not alone...Has anyone found any success in quiting porn and getting it back? Banana Joe more info...I am going to quit porn and try to cut back to once a week see what happens.Help!  Has anyone beat this!
Discussion is closed
Cancel
Comment
Avatar universal
I'm totally desensitized by porn. I use to masterbate for hours and not *** to try to go longer during sex. Now I can't seem to get it up when with a real girl. But I can masterbate to porn and get a super hard erection anytime. I even *** pretty fast.
When I'm with a girl, I can't seem to get enough stimulation to *** from oral and my penis doesn't seem to stay hard long enough to satisfy.
I am sure that I have watched to much porn and have decided to stop. I will also take viagra in small amounts daily to help boost my confidence. Also will stop smoking and drinking. I will also masterbate using no visual aid and using a little pressure as possible from my hand with lots of lube...although it may take me forever to *** if at all.
After doing this a for so long, I will report back and let you guys know if there is hope. If i don't have any good news after making all these changes, that will totally suck
Discussion is closed
Cancel
Comment
Avatar universal
Hi! I hope that your strategy give you some positive effects!!! I'm in the same boat. Normal intercourse don't excite me so much + lack of penile pleasure and ed :( , this is really terrifying... We're all waiting for results!!! / (sorry for my english)
Discussion is closed
Cancel
Comment
Avatar universal
Hi i have like lets say the same problem. Im 32 male and watch porn everyday and maturbate as well. My wife is not very good in sex but i always use to have a good erection. About three weeks ago i had a one night stand with a lady and was very nice u since then i am having a problem having a hard one when i try and have sex with my wife. Can anybody help pls>
Discussion is closed
Cancel
Comment
Avatar universal
Im assuming that since you had sex with another woman outside of your marriage (which must have been better for you) your interest in sex with your wife has gone down hill. I used to have ED problems and the things I noticed that made a difference were
1. new girl
2. staying away from porn for a few day before sex
3. THINKING ABOUT THE THINGS THAT TURN YOU ON ABOUT THE PERSON YOU ARE LOOKING TO HAVE SEX WITH
4. Masturbating on the phone with the girl on the other line
5. feeling confident that I can have sex with anyone and that I can do it well
6. Opening the condom and placing it on the table beside the bed until you are completely turned on
7. Getting head before actual intercourse
Those are the major changes I made. It took me 3 different girls and 1 year to get through this. I know what yall are going through but I know that more than likely it will go away in time. Be confident in yourself. Try some of the steps especially staying away from porn for a few days before sex. I think I stopped for 3 or 4 days before my first time and made the girl I wanted to have sex with my porn.

good luck
Discussion is closed
Cancel
Comment
Avatar universal
Also try and reduce the amount of stress you're under, get enough sleep and definitely take multi vitamins from all the stuff you lost from masturbating. By the time I was able to get things working for me I was done with finals and summer had just started. I was getting alot of sleep and chillin. Make sure you feel really comfortable with the girl too. The first time I met the girl I was able to have sex with she took me to victoria's secret and told me to pick something out for her.

And when you do try DO NOT GIVE UP!!! the first time I tried with this girl my **** wasnt sure what to do. I was able to get hard, put the condom on and got in. Right when I got in I got soft again. Luckily I had told the girl my situation beforehand and she was just as determined to have sex with me as i was with her. She told me to keep going and I did. I had no idea what I was doing but I didnt care anymore. She gave me a smile and the next thing you know I was hard AND MADE HER *** 5 TIMES THAT NIGHT. This was my first time actually having real sex with a girl. YOU ALL HAVE IT IN YOU!!! NEVER GIVE UP!!!
Discussion is closed
Cancel
Comment
Avatar universal
I'm 27 years old  and have been dealing with this problem since the age of 24. It's funny how this condition can gradually set in. I challenge each of you to attempt to discover when the condition first showed its colors. Many of you will be tempted to say "well when I was with this person I was unable to perform". but if you look a deeper you may notice that the condition began to set in way earlier than that.

I understand better than most what it's like being young and living with ED. After my "recognizing stage", you know when the weight of the world seems comes down on you and crushes you like a  bug.....I began to think in a more constructive maner.  

First, the natuaral course of action is to read online and learn everything you can about ED (causes, possible cures, etc.). Next, I visited multiple general practitioners and noticed that they were generally ignorant regarding this condition. Their knowledge was limited and knew only what their Cialis, Levitra, and Viagra reps had taught them (a bit bias to say the least). I took the pills and generally had the same problem and began to grow really concerned that a solution may not exist me. Me, being the bulheaded "never take no for an answer" son-of-a-***** that I am, decided to take this a step further and fully explore my medical state. I had blood work ran (testosterone levels, cholesteral, hormones, etc), I personally paid for a CatScan of my pelvic region to ensure blood flow was normal and sufficient. I had a Urologist perform Doppler Testing on my penis and took every natural herb in the book. Guess what the result was?? .........HEALTHY and FINE!!

After ruling out physical conditions, I proceeded to the next logical step. I engaged in psych examination with a physician from Dartmouth for three months. Physch evauluation is tough because you never know when it's finished and it's very expensive. I soon ran out of money and had to stop my evaluations. It's now a year later.....and I'm still dealing with the condition.

Long story short....."I feel your pain man". The real issue sourrounding ED is that once you've experienced it you may be destined to remember it for a while. This means that when you engage in sexual activity you're mind snaps into the past and remembers what happened before. This causes a small amount of anxiety and causes your corpus muscles in your penis to restrict blood flow and leaves your noodle limp.

Good news.....I've began new work and my carear is really taking off. After years, I've trained my mind to not focus on the issue. This is tough because lets face it..without the ability to reproduce you feel worthless not only as a man, but also a human being (women who have similar female problems feel the same). This process of reducing stresses in my life in association with maintaing good health has helped me regain control of my erections exponentially. Their not perfect, but have vastly improved. Like many of these posters, I have watched porn for 12-13 years and masterbated like a champ. My next stage is to cut out the porn and see how resensitization effects my performance.

Thanks for your posts, they've helped! I truley believe if you continue to work towards a resolution and don't spend your days moping you will find peace! Remeber....healthy body, helathy mind, healthy spirit = healthy results!
Discussion is closed
Cancel
Comment
Avatar universal
Hi,

I had sex with a 40 year old man who I spoke as if he wanted to **** every hot woman around.  I went to his place to have sex with him after meeting him in a parking lot where he kissed me and told me all about how he wanted to have oral sex with me.  He seemed really horny then but when I arrived to do it with him that night, he lost his erection.  I gave him a ******** and he did get it back up and came.  However, the next time we did it again and he went limp in the middle of things.  I was kind of shocked but I now I think his problem lies in stress and too much masturbation.  Personally, I know that it is also hard for me to *** during sex because I use a high powered dildo that I am fond of.  I am going to talk to him about porn and try to quit the high power tools to see if it works for me too.  Hopefully, things will get better for us both...I will let you know...Keep positive and don't watch porn...I don't want to become addicted...I find fantasies much better and more intimate...thanks guys for being so honest...:)
Discussion is closed
Cancel
Comment
Avatar universal
Wow, I'm really glad to have found this Forum.  I, too, am a porn addict.  I actually started extremely early, around the age of five.  It first started from me somehow getting turned on by women on just regular television.  Ginger from Gilligans Island, the blond chick from Three's Company, just any hott looking girls from television.  I don't even think I had an erection at 5; I would just rub on the bed and *** a little load.  Then, throughout the years, late night cinemax with the softcore porn got me through my days.  I got to see boobs!!!  After that, when I first was introduced to real porn I was about 16 and I couldn't even believe what was going on!!  They were really having intercourse.  I suddenly got a supercharged hard on from the image of hardcore porn.  I could never go back to softcore, it's not enough.  Now years passed, and I was pretty much masturbating everyday from video rentals and internet porn.  Now that porn is so easily accessed I see the escalation of my preference.  I am no longer aroused by one on one sex, it has to be an orgy or gangbang or *** on the face.  Whats scary is, guys pissing in chicks mouths got my pants to move.  I think it's time to stop!!!!

Anyway, it has always crossed my mind that porn and even television in general has had a great impact on my erectile dysfunction.  I'm 28 now and even still suffer from the  problem.  And yes, it's because I'm still addicted to porn.  It's hard to stop, especially with the new free porn sites available.  But don't get me wrong, I've had sexual encounters with plenty of women; and some of them, I've failed to plow my **** in their vagina unless I use viagra.  And some, i've pleasured really well orally or with my fingers.  However, I'm really disappointed that I have a hard time finishing inside.  I would either get flacid really quick, or when using viagra, stay hard forever and never finish.  I feel bad because the girl sometimes think it's them even when they're super hott.  I feel like I'm psychologically damaging them and myself.  I'm even afraid I can't have any kids because of it.   Anyway, I'm glad to find this forum and hope we can all get through it together.  Then maybe in the future we can get our girls and make our own orgy. haha
Discussion is closed
Cancel
Comment
Avatar universal
wow I this cause is not mentioned anywhere on any ED information sites. I am pretty certain this is my problem exactly.. I am going to quit porn and batting off for 2 weeks and see how that goes. I dont think any of you guys should worry, im 23 and having these issues.. we cant all have physical issues.. its definetly the porn!!! Be strong with your will power to stop!!
Discussion is closed
Cancel
Comment
A
A
Doctor Ratings & Reviews
Comprehensive info on 720K doctors.
Complete reviews, ratings & more.
Men's Health Community Resources
Top Men's Health Answerers
1622896 tn?1497868518
Blank
London, United Kingdom
139792 tn?1498589250
Blank
Indore, India
11369760 tn?1449507972
Blank
Southwest , MI