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Avatar_m_tn
Previously i was able to go a sustained time with little or no p or m.  But it yielded varied inconsistent results (not cured).  So my advice would to be to give up ANY form of sex for at least 2 months.  I have been at it for about 4.5 weeks now.  I haven't experienced any great recovery as of yet but I plan to see it through.  I know it can be hard because I've recently turned down some attractive women (oh how it pained me to do so)!  This site will give you the insight that caused me to take this approach.

http://recoveringman.com/Desensitized.php

Also this thread on the site has THE MOST info and experiences of those effected.

http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Mens-Health/Too-much-porn-masturbation-cause-ED/show/183203
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While I can’t agree more that porn can be very harmful and addictive for all the above reasons (and best to immediately quit), wanted to step back and talk about what drives lots of guys to porn in the first place. Feels like there’s a little bit of the cart before the horse here.

I think many men (myself included) go through this vicious cycle: They can’t get laid with the kinds of girls they want for long periods of time (not all of us are great pick up artists). In the interim, we turn to porn. We stay long enough to get addicted and dysfunctional. When a hottie finally pops up in our life, we have problems performing. The relationship suffers or goes nowhere. We turn back to porn for consolation, and the cycle continues.
So I think many turn to porn in the first place obviously because of intense unmet sexual needs, especially those of us with high sex drives. Also the politically incorrect and unpleasant truth is that many guys who are in relationships are often not attracted enough to their current gf’s or spouses (not to blame them). The chemistry is often not strong enough or has faded. Men are creatures who crave peak sexual experiences and intensity. It’s not strictly a woman’s looks, but that intense primal chemistry that beckons so strongly (often correlated with looks and youth). From a 1 to 10, we crave that 10 intensity, yet often end up with a chronic 4 or 5 situation that just doesn’t do it. This is what destabilizes many of us. Porn, while completely artificial like a drug, can provide that peak sexual high and relief very quickly, temporarily meeting our cravings. Unfortunately like a drug, the cost is high with addiction, and our needs are never fully met by the 2D women.

Even if you eliminate porn 100% (which again is a great thing, not knocking that), you still may feel very unfulfilled in your relationship or desperate if you’re alone. The intense sexual desire remains. So what the hell am I saying? Well, sure I think porn is harmful, but chronically not getting what you need is also harmful and warps us over time. My suggestion (if the above applies to you) is to quit porn in tandem with a serious plan to improve yourself and make yourself more desirable to women so you can regularly get the kind of women/sex to keep you from turning to porn in the first place!  Again, not meant to be a subtle way to justify more porn usage or not taking personal responsibility for that.  But just quitting porn is only part of the equation and we need to go further to achieve sexual happiness and fulfillment.
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What would you say to someone who is currently dating and wants their significant other to still remain happy?

I know they know that I'm having troubles, but I've told them a long time ago and I feel up until now, i'm finally fixing the trouble (which is, stopping porn and masturbation completely until they get near me.) I can't help but feel hard around them, just not as triumphantly as I would be, let's say, watching a porn clip.

I've been in a 3 month relationship, and I was watching porn for a good while before that, and at first, there were no problems, maybe because we never got far...

But it's gotten absolutely ridiculous in the ways I just don't get hard anymore. So it's time for me to stop! :) I'll post back when I give more progress.

I haven't watched porn for a week and I feel its' already an improvement (though very minor) -- though since I technically masturbated (didn't come close to coming), i'll start over completely today! Day 1 here we come!
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hey guys, I am currently on day 17 of no p/mb, it feels like since day one I have had zero libido. Also, my penis is kinda shriveled up and is looking smaller than it ever has, I'm guess this is just part of the healing process though. I was wondering if anyone else was experiencing issues with their penis shriveling while you were quitting p/mb?

It's crazy after 17 days of no mb that I still feel so low and lacking sexual energy. But I will keep going as long as it takes. I just hope it doesn't take much more than two months to overcome this, summer is right around the corner :)  

I am so happy that I found this forum, and that I finally figured out why I haven't been able to get it up since I was 18 (now 21). You guys are great, and the information and experiences everyone has shared is helping so much. Thank you guys, lets beat this.
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Avatar_m_tn
What you are experiencing is typical for withdrawal - flatlined libido and less blood in the penis. This is waht men have been reporting for years on our forum. You can check out accounts at yourbrainonporn.
Since all addiction involve the same mechanisms, you are experiencing a loss of your "drug" of choice, which translates into the reward circuit not getting enough stimulation (you can watch the video presentations on the science at the site). The lack of dopamine and dopamine receptors leads to a decline in lbido while your brain heals the desensitization. The lack of stimulation from the brains dopamine system means reduced blood to the penis..

This process of rebooting the brain can take awhile, depending on age and severity of the addiction. It might take 2 months - or more, but its good that you got started at 21.
It took years to get your ED, so be patient in the healing process.
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In Arnold's movie "Stay Hungry" you know you will fail if you allow yourself to satisfy your urges.

It's a simple concept, yet extremely difficult to follow in real life.

Try a phased approach using Prime numbers to break your addiction.
2, 3, 5, 7, 11, 13, 17, 19, 23, 29, 31, 37, 41, 43, 47, 53, 59, 61, 67
Abstain from p/mb for the periods listed above.

For example: Abstain for a period of Prime days, If you find you must p/mb to keep your sanity, go ahead.  However, because you fed your addiction, you must start the count over and try to reach the next Prime.  Some people will reset the count several times before they reach 67 days of abstaining from porn mb.

Why Primes?  Prime numbers follow a non linear progression which more closely matches the non-linearities of our brains.  Also, Prime numbers represent STRENGTH because they cannot be divided by any number other than 1 or by itself. By reaching a Prime milestone, you've demonstrated self discipline and strength.

You should not feel shame if you must reset the count to 0 to save your sanity, however try to work up to at least the next higher Prime.
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Well, I wish I was a success story.  This is my 3rd post or so.  I've been mostly clean for 5 months. No porn.  Masturbated a little, maybe about 3-4 times during the fourth month but I’ve been totally clean for a month now.  Again, no porn.

I feel way better as far as overall health.  My erections are better but still not what i expect.  I went through a phase of messing around with my girlfriend on cam and seeing her tease me and usually I did not touch myself.  Watching her may have delayed my progress.  Sometimes, I could get sustained erections for 20 minutes without touching myself.  I could also get erections without even seeing her but just typing with her.  I was just excited when she would say hi to me or when we would get online together.  I actually feel like I get my best erections when there is positive emotional exchange.  It seems like I don't respond much to visual stimulus... or if i do, it doesn't last long.  We messed around maybe twice a week for four weeks on cam.

Now that I have been mostly clean I realize that my porn habit was among the most intense.  They were long sessions with porn and 4cam and all sorts of things.  I know this is what really messed me up.  My body is able to function properly on it's own.  The visual stimulus just doesn't get me going.  I respond to emotions and excitement.  Things work well with my cyber girlfriend usually (but we haven't done anything in a month).  And I'm sure things won't function with my wife.  I don't want to even try anymore.

I'm a physically healthy person.  I really have been very clean with my porn/mb habits with a few exceptions of only seeing my girlfriend.  I've had an erection for 20 minutes just talking to my girlfriend about non-sexual things.  I never thought I could leave porn for more than 2 weeks when i started this.  Now.... I don't plan on ever returning.  So I guess I have years to recover except my wife is getting impatient.  

Maybe it will take me a few more months.  I wonder if my testosterone is low.  Should I go to a doctor?  I can try herbs again.  It would be nice to have morning wood, or get out of the car hard, or random erections i have to hide, or easy erections with girlfriend.  I get some short erections at night and I do kegels subconsciously in my sleep.  I just have a low libido lately.  I’ve been confident many times but for about a month I’ve been thinking about this constantly.  

Any more feedback is appreciated.

Up and Down... now mostly down.  Someday, maybe i'll post my success story.  I visit this site almost daily.
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Congratulations! Job well done.
Erections for twenty minutes - without touching yourself - seems back to "normal" to me. What makes you think you are not back to your old self? Can you elaborate?

Remember, if you started porn in your early teens, then you have no measure of what your normal is. None of us will ever be 15 again. Getting harder erections when there is emotional content is exactly how it is supposed to be. Brain dopamine not only controls libido and erections, it is also activated when we make loving connections. Sounds like your brain is back online.

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I posted too quickly, I think.
Are you asking why you won't get hard with your wife? First of all, have you tried?

Few reasons come to mind;
1) Your porn addiction was cam based. Your nerural pathways became sensitized to get excited the same stimuli that you are doing with your girlfirend. That may explain why it is so easy to get hard with her. You are repeating your addiction, in a way ( at least your primitive brain see'e it that way)

With all addictions, there is a behavior called "condition place prefernce". When using drugs, the addict becomes condition to the surroundings, the sights, the sounds, the rituals, etc.

That's why they tell addicts to not go back to where they used, to cahnge friends, to chnnge everything about their previous life. If a former crack addict goes back to his old crack house he gets an immediate jolt of dopamine, which triger cravings, and maybe relapse. In some studies they have found the trigger of their old drug taking environments release as much dopamine as the drug itself. In other studies they place  fromerly addicted animals in their old drug taking environment, and give them a placebo - and they react as if they just got a big hit of cocaine. Bouncing of the walls, heart racing, along with elevated dopamine...and an eventual crash.

Your brain has associated computer cam use (espeecially sexua) with your old porn addiction. you are a getting a buzz of dopamine (which causes erections) for how you interract with your girlfriend.

2) The Coolidge effect (Google it): Males get a bigger jolt of dopamine from a new or novel sexual partner. That's why bulls can keep fertilizing, they get a renewed burst of vigor (dopamine) from a cow they haven't screwed. Your girlfriend is the new cow, your wife is the fertilized cow (sorry).

3) You haven't given your brain a complete reboot, or rest from stimulation. You have continued to stimulate your brain with what it percieves as the original addiction (cam sex). The guys that recover the fastest avoid all stimulation.

So it may take longer, but you will eventually get to where you want.
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Palpateit, I first want to thank you for always responding to me and others.  Thanks!

Maybe I am doing better than I thought I was.  Everything you told me makes sense and sounds accurate.  This whole thing has been interesting.  I give up porn and suddenly interesting things happen.  I noticed that I was using porn to avoid issues in the marriage.  I feel better and have more energy.  People start hanging out with me more often.  I meet new people such as my girlfriend.  I only started talking to her as a friend and things just took off.  I’m more inclined to eat now and have to monitor myself to make sure I don’t eat too much now that I’m off the porn.  Weight gain has never ever been an issue for me but it is now.

It’s also been challenging when I have a sexual girlfriend who wants to mess around a lot on cam.  It’s funny how I leave porn only to get faced with a different form of it.  As if porn is now begging for me to come back (since the girlfriend has been persistent to do things on cam).  I will say that I am incredibly more clean with my new behaviors.  And the things we were doing were more teasing and sex talk rather than showing.  But as I indicated earlier, my erections were always sustained when it was intimate talk such as expressing the appreciation for each other or sharing something new about each other.  Fortunately, we have agreed to stop doing visual sexual things.  She literally knows everything about my condition and everything about me such as my porn habit.  She actually told me it’s good to look at porn and wanted to watch it with me.  I declined…. anyways….

I don’t think I’m my normal self because I’m not the same as I was before the porn when I was like 22 years old (about 9 years ago).  I would get erections all the time… morning, noon, night, car, classroom, pool, tv, anything.  And I could masturbate in bed and get an erection instantly.  Now that I’ve heard your opinion, maybe things are fine and will continue to get better… I hope.  I’m just not back to that level.  I’m the type of person who would take longer to mentally reboot because I remember everything so vividly in life.

To answer your question, I haven’t tried anything with my wife.  I think it’s because the emotional connection is lost at the moment.  So I’m pretty sure I won’t get hard.

The transformation that has taken place in me has been incredible.  I used to be ashamed of many things such as my erections and my body.  I’ve been taught that sex is bad.  Only have sex with one person in your life.  Don’t ever talk about sex with anyone.  And so many more taboos.  I’m transforming and at least now I feel great about my body and erections and sex.

I agree with everything you said (new cows, Coolidge, condition place preference).  I kind of thought of all of that but to be honest… I didn’t want to completely admit to it.  And having a girl excited to tempt me on cam makes it all the more difficult.  All in all… I’m probably doing well.  And as you could probably guess, I have issues in my marriage.  I’m shocked to say many of them have gotten better since quitting porn because I am no longer willing to hide from the issues but I’m still not emotionally or sexually attracted to my wife.  The next couple of months could be interesting for me.

I’m impressed with your knowledge on the subject and your dedication to help everyone.
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To me, it sounds like you are well on the other side of this addiction. Job well done. It is usually the case that once we dispose a serious addiction, we are faced with our life.
It's not unusual to replace an old addiction with other potentially addictive actibities, such as overeating or wahtever you are doing on the cam. Since your dopamine and dopamine receptors are low, you are simply looking for ways to stimulate dopamine. Hopefully, you will find a  place of balance.

Religion and guilt/shame: Guilt and shame are forces that make it harder to recover from addictions. Both are counterproductive. As far as porn addiction, strong emotions such as anxiety, guilt, shame, are all registered by the primitive brain as the same experince - fear. Fear increases dopamine and adrenaline, which makes using porn more exciting. Both chemicals form stroger memories and learning. Addictions are really just super normal learning.

Utah has the highest per capita use of Internet pornography. Coincedence? Many Mormons are leaders in the porn recovery movement. (By the way, neither my wife nor I had a religious upbringing. We are spiritual, bot not religious. Don't believe in sin.)

This is from the FAQ's on our site:

QUESTION: IS PORN A BIGGER CHALLENGE FOR RELIGIOUS PEOPLE?

It can be. “Sin” is a surprisingly powerful aphrodisiac. The rational mind thinks that risk (a threat of punishment, for example) makes an activity less appealing, but the mammalian brain can actually register risk as more appealing. Risky things (like sky diving, for example) raise dopamine. This means fears of roasting in hell can too.

Not only that, dopamine goes even higher when a payoff is uncertain. So if someone goes through a passionate moral struggle (or any other powerful emotional buildup) before he climaxes, s/he is raising her/his dopamine.

The situation is actually similar to that of a flasher, who warms up with an intensely exciting pre-game ritual before he goes out to strut his stuff. Dopamine is all about anticipation. So a "guilt-ridden porn user" is actually raising his dopamine when he "wrestles with his soul." That can throw him into an altered state in which acting out is very compelling. It can also make the ultimate payoff (sexual satiation) more intense—and addictive (in part because it produces more of a low afterward).

The bottom line is that as long as there’s intense inner conflict, there's unlikely to be much progress in finding a healthy sexual balance. The struggle itself is just too stimulating/enticing. For this reason, support groups that emphasize religious guilt can make cravings worse.

If you are religious, it’s more efficient to ease your way past the orgasm reflex by realizing that overstimulation naturally leads to compulsion, and reboot. Also, do not threaten yourself, or beat up on yourself if you should have to start your reboot again. Be compassionate toward yourself, laugh if you can, and learn to work around whatever triggered you.
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This is pretty much me still and i'm on day 30. I'm pretty much at a month and though I feel like I get some more spontaneous erections, I feel I have a long way to go :(

It's sort of discouraging and I feel like I'm just becoming so much more frustrated. I want this to be over with. But at least it's progress. I definitely feel like things are better than they were when I first started, but it's still very minimal. Is this normal?
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It usually takes 2 months or longer for full recovery of erectile health. There tends to be a long period of "flatlining" of libido. You are in the middle of it. The time frame for recovery depends on your age and how long you have had porn-induced ED

This FAQ's, at yourbrainonporn has multiple links to accounts of those who recovered
Is my erectile dysfunction (ED) related to my porn use?
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Im 16, and have just started to notice that I'm getting desensitised to porn. I used to just look at pictures and music videos, but was also beginning to watch lapdances, stripteases and the like. Lots of nakedness, but no sex. I think I was attracted to the fantasy of it. Anyway, I'm not even getting erections looking at that anymore, not without m'ing. I've been trying to stop ever since I started. I HATE porn. But I was addicted.

I've installed some accountability software that tells a close friend if I'm looking at dodgy sites. It had to be a close friend since I've never had a girlfriend. Not sure I deserve one. I've tried to quit before, sometimes I've gone for 2 months. But i've only gone for 3 days atm with this software. The odd thing is, occasionally I get proper erections looking at girls in the street. But they don't last long, and I can never make them happen. So how does that fit in to this M+P caused ED narrative? How long should it be until I return to a healthy standard of getting aroused?
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I tried MB this past weekend just using my head for imagery and everything worked pretty well.... and i was very gentle with the stroke.   this really boosted my confidence in my recovery since i couldn't do this at all before.  

i'm going to return to the reboot process but i'm glad i did this for confidence.  I may spend some time trying to get hard without any touching or sexual stimulation.  i can do this fairly well in the mornings.

Btw, i was raised catholic and decided to find new answers about life when religion started really messing me up and leading me toward my porn habits and other habits (in my opinion).  i am very spiritual now.  and now i feel like i'm heading in a better direction.

oh, and i too don't believe in sin... or evil. :)
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i will comment on one part of your post and leave the rest to the experts....

you absolutely deserve a girlfriend.  it's time to start feeling good about yourself.
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Having an accountability partner is a pretty brave step. I don't have answers for why you can get erections looking at normal girls, but not with porn. However, I would consider that a good sign. I suspect you will have a shorter time frame to recover than most of the men we have seen. Why so?
1-You are 16
2-Get spontaneous erections with real girls
3-You have already tried quitting.

Your erectile strength will return. You may have some ups and down with libido, and erections as healing is not linear. Giving up porn now will allow you to avoid a lot of future pain and anguish. In addition, giving up porn will set the stage for attracting a girlfriend.
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I am one week in, and my libido is starting to feel really dead. I see beautiful women everywhere, but feel no desire. Just an internal logical appreciation of beauty. I think to myself "This SHOULD be arousing me; why isn't it?" Should I even be testing myself this early in? will this help to make the proper connections between arousal and real women?

But another thing I've realised is that I can't give up. I can never go back. It's so sh*t being addicted to porn. Everyone who's visited this page knows it's sh*t. Porn isn't even slightly attractive to me anymore. (Is that part of the plan?) In fact I feel quite disgusted if I ever have a flashback. It's not so much of a problem now, but if I start getting cravings for it I think I just may be able to fight them off. Because there's something so much better waiting for me at the other end. I want to thank everyone who has contributed to this for showing me that.

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Nearly every guy who has porn-induced ED, and quits, goes through a period of flat lining libido, and no erections. Some even have slight “penis shrinkage” when flaccid. It’s not real shrinkage of course, simply less blood in the penis when not erect. This period can last for weeks, depending on age, how long you have used porn, and how extreme was you use.

The guys who heal the fastest, do not test, although everyone has the urge to do so. There is no need to force rewiring your brain to real life girls, as that will happen naturally as your brain heals from porn addiction. You will know as spontaneous erections will occur, erections will last longer, and real girls will get you excited.
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Hey everyone, i'm on day 38+ and I can describe the progress so far.

Yesterday and the day before, I was feeling really good about my erections. I was getting spontaneous ones left and right, again, not as strong and vital as before, but they were better than they have been. I was able to lie and bed and sort of jerk off to the sensitivity of the hea. I was able to feel again! It was great.

But then I sort of slipped. I found myself looking up pictures of nude women for aesthetic purposes, but I wasn't really getting completely hard on them, mainly because I tried to focus mostly on their faces rather than their bodies. But it got to the point where I would start looking at those pictures again, starting to feel the dopamine in my brain. Mind you, i never orgasmed and didn't even really come close to doing so. But i was definitely relishing in the newfound sensitivity i had.

What i wanted to ask, how do you think this will affect my recovery? I didn't look up actual porn or anything, but the pictures that I did find were definitely risque, and I am scared they may have made me start off at square 1. I made it so far and I feel I failed myself. The feeling of having a hard erection though was priceless! I want it back again.

Today, i got flatlined libido again. My brain wants sex, my body isn't giving me the time of day. It's a nonlinear recovery, but I'm hoping i'm still approaching the end.
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I don't think it will affect your recovery, but if it does it will be minor. You are not going back to square one - no way. Your brain has healed a lot, and this will not reverse it. Maybe it's like losing weight, and you have lost 20 pounds, but pigged out on the weekend, and stalled your diet.

This isn't like a drug/alcohol addiction where it is clear that a relpase is consuming one specific chemical, and your plan is to never use that chemical again.

Porn is diferent.  It's not black and white like substance abuse. In your life, you will eventually have sex, and masturbate, and look at women, or see an R-rated love scene, or watch a sexy music video. It's not black and white with sexual stimulation. Ultimately, as your brain returns to balance, you must choose what stimulation you want, and don't want.

Your attitude must not be black and white as that can be counterproductive. Thinking that you have relapsed leads to - " what the hell, I might as well relapse really good since I've already screwed up". Binging on porn is a relapse. What you did is far from that. That said, if you binged on porn, you still would not be back to square one. Everyday you avoid porn is a day the porn pathways get weaker, and the brain becomes more sensitive.

Right now, avoiding as much stimulation as possible is the shortest route to erectile (brain) health.
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i have quited masturbation and porn for 6 weeks with alittle improvements then suddenly i couldnot resist it and watched alot of porn in one day without masturbation. so does this means that i have to redo the 6-8 weeks cycle ? does it have to start all over again ? thanks for sharing guys
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It’ s like dieting. You have just pigged out on the weekend, but you didn’t regain all the weight you lost. Your brain has done a lot of healing in these weeks. It may not seem like it if you are still having erectile issues, but around week 8 (depending on age and severity of porn use), guys start to see big changes. Just get back on the no porn horse and continue. Every time you resist porn, you weaken the addiction pathways, and strengthen the self-control pathways. You should start to experience positive changes soon.
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While watching porno, one masturbates when he is highly exited, resulting in immediate ejaculation. Expert advises that one should start masturbating when you start watching porno. Do it slowly. when you are on the verge of ejaculation stop masturbating. when you are in control start again slowly. This start and stop cycle will teach one's brain to delay ejaculation. Keep main focus on oneself not on the filem. gradually one will acclimatize to porno and may be able to break the addiction to porno.
while masturbating one should lubricate the hand and penis. Dry hand dulls the penis or overstimulates causing premature ejaculation. One should keep perineal muscle relaxed. this muscle is connected with reflexes of orgasm. At the time of orgasm it should be contracted to ejaculate.
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Have you read any of the posts?
Most guys on this thread have erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation, or the inability to keep an erection with a real life sexual partner. Their brains have become desensitized by doing exactly what you are describing. Once in a while we see a man with both erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation to porn.

Your advice is the exact opposite of what men on this thread should be doing if they want to recover their erectle health.
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I'm on day 25 of no P/M and have had a couple relapses.  I'm 39 and I've watched porn my whole life and have porn induced erectile dysfunction.  No porn at all in the past 25 days but a couple times I masturbated.  I visualized sexual situations in my head and I ejaculated almost immediately.  The thing is both times I never got hard, even when I ejaculated.  Seems odd and tells me my body and mind is a little screwed up but I'm taking that as a good thing, that my brain is going through changes and change is good.  I'm prone to visualizing sex, sometimes with real women and sometimes more like something in a porno.  How much of all of this is normal?  Should I try to curb my visualizations also?  I find myself getting frustrated and impatient but I know I need to persevere.  There is an underlying fear that I will never get back to real sex with a real woman and that I've screwed myself up forever but I know this is just fear and insecurity.  I'd like to say this message board has been more valuable to guys like me in this situation than anything I've ever seen.  Thank you everyone who's posted because I guarantee there are tons of guys who read and rely on the updates here, including me.   I'd also like to point out that I've started a daily journal to write down my progress.  I've never done a journal before and find it therapeutic,  as well as giving me a level of accountability.   Thank you again everyone and keep going, you can do this!
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this may answer your fantasy dilemma...


http://yourbrainonporn.com/sexual-fantasy-the-more-you-scratch-the-more-you-itch
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does frequent night emissions , almost 3 or 4 times a week defer the recovery period from over masturbation and porn. as i mentioned before i am 22 years old and i quit porn and masturbation for about 6 weeks now but during the last week each time i do erotic phone call with my gf, i wake up with night emissions. is that bad?, does it defer my recovery, i also have noticed improvements during the 6 weeks errections came back again not as hard and long as it used to be but it came back. and i wanted to ask, in my age is it possible to recover 100% as i have never watched porn or masturbated? would really appreciate answers and your sharing guys and thanks alot.
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If you want to really get permanent cure, you may take up kundalini yoga. It is a long road. Selecting learning,and practicing will have permanant benefits.
You may also research, kegel exercise, Satkriya, anmol mehta.com. wish you best of luck.
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I've known of a few men recovering from porn-induced ED who could ejaculate just by fantasy. Yes it's unusual, but it does happen. The physiology behind this is called sensitization. With any addiction, the brain creates very strong pathways for the addiction, whether it is drug or behavioral addiction. This rewired nerve pathway releases more dopamine than normal, creating cravings - or in your case, intense sexual stimulation. To weaken the pathways you need to stop the fantasizing. Realize that your primitive brain does not know the difference between fantasy and real (you can google - mirror neurons). So if you are fantasizing to porn, it is almost the same as using porn.

Yes you can recover. Everyone who stays away from porn, porn fantasy, and masturbation eventually recovers. Most take at least 8 weeks, but several take longer. Younger guys usually bounce back sooner. Recovery almost always involves a long period of low libido and a "dead penis". Many guys report completely dead penis one day, then literally recover the following day. This healing is not linear like a broken bone, or a cut.



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You will recover fully if you stick with it. I've seen it again and again over the last few years. Don't stress about what you cannot control, such as wet dreams. Many young men experience wet dreams during recovery. They seem to lessen over time. Remember that porn caused your erectile problems, not masturbation. That said, the quickest path to erectile health is to also stop masturbating. If you have porn-induced ED, masturbation, especially with porn, is an attempt to overide your brains message of "I've had enough". Could there be a clearer message than erectile dysfunction? Just keep going.
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thanks a lot guys i really appreciate your help and sharing, i really do. i will keep avoiding masturbation and porn and i guess i will have to stop the erotic phone calls to my gf who lives far way from me right now but i do not know what i am going to tell her as she does not know anything about my problem, she knows that i was a porn addict but she does not know anything about masturbation she does not even know what masturbation really is. omg in the past i used to suffer from the strength of erections and its ever lasting, wish i could get back to the normal person i used to be. i am so frustrated.  
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I feel you're pain I am frustrated and impatient too.  We both just need to get through it and the rest of our lives will be better and more fulfilling.  I know it's cliche, but one day at a time and soon we will be there.
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im glad i found this forum, im olso having this problem and i though i was going to have ED for the rest of my life couse i knew the problem wasnt in my penis but in my brain, since i could always get hard by porn i could even stay hard for 1 hour just by watching hardcore porn.

i been MB to P since i was 14 now im 24, i try to lose my virginty with a prostitute in a club at 23 but i was to drunk i couldnt perform, she told me that happens a lot of time and it was becouse i was drunk, so i wanted to believe that but deep in side i knew somthing else was wrone with me couse she was smoking hot and i didnt get arouse at all, some days ago i meet an older german girl, (39 but still very hot and pretty for her age), she was on holidays, we start to go out i knew i was going to have sex with her, the first time i got 60% hard and when i went to penetrate it went down, 2º time i got like 70% i manage to get in but only for 1 minute and the 3º time it was a little bit better like 80%  and for about 3 min, but i wasnt having fun at all it was like having sex with the air..

2 days ago i MB to P for the last time, and yesterday i MB with no P and it was realy dificult for me, it took me like 15 min to orgasm and it was between 50% to 80% hard, so today its DAY 1 for me i will keep on reporting on my progress... thanks alot and sry for bad english...  

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Use lubricated hand for masturbation. Start masturbation while begin watching porno quite slowly.Instead to jerking only, do thrusting also.All the above three things are important to nullify the side effect of P and M.
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thanx for the advice, but for now i think im going stay with the 60 days with no M&P project, then i will try that..
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today after 6 days with out P&M i got my first morninwood i was surprise couse i though it was gonna take more time for this to happens,,
anyways im olso doing some kegel exercises maybe it has somthing to do with it..
another thing i did yesterday for the first time is puting my penis pointing up to my belly button when i went to sleep,, im not sure if this has somthing to do with it..

well after 6 days im not having problem at all with porn im not feeling that craving for it, yeah some times i think about it specialy when im homealone but i can block my mind very easy and dont think about it, or just start doing somthing else..
as for masturbation im olmost sure that i wont reach the 60 days,, still im gonna see how long i can hold it..

since i start this project i got two wet deams, one was very nice of me having sex with a girl,, the second one was really bad and disturbing, it was about a porn scene with a shemale WTF MEN.. lol.... the good thing is that it has been 3 days now without any porn wet dream, olso my sex libido is still low but i havent got any depression or problem with sleeping or any other kind of problem,

im olso reading the Sex God ed2 book wish is giving me a lot of confidence...
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well thats it, after reading the sex god book i just couldnt hold it anymore and had to masturbate, still i dont regret it at all, and comparing the last time i masturbate to this one, it was really amazing..

last time i masturbate with no porn it was really hard, i had to fantasy all the time, do fast and hard thrusting, and estimulate alot my penis head with my hand, still so my penis was 50% to 80% hard, it took me like 15 min to orgasm and it wasnt so good compare to the way i orgasm to porn.

but now after 6 days without P&M it was complete different, no fantasy at all just focus on the feeling on my penis and controling my breathing, i lube my hand did slow and smooth thrusting, estimulate the head of my penis only with my foreskin, the result was that my **** got 100% rockhard for about 15 min and i had an amazing orgasm..

so somthing is definitely working  ;)    
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Yours is relatively quick response. Be aware of a letdown, or an urge to masturbate/use porn following the orgasm. Keep going, as you have a ways to go. Lets hope it's a short journey. Every brain is different.
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ok guys after having great result in a very short time, i want to give you some advice to speed up the process, now remember im not a doctor or psychology im just a normal guy like you that had the same problem and for some reson just got really great and fast results,, i havent been with a girl yet so i cant tell you how was my performance in bed,, and i still need 1 or even 2 more weeks to fully recover and perform good in bed,, but what i can tell you is that i have 100% confidence in my self, somthing that i didnt have a week ago and im sure that i wont fail next time im with a girl.. even if i fail its ok becouse it happens i will get it done next time but never put pressure in my self thats the worst thing to do.... so thats one of the most important thing you need to have,, SELF ESTEEM,, 100% CONFIDENCE and NEVER PUT PRESSURE IN YOUR SELF...

now the first thing you want to do first, ofcourse NO PORN NO JERKING OFF,, what you need to do are some mental exercise everyday which are this, 10 to 15 min of meditation this will help you to control your mind by not thinking about nothing this is very important when you are with a girl in bed you dont want negative or positive though you dont want any kind of though at all, just relax and focus on what you are doing, the other one is to control your breathing this will help you to relax, so breath in for 5 seconds, hold for 3 sec and breath out for 5 sec then repeat and you continue doing this for 5 min very good for controling your breathing and dont get anxiety in a bed with a girl,, another thing you can do is kegel which is very good to.. i normaly do all this before i go to sleep, but it depends on you...

the last exercise, well this one is a little bit more complex and you should only do it at your own risk lol,, im saying this becouse you will need to masturbate,, olso becouse i just start doing it yesterday so is still a experiment for me, this is call "the male multiple orgasm", what this does is that you can actually have more than 1 orgasm with out ejaculate, so yeah this mean that you can have 1st orgasm keep having sex 2nd orgasm keep goin and the 3rd one you EJACULATE and have a MAJOR ORGASM,,
now to do this you have to train your penis by masturbating and just before you are about to have an orgasm you stop, this is the point of no return if you stop to early you are not doing it rigth if you pass the point of no return then is game over, for the first day you want to stop for 10 sec then keep going a and ejaculate, for the second day you stop for 20 sec for 3rd day try 25 sec,, but becarefull if you wait to long your penis will get angre and wont want to play anymore, so you want to go little by little each time longer,, when you get good at it you can try to stop it more than one time in the same masturbation...

now you only want to do this when you see your morningwood are back or if you have 3 to 4 weeks of no P&M,, the best way to do this, make sure you lubricate your hands, dont do fantasy so dont think about anything just relax focus on your slow breathing and in the feeling or sensitive of your penis for the arousal...

i really recomend you guys to get the Sex God ED2 ebook becouse is gold and will boost your confidence,, im not saying to go buy it couse i didnt buy it my self but believe me it worth having it...... good luck and take care ;)          
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Hi is good to find this forum, I dont feel alone any ore, I just turned 33 and I've been doing m+p since I was 13 or so, I never had a problem performing with a girl until 3 months ago, ironically with the most beautiful and perfect woman(im in love by the way) I started noticing that I cant keep a full erection I still having sexual desire and I have erections at the beginning with only a kiss but I cant keep it hard, I went to my pc to test my self, if I had a problem watching porn, and I cant have and erection if im not rubbing it. And as soon as I feel a full erection i want to ejaculate, its my problem to serious? I want to stop watching porn its less exciting every time but why? I feel i am attracted to the fantasy of pornstars...
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I used to have the same problem your dealing with and i found a cure myself.  The truth is that your to caught up on thinking about keeping an erection and pleasing your partner that you forget about yourself.  When having sex think about what turns you on, talk dirty to your partner switch positions every 5-6 minutes. Do anything that will take your mind off keeping an erection and your bound to have a longer harder erection and youll be cuming before you can even take off your socks.
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Im so glad this site is hre to help me with my "situtation" I believe my problem is porn addiction as well. I been watching P for over 26 years adn Ming for abotu the same time period. When I was younger, this wasnt a problem no real side effects. then after I broke up with my ex, I turned to porn and masterbation (masturbation) heavily.  

I didnt notice any negative effects at first. but one time when I was 29, I couldnt get it up with this very hot girl. I put that incident off to being very tired as usually when I am even before the "situtation" hit,  I wasnt able to preform well.  well the next time I met her ,I ahd worked out a lot and did a lot of cardio. I did great that night and figured it was the lack of exercise and being tired that got me.

Well too many other times have I had to use exercise before meeting the person to get a erection later on. This was starting to scare me. the whole time though I was still doing porn and masterbating (masturbating) a lot.  Its gotton to the point when I see my doctor, Im gonna ask to be recommended to a Urologist .  

After reading all these comments though, Im gonna start the no P/M recovery emthod and also speak to the Urologist on this issue.  I believe I ahve desesistized myself through P ebcause this morning , I could not even get excited as much to P as I use to.  Its just not doing it for me.  Once again when I workout and exercise, no problem can get a erectiona nd last at least 35-45 minutes in many positions. without it nothing.

All the comments have madem me realize I got a problema dn Im going to fix it. Today, Im going on the no P/M pledge. I need to get this under control . Im gonna make a journal of this and talk to the health professionals. If anything the no M/P challenge cant hurt me. I hope I havent done too much damage to myself , but anything is better than only get long erections after intense cardio. Having it go limp in the middle of sex ***** and even having it hard for oral then cant pleasure when its time to orgasm ***** .

I never thought I would miss morning wood but I do. I use to be able to get hard immeditly now its a rare occurence. Thank goodness for this site . it explained so much.  Today is day one of the no P/MB habit . Ill start making updates on my progress as well. I cant afford to fail this one treatment. Thanks for being around nd ahving this . You make me realize mim not alone
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I am glad I found this forum. I have been struggling with porn addiction and erectile dysfunction for awhile. I have tried abstaining for periods of up to a week or so. I felt a significant loss of libido.

Recently, I started take a B-Complex vitamin daily with food. I have noticed an overall improvement in my libido and ability to get an erection without porn. Also, when I workout and lift weight, the testosterone really flies through the system.

I need to go on an extended hiatus from porn and masturbation. When I fall off the wagon, I only try to look at less hardcore porn. What I would call "romantic" or "gentle porn". The hardcore porn is what really screwed me up. Also, I sometimes will just look at women in bikinis or something sexy but not an overt sexual act.
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hi guys, well after 29 days without porn,,, im not saying masturbation becouse i been doing that most of the time when i get arouse,, but i dont make it something religious like i use to do,,, i could be one day with out it or a whole week, it doesnt bother me...
now to the good news, yesterday i reach my gold, had sex with this girl which actually wasnt my tipe of girl,, the good thing is that i put my self in a higher value position than her, my thought about sex was more like me winning a prize for all the work i put on her,,, insted of she doing me a favor by leting me fuc* her,, which it works great becouse it took all the pressure from me.. and let me have control of the whole situation. and most inportant i didnt have any kind of thought while doing her,, i just did and tell her whatever i wanted, with out having to think about it..
thanks everyone for sharing your story it help me alot..... STAY AWAY FROM PORN.......    
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Deer Exercise is good for strengthening sexual stamina. it is different for male and female. One can try it. It is harm less. research the phrase 'deer exercise for man'. It is named as deer exercise as deer is most sexual animal.
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Hey I am 23 and believe I am suffering from this. I have never watched extreme porn and for the past 5 years have just masturbated once or twice a day to porn. I can get a hard erection with a woman I just cannot keep it as soon as I am having intercourse. This is been happening for years and is killing me. I am on week one of no sex/porn/masturbation. I am an attractive social male and it is killing me turning down women for **'s and HJ's. Will it slow down my progress if I let a girl give me a **? Also will it slow down my progress if I lightly masturbate with no porn. I feel no pressure to watch porn but the physical pressure in my balls is annoying. I would greatly appreciate some advice.

This forum has been encouraging.
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So here is the deal. I agree with everyone who has posted here. Porn and Masturbation desensitizes you and for me to the point where I couldn’t get an erection with my partner. If I did get an erection then it wouldn’t stay hard. I finally after years (like 10 years) realized that it was the porn and masturbation that was causing this. Now for the trouble. I assumed that if I stop both, and I did cold turkey that my ability to have sex with my partner would return. Well it has now been over a year since I have seen any porn or maturated and still the problem with my partner continues. I am beginning to wounder if I have permanently screwed myself up. Councilors told me in awhile things would become normal again but that doesn’t seem to be happening. I have gone to the MD and there is nothing wrong with me physically and I have had “wet dreams” so I know my system still works. But get with my partner, who is hot as can be, and it just won’t get hard or stay hard. Anyone out there see any hope for me, any suggestions are greatly accepted.
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visit the following site of deer exercise. do this exercise regularly and take care of your general health. you will be ok.

http://www.umaatantra.com/tantra_articles/male_deer_exercise.html
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One way to gauge how much of your problem  is porn induced ED, and how much anxiety is contributing is this.Here's a simple comparison test to check for porn-induced ED:

1- Try to masturbate using no porn and no fantasy - only sensations. Masturbate with same speed and pressure as you would during intercourse.
2- Masturbate to your favorite porn.

Compare one and two. How erect was your penis? How long did it take you to reach orgasm? What was your level of excitement? A healthy young man should have no trouble attaining a full erection and masturbating to orgasm without porn or fantasy.

To your question: The men who recover the fastest and easiest avoid all sexual stimulation.
Let's go through them:
1) No light masturbation. This will only increase feelings of frustration and the likleyhood of relapse into porn.
2) Sex with a person. This appears to delay the process, however, contact with the opposite sex is beneficial. Some men practice a slow gentle form of intercourse that avoids orgasm. If you do mix in sex, do not fantasize, or take pills to force an erection.

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This is troubling. You should be ok by now. You see the "test" I posted above. That is the best way to assess how much of your ED is anxiety related. I do not suggest that you use porn for masturbation, as it may trigger a full--scale relapse.

1) Maybe you should attempt masturbation to sensations only, and see what happens.
2) Could also attempt masturbation to fantasy, and see what happens.

Some men who were addicted to porn attempted a gentle form of intercourse where you don't attempt orgasm (by either person). Very slow, and don't worry about erections, since you both agree not to even get close to orgasm. Seems to take the pressure off.

Keep us informed.
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Hey I'm a bi guy and i've noticed it's really hard for me to get hard, especially stay hard, with guys and ladies. The first time I remember this happening was when i was 17 (im 21 now). I've recently found this whole ED thing caused by porn. For the last 3 years i was in a really stressful environment so i jerked off almost everyday to keep calm. And once i stopped and i got really wacked and emotional. So i started again. Last night i was with a hot girl and she was hot and heavy and the best i could get was half mast and it went away as soon as i focused on her pleasure. This sux! Should i go to a doctor....or try something. I've found using a **** ring keeps me hard but its really uncomfortable. Help! i need advice.
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The advice is simple: Stop all porn and masturbation.

GOOGLE VIDEO -  Erectile Dysfunction and Porn - watch the video series.

You can find my first few posts in this thread, on the first page, if you want to know more (follow the links).

Check out this other medhelp thread with lots of guys who have porn-induced ED.
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Mens-Health/Too-much-porn-masturbation-causeED/show/183203

Here’s a Psychology Today article on the subject:
Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunction Is A Growing Problem
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cupids-poisoned-arrow/201107/porn-induced-sexualdysfunction-is-growing-problem

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Thanks for your reply, I will check all these out. I have stopped p/mb and I have started that prime day countdown thing you've mentioned in your earlier posts. day one down! 66 more to go.
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I am so glad that I found this thread which ironically enough was in a discussion board via a porno site. Just last night my wife and I were about to have sex (a once weekly event in our relationship) when I got the same nervous feeling I used to get when I was a teenager and about to have sex. We made out for a while and I noticed that I wasn't getting hard which then made my brain focus more on my limp **** then on the action at hand. As soon as my wife went to touch me downstairs I rolled off the bed and said that I had to go pee. We went back and forth for almost an hour until I finally slipped it in her and almost came immediately. I was freaking out and told her that we need to have sex more often because otherwise I am going to *** quickly due to being so sensitive down there. It was definitely an embarrassing moment however it all makes perfect sense. By the way, I am 27. I will admit that I look at porn way too much, I think that this is my calling to stop once and for all.
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I've had a perfect 2 months from being away from any visual stimulus at all.  Before that, I had a pretty good 5 months away from masturbation and porn.  But during that 5 months there was sometimes cam stuff with a girl... but now there is absolutely nothing for 2 months now.  I have sometimes gently stroked it to see if it can get hard.  But that is so infrequent... less than once a week.

I get mostly solid erections on occasion when I sleep or take a nap.  But I'm finding no girls attractive right now (and absolutely no guys either in case that question arose in your mind).  

I've tried to have sex with my wife the last 2 nights and had absolutely no movement.  I want to but nothing happened.  8 years ago, when i was younger with her, it was super easy.

I'm basically over the addiction.  There is almost no desire to return.

So, I'm setting up an appointment with a doctor.  I feel like something is wrong.  I'm suspecting a chemical imbalance.  I don't think any girl could get me hard right now.  Maybe the doctor can do some blood work.  I'm completely opposed to pills so hopefully I can learn something meaningful from them.

The good news... all other aspects of my life have improved as a result of quitting porn since January.  So this process has been worth it.
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Sad to me I'm a 25 year old women and my 26 year old bf can't stay hard... he does eventually climax after several attempts though... its killing my conmfidence... I'm a preetty sexy girl who is porno freaky in bed and cnt figure out tha prob. Its been happening through the whole 9 months of our relationship I need help!!!
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you can see from these threads (and hundreds like them ) that many men are developing porn-induced ED. If one has developed poprn induced ED, then the brain has undergone changes similar to those who have drug addictions. In other words you bf is addicted. What you do sexually is completely irrelevant. He needs constant novelty of Internet porn, which no human can provide.

Google video - Porn and Erectile Dysfunction - watch the 4 part youtube series. Then you will understand.

Also, if he doesn't want to quit, there's nothing you can do to force him.
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Keep us informed on what the doctor finds, if anything. Note - your low libido matches what many guys feel during the rebooting process. But as you said, you should be through it by now.
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i occasionally watch porn but masturbate a lot.
like even 3 times a day for 4-5 days/week :S
the bad thing is that i have a girlfriend and ive been starting to experience ed so i quit for 2 weeks and got back. but i then watched porn and masturbated really heavily for 2 days straight and  the other day when my girlfriend was giving me a *******, i couldnt get hard as i normally would (due to ed)
so now i havent been watching porn or masturbating 3 weeks but i still dont get hard.
well i do but really really rarely and its not as hard as it normally should.
and i experienced the second ed while getting ******* while i was 2 weeks off porn and masturbation.
i read the link which the person who posted this forum and was just wondering,
1. does sexual activity (such as *******) effect on recovering ?
2. about how long does it normally take to cure ?
3. does thinking about these stuff effect on recovering too ?
i would much appreciate it if you could answer these for me.
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the ******* is bl**j*b
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You can get more info at the links on my first few posts on the previous page. If you have porn induced ED, then the fastest and easiest way is to avoid all sexual stimulation and fantasy. Guys who continue to try to force sex and orgasms struggle The process usually causes men to "flatline" - which means a drop in libido, and feeling lifeless down there. As odd as that seems, it's a good sign, indicating a healing process in your brain.

How long depends on so many factors. From 4- 12 weeks, depending on severity of problem. Almost everyone needs 8 weeks, and improvements continue. Fantasizing about porn is counterproductive, as the brain doesn't know the difference between fantasy, video, and the real deal. That's whay athletes are able to improve skills just by fantasizing.
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ahh thank you
btw i am still at a young age, im like 15ish
does the age difference make any difference in recovering speed ?
also, ive been off porn and masturbation for over 3 weeks now, but while i was watching a movie, ive come across some sex scenes so i avoided it. does these have an effect to ?
i am going through the lifeless stage down there at the moment. how long will this last ?
and also, i seem to be able to get hard when im with my girlfriend just for being with her but not as hard :S
and is there any way of speeding up the process of recovery ??
thank you
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and also, after you said fantasising stuff effects recovery, ive been trying to stop remembering whats been happening with me and my girlfriend.
do you have any tips on how to get my mind off these things and the ed ?
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oh and also,
when i came across the sex scene in the movie, i had the desire to watch it and stuff, but over came it.
does having this desire mean im nearly fixed ?
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Hi all,

I am 32 and in the process of divorce after 3 years of sexless marrige due to porn additiction and ED. My general health is also poor, obese etc. The posts in this forum are quite helpful as i try to find courage. I have stopped porn for about a week and am controlling my diet and planning to get engaged in various activities to keep busy. Already i noticed a much harder erection when i got a happy massage. Going to try and will post updates. All the best everyone trying to overcome this.

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Deer massage for man is a good exercise to generate sexual energy and to mange executes energy.Kegel exercise and Satkriya will help in sexual disorder. Appropriate visualization and affirmation will help you to balance your sexual problems.
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On this thread, fixed appears to mean strong healthy erections with normal partners.
Another aspect of porn recovery is what you describe – ignoring triggers that would have previously led to a porn binge. A good sign.

However, as with all addictions, porn users will be extra sensitive to cues, perhaps for a very long time. Your addiction has created deep memories that when activated release dopamine, which urges you to act out.

Basically you determine when you are “rebooted”, but be aware that you may not be exactly the same as before your porn use. One can always relapse, so don’t be overconfident.
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I'm a 17 year old male and I've started to notice over time that I'm unable to get a completely full erection, even when watching porn and masturbating. Unless it is first thing in the morning, and that was enough of a difference for me to try to get help.

Now, I have been masturbating pretty much daily since I was 12 years old, usually twice a day. I also have habits that also encourage ED, smoking weed pretty much every day (seeing as I lose Acetylcholine when I smoke, and it's a neurotransmitter that helps you achieve erections.) Coupled with Depression that I've had pretty much since I was 9; I pretty much have set myself up for this.

Now, I'm not looking to stop my Marijuana use, though I am cutting back due to my tolerance increasing to the point where I'd need to pay $20 to reach a 5/10 feeling.

And my depression is not nearly as bad as it used to be, though it still lingers. I've gone from being nearly suicidal to actually going out and socializing with friends, the peak of my depression occurring in my 8th grade year, where I'd often devote the majority of my time to looking at the floor/acting tired to avoid attention, completely miserable anytime I was even around my peers due to my fear of their judgement.

I plan on starting a strength training regimen, simply because I'd like to be stronger and more muscular in general, as I feel my hardened mind needs a body to compliment it, I couldn't care about impressing girls, I've never even kissed a girl because I have some deep seated psychological issues due to my years of misery. (Ever thrown a girl across a room because she tried to make out with you when you're attracted to her? It's really that bad.) And I know that building muscle is one of the best testosterone producing methods around, and that more testosterone is definitely going to help me out.

I don't know if it's a contributing factor or not, but I have been diagnosed with ADHD-I, something that's held me back academically for years (it still does, we're too poor to afford the medication, I've just gotten better at controlling it.) Plus I highly suspect I have an anxiety disorder.

All that being said, I'm not quite sure how I'm going to quit watching/masturbating to porn. I've been using it as a sleep aid for so long I actually find it hard to fall asleep without masturbating. But I'm worried that I'll relapse on all of my progress because of insomnia, are there any good natural sleep aids that I could take? Like a warm glass of milk perhaps? I've already got a plan in line, I just don't want to fail.
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You may google Deer Exercise, kegel exercise,  for sexual stamina and meditation for calming your mind.
I myself grappling with Insomnia. Dependant on alprozolam plus Zolpidem. Did try to taper off. I am on laprozolam since last 20 years. Started with 0.25 mg. and now taking 2.00 mg. and has added Zolpidine 5 Mg. I am 80. I am doing yoga since childhood with some gaps in between. Always searching for some alternative panacea.I do not expect much in the way of improvement. Now my interest is more of academic rather than practical.Your research is the right direction. I am sure you will succeed in your effort.
Kundalini yoga and Taoist yoga are also indicted in sexual disorder. Sat kriya is another technique in yoga.Wish you best of luck.
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I feel like somewhat of an outsider on this forum because I’m bisexual and as best I can tell nearly everyone else here is predominantly heterosexual. Physiologically what we’re experiencing is exactly the same. But I’m experiencing some additional difficulties with the process because my partners are occasionally same-sex. (I use the words “partners” loosely as I haven’t been able to get up with any partner so none of them are sexual partners even if I’d like them to be.)

I appreciate this forum being here more than I can express. I haven’t tracked too precisely where I am as far as how many days it’s been for me since I looked at porn or masturbated. It’s been a disjointed process. But I’m somewhere around 2 weeks in without viewing porn or masturbating. I’m relieved to read that the extreme lack and sexual energy and libido is normal. I was freaked out about that. I actually don’t even have any interest in porn right now, which is great, I guess, but also a little depressing as I’ve always possessed a lot of sexual energy. But I hope that’s a sign that I’m on my way to recovery. I fear my road to recovery will be on the longer side. Because of the difficulties with coming to terms with one’s sexual identity, nearly all of my sexual experience is based in pornography and has since I was a preteen. By now I’ve worked my way up to some pretty serious stuff. But I’m ready to fight the good fight and get myself healthy.

My big concern is that I’m suddenly on the verge of a budding relationship. It’s the first relationship I’ve ever had with another male, as the nature of my same-sex attraction is that I’m pretty exclusively attracted to straight guys. I’m a “straight-acting” fellow and I don’t fit the stereotypical profile at all. Most of my same-sex crushes have been on my straight best friends who obviously have no capacity to return my sentiments. But finally I’ve found another straight-acting bi dude who I’m very attracted to who is also into me. Like I said, I’m about 2 weeks in, and I have come to terms with the reality that I most likely have a long way to go. But this unique relationship I’m forming is happening now, and I don’t want my inability to perform sexually to kill it.

He and I hung out all night about 4 days ago, made out a bunch, but when we made it to the bed, I just couldn’t get it going. This is why I say it’s particularly difficult in the same-sex situation: it was more than obvious that he was ready to go. He could get up. I couldn’t. It’s embarrassing for me and probably hurtful to him. I don’t know at this point if he is looking for a relationship that is more based in sex or is more romantic. I don’t really care. I want it to happen. But I’m terrified my inability to perform is going to kill it before it gets off the ground.

I’m prepared to hold strong in the process to recovery, but any suggestions on how to deal with a budding relationship in the middle of the recovery process?
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This is a common question, and the hardest to answer. From all reports, avoiding all sexual stimuli is the fastest and easiest path to recovery. The flatline period you are experiencing is normal, and indicates your brain needs a rest. Attempting to have orgasms, or having orgasms, will lengthen the process. In addition, sex usually initiates a cycle of cravings (not true libido) that makes relapse more likely. Unerstand, that your true libido is what you are experiencing right now - dead penis, flalining libido. Your urges to use porn were not true sexual desire, rather cravings arising from an addiction process.

Maybe explain porn-induced ED to him. He is a guy, so he understands porn use.
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hi, iam 30. i used to see porn twice a week and masturbate or sex with wife. is this is the addiction or itsa normal. i dont  know . advice / suggestion please
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I'm new to this board, so Hello.  Just come out of a long term marriage where there wasn't any sex for several years towards the end. Just met a new lady and found that although got really hard I couldn't make it all the way. Frustrating for both of us.  I am fairly sure that this is down to too much porn watching over the last few years and I've noticed that the porn was having to get more and more hardcore for me to orgasm.

So I am going to give this a go and also try and combine it with a better diet and more exercise.  Watching porn was also meaning that I wasn't getting out enough or exercising
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Google Deer exercise for man. This exercise has the potential to solve number of sexual problems. Similarly, there is  a techniuque  circulation of sexual energy over microcosmic  orbit. Both exercise can be done  to get maximum advantage.
In case, if you have to do masturbation follow the simple guidline:
Do not masturbate with dry hand; always use lubricant.
Do not stop breathing while masturbating.
Do more of thrusting than only jerking.
Do not hasten, take longer period. Do not masturbate if do not have enough time. Minimum 20 minutes.
Do not masturbate if you are excessively excited.
Empty your bladder before you masturbate.
Usually one masturbates when fully excited after seeing porno, resulting in spontaneous ejaculation. This habit trains your mind to ejaculate prematurely.Watching and masturbating should begin simultaneously in a relaxed manner, taking enough time. Avoiding porno is strongly recommeded.
Keep your perineum (Small muscle between legs) relaxed till you want to ejaculate.
Massaging perineum, doing kegel exercise are also imp. for sexual stamina.Wish you best of luck.
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I have been masturbating since 13 i am now 19! i feel horrible everytime i do! But starting today i am going to stop watching porn and stop masturbating i have tried plenty of times but never succeeded :(
a couple of questions tho would it be okay if i still had sex with my gf? or should i abstain from cumming completely? i heard 70 days gets you to 'normal' but if i have sex would that count against it or is having sex good because its healthier?
and last but not least since i've been masturbating for so long does that effect my sperm? and if so if i stop for a certain amount of time would my sperm be "normal"?

thank you
badly needed help
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hey guys !
i just wanted to say, i have been off porn for about 5 weeks now !
it has improved by a tiny bit :P
my pe**s doesnt look so dead anymore, but its still hard to get an erection and i dont get any morning woods :S
as well as that, when im with my girlfriend, i can feel my pre-c*m come out :S

BUT
i still have some questions.
1. i was reading some erotic stories and was wondering if that effects on my recovery
2. my head hurts when i read ^  these, is that a sign saying my brains having trouble recovering due to it ?
3.apparently masturbation is good for health as long as it isnt over done ?
4. when im with my girlfriend and we are kissing, hugging or when shes sitting on my lap, i can feel myself getting an erection, but this happened last time as well before she was giving me a b*owj*b, then when she was giving me it, i felt weak and unconsentrated about it when i knew what was going on, is this normal ?
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So I took a look at this forum about 5 days ago.  The day before doing so my girlfriend and I had went to go have sex. All was good, did my thing to on her, then went to go through to the actual intercourse. We started, then had to switch positions for more comfort.  In between switching, I had lost my erection.  I'd always get nervous with a girl during that part, as if I was on stage and choked.  It took 5 minutes of trying to get it back up again. The day after I googled a few things and came across this forum.  After reading through for a bit, I decided to quit my habit of constant porn and masturbation.  I also googled up aphrodisiac foods, and have been eating them constantly since that day I choked up. We went to have sex again today, and I didn't have that stage fright syndrome! That and you gain more sensitivity not masturbating! For those that go through the "lack of libido" stage of recovery, eat some aphrodisiac foods to gain some vitamin B and other essential nutrients that will help keep the libido at the level you'd like for it to be. Mind you I'm basically 19, but I have a feeling you guys will make use of this information somehow, we all use each other's advice to out advantage :) Let me know what you guys think
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Wow , wish my partner had taken this approach, I went 8 years with no sex and then slept with his best friend out of sheer physical need. I ended up the **** in the whole break-up. He totally denied to others that we'd not had sex in our entire "relationship" and his kicks were just watching porn to satisfy his urges. When I'd said once, how would you like it if I did the same, he said he wouldn't mind! No physical affection for years really screws with your head too though and it will take me a long time to trust a guy again.

Tina.
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I'm 19 and about 6 weeks ago my sexual libido went from 100% to what seems like 0. and last night when I was ready to have sex with a woman (who I've wanted for a long time) my penis would not get erect. However I did finish with a premature ejaculation which has been happening recently (even when I watch porn... I had watched porn earlier that day and although I tell myself to blame it on that I feel as if something else is wrong. college starts next Monday and I'm wondering if it could be anxiety or just the physiological set back of the amount of porn I watch. your feedback is greatly appreciated
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hey i was wondering if anyone could help me
ive been off porn for nearly 7 weeks now and i cannot see any changes :(
i dont even get hard from thinking of anything
but most of the time, i dont really feel like it anymore :/
ive been off for 7 weeks now, i dont get as much sleep as i want though, often only about 6-7 hours, sometimes even 5, does this effect in anyway ?
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Keep in mind that it's good to rule out aphysical condition by seeing a good urologists. It's rare, at age 15, but possible.

Am I reading your earlier posts correct?
1) Are you recieving oral sex during your reboot?
2) Are you also orgasming with your girlfirend during the reboot?
3) Have you been fantasizing about or reading porn related material during your reboot?

If any sex is in the picture, then that explains your slow progress. When we say 6-12 weeks on average for recovery (under 8 weeks is rare), we are referring to men who have absolutely no sexual stimulation: No porn, no fantasy, no reading, no orgasm, no masturbation, no sex. Nothing. Total rest.

Men who mix in occasional sex (once a month) with partner seem to take much longer, and struggle.

Let me know the specifics

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1) yes, i was able to keep it hard for a bit but it was very hard to
2) no, when i was recieveing it, i knew i should have liked it but i had no feelings
3) yes i have unfortuantely.

oh okay, well i have been off porn since the 13th and got an oral like 2 weeks after that. and ever since, i havent been watching any porn.
another thing is that whenever i see something on tv or anything that is sexual, the back of my head starts to hurt, is this a bad thing ?
well i havent been getting sexually active since the oral, but i have been making out with my girlfriend.
well i have been getting some erections randomly, but they are very weak
oh and it just keeps making me think about how i cant get hard, and im kinda feeling down due to it, is there any tips in how to get my mind off it ?
oh and i saw on the internet that horny goat weed can boost up the libido, does this work ?
thank you for helping
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If it's porn-induced ED it has nothing to do with testosterone levels, so its unlikely that supplements that affect hormones will help in the long term. The only solution is to rebalance the reward circuitry of the brain.

It's fine to makeout with your girlfriend - probably beneficial. Set backs occur when guys try to force orgasms when their brains (ED) are not yet healed.

I have no explaination for your head hurting when you are exposed to triggers. Don't worry about movies or TV affecting your progress. Worry about entering that tunnel-vision surfing the net for porn/pictures mode. It's that behavior which reactivates addiction pathways.
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ah okay, well i didnt get to read this until now so ive already went and got some :P
im guessing it wont have any effects on my recovery and it says that it helps with other things as well so im going to try it first.

how long does it take normally for people to recover from porn induced ed ?
just wondering :P

oh really ? how is it beneficial ?
well i have been fingering her as well, but nothing on me though, does that take any effect ?

oh i found out what was with my head, i think it was just me not getting enough sleep due to work hahah

oh okay, so if something like a eg. topless chick comes out on tv, which i wasnt trying to see, does that mean it wont effect me as long as i dont get on to the internet for more ?
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Hard to say how long it takes, as it differs for everyone, and many factors are involved. You can go to yourbrainonporn, and look under Porn FAQ's -the first question - "Is my erectile dysfunction (ED) related to my porn use?" has links to many detailed recovery accounts, along with a ton of info.

Mots guys aim for 8 weeks, but many take longer for full recovery.

Makeing out, or close touch is good, because it rewires your brain to the real deal. However, attempting to have sex sets some guys back. It appears to be a fine line. Everyone must figure it out for themselves.

Recovery from porn use is not like recovery from a drug. Drug use is black and white. A whole lot of gray exist as you will see stimuli on tv and elswhere. The question becomes are you choosing to watch R rated movies for the sex scenes? Are you searching the internet for "non-porn" pics?

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It's important that you let go of any fear or shame associated with your sexual history.  I have found that only when I am at my most comfortable and relaxed am I able to maintain a good erection.  Get out of your heads and get into your bodies.
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Hi.  My story is pretty much exactly the same as OP.

I'm 22 and I've failed to have sex with real women three times, and those were the only opportunities I've ever had so I'm still a virgin.  I've become so conditioned to sitting in front of a screen and fapping since I was 12 that sex actually feels unnatural to me by comparison.  I just wasn't turned on at all...  

I'm trying to change.  There are 2 problems:  

1)  I just can't seem to quite porn or masturbation.  The longest I made it was seven days and that's only because I was abroad staying at my friend's place.  By the seventh day I was in absolute hell.  I was so anxious, jittery and filled with anxiety; my brain was screaming at me to choke the chicken.  I've attempted again and again, but I usually fail by the second of third day, tops.  Even if I do manage to quit porn, I just don't see myself not unloading at least once a week because believe me, by the end of a week I'm a tortured soul.

2)  I've read many testimonials on www.yourbrainonporn.com and I still have doubts in my mind over whether or not this will actually work.  Call it pessimism but it's there.  I also worry about the so-called "libido flat-line period," even if I'm not anywhere near there yet.  The idea of having absolutely no libido for over a month (and probably not getting any erections) scares the **** out of me.  I'd think it's almost like a leap of faith getting through that stage.  I really wonder how I'll just not jerk it to make sure I haven't lost my penile ability forever.  

If anybody here has actually gone through porn-induced ED and beaten it by this cold turkey method of not masturbating or looking at porn for two months straight, please let me know.  I've attempted to start again today... really hope I can do this.

Thank you.
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I'm 23 and in the last few months have realized that I have porn induced ED. I was into PandM for 5 years (no sex), until 3 months ago when I got into a relationship and couldn't get an erection while trying to have sex. I quit PandM completely and got on Cialis from my doc so I could have sex with my GF. When I take 5-10mg of Cialis every 2-3 days I have normal erections, although the refractory period is longer than I thought. I've been trying to wean myself off of it but if I go longer than 3 days without Cialis I have trouble getting an erection. Either I lose it mid-coitus or can't get an erection to begin with. Is Cialis + sex with my girlfriend hurting my recovery from porn ED? Is there a chance I'll become dependent on Cialis and not be able to get an erection without it?
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So I got my bloodwork back just recently.  Apparently I have low thyroid function.  And well, low thyroid causes some erection issues.  I have another doctor's appointment next week.  That is just what they told me over the phone.  

I broke my 3 months of perfection a few days ago.  Still no porn but the urge is increasing.
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Yo wats good ya? My name is Jeff and.I just turned 20 ... ever since I turned 18 I was experiencing difficulties with maintaining an erection ... I guess that makes sense since I've been masturbating since I was 12 ... I never really masturbated a lot but I guess grew older I kept doin it even more (sometimes 2 or 3 times a day) .... aww man did I learn the hard way ... since the past 2 years I've had an erection but it was only 70% or sometimes I couldn't get it up at all when I was in the bedroom wit women .... **** is the most embarassing thing I know ... so me being who I am I did research on over masturbation and found out that the **** was bad for you because it over stimulates the penis, forcing the body to release more dopamine and seratonin (which are the feel good chemicals release from your brain after you ejaculate) then intended to which sends your body from a parasympathetic system to that of a sympathetic system .... also, over masturbation causes the weakening of nerves around your penis but specifically the ejaculation valve which allows blood to be easily pushed onto the penis when aroused for an erection and is held .... through sexual exhaustion you weaken this valve and that's why you notice sperm leakage, premature ejaculation, and weak erections becuz the valve can't hold the sperm at control anymore .... other symptoms of over masturbation are headaches, blurry eyes, lack of motivation, thinning of hair, and etc ... after finding out what I've been putting my body through for so long I've looked for a solution and that solution is zenerx .... I tried holding off for a couple weeks from beating off but it did little or nothing for my problem, why because it will take at least months of abstinence before ur body can fully recooperate the nutrients and biochemicals lost from sexual exhaustion ... so my fellow homies google zenerx .... it has all the nutrients you'll need in one such as l arginine, jujube fruit, l norvaline, maca root, horny goat weed, ashwaghanda root, catuaba bark, gingko biloba, cinnamon bark , ginseng and many more ingredients which help in tackling ALL forms and various reasons of E.D such as low testosterone levels, low nitric oxide production, lack of biochemicals needed to start an erection, clogged blood vessels and etc .... the bottle is about 55 dollars but it is 37 if u buy it in a group of 5's .... I've literally tried everything down the book and nothing has worked like zenerx .... it is also the number one herbal supplement on the market (literally ranked number one), has no side effects when taken, and you start experiencing results immediately ... I've just started taking it 3 days ago and I'm already getting random erection just walking past women with fat ***** haha ... its crazy because I haven't had a random erection probably since iwas 17 ... try to keep ur masturbations minimal to about once a week so your body has time to build up testerone levels and nutrients to its peak and use the zenerx and I promise you not only will you have longer and stronger erections but more spontaneous ones 2
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oh okay, ill have a look at it now :)

yes, i havent been watching porn for 8 weeks now, and staying well away from it too

ah well that sounds like its better for me then :)

oh and i have been able to get few erections a couple of times, due to the stuff my girlfriend has been saying to me but its not as great and i havent got one since.
i also tend to have this thing where it feels like im getting an erection but its not really erected and stuff :S

no i dont watch R rated movies, just things like MA+
would still watching anything like those effect my recovery ?

and if anything was to effect my recovery, how much longer do you think itll take ?
does the time cycle start all over again for 8 weeks/ + or just like maybe one or two more weeks ?

and when i talk about "hot" things with my girlfriend and it makes me thing about it, is that a bad thing ? :S

thank you for your help
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HI, I am having a hard time getting hard with this new girl I am dating.  She is very good looking and I like her but can't sustain an erection or get one sometimes.  I have been watching porn almost daily for ten years and i think this is the reason why.  In my head i need a girl with huge **** and a 10.  I stopped using for a month and libido is very low.  Should i also stop masturbating?  Any one else going through similar problems?
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Stopping porn will heal the porn addiction.  Stopping masturbation temporarily will drastically speed up the process by restoring sensitivity to your penis and allowing your sexual energy to peak.  Indulging in masturbation infrequently after that point is good.  Moderation is key.
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Few questions Id like answered please:

OK, recently tried to have sex with girl, kissing and foreplay only brought me to a semi-erection.

Have masturbated to porn for 6 years now, on average once every other day.  Rare occasion where it would be hours of edging until orgasm was finally reached.

Its was 18 days with no PMO where I started masturbating and got 100% erection with only touch, but used 20 seconds of porn to finish.  Still think Ive made progress though as in the mornings I get erections (now been 21 days, only once I PMO'd).

Questions:

1)  Could that have just been performance anxiety?  I can get full erections and orgasm with no porn and just touch.  It feels better and faster erections come with porn, but obviously masturbation and orgasm will feel much better when you are actually aroused as opposed to just touching yourself with no stimulants, right?

2)  Would going to strip clubs and getting a lapdance be a good test of progress?  Yes it would release dopamine, but its a real life stimulus giving you pleasure as opposed to a computer screen.  This is the whole point of no PMO, right?

3)  If I can M and O just by touch (although it takes longer), does this mean porn is not the cause of my problems?

Thanks in advance for your opinions.
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Hi
Iam also suffering from porn oriented ED.

I have stopped the porn and i still have habbit to masterbate, I mastrerbate till the time i reach to *** and then I stop.

Do you think I have to completely stop or this will help.can anyone help

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I've read everyones comments and it seemed to help me out but i just want to get some personal feedback on what you guys think. I used to watch porn all the time and masturbate but still have a great sex life with my girlfriend. Its been 3 years with the same woman and for the past couple months I've been having a proble getting an erection when we go to hook up. She gets mad and i get upset and when we try again I'm thinking about it too much and theres no chance. Has all the porn and masturbation finally caught up to me? Its been about a week since i last watched porn and masturbated and i keep getting the urge to go back to it. I just want to have a great sex life with my partner and not look at porn anymore. Can anyone help me out or give me some suggestions! Thank you.
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Hi all,

Thank you for being honest and straight forward. I admitted yesterday I have a problem with porn. I've known for a while (watching porn at work and in the toilet - come on.... you have a problem) and it has now captured my bed. Terrible way to be when you want to feel great. Even the Viagra, which made it rock hard before now has little or no effect. Porn ED is not curable with ED Drugs.

My wife had a baby earlier this year so the porn just became a habit, as she was not always interested or able to meet my desires. What a mistake. Now she is nursing so she has high prolactin, and so do I. between us their is an overload of stop the feeling hormones raging. At least now I know the chemical and emotional reasons.

So here is my plan. Porn is not there any more (my brain is freaking already) and I am on a B6 and zinc suppliment to lower my prolactin levels 'quickly' while I am also making sure I eat lots of dopamine rich foods -banana,avocado, pumpkin and sesame seeds.

I will still have a 'sex life' as I wait for my body to balance out. Here are two sites that I found helpful.

http://recoveringman.com/Desensitized.php
http://www.integrativepsychiatry.net/dopamine.html

Good health to you. We will be fine, just control what you eat and who you are... How hard can that be? :-)
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Like your plan to kill the Porn and eat right. What are you eating?
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Hey guys

till recently i had been occasionally coming back to this forum to pre-occupy myself to avoid pmo and just to give myself a boost reading about others who suffer the same problem.

i had a slight setback last week on day 53 of abstinence. i was aiming for 2months (56 days) and was making great progress, the flatline period had all but disappeared and random erections were getting harder to the point where i needed to masturbate badly, but then it stopped. another period of flatline.

i had completely and successfully quit porn with no cravings whatsoever though every so often clicked on news articles with attractive woman (always clothed) and by chance on a website there was a small ad with 2/3 hardcore porn images which immediately caught my attention. not going to lie, i did stare for a longer than i probably should have lol but that was as far as it went and have since still not had any cravings or desire to view porn, so i am confident i have overcome porn addiction. this was during week 6. about a week later i couldnt help but notice the flatline that i mentioned earlier. did those images set me back? im normally a calm person but when it comes to my penis i did panic. random erections were A LOT less frequent and no where near as hard as they had been.

i convinced myself i had to test the waters and decided to masturbate. i managed to get an erection (it was about 65% hard) and came fairly quickly using only the slightest grip (lower 3 fingers and palm) with no porn, fantasy or sexual imagery which was the only positive. it was odd in that it was all strangely underwhelming and i wish i never did it tbh. i felt that everything was suddenly lighter down there and really didnt know what to think.

ive since started the reboot process again and am on day 3. and the erections still arent as hard or frequent as they have been.

My question is whether those images had really set me back and that i would of had to restart the count for my abstinence even though i hadnt masturbated? When do i know i am cured? how should it feel? what is considered normal?

i have to stress until my setback i was at the point of getting hard with no manual stimulation and only the slightest dirty thought and the erection would be pretty bloody good.

i am at my wits end with this, im 22, and without trying to sound arrogant, well above average in terms of looks and very confident guy whos still a virgin. ive been in many situations of having sex but unable to get it up and always figured it was alcohol or anxiety related. then i got with an amazing girl (in every sense of the word), an actual 10 and though we tried many times in different circumstances, nothing, absolutely nothing happened. that was a year ago and have since pretty much avoided getting myself in those situations knowing nothing is going to happen and girls are left wondering why i never pursue things with them anymore. im not desperately pursuing girls to finally lose my virginity but would like to actually take up the opportunities presented to me one of these times knowing i could actually perform!

ive pmo'd probably since i was 13/14 and more frequently as i got older. i feel like im so close to fixing myself yet so far and would greatly appreciate any help or advice you could give.

thanks in advance
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I'll comment. No the pics did not set you back. Porn is not like alcohol. You are exposed to sexual stimuli all day long. It’s when you enter the seek and search mode where you are clicking around from pic to pic.

You are not fully recovered. As more and more young men develop porn-induced ED and recover, we are seeing a pattern emerge. Many young guys who started porn about the same time they began masturbation, are taking longer to fully recover. Older men, who spent years masturbating, or having sex, before starting porn recover faster and more definitively. Young guys have wired their brains to porn, and have not developed normal pathways. It could take 90-120 days.
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Thanks for the info and I do appreciate it as you seem very well informed.

Do I now need to restart the cout for my abstinence because I masturbated or do I carry on as before? Also how do I know when I'm cured? Is there like a sign even a small one?
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A lot of questions are answered on youbrainonporn under the FAQ tab.
Tons of material about porn-induced ED under the first question: "Is my erectile dysfunction (ED) related to my porn use?" Lots of stories of succesful recovery, for you to learn from, and compare.

Your brain doesn't know counting, or porn, so that's purely psychological. This isn't a contest, and there is no magical time-frame that determines healing of your brain. Simply continue, you have accomplished a lot.

It can be difficult sometimes to tell when you are ready, because healing will continue long after your erections are satisfactory (as long as you stay away from artificial stimulation (2-D).

Guys tend get hornieer (is a that a word), more sponatneous erections, maybe wet dreams, but some don't know until they attmept masturbation and sex.
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I stopped viewing porn on August 13th.  Since then I have masturbated only twice.  I'm having wonderful sex with my new girlfriend several times a week.  Porn is tempting but it will never make you happy.  Don't be afraid, just give it up!
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Congratulations. That's relatively quick recovery. Can you give a few details, such as;
1- Age
2- how long you have been using porn?
3 - did you start masturbation/sex before you statrted porn use?
4 - When you masturbated, did you always use porn?
5 - did you escalate in hard core/weird stuff?
6-  ever have long stretches without porn before attempting the reboot?

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i am 40 years old and as of 2 yrs ago i thought i was always going to be the horniest man on the plantet but that all diminished ,it started 2 yrs ago with someone i was very attracted to and she was even very comforting and lead me to beleive it was just performance anxiety but i never had a problem with that like spontaneous sex at the spur of the moment i always acheived erection when needed but something has happend in last 2 years that really no thought or visual has me interested .it seems if i wait a few days to masterbate im fine with watching porn and acheive a good erection but wont stop there and may repeat but then w less and less of erection but until my body is drained of any semen .it only seems i can stay completely hard after waiting and replenishing but problem is i cant keep and erection 50% of the time because i feel i am either drained or just not interested the girl i am seeing now has no patience for something like this and also knows i have a porn addiction and gets extremely upset if she found i watched it ,now alot of the times i pop it on is to check myself to see if i am working properly and like i said even with porn my erections vary in strenght . we had unsuccesfull sex last night where i could not keep an erection she gets irratated and i end up leaving coming home watching porn and im hard like a rock and ejaculate fine infact twice .and now i worrie i have to replenish again so im actually screwing this relationship up even worse ~ any suggestions would help
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Hello,
Me and my bf have been involved with eachother for a little over a year, and I just recently discovered his porn / mb addiction. I thought it was very strange that he would never ever ejaculate no matter what we did sexually. I would try and try and it never worked, except 2 times out of the year we were together. We never really had a LOT of sex, but it was on average of 2 or 3 times a week, for the most part. As the relationship progressed, we gell in love, and he moved in. It seemed like the closer we got the less sex we had. I knew something was wrong and i would bring it up all the time, but he would never admit anything. I knew he liked porn cuz I found a TON of usage of it on his home computer before he moved in, so I bought a couple videos for us, he only used them with me once, we still continued to have very little sex. When he moved in, and the internet got turned over over the end of the summer, we barely ever had sex and upon looking at our computers history, he was watching internet porn. This upsetted me a LOT and I brokedown quite a bit, he wouldnt touch me but would constantly watch that and masterbate. I am a very attractive woman, and he appears to be very attracted to me, I just think this has taken him over. I told him some things I learned when I researched porn addiction and he agreed to stop, but he NEVER EVER agrees to talk about it with me, or read the research materials I have organized for him. It been 1 week since he has stopped, its been 3 weeks since weve had sex. Hes always making the promise that it's going to happen but it doesnt, and even if he lets me try he doesnt get hard or doesnt stay hard. He hasnt openly admitted that he has a problem but I think he realizes and has said hes "made mistakes". This is extremely hard to deal with as the woman and I really think I myself need to seek some help, someone to talk to, even if he wont. I wish him and I could deal with this and go thru this together, I think it would make it easier for both of us, but everytime I bring it up or bring up wanting sex he get FURIOUS with me. I dont know what to do or where to turn or how to help the man I love...
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In addition to my previous post, I would also like to know, IF my boyfriend does happen to get an erection - can we have intercourse? To recap, he just quit P/M about a week ago, and he hasnt been able to get or keep an erection, but if he does happen to get and keep one, is it ok for us to use it and in what ways? OR - do we need to wait more towards the 2 months that I see listed in most the posts?
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If your partner has porn-induced ED, he has a porn addiction also. So just focusing on his penis is only a part of recovery. He will be struggling with cravings, perhaps other symptoms of withdrawal, and real likely hood of relapse. You both need patience. Most guys eliminate or drastically reduce orgasms, as this is the fastest path to erectile health.

His brain (Not penis) is desensitized and needs to heal, so forcing erections or orgasms is counterproductive.

However, smooching and fooling around helps rewire his brain to the real deal. That’s important, since he has wired his brain to require artificial, always novel stimuli. You two may want to attempt gentle intercourse without orgasm.

I suggest visiting yourbrainonporn, and exploring this FAQ: "Is my erectile dysfunction (ED) related to my porn use?" Tons of info, plus many succesful ED recovery stories, including men with girlfriends- and what they foung worked, and didn't work.
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Doctor!!

i have become a porn addict since few months. Now i want to leave this habbit. I want to know has it caused any effects on my sexual health?? have I got ED? can i become normal again, i am unmarried yet so i don't know whether i will perform okey in the bed or not!!

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I'm not a doctor. Porn-induced ED is completely reversible. If you have it, simply stop porn (forever), and temporarily abstain form masturbation, orgasm, and porn fantasy.
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Hello guys! I'm 27, I'm a doctor and I've been experiencing the same problem as you all.
I've been watching porn during my entire sexual life. My first orgasm was when I was 14 and I was watching porn when that happened. The first girl I kissed was when I was 13 and my first sexual relationship happened when I was 16 with a strange woman and, by then, I didn't get a bonner.
In the beggining, when internet wasn't available, I used to buy tapes, latter DVDs but these types of porn usually do not provide you such an intense experience as the internet. For example: if your fetish is cumming on the face of a woman, if you're on the internet, you can go straight to the scene, and therefore you experience a more intense orgasm,
Well, continuing with my story, during my adolescence, every time I kissed a girl I used to get a bonner. After my first traumatic sexual experience (with an unknown girl) in my late 16s, I then got a girlfriend when I was 18. My first sexual experience with her was also a failure, but the next ones (over the whole 7 months we dated) was fine. An important information is that I rarely cummed when penetrating, usually had to stop and finish the job with my hand. After that, I experienced a hard time on medschool because I had to study a lot and almost didn't have time with girls. The few experiences I had, I was able to get bonners but rarely got to the climax penetrating (1 or 2 times).
After I was 22, there was a boom of free xvideos in the net and, as I was addicted to porn, I went through this path, with more and more extreme sex situations beeing watched. As you can imagine, I started experiencing some more traumatic experiences. I started not having bonners even when I was kissing girls. As the things got worst, 100% of my masturbations happened watching porn and I started avoiding situations with women because I had ED. It was until my late 26's that I started suspecting about porn as beeing the cause of my erectile disfunction. I suspected because when I masturbated in the bathroom, I couldn't get it hard and when I was able to do it, I had to imagine porn scenes to do so. I even tried to take viagra to have sex with a girl but it didn't work (this is typical of porn related erectile disfunction (PRED) About 5 months ago I decided to quit watching porn and I'm having several relapses happening frequently. Although concient of my condition my sexual emotion is so heavly atached to porn that I'm having a hard time quiting it. But I'm starting to have better situations happening in my life. 2 days ago, I brought a girl to my place, and despite the fact that I didn't had that "really hard" bonner I was able to penetrate the first time. I also needed my hands to finish the job. The girl wanted more, but I wasn't able to get it hard again. What I can tell you about how to get rid of PRED is:
1- Admit your condition
2- Get away of PORN. If you can't do it, search for phsycological assistance
3- Try to *** only with a woman with you
4- If you have a hard time getting with a woman, you should pay for it. Tell her about your condition and ask for help. If she is a professional, she will understand
5- Make your brain recognize new patterns. For example, if you can't *** penetrating, simply do not ***. With time, your brain will recognize the penetration as the way it has to get pleasure.
6- If you can't live without masturbating, because of your emotional lability, do it, but DO NOT THINK OF PORN SCENES when masturbating.
7- Do not masturbate too fast: try to make your brain recognize slower speed (as in penatration) as the pattern of speed that it's supposed to ***. If you can't *** with slow speed, don't ***.

If you can follow these instruction I guarantee that in 3 month at most, you'll get a normal pattern of sexual life. Of course, it's almost impossible to follow these, because you have emotional barriers that eventually will break your rational orders. I'm having a hard time doing that, but as I keep trying, it's doubtless improving my performance. I hope that my experience with that will help some of you. I consider my case one of the most difficult (my first sexual orgasm was watching porn - this is a heavy emotional print) but hopefully I will have some day a normal sexual life. Aware others of the danger of porn.
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Ok i'm on day 54 of no PMO so only 6 days to go now before i O hopefully during sex.  One thing i'm slightly worried about is what can i expect from my first O after such a long period? How will it differ from normal ones apart from obviously more stuff coming out?
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I would to thank everyone that had the balls to share personal experiences and I'd like to share mine in the hopes that it helps me and anyone else who might relate. Like many of the other commentors here I have been very sexually active and have masterbated from a VERY young age. Frankly I have always thought of myself as a down right sex addict. Porn of all types, masterbation (masturbation), fantasy, and so on. Internet porn has become the ultimate in instantanious sexual content, whatever gets you off beamed straight in at anytime and is as much a part of my daily routine as eating.

I'm 35 and I'd been with the same girl for over 10 years and I never had a problem performing with her, aside from the occasional wiskey ****, stress, etc. that happens to everyone. Even with all the porn and masterbating (masturbating) I'd still have no problem performing for her. A few years ago our romantic relationship starting falling apart as sometimes happens over time. Moving on I started becoming sexually active with other girls, strictly casual as I have zero desire for a serious romantic relationship at this time. The 1st new girl I was with was the 1st time I had "the problem", being this had never happened to me like that before I was completely messed up in the head over it. She was very understanding after a long talk to convince her it was NOT her fault. We both agreed that obviously it was a difficult thing for me to be moving onto new partners after such a long term relationship. It made sense at the time.

For anyone experiencing this they know how frustrating this is, downright rage for me, and on top of it all you find yourself having to explain to a sexy naked woman laying in front of you that it's NOT that you don't find her sexy! Then it happened with the next one, and the next, and the next! At this point I started to honestly think that there must be something physically wrong with me perhaps because I'm not the healthiest guy in the world, but duh it quickly occurred to me that I have zero problem getting rock hard to internet porn. Thank god all the girls I hang with are awesome and very understanding. I talked with all of them about it and came to the conclusion that OK, I guess I do have some psychological issue I'm not seeing. Most of them felt as though I still love my ex, I'm feeling guilty or having issues with my new relationships being so casual. Made sense briefly but after some more personal reflection I realized that this did not make any sense either because of course I still love my ex, we are still great friends, we were together for more than 10 yrs but I have a great friendship with all the girls I hang out with, they are all mentally mature, sexy as hell and fun as hell, and I am VERY sexually attracted to them. I feel zero guilt about having a healthy sex life and I love being great friends with a girl and having sex without the tanglings of a more traditional romantic relationship, it's awesome.

One of them can send me a sexy nude pic of themself and I would get rock hard no prob. No prob getting rock hard during foreplay. I sometimes even get hard just on the drive over to their place just in anticipation of seeing them. I would also like to point out that I feel VERy comfortable with them and we always have fun so this is not a problem of me just psyching myself out when Im with them or just giving myself anxiety about it when I am with them. Just like with internet porn, if one of them sends me a nude pic or I'm just thinking about one of them I get rock hard and all I can think about is how awesome it would be to just have *that* right in front of me right now. Then, I get with one of these beautiful girls naked and in the flesh, want to start making love to her and I go half limp. Sometimes I go between hard and limp mutliple times, and at worst I'm just limp the entire time. Good thing I'm good in and really enjoy performing in "other" ways so I can still satisfy the girls and have a good time in general, but this is rediculous at this point. To have this beautiful girl naked in front of you while you are unable to perform, then 2 hours later back home alone you are rock hard fantasizing about the same girl just wishing she was right here in front of you again!

I have yet to meet a girl that isn't understanding about this, and obviously any girl that is not isn't worth the time of day anyway guys. But I'd also like to tell any girls out there that have run into a guy with this problem, that it's very important you understand that it has nothing to do with the guy finding you unattractive, believe me there is nothing more in the world that he wants to do than "complete the mission" and accusing the guy of not being atrracted to you or girls in general is going to make things far worse. And guys, my mindset is currently that you can't drive yourself completely nuts over this and shut off your sexual life if it is happening to you, just do everything else you can with the girl, enjoy each other and have a good time doing what you can still do until you sort out the cause of your problem.

Anyway, after reading a lot of what other people had to say here I really am convinced that an obsession with internet porn and masterbation (masturbation) is at the root of my problem. Obviously I do not know this 100% but I feel like I definitely have to try to rid myself of these obsessions, and I hope I can reply again in the future with good results.
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Hey guys I'm wondering if u can help me out when I get drunk or do drugs I get nothing but when I'm sober I'm good to go. And drunks the time when u can get the girls it *****
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Last night was 10 days since I stopped looking at any type of porn and masterbated and exactly 1 week since I last came from having sex. Probably the longest I've gone without an orgasm in like 20 yrs. About 3 days into it my sex drive dropped to like zero, which scared the hell out of me. Sex wasn't on my mind at all, I wasn't even waking up with morning wood. Well, last night I started going at it with a girl and I went from zero sex drive to horny as hell in a minute and had awesome full erect sex with her 3 times in a row in about a 2 hour span. No joke. It's only been 10 days so I'm not saying OK definitely fully cured here but wow I felt like I was 19 again. There's no way I'm going trade sex like that to go masterbate in front of a computer again. The only thing that bothers me now is the low libido during the normal course of the day, because I'm very used to being horny like 24-7, but judging from what others on here have said this will eventually return to normal? I hope.

Also just wanted to say that I don't think anyone should feel bad about ever using porn or masterbating (masturbating), but I'm thinking if you have willing partners and are finding yourself unable to get into the real thing with them but have no problem getting off to porn you seriously do need to rethink that. I hope to report back again in about a month with how this is all going.

Titans_romeo, yeah, LOL in a perfect world you could get **** drunk and still perform 100% but there's no cure for a limp "Whiskey D#$k" that I know of, it's just part of the package. If you are hanging out and getting drunk with a girl you'll probably want to pace yourself with the booze, just get a a good buzz going but not get sloppy drunk. When I was younger I used to have a sort of opposite problem, when I got drunk I'd get hard no prob but would not be able to come. After like an hour of sex the girl would be plenty satisfied and like "ok, Im good, you can finish now PLEASE!" and I wouldn't be able too. Obviously, giving it to a girl like that felt pretty awesome but not being able to finish was a bummer. It would usually require oral sex or hand stimulation to finish off at that point.

I didn't mention it in my original post but weed actually has helped my performance problem in the past, but I don't smoke often, I don't like to smoke all that much and I'd be worried about the longer term effects of needing to get stoned just to get an erection, so I dismissed that as a realistic option. If you are using drugs, and cant get erect at all while on them then you are choosing drugs over sex and that may not be the best choice bro.
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I am 22
I really need help. I am very scared. Please someone tell me what is going on with me.

I am not addicted to porn but i will watch it 3 times a week. I can get an erection when masturbating. I can get an erection when i am around my girl and when having sex, I give her multiple orgasms and can stay hard for as long as i want.

There is only one problem.
I do not get morning woods anymore. I'll get maybe once in a week or two and it will only be semi-erect. I sleep for 10 hours

Please can someone tell me that not getting morning woods anymore is a sign of ED even though I drive my girl crazy in bed and have no problem getting an erection with a girl? Please help. I use to get morning wood all the time couple years ago but not anymore :( Whats wrong with me?
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I don't think anything is wrong with you.

Try to stay off from porn... and maybe just have regular sex for a while.

I am 25 years and currently on my 3rd week of no PMO while I am recovering from my last year of heavy porn use. My morning woods now comes more often, maybe 2-4 times a week, before this period nothing....

I had a relationship from 20-24 i which i also saw porn and masturbated but also had a fantastic sex life with no ED problems... However I lost my mornings erections at some time during this relationship and I didn't even think about as a problem, just thight it was because i was getting older..

After the relationship ended I started viewing much more porn and much more hardcore than I did before... Some month later I experienced ED for the first time and then a month later for the second time. First here I realized that something was wrong! Now I am on my way to recover, but it is difficult and feels extremely hard sometimes, however only 16 days in many things are also much better than before...

You are in a lucky place that you are aware of the changes now. Just stop the porn and give it some time, then things will stay to be good!

And lastly, as far as I know, then it is normal to have morning erections some days, but it is also normal to have days without...
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So I'm a bit new.  I've realized for awhile (since I've been with my partner) now that I have a problem.  I can't stay hard for more than 20s without physical stimulation and getting an erection without porn seems to be really hard.  I literally have the woman I love next to me, and I want to do things to her but my body does not want to co-operate with me.  I am getting so frustrated with my body and I know my partner is feeling frustrated as well.

But here's the deal.  I still want to make love to my partner and start this 6 to 8 week cycle, but the question is, can I?  Can I start this cycle and still make love to my partner, or does she have deal in her own way with my abstinence? (Just to say I've been looking at porn since I was... 14, and internet porn since 16, I am turning 25 here soon)
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I'm only going on 2 weeks, so you probably want to hear the opinion of people who have already gone the distance on this but I have NOT stopped having sex, just completely cut out porn and masturbating in general... I've had sex on 4 separate occasions since and my performance is not 100% but is already enough noticably better to the point that I can't imagine looking at internet porn anymore to get off.
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im 18 years old ive been watching porn since i was 15-16 and i mb 1-2 times a day and used to frequently masturbate sometimes 3 or more times a day. right now im going to stop. i know i can stop myself although its hard i really believe i can. i was worried i couldnt reverse the affects p/mb causes, but now i know. hopefully i will push past the urge and get better.
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I am around the same age nd went through a period of sexual dysfunction while I was in college. Basically had an istance where I was hard up until interourse and it failed on me. And the embarrasment and confusion had a lasting effect. It took alot of work on behalf of my girl and I to try and "get me right". Could have recovered quicker but I basically developed the "if you don't try, you can't fail" attitude.

But anyways, I narrowed my issue down to Porn and Masturbation. Obviously some guys can masturbate all the time, and have sexallthe time like rabbits, but some of us might actually adapt to self pleasure a little too much.

I would not describe myself as in all out addict, when I was younger I would do it a couple of times a day if bored, then to once a day usually. 4-5 times a week. So I thought I was ok since I was not doing it 3 times a day.

But my issue was that a vagia just did not feel as it used to. I would be ok with a girl on top, but anythng where I had to do work was not quite natural for me I guess. My position of choice when masturbating laying down in my bed. So I think I literally reprogrammed my body on how to get off.

A vagina doesnt come close to the grip of a had. The speed of a hand. A girl does not always look like a porn star, an she s not always going to perform and act like one. And reaching orgasm is not always going to happen when I am laying on my back.

So I tried to change my habbits. Started masturbating with a lighter grip, slower, or with a condom on. Tried to not do is as often. When I am involved with a female I try to minimize the frequency as much as possible.  All these things resulted in a quicker recovery. Figure I am still a man wh is programmed to reproduce. Since I wasnt giving it to myself, It stepped up when I was with a real feale.
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I'm 27 years old and roughly 4 weeks ago I was with a new girl and we were going to have sex but I had what I now know is porn-induced ED.

I have been masturbating to porn since I was 17 and more recently I have been watching more and more extreme in order to get excited as others have commented on.

Once I found this site I quit watching porn (about 3.5 weeks) and have masturbated 3 or 4 times in the beginning but have stopped completely for past 2.5 weeks.

I completely changed my diet to extremely healthy and have been working out extremely hard with a new workout. I have lost about 13lbs and gained a surprising amount of muscle.

4 days ago my gf came over and we ended up having sex, it took me a while to get hard (wasn't 100% hard) and we had sex for about 1.5 hrs where I was only 100% hard for 10% of the time. For the rest i would drop down to about 50% hard for a little bit then up to 80%.

Also it seems like i had little feeling / sensitivity.

Then yesterday, we had sex again and this time I went 3 rounds but again was not 100% hard and I have to be standing, if i sit or lay down I loose my erection.

Questions,
1. why must I be standing to keep erection?
2. why cant i stay 100% hard?
3. why little to no feeling / sensitivity?
4 is having sex impeding my recovery time even though now I am starting to get morning wood (which was not happening) here and there, again not a 100% erection morning wood?

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I read on another site that it's being use to the porn stimulating u for so long. Something to try go 2 weeks or month without it. Longer without it more u forget it. So now that u dont have that type of stimulation it like going back before u started.. Hope this helps
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Hey guys amazing article with lots of usefull posts thank you.
I want to stop the porn but i wonder can i masturbate because i dont wanna give up on the masturbation. I am 20 y/o and my penis dont get up easy with porn right now...I have morning woods but not random erections trough out the day as before.I am working from home and i **** to out very often so havent fu*ked a girl from 3-4 months so i dont know if my **** will be up i assume that it will.But sometimes before i  had problem with keeping erection with girl becuase of my **** not used to a ***** but to my hand.  I think i killed some of my dopamine receptors so i stoped the porn.Its day 2.

Anyone experianced no erection from porn ? 2 days ago i M to porn and after 4 hours i decided to do that again at first my erection was ok but then it went soft...And this was my warning sign.. so i researched some sites and found yourbrainonporn ******* and it looks i am addicted to porn...


So my question is can i masturbate without porn while i am rebooting my brain from the porn?
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This board is very helpful.  I had an amazing clean streak of 3 months (June-August) with a really good 5 months before that (Jan-May).  Then the past 3 months have been dreadful (Sept-Nov).  Now i'm at my worst again with porn.  This board is helpful but I have absolutely no one to turn to in real life or in real time.  No one to talk to about this.  I think I just lost all hope after 3 months with very little improvement with such a clean streak.  Then my libido came back without much of erections.  So i fell apart and went crazy.  Now, i just don't know if i can go another 3 months or any amount of time.

Does anyone know of any support groups?  Or anything?  Or any chatrooms?  This board is nice but sometimes having real-time chat would be nice.  idk.  I'm feeling pretty powerless and could use better external forces at this time.  

I know this is all mental but porn is like crack.  I'm gonna try to make it tonight without porn and then start a new streak hopefully.  Something is definitely emotionally wrong.  It's definitely made the marriage difficult.
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I've just had a similiar experience as you. I went a good 10 weeks with no porn whatsoever and masturbated once on the 8th week out of curiosity/temptation.

With no urge to view porn I figured I had made huge strides and with noticeable improvements in terms of my erection (still no attempt at sex). I masturbated to porn for reasons i cant recall and felt little in terms of relapse, but before i knew it i went on a 2 week binge and then once more a week after.

This was a HUGE MISTAKE! Though I cant speak for everyone, for me personally i realise that im quite susceptible to relapsing even when it does not appear so at first, however i have no craving to look at porn whatsoever normally. I restarted my reboot since and am bang on 3 weeks now and it feels like im going through the same process at the same speed of recovery as before, which now seems like complete wasted time. However i have learned from it.

What im trying to say mate is just stick at it and in no way even look at porn once out of temptation, curiosity or otherwise as im sure you'll have noticed is those few minutes of euthoria ends up pretty disappointing and unsatisfying after. Plus chances are you'll have undone your good work as i have (GGGRRRRR!!).

I tend to find keeping myself occupied with anything (and i mean ANYTHING) that keeps me away from a computer the easiest way to avoid urges as previously a lot of masturbation came about out of boredom whilst surfing the net (facebook etc.). Being around others guarantees no masturbation, unless of course youre into that lol.

Ive learnt from my own relapsing experience now, knowing the trigger and am more than certain i can beat it, and im positve you can as well. Its just the making excuses and not knowing the recovery time thats worst at the moment.

My question to you is during that initial 5 month clean streak did you notice any changes/improvements or realisation that youve been cured (as mentioned elsewhere recovery period is typically 3 months)? And the same questions again for your good 3 months after.

Also might be helpful, how old are you? how long have you masturbated (heavily) to porn? and did you have any sexual activity of any kind during reboot periods?

Im 22 masturbated to porn since 14, and heavily for past 3/4 years so may not be in the same position but any help or advice is great.

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erectile dysfunction is turning out to be a serious ailment and the future looks even more disastrous. It’s good that you are able to help through such information and details. Such good work is always welcomed. Thanks a lot and keep it up.
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Erectile dysfunction is turning out to be a serious ailment and the future looks even more disastrous. It’s good that you are able to help through such information and details. Such good work is always welcomed. Thanks a lot and keep it up
http://www.cialisonlinerx.com/
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Play a porn in the back ground but don't watch it. Do it a couple times until u get your mojo back.
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P.S. This is while you are with your girl if she's cool with it
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a radio show on the way to work actually brought my attention to this problem which im thankfull for other wise i never would have discovered this.

im 23 never had a problem in this department had a girlfriend for 2 years, i must admit ive been jerking the turkey since as far back as i can remember but when we broke up it became a daily occurence probably 3 times a day on week days. had a dry spell with the women for about 8 months then hit the jackpot and pulled 3 different birds in consecutive weeks. first 2 i couldnt get it up but figured it was the grog then the third i was lucky enough to have some cialis and f***** like a champ. thinking my problem was gone until i heard this on the radio and realised i havent been cracking any random fats soo naturally ive been stressing. did some research and here i am.

so after reading most of these posts i put my foot down and have decided to go cold turkey and stop arm wrestling the one eyed vessel atleast until the end of the year.

its been 4 days now went on a short trip interstate its odd though because the women at the beach there were top notch and its odd because im horny as hell but my soldier is non responsive. so far nothing he fells dead almost its ridiculous quite scary really but im staying positive. will definately keep you guys posted have alot of will power so im confident i wont lapse for a while.

SO BOYS NO BUFFING THE BANANA
cheers for your help



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Hi, good to hear you found the site.

I'm 25 and out situations sounds very identical besides I haven't tried any meds and not planning to.

I'm i week 6 now, have done M 4 times during those weeks but no P... I can tell you that things will change, but not in a linear way... I know the frustrating felling of being horny but no respond from the lower parts. Sometimes it works for me now, other times it don't. The big problem for me is that I think a lot about it and that might affect the reaction in a negative way. Other days just fly by and everything i s good...

So, what I'm trying to say is: Stick to the program, don't get freaked out by the "flat"-periods... they will come and go over the reboot...
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Thanks Yellowsnow!

I'm 32 and been intense into porn for 8 years.  The decline started right about the same time.

There were good moments during the first semi-clean 5 months.  But nothing like my younger days.  But I got decent erections and arousals at times on my own or from girls I talked to online.  My wife... nothing.

I went completely clean for 3 months.  Felt great in general.  But didn't feel like things improved a whole lot sexually.  But I guess they did improve and I didn't realize it.  I went crazy and started mb without porn.  Then progressed to some old intense marathon habits of porn.  I've come to realize i'm an extreme user.

I'm not looking at porn right now but i'm also not completely clean.  I find it's best to find people to chat with online to keep my mind off the boredom.  Boredom is my worst enemy right now.

One dude on here told me he has had really good results from acupuncture.  Not sure if he posted that publicly... i forget.  I am trying a chiropractor for a few months of regular treatments.  And after 2 treatments, i've had some morning chubs and after nap chubs consistently for 5 days now.  he's been adjusting my vertabrae that is related to sex organs... which he showed me on xray that it was messed up as well as others.  i'm also trying to get my thyroid functioning well.  so hopefully combining 3 health improvements I will get better results soon... the 3 being....
1) no porn, very little mb (i just can't cut off unfortunately, it makes me crazy and susceptible to binge)
2) spinal health from chiropractor
3) thyroid health with treatment (thyroid is related to dysfunction btw)

And so, i keep on trying....
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Hey guys, i am doctor and 29 yrs old. I am together with this amazing physician and our love life would be awesome if i could maintain an erection. I have been consuming porn since 16 or so. I would get horny that i would masturbate like 3-6 times, usully even watching porn. Often disgusted sometimes afterwards i used to always get this craving - like an addiction. So back to the present, Getting and erection when we are naked is no problem. Since we use condoms thats the moment my brain gets panic that now its the real deal, feeling even pressure or scared losing my erection yet again. Usually in missinary i feel comfortable and as used to my masturbation habits if i go fast and hard i come quckly. If we both take it a notch slower o she is on topnafter 2-3min i lose my erection. We both have taked about this since we r both in the medical field. So far we both wanted to take away the pressure and just make no big deal of losing an erection. Then again i thought maybe i was just used to be a "sprinter" during masturbation. So cutting down is the way to go.  Just wanted you guys to know that i will keep you updated. i think my brain and my erectile reflexes are conditioned to my excessiv m-habit. And advice to couples is to talk about this openly to your partner. Coz your girl might think its her and not you... I told my gf that i masturbate a lot and i am trying to limit (quit for good).. It helps!
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I completely agree with you, this problem needs to be admitted and shared to others. I came out of the closet to my partner and she was so gracious. She came to me the next day and told me how wonderful I was for letting her know about my problem. And it is a shared experience the problem belongs to both involved.

I am now 2+ months without porn and the attraction is VERY strong to re-open the habit. It really is an addiction. I struggle with the desire daily but have, so far, not given in. I am sad that my life is like this, but live in hope it will be getting better by this time next year..
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I just read all of the posts on this thread and its really heart breaking how many of us guys, even as young as 15, have this problem, and how it messes up our lives and those of the ones we love.

So since everyone else is being really open and honest, here is my story. Hopefully there is a bit of wisdom in there that some of you younger guys can, perhaps, learn from.

I'm currently 26, my love life has been a bit non existent until recently. I kind of hid myself away at uni. I've never had a one night stand, partly because it seems kind of immoral to me but also probably also because ive been a bit of wimp and should 'man up' a bit. I met a girl this summer, we speant a night together in a darkly lit room kissing and cuddling and feeling one another up a bit, it was magical. At this point I was a virgin, not that she knew that. The sh1t thing is she lives about 3000 miles from me and after that night we had to split up. We chat on Skype all the time, and over the next month or so I eventually fessed up that I still had my 'V-plates' and I went to see her for a week this summer and subsequently lost them. I had the best week of my life and then we had to split up again.. back to Skype.

So thats the context. Our first time was a bit of a struggle.. condoms weren't working for us, so I went skydiving without a parachute so to speak, a brave (or suicidal) move for a first timer. My erections aren't what the once were, and getting and maintaining wood was a problem. Over the course of the week, things got a bit better I could manage about 70% wood and i even managed to finish on a few occasions (outside obviously). Its not good when a girl thinks your D doesnt work.. and it can seriously trash your chances of forming a relationship with them. We had a few seriously awkward conversations about it. A few days in I told her that I thought it was porn related, which really disgusted her. Not that many girls watch porn, atleast not in the same way guys do. The really awful thing was that she thought that the reason my D wasnt hard was that I wasnt attracted to her. She felt bad in herself because of me. Its a horrible feeling.

I want my D working properly. I want a rock solid erection that I can use to take her places shes never been before. Shes had a few boyfriends before, but never had an O. Being a scientist of course I looked this up, and its probably because she prefers Missionary position, which makes putting pressure on the front wall of her V really difficult and thus stimulating her G-spot impossible. The poor girl thinks she can't have one. I want to change her mind, but to do that I need the 'bone' back in my boner.

In my case I've been looking at porn since I was about 13 I think, which as I'm 26 is a depresssingly large HALF OF MY LIFE. I wish I had never been introduced to it, or we never had the internet. Back then it was just pictures of course, dial-up and all that. Things escalated when broadband came along. Porn steals your innocence. I should never have seen those things back then, especially at that young and impressionable age. You need to find these things out for yourself naturally, not looking a pics/video online. I honestly think if I had never seen it, I would have lost my virginity years ago and be in a much better sittuation now. The type of porn you look at over time definatley gets more hardcore. My poison is these amateur couple videos, especially when they are my sort of age.. which is really sad when you think about it, all that time spent bashing the bishop to those when I could have been with a girl of my own. Also, watching porn when you're a kid makes you insecure, thinking your not the same size/shape as others.. well of course your not.. your only about 4 ft tall! Unfortunately the insecurites never go though and you end up missing out on so many opportunities and magical moments that are part of growing up.

So I stopped looking at porn completely at the end of October sometime, and over the same period have been trying to cut right back / stop masturbating. Ive failed a few times but currently its been 10 days. No sign of morning wood, not regularly, and certainly nothing to write home about. Not had a wet dream in longer than I can remember, even just an erotic dream. I want all these things back, well maybe not the wet dreams. I feel like my addiction to porn growing up stole my innocence. I've had days where it is really sensitive, and others where it practically doesn't exist. Porn is completely off the menu for me forever now, I've wasted too much of my life, pleasuring myself. Over the last year or so when I watched porn and masturbated I wasn't even at 100%, I guess i'd need to elevate the extreme nature of what I was watching to make my body interested again.. and in the process only make things worse. No, thats it forever now.

So no signs of major improvements yet for me, but I'm hopeful. Im going to the gym, I bought a pull up bar, im doing kegels.. the PC mucle is a seriously important muscle to exercise by the way, for guys and girls.

Fingers crossed I'll see some improvements, and good luck to everyone else trying to kick the habit and reclaim their manhood.
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HI, I am 25 years old(26 in a couple of moths), and like 7 months ago I started to notice a problem with my erections while beeing with girls (I had 3 awful embarrassing moments)...and like 3 months ago it got worst, I couldn't even get an erection while I was watching porn and trying to masturbate but somehow i was able to have an orgasm (is this normal??, I am really freaked out), last week I read the thread you posted in this forum, so I decided to be abstent from porn and masturbation for as long as necessary, this is my fifth day of no porn or masturbation...is it bad for the recovery process if I masturbate without watching porn?? I know that this urge I am feeling is part of the process, but it feels out of control. Thanks
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HAS THIS HAPPENED TO ANYBODY BEFORE

I was a frequent masterbater.... i'm not sexually active...suddenly one day i just stopped getting mornign erections and spontaneous erections...now it seems like i have to try harder to get an erection when i masterbate..but eventually i do get an erection....i'm 22 years old and i've stopped all porn n masterbation (masturbation)...plz helppp
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I have lived through ALL the exact things that you describe,,,

I am on my 6th or 7 th week now of no P. I have masturbated a little, but I would recommend to stay away from it... The first couple of weeks can be really hard for you... You will have urges and feel ****** about yourself, but stick to the plan, It works! Be aware that the recreation is not linear - if you get your morning woods back one week, it might be gone again the next week. Don't freak out abut it!

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I'm trying to determine what counts as relapse to porn. If you see a sex scene on a movie or pictures of hot women on the internet does this mean you have to start over? I'm trying to avoid this type of stuff at all costs but this **** is everywhere. Im on day 80 of no masturbation and havent seeen much results and im starting to wounder if this is beacuse i was looking at women on facebook and dating sites before i realised that even this might not be good for me. It would be absolutely heart breaking if i had to start over now because of a sex scene i saw on tv, or pictures i saw on the internet. If someone could clarify this for me it will be  much appreciated.
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Hey thanks for the advice, I almost gave up that day, but when I was about to do it I decided to close my browser, turn off my computer, and went outside to get some air. This is my ninth day without porn or masturbation, I am training every day, and trying not to use my computer too much during my free time. But being away from porn and masturbation still a big challenge, hope I will be able to overcome these first couple of weeks. Good luck to everyone going through the same process.  
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You have an addiction to sex in the form of masturbation. Sex is literally like cocaine. Every time you masturbate to porn, your brain releases dopamine...a feel good "drug". When you masturbate excessively your brain has to produce more and more dopamine to get the same high. Just like a drug user has to use more of the drug to get high. ALSO you now have a mental association with the porn images and the feel good drug. STOP watching porn. Stop mastubating and just let yourself be for a while si your brain can reset itself back to its natural dopamine levels. Also your penis will regain sensitivity. It's really just this simple. You will begin to respond to your beautiful girlfriend with patience and allowing your sexual brain to heal. Its all about finding a sexual balance. Good luck.
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The best suggestion I feed that may help you is to use a Fleshlighttoys.com,  this is what helped me with my sexual dysfunction and My Penis Loves it as do my wife...the best invention ever.   -- see youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rgwd5N4PXPo
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I just read the whole post! How inspiring!
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Hi all,

I thought I would post to let people know how things are going for me. I haven't knocked one out since 24th of November and some days its really difficult not to, especially in the shower as you've got to clean the little fella. I'm really glad I don't watch porn any more, I feel good about myself for being in control, I can smoke when I like, drink when I like but porn has always been a weakness.

Its been up and down, littlerally, I've had mornings where you could play baseball with it and others where it feels like it doesn't exist. Well the baseball things a bit of an exageration but it was probably like 90%, which is the best its been in months and months. Im hopeful. My target is christmas when Im going to see my girlfriend (we live apart), then theres no chance of me abstaining. When I'm with her I am going to pay so much attention to every little curve and detail that I love about her and try to replace any fading memories of porn with those. You've gotta get that crap out of your head, and the more you've seen the harder that will be.

I really hope it works but I dont think its a solution long term, you have to keep that area in shape, meaning your PC muscle and regular ejaculations to keep your prostate healthy.

http://menshealth.about.com/cs/prostatehealth/a/ejaculate_ptate.htm

But first Im gonna try and fix this thing, I'm doing PC muscle flexes whenever I remember to tone up down there. Im going to the gym trying to get everything else in shape. Also started taking a multi-vitamin for blokes called 'Wellman Sport", its got Arginine and Zinc in it which are both good for your tackle and blood circulation in general, and it doesnt say 'TO MAKE YOUR **** WORK BETTER' on the pack.

I also chatted to one of my friends about it, a seriously awkward conversation at first. He actually has the opposite problem and is too sensitive down there are finishes to quickly.. so I told him to bash his bishop off to as much porn as he can find, lol. Everyones different and 'Normal' is a concept that doesnt really exist. But if you are aware of your problems, whatever it is and you look up how to improve thats the best you can do.

Good luck everyone.
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Hello All,

So glad I found this forum and it is nice to know I am not going through this alone. I have been masturbating to internet porn since I was 14, I am now 31 so over half my life I've been scouring the net to feed my addiction. I have been in relationships and never had a problem performing before until last year. I was with a girl that was a bit of an exhibitionist and wanted to have sex in the corner of a club, I think the anxietey of being caught was too much for me and I wound up going soft inside of her. Ever since than I have not been able to maintain an erection with a woman, and can only pleasure myself.

It is certainly frustrating, and I feel ashamed that I have seemingly robbed myself of one of lifes greatest pleasures.  I've recently started seeing this woman and she is incredible, her body is beyond compare, despite a night of drinking I was able to perform to completion and felt that I had finally vanquished my foe. We got together again a few nights ago and I was unable to climax. She was rather bothered by this, as was I, and I do not want to ruin a good thing. I am going to abstain from masturbating and porn for as long as I can. I want my next sexual contact to be with her and her alone, and I want to be able to re-program myself to enjoy the sensations of being with a woman live, versus watching it on my computer screen.

I have been clean for 4 days now, and I am surprised by the lack of urges, I have deleted my porn collection in it's entirety and I have been trying to use my mind to provide stimulation when I feel horny as opposed to flipping on the computer. I am going to use this forum as a support structure, between work and all the other stressors in my life, being able to have a healthy sex life would certainly help keep the edge off.

I want to thank you all ahead of time for sharing your stories, it has helped me realize that I am not in this alone, and that I can conquer this without the use of pills. My goal is to not touch myself at all, until I am with her again, hopefully this will help me get my body circuitry back on track again.
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glad i found this furum it makes more sense now , i am 53 suffering from ed can get parsial erection when with having sex with wife this has been a slow decline over time , i am addicted to porn but only on 2 sites as time has gone on i have needed bigger kicks to get me off wife does not no anything puts it down to my age , i can get an erection mast watching the right type of porn but very difficult without, this has been caused by me  having very high sex drive and the wife the same  but when she had our daughter she lost her sex drive daughter now 18yrs , i turned to porn as i was crawling up the walls but did not want to be unfaithful to her , and now as time has gone on i have this problem i went on holidays in summer  my mate gave me some viagra and it was great it made me feel normal again but its not a perm fix , i worked it out that i was addicted tryed to stop to fix it but did not work back at it ! been docs got viagra if needed . need to stop pc for longer ! help
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hello ill tell my story and can someone help me figure this out??

When i was 15 i had a girlfriend and got erections all the time with her. In the movies we would make out instant hard erection just simple things like her sitting on my lap would get me excited and i would get hard no problem my sex drive was high.. well we broke up and a period of time between 15-18 i didnt have a girlfriend and i turned to porn for 3 year years constantly watching it and masturbating to it maybe averaging 5 times a week.. it started with pictures that i jacked off to then it went to hardcore videos.. and then searching for the most extreme videos i could ever see.  well when i finally got a chance to play around with a girl again a 18 we both got drunk and starting making out and she got naked and started to give me a hand job but i didnt get fully hard and then it just went away.. i could get hard almost instantly before just making out with girls.. first i thought its was because i was drunk and this was why i could get hard.. then a few months later i got with a girl again but sober this time.. i had 15 mins to have sex then i had to go to work and i was nervous because it was my first day of work and this was a random hook up with a girl i barley talked too but she was hot.. same thing happand ! she got naked in front of me making out and didnt get hard and i just left because i didnt want her to know that i couldnt. after this i started to worry somthing was wrong... a few months later i got a girlfriend and we would make out in bed i even ate her out! she naked and i got a erection for only a couple mins before it went away and she thought its hurt fault i wasnt attracted to her.. durning all this time im watching porn around 5 times a week.. i get hard often in the mornings and without porn randomly its just with a real girl and trying to get aroused by her that i was failing  to do and porn gets me aroused every time.. i was researching and i found porn could be training looking at this hard core videos that it can only be aroused by that and not the simple making out and girls sitting on my lap that used to get me aroused instantly.. I was horrified and stop watching porn and masturbating for a week now and im determined to get aroused easily like i did when i was 15. so what do i do to recover? Can i masturbate and not watch porn? or not masturbate or watch porn at all? please respond and help    
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You seem to be in a hurry to get beeter, so no porn nor masturbation, because that way the recovery is quicker.
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hello ill tell my story and can someone help me figure this out??

When i was 15 and i had a girlfriend i got erections all the time with her. In the movies we would make out i would get instant hard erection, and just simple things like her sitting on my lap would get me excited and i would get hard no problem. my sex drive was high..

a period of time between 15-18 i didnt have a girlfriend and i turned to porn for 3 year years constantly watching it and masturbating to. averaging around 5 times a week. it started with nude pictures that i masturbated to then it went to hardcore videos.. and then searching for the most extreme videos i could find.

when i finally got a chance to play around with a girl i was 18 and we both got drunk and starting making out and then she got naked and started to give me a hand job but i didnt get fully hard and then it just went away.. i could get hard almost instantly before when i messed around with girls. first i thought its was because i was drunk and this was why i couldnt get hard so i shoved it off and though nothing of it. then a few months later i got with a girl again but sober this time and she was hot.. same thing happand ! she got naked in front of me making out rubbing on me and i didnt get hard and i just left because i didnt want her to know that i couldnt. after this i started to worry somthing was wrong... a few months later i got a girlfriend and we would make out in bed i even ate her out she got naked and i got a half *** erection for only a couple mins before it went away and she thought it was her fault because i wasnt attracted to her and this destroyed are relationship. durning all this time im watching porn around 5 times a week and jacking off to it .. i get hard often in the mornings and get hard without porn randomly thru the day. its just with a real girl and trying to get aroused with her is what im  failing to do and porn gets me aroused every time.. i was researching and i found porn could be training my brain by looking at all these hard core videos and i can only be aroused by that and not the real life situations or simply making out and girls sitting on my lap and getting naked in front of me that i used to get me aroused instantly only a couple years ago.. I stop watching porn and masturbating for a week now and im determined to get aroused like i did before i started watching porn. so what do i do to recover? Can i masturbate and not watch porn? or not masturbate or watch porn at all? how long do i have to stop masturbating for?  please respond and help    
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     I have to agree with everything I have been reading here. Porn is NOT harmless. It trains your brain to consider fiction to be a reality. I do not honestly know if it is reversible. I do know that there should be more education on this subject. It is a public health issue. I don't there there is the money or other resources to mount this campaign, against the porn industry. If people can create a stop smoking campaign against big tobacco, then may be it is possible.
     The only advice I can give is, avoid porn as long as you can


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Thanks for these postings. I found it very helpful. I'm dating or was a nice guy who after the 4th time in the sack with him could only get aroused by masterbating (masturbating) himself while in bed with me. Boy did I feel inadequate. I like to think I'm pretty attractive and love sex. He doesn't like blow jobs... Go figure! He says his problem is years of chronic masterbation (masturbation) & porn and the only way he can come is if I keep talking dirty and describe real sex stories or sexual fantasies while screwing... I just make up stuff for lack of real true life kinky stuff to tell him. It seemed like a lot of work to me - making physical love and constantly talking to him so that he could eventually orgasm! It's too bad because otherwise I really enjoy our time in bed and he makes up for it in fellatio which I think is his focus due to his trepidation when it comes to getting hard for the actual intercourse. What can I do because I know I'm going to run out of interesting sex monologues!
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Hello, I was wondering if there is a relationship / connection with the visual relationship of the brain and the physical functions of the penis.  When a man is aroused, is there a chemical reation that increases lebido or excitement that might be interfeared with or encourage it??

Im having problems getting excited with a woman as well, same thing with the ORIGINAL poster and his problems.  However, I am in my 40's and still wanting to be sexually functional and active with out meds.  

Porn does stimulate me, but the naked lady next to me produces half mass erections.  But the porn erections are still 18 year old solid!!, (bad example, but I remember) but you get it.  

I do think Im addicted to the checmical excitement and the feeling of getting off, MAN.. that an addictive feeling and I enjoy it a TON.  I often masterbate 1-5 times daily!!, for the past 20-25 years, really! (at least5 outta 7 days a week)  I think I need to take a break form porn and masterbating (masturbating), but its EXTREMEMLY hard.  Could someone point me in the right direction on this problem of mine, its beginning to bother me and my partner/s.


Any ideas or thoughts on this,

Thanks

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Add a girl friend, kidding.  Try to make him feel comfortable and support him as best as possible.  Maybe take things up a notch by adding a moving or other things to the equation.  He definatly sounds like he is a visual person, kinda like me.  I watch too much porn and have the same problems, yet (as per my post) I can still manage to have sex, just not with a full erection!  But I am a very visual and vocal person, try adding and try exploring with him some, cuz porn is a VERY visual and controllable things.  You can ANY type of sexual desire on the internet, who knows what he's seen.  Best of luck,

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Hello All,

After reading through most of the post, I think I am having the same problem that most of you guys experiencing. I never had sex at all with my GF after being together for 5 years (since 21). She just gave me regular handjobs and NOT EVEN blowjobs but I still remained faithful towards until one day we get married. I felt sexually deprived and I give myself PMO once every night and during weekends 5 times a day. I've been doing that since then. And recently my GF temporarily left me to further her studies for 2 years. My PMO addiction got worse.

Recently, I found out I have ED or maybe Porn Induced ED when I visited a brothel (my first time given to a prostitute, yes, a prostitute) I couldn't perform on her. My erection was weak, it was facing 45 degrees downwards. I penetrated her but I my erection was weak that I couldn't feel her vagina tightness. I couldn't ejaculate inside her. I felt depressed.

I will take a vow to do a 2 Months non PMO course !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :@:@:@

I will go back to the same prostitute (she's smoking hot) and try to get 100 degrees strong erection and ejaculate inside her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
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ok this is my second round of going clean.  to recap: i did 5 months mostly clean, 3 months very clean, 3 month relapse going nuts on porn, 5 weeks mostly clean.

i'm clean since 11/28.  well, basically clean.  I've seen stuff but only briefly and very infrequently and never with intent to mb or enjoy the porn.  ok, so by this i mean that sometimes i'm opening up old porn files and deleting stuff i know i'll never watch again.  i know i should delete it all but i'm not.  baby steps.

i'm 5 weeks in or so.  i mb sometimes but it's very infrequent.  i hope i can go the distance this time and at this moment... i think i can.  i've had all my bloodwork redone by a doctor and everything came back fine again except a very slight hypothyroid issue.  i'm taking a low dose to try to fix that.  still no results yet.  i have low libido unless something kinda gets me horny but it takes more than normal.  i get erections from emotional stuff but not from visual stuff.  i'm hoping that i get to the point i got to before returning to the porn.  here's what i think happened....

i was completely clean and no libido.  my libido returned and erections were slightly better.  i went nuts and masturbated a lot because it felt so freakin good after abstaining.  then i went nuts and returned to porn.  then i bottomed out and i'm now clean again.  i'm not eliminating mb completely because i feel it'll help me to do it when i feel necessary.  but this time when my libido returns, i'm going to keep my hands off my **** more often and definitely keep my eyes off the porn.
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Btw, I've been to 3 doctors and all of them have told me the exact same things.... there is no reason why i should be having any issue whatsoever.

must be porn, nuerological stuff, dopamine, and masturbation.
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Hi I am 32, I started no PMO just after i identified me having ED 4 weeks before. I have a concern if playing with my wife with no intercourse delay my recovery. Can I have a phone talk to her as well. please reply soon  
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I have just read the whole thread and watched the 4 vids, which are great by the way, they give some hope

OK, time to face up to my addiction and Porn induced ED.

I’m 39, been M to porn since I was 13, been M to internet porn since I was 18 and got ED at 30.  I couldn’t work out what was happening, I wasn’t in a regular relationship so it didn’t effect me too much apart from the embarrassment, but it wasn’t all the time so I just got on with it.  

Then at 31 I got into a relationship with a girl 10 years younger than me.  She was insatiable, wanted it all the time so I decided to get myself checked out.  As I now know there was nothing physically wrong and so I started using Cialis.  It was great at the beginning, I couldn’t believe it, the erections where so strong and I could even repeat on them.  Life was good for a change.  Then after a while I couldn’t even get it up on that stuff so I changed to Viagra, it got a little better, but the ED eventually come back to haunt me.  All the while still M on the net, gradually looking at harder and harder stuff.  I think at that time it was a combination of porn and anxiety.  At 33 that relationship ended due to other reasons, but I’m sure ED played a part.  I dint want to talk about it, I got annoyed when she wanted sex.  

I played around a bit, and started using sites to meet girls for occasional sex. As with any addiction, that got worse and started to get into bondage and very hardcore sex.  The amount of hours I have wasted on finding the ‘right girl’ to fulfill my sordid fantasies is unbelievable, if I had channeled all that time and effort into education I could have a few degrees by now, what a waste of time.

I met a girl 2 1/2 years ago, so again went back on the cialis full time, 2 x 20mg pills a week, some times more.   We moved into together 6 months ago.  I still have trouble getting an erection around once a month and only have sex with my girl once a week now if she is lucky.  My libido is next to nothing.  I haven’t told her about my addiction, she has found my pills and I just say I use them now and again.  I’m still meeting for kinky sex, I can’t leave it alone.  I feel so guilty that I meet these girls but don’t want sex with her. She is 10 years younger than me and in her prime, she deserve so much more.

I think the thing that has escalated my addiction is that 4 ½ years ago I started a new job that means I work from home.  It gives me the opportunity to sit at home all day and M.  Literally over the last 7 workings days I’ve M on average for 5 hours a day.  I’m not getting any work done and could lose my job over this.  A comedian once said that when he learns that someone works from home, he always asks ‘how’s the M going’.  How true

One year or so ago I discovered the link between porn and ED and haven’t done anything about it, but now I’m going to.

I never cheated on any of my other girlfriends, but I just haven’t been able to help myself. I love my girl dearly and don’t want to do this to her any more, let alone what I’m doing to myself.  This is going to end, this has to stop.

I just hope I can return my brain to normal, have a proper life.  It’s funny, writing this down and spilling my guts has made me aware how much I need to do something to get myself out of the hole I have put myself in.

Good luck to all of you out there, there is hope and I feel for the girlfriends and wives who have to go through this with them, often without knowing what the problem actually is.
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I’m 21, and suffering from ED. So starting from the beginning, i think i’ve been masturbating since a long time before i was 10. Just touching my penis felt nice and i would O way before i could ejaculate. This escalated when i was around 10 when i had a television in my bedroom. Late night television which showed topless women was now my chosen material instead of my imagination. This soon escalated to the occasional M with internet porn when my parents were not at home. It become a little excessive, and sometimes i would do it up to 5 times a day.  Ended up getting a girlfriend at 17, our first few sexual experience i was as limp as anything, but i now put this down to nerves and anxiety with losing my virginity, because as soon as it happened, we were at it like rabbits every day. Porn usage dropped, but still existed, and i seem to develop a bit of a love for anal porn, which i then took to my relationship. It wasn’t a massive issue at first, but after about a year i seemed to only be able to go once a night or twice if i was lucky and then i would be unable to get it up. Although if i was teased with the prospect of anal sex i would instantly get hard again and be able to go. At the time, the lack of erection after round 1 didn’t affect me at all. it seemed to annoy the girlfriend, but i just thought it was the norm, as i’d already ejaculated. And i know she was satisfied, i think she was just upset by the thought that she didn’t turn me on anymore, which wasn’t the case. I was still watching porn though and masturbating so this must have had some effect on erection quality. I did often prefer masturbating as it was a quick easy release. We eventually broke up as most relationships do, and i then resorted to PMO again. I think it was made worse now by the fact i have my own PC in my room, and so i was accessing Porn everyday more or less. Thought nothing of it as it seems everyone is doing it these days anyway. However, i haven’t been able to get an erection when naked with a girl since, at all. Been home with a few girls after nights out, and started fooling around, got a semi, but that was it. So frustrating. Blamed it on the booze, but it kept happening, so i just avoid getting into sexual situations now.  I recently had sex with my ex again, after  11 months of being broken up, and i was only able to keep it up for a few minutes the first time, and the second time i was going so fast in an attempt to keep it up, i Premature E after a minute. Its just become a huge issue for me now, i think that made me realise P has been bad for me, as objectively i was really turned on by seeing her naked, just nothing happened down there. Tried to give up PMO on new year, relapsed yesterday as i was ridiculously horny (that or just had a PMO craving, as i didn’t have an erection, i just felt horny. This seems to be what normally happens, i think i feel horny, but i don’t necessarily have an erection, and then as soon as i click on the P website, i get an erection, and masturbate like normal. I never seem to have marathon sessions either, its normally a very quick act, just to get that O). So yeah, starting again today. I’m just hoping it makes a difference, and i’m able to get erections just from thinking about sex again, like i could when i was 15.
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I’m 21, and suffering from ED. So starting from the beginning, i think i’ve been masturbating since a long time before i was 10. Just touching my penis felt nice and i would O way before i could ejaculate. This escalated when i was around 10 when i had a television in my bedroom. Late night television which showed topless women was now my chosen material instead of my imagination. This soon escalated to the occasional M with internet porn when my parents were not at home. It become a little excessive, and sometimes i would do it up to 5 times a day.  

Ended up getting a girlfriend at 17, our first few sexual experience i was as limp as anything, but i now put this down to nerves and anxiety with losing my virginity, because as soon as it happened, we were at it like rabbits every day. Porn usage dropped, but still existed, and i seem to develop a bit of a love for anal porn, which i then took to my relationship. It wasn’t a massive issue at first, but after about a year i seemed to only be able to go once a night or twice if i was lucky and then i would be unable to get it up. Although if i was teased with the prospect of anal sex i would instantly get hard again and be able to go. At the time, the lack of erection after round 1 didn’t affect me at all. it seemed to annoy the girlfriend, but i just thought it was the norm, as i’d already ejaculated. And i know she was satisfied, i think she was just upset by the thought that she didn’t turn me on anymore, which wasn’t the case. I was still watching porn though and masturbating so this must have had some effect on erection quality. I did often prefer masturbating as it was a quick easy release.

We eventually broke up as most relationships do, and i then resorted to PMO again. I think it was made worse now by the fact i have my own PC in my room, and so i was accessing Porn everyday more or less. Thought nothing of it as it seems everyone is doing it these days anyway. However, i haven’t been able to get an erection when naked with a girl since, at all. Been home with a few girls after nights out, and started fooling around, got a semi, but that was it. So frustrating. Blamed it on the booze, but it kept happening, so i just avoid getting into sexual situations now.  I recently had sex with my ex again, after  11 months of being broken up, and i was only able to keep it up for a few minutes the first time, and the second time i was going so fast in an attempt to keep it up, i Premature E after a minute. Its just become a huge issue for me now, i think that made me realise P has been bad for me, as objectively i was really turned on by seeing her naked, just nothing happened down there.

Tried to give up PMO on new year, relapsed yesterday as i was ridiculously horny (that or just had a PMO craving, as i didn’t have an erection, i just felt horny. This seems to be what normally happens, i think i feel horny, but i don’t necessarily have an erection, and then as soon as i click on the P website, i get an erection, and masturbate like normal. I never seem to have marathon sessions either, its normally a very quick act, just to get that O). So yeah, starting again today. I’m just hoping it makes a difference, and i’m able to get erections just from thinking about sex again, like i could when i was 15.
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PLEASE RESSPOND!!! Hi I am 32, I started no PMO just after i identified me having ED 4 weeks before. I have a concern if playing and cuddling with my wife with no intercourse delay my recovery. Can I have a phone talk to her as well. please reply soon
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Of course cuddling, and smooching, and fooling around is great. It's beneficial. Some men even have gentle intercourse without getting close to the edge or having an orgasm.

The problem is artificial vs real. Avopid ALL artificial in favor of real contact.  And for guys with ED - orgasm slows down the rebooting process.
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Thanks a lot..
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I have a similar issue. I have bee masturbating for years and watching porn. I fink it has affected my interest in having real sex. I rly need help,at d moment,i v stopped watching porn n stopped masturbating. I hope it works cos ma girls r rly looking up to me for sex. God help us.
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im trying to understand the whole issue. my husband and I are 23, married for 3 years. we went through the initial conflict of him lying about porn. we're still not on the same page. however I offered everything I can think of. I opened the door to discussion, us watching together, etc. I told him I will do/try ANYTHING. he stil  says no. he still lies about using porn. he says he has ed. the doctor said he would give him the minimal script for cialis to see if it was in his mind. it worked. however my husband ran out. I told him remember, the doc said it wasnt a significant dose to do anything? yet he imsists he needs it and our "sex life" is like bummed_out. im going nuts without sex/sexual interaction while my husband says he has enough stress, me reminding him I need sex isnt helping, but hes still looking at porn a few times a week while im at work. any help/input?
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Hello everyone, I'm 27 and as all of you I have been digging my own grave for the last 15 years. My story is not different from your stories, pretty much the same thing. I can't remember when was the last time I had a morning wood. I went with an urologist and everything seems to be normal physically, but the truth is that my psychology is broken. It has affected my relationship with my girl more than I wanted to accept, and probably is beyond salvation. It is really difficult for a man to accept that masturbation and pornography are harmful habits that teach your body and your mind unnatural ways to live our own sexuality, it is an ilusion, like the Siren's Melody, it is an apparently great thing that doesn't seem to have any consequences. But by the moment you realize it was a mortal deathtrap it is too late. I want to say what I have found to be true for me, because I feel that it is our responsability to warn and help others that have fallen:

1.-Through masturbation we have taught our penis and our brain to believe that our hand is a vagina, and with pornography, that the girls on the videos are real and that we are actually having sex with those women. The The body believes what the mind believes, it is that simple. The truth is that a vagina is way different than a hand, it is much softer, wet, not nearly as tight, fairly flexible, and the texture feels very different. And on top of that, when you have sex with a real woman you are the one who moves the body while in masturbation your hand does all the work. And guess what? The speed used in masturbation can not be achived with a real woman, not even by a chance. In other words, basically, after teaching you penis and your brain that masturbation and pornography were "the real deal", when you faced a situation where you had to have sex with a real woman, your body and your mind got really confused. At the beginning maybe since it was a "new experience" your mind gave it a shot, but the excitement of the new experience soon faded away. The penis and the mind would not accept this "new and strange" form of sex. Don't worry, there was no way to know that you were actually screwing yourself. But now you know, and you have the choice to change your ways.

2.-Needless to say, our crave for pornography has escalated to a point where we needed the most perverse and sick video to "get off". It is time to stop, it is time to take our destiny in our own hands. No more masturbation, no more pornography, no more unnatural ways to satisfy a natural need.  You owe it to your girl/wife, you owe it to yourself. It might be too late, but there's still hope for those believe and take action. You must have the guts to leave that world of ilusions behind. I don't know if you noticed, but we are not getting any younger, we can not afford to lose a single minute with this crap anymore.

3.-It won't be easy, but what is waiting for us at the other end is more than worth it. Do not fall, and do not rely on others, the guts and resolve lie within your spirit. Take a look at the past, and ask yourself if that's what you want to be.

4.-It will take a long time. We have been contaminating our mind and body for many years. You will feel the restoration of your mind and body with the upcomming months. And never forget, the body believes what the mind believes. keep on going. To achieve a complete restoration it might take years, but don't worry, iwithin a few months, from 3 to 6 months, you will perceive a huge change, perhaps a 70% of your "old you" back. And be aware that this is a process where you are leaving a drug behind, and your body will react just the same as other addicts. You will perceive as if your penis where smaller, and you will go though a period where your "sex drive is dead", and you will try to masturbate "just to make sure it still works", DO NOT FALL in that stupid mistake. That process is called withdrawal and it is perfectly normal. You will feel "the magic" eventually. Man, you have been killing yourself for so many years, it is just obvious that this was going to happen. But our bodies are the most amazing "machine" in the entire universe and it can heal if you are patient enough. Another thing that you must be aware of is that your mind will play you tricks, and if you are stupid or week enough to fall again, the first thought that will cross through your mind is this: "Since I will have to start all over again, let's have a porn/masturbation party before I start again". DO NOT BE YOUR OWN ACCOMPLICE IN SCREWING YOURSELF. Things like: "Just this one time", "just a quick peek", "I will watch porn but I won't masturbate", "I will masturbate but I won't watch porn, just using my imagination". Phrases like those are for losers, just trying to play dumb. If you feel that the urge is too great go out and find a girl and see if you are cured. Let me know how that goes, please...

5.-The mind has taken 90% of the damage, so, it is something that you can not afford to neglect. Meditation is a MUST, positive afirmations will be necessary. Look, MOST OF THE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS ARE PERCEIVED BY OUR BRAIN AS THE SAME EMOTION=FEAR. And as you should know by now. Fear is one of themost powerful emotions when it comes down to self-confidence. It will crush you if you allow it to. Working in your self-esteem, in your positive thinking is vital for this recovery. Even if you don't watch porn or masturbate altogether for 50 years, if you don't work in freeing yourself from fear, it won't make a difference. The mind is far mor powerful than what you could imagine. You can use it to your advantage or be a victim of your own fear. It's up to you.  THE BODY BELIEVES WHAT THE MIND BELIEVES.

6.-The fact that the mind is more important than the body doesn't mean that you can just do whatever you want with your body. Don't be a fool. Nutrition and exercise will be your best friends and will help with the self-esteem more than what you think. Testosterone is the key in nutrition. I'm not an expert in this field, but reading on the internet can give you much more information than what you could have ever imagined. Zinc is important, good fats are important, nuts, almonds, papaya, etcetera. Look for foods that will be good for your testosterone levels, and look for foods that you should avoid. Sleep well, and rest as hard as you workout. Do cardio, but don't forget to grow your muscles. I'm not telling you to become a gym freak, all I am saying is that you should do some research and see how testosterone works and how to boost it by NATURAL ways don't consume drugs. Guys, we are trying to leave drugs behind don't fall into that **** ever again.

7.-There are millions of girls out there waiting for a man that can fully satisfy them and profect them. Choose wisely in what group do you want to be, in the Alfa group or in the Beta (loser) group. It's up to you. I will recommend you a book so you have the right mindset: The Sex God Method, by Daniel Rose. I swear God you won't regret it.

8.-It is very important that you realize that your mind will relate previous traumatic experiences to specific people and/or places. What I am trying to say here is that if you have had bad sexual experiences your mind will remember them and relate it to a certain person, so be aware of this. If you believe that you don't feel attracted to your wife of girlfriend anymore, this is the reason. And again, if you really care, if you really love that person, you need to talk to her and explain the situation. This can be fixed but it won't be easy. Phsychological damage is the most difficult thing to overcome, but as I told you, the human body/mind is themost amazing machine in the world. It will heal with time.

9.-THE KEY FOR SUCESS IS PERSEVERANCE. IF YOU HAVE NO PATIENCE AND LACK OF CONSISTENCY, YOU WILL FAIL.

I have more thing to say, but by the moment it is enough.

Thanks to everyone.




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If it's an addiction, which it appears to be, it has nothing to do with you. I know that's hard to understand because porn is supposedly sex, right? Wrong. Porn use isn't sex; it's more like video games.

Internet porn addiction is simply about the need for greater and greater stimulation to experience the same buzz. This is tolerance, which is a hallmark of all addictions.

The marker for addiction is continued use despite negative consequences. Destroying your marriage classifies as negative consequences.

The last marker for addiction is the inability to control use.

I suggest watching the video series – your brain on porn, on the website yourbrainonporn. Have him watch it too.
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hows it been so far any new updates?!
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question...as i too 'kick the habit' I have taken viagra to 'bridge' the time and lack of libido so i don't have this ridiculous problem with my very terrific gf...can the desensitization really derail 50mg of viagra?!  
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I got a wet dream last morning at my 35th day. Is this a positive signal on my way of recovery
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to syd: yes absolutely. As you know Viagra only maintians the nitric oxide you have already produced. The signals for NO arise from the brain's erection centers, which depend upon dopamine. You are only as strong as the weakest link in your "erection" chain.

Falling - I think it is. But keep in mind recovery is up and down. You may have cravings arise from the wet dream - be aware.
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Update:

Just back from spending time with my girlfriend. Prior to meeting up I didn't M for 1 month. I havent watched P in months now and never want to watch it again. Im fixed!!!

The first time we made love, I was so tender down there I didn't last very long at all, but no worries, O was amazing, although my ejaculate was a bit of a yellowy colour.. not good. Long term I think you need to ejaculate occasionally to keep all your fluids/prostate etc all ship shape. It didn't actually matter that I didn't last long this time as it was the first time we had sex after months not seeing one another and the whole thing was so intimate and emotional. The next morning was a pretty similar experience. I suppose you could say it was working too well.

Over the next few weeks we made love quite a bit and things just got better and better. Now I love my little man! ED has completely gone. On several occasions he was an absolute champ. A couple of times towards the end I was lasting for ages with a rock solid erection, like 90% +. Infact during this time I had some of the hardest erections I have had in years.

I was eating lots of Cashew nuts, all nuts are supposed to be good for your manly bits because they contain arginine which is good for your circulation. And occasionally I was taking these Wellman Sport supplements which are a multi-vitamin for Guys and contain among other things Arginine and Zinc which are both good for your bits. I think I mentioned this in one of my previous posts.

When we made love in bed this is what I found worked best for me/us.
- Low light in the room, a couple of scented candles was good, plus it creates a really romantic atmosphere.
- Kissing and touching under the covers for a while to get in the mood. Her stroking me with her fingers really softly rather than gripping it, more like teasing, works really well. Also not being able to see very much make your imagination and your senses work more.
- Touch her for a while. This gets her to the point where her all her muscles start contracting and everything swells up with blood down there and makes her really sensitive. Also this gives my little man a chance to relax a bit, which I think is one of the things that helps me last longer.
- Make love really slowly and gently for a little while without a condom. This helps get her lubricated without having to put any artificial lubricant inside her or just rely solely on hers, and its really intimate.
- Then I'd put my raincoat on and we would be a bit more adventurous. Last time we were together I didn't have much success with condoms because I would go soft inside her, so I used withdrawl (withdrawal) the whole time, which gave me a couple of sleepless nights for a while afterwards. This time condoms werent a problem.

We tried a few different positions and I didnt have any problems. I even managed to have sex laying on my back, which was a disaster the last time I tried it because gravity just drains all the blood out if its not working properly. The best position i found was with her laying on her back with her hips slightly raised and me standing at the side of the bed. I like this position for several reasons. Firstly gravity helps my little man stay hard. I can see everything and I can lean forward and kiss her. It allows me to put a bit of pressure on her front wall where her G-spot is meant to be and I can stimulate her clitoris at the same time with my hand, the combination of which works 'rather well' for her, which makes me feel great.

One other thing I will say, my girlfriend knows all about the whole porn induced ED thing and that i stopped M for a month before. She said I was like a different person to the last time we were together and made lots of comments on how hard my erections were.

Hopefully this will last. My plan from now on is never to watch porn and masturbate again. Don't M unless I am really horny for it and when I do try to visualise real experiences with my girlfriend. Then whenever i get the opportunity enjoy the real thing with my girlfriend.

Good luck everyone.
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Hi everyone,

I wanted to thank you all for your courage in telling your individual stories. You have no idea how much this forum has helped me. I recently had my first real-life encounter and, well, I've barely eaten or slept since then and just feel so bad about it because I feel that I disappointed the person I was with. I don't believe my problem was strictly porn related, but I definitely do jack off and watch stuff online WAY more than I should. Having read this I swear I will never watch anything sexual online ever again. It's just not worth it.
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Hello, i've just discovered that this was a sickness/drug. I've been using porn and masturbating since i was 14-15. I've now realized that i have porn ED. Im just the same as everybody else here. I have a gf which i kinda live with, so i dont usually go into porn unless i dont see her in a couple of days. The problem is that i had this sickness way before having my gf. I've been with my gf for 2 years now, and what ive done is that ive been taking 1/2, sometimes 1/4, of  50mg sildenafil (viagra) when we have sex, since day 1. The only way i can get a full erection is with viagra. If i dont have viagra its kinda hard to get fully erect, or will get one 80% but wont last for long.

So how does this work? I can quit porn (ill do my best), but will it work if im having sex (using viagra) 4 times a week? Do i have to stop having sex/masturbate/watch porn for months? I think i have a bigger problem, because i can quit porn and mb but how will i tell my gf that "hey honey i just realized that i dont want any sex for 5 months"...? im ******? Help!!

I started going to the gym today, eating alot of protein and carbs and vitamins, ive read that helps..
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By the way, im 25...
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Hi, everyone. Thanks for all the information and stories you have all posted. This is my story. I am 30 and have ED. I have been to the doctors who say nothing is physically wrong and only thing they can recommend is a sex therapist.

I first noticed the problem around 5/6 years ago. I was kissing with a proper 10/10 girl and realised I wasn't hard at all. Up until then I would get rock hard erections all the time, just seeing a hot girl or even holding hands. I thought it weird but thought nothing of it really but since then I have had severe ED.

I quite often get morning erections especially when I have taken zinc or zma the night before so clearly I am physically able to. However I am unable to get any sort of spontaneous erection or get aroused with a girl. I have tried all sorts of herbs, pills and vitamins with no effect. I can get hard with touch from a girl but within seconds of that stopping, I lose it completely, so I am unable to put on a condom or even stay hard enough for penetration. If I drink alcohol it is even worse and I am unable to get hard at all even with stimulation. I realise now that although I wanted to have sex, it wasn't a burning desire or anything, so definately my libido was very low.

The very few erections I do still get, I would guess something like 1 every 5 months and I only get them when I am extremely tired and have missed at least a full nights sleep which is odd.

Only recently have I started to suspect porn has played a big part in all this. I have watched porn online since I was about 16/17, just occasional use at first but it has become a habit. I use it almost every day, and also masturbate at least once but in recent years usually several times a day. Most of the time I have trouble getting hard when masturbating, whether with porn or without, often only when I am about to ejaculate. This has definately become an addiction, as I don't even feel pleasure or get aroused from watching porn, yet I always end up doing it.

I am going to quit porn + mb and am hoping I have finally found the cause of it all. I lost the love of my life because I was unable to have full sex with her, and she was extremely patient with me, well over a year. All I can say is if theres even the slightest chance the porn is to blame, then its totally not worth it. I feel so stupid and angry with myself that I didn't notice what was really happening at the time.

Best of luck to everyone on there road to recovery!

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you guys are the best. i havnt had any idea what was wrong with me for the longest time. I've felt less of a man, to the point where i would be scared of hooking up with girls and going farther because i didnt know if i could get it up or not.what really did me in was when i was visiting a college at  the age of 18 and sure after a long night of partying i woke up the next day and went back to this girls dorm. we're gettin busy and well lets just say i couldnt get it up no matter what. this hurt. bad. just had gotten out of a long term relationship with a girl, so of course i was tryin to forget her. of course when this happend, that girl asked my friend whose also a girl the one question that you always worry **** is she gonna tell people i couldnt get hard?  she asked " hes not gay is he", now theres nothin wrong with it, but i am most certainley not. but it still hurt cause i felt what the hell am i going to do? i had started using porn  after i ended it with my gf and now im 21 i finally realize that this is whats wrong with me. i thought maybe i need to see a doctor. maybe im just depressed, which it is really depressing at times, cause from then on, i developed a fear. It would always pop in my head oh no what will i do? what will i say if it happens and i thought about it to much.Im quitting porn/mb today with the hopes of helping myself. and maybe I also need a chick that i actually will care about. a while back i read a book that gave me more than enough confidence in myself at the time which i prolly will read for the 5th time. the books called "I Hope They Serve Beer In Hell"now im not suggesting that you have to be like him or strive to be, in fact the author wrote the book to give to society and to learn from his mistakes. This book gave me confidence and insight that sometimes you gotta say **** it. I would recommend it to anyone its a good laugh and it is most certainly a confidence booster at least it was for me. Thank you all for everything you wrote, you have no idea what you've done for me by sharing everything. good luck gents
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During my UG, i used to drink alcohol a lot and used to throw up regularly. That went for some 4 years. then i got into another habit of watching porn and masturbating... i used to watch porn for hours.. i've watched it for more than 6 hours some days. everytime i used to masturbate... recently i'm not getting a full on erection.. when i actually want to have sex wit my gf, i've lot of desire in me but my thing goes off all of a sudden... i'm under huge mental depression.. i've stopped watching porn for the past 10 days... and i do smoke cigarattes. could somebody help me with this...
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For the past two years i've been searching for things that could heal my ED problem and i've discovered all those things that you have mentioned here. But as you said my mind doesn't flow with me and didn't accept the fact that i'm correct in this aspect. i dont know how to control my **** mind. i m pretty sure tat i wont watch porn or MB for atleast 3 months from now and its already 2 weeks now... i felt really bad when i felt like i'm the only person in the world having the most sexual desire but couldn't perform with a real women...
I m ready to be patient enough to let my body to heal itself... IT WILL ONE DAY.... Atleast before my marriage..
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well i m on the same mission,., really messed up my life... i know nothing can be changed now.. but i believe i can overcome this... its been 15 days now... no porn no masturbation... i have the hope.. but is there anyone else out there who had recovered completely from porn induced ED and having rock hard erections now.. if so please let me know and share your experience which gives me much more confidence... yes confidence matters here.. its because of lack of confidence v messed up our lives with this porno ****... i dont like it anymore.. seriously i dont want it anymore in my life....
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hello everyone im glad found this site. i am a female and my boyfriend and I have been a long distance relationship for a 1 year 1/2 now at the time we have been seeing each other once a month. as the months went on he was cuming less and less. he would make me *** then masturbate to make himself ***. when we talked about it he said he has been watching porn and masturbating.... at times i would watch him do it....

(but  when he is alone he uses porn and masturbate....when we are together he would make me *** then masturbate without porn....)

we are both very sexual people. but now we live together its hurting our relationship when we first met the sex was so good and it was easy for me to make him ***. when we first met the sex was really good. i know its a form of ED but what can we do to get back on track????? he is 35 and i am 28 so we are both young


i love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him...
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Everyone's comments helped me get a little perspective on what's going on in my brain. I am in my early 20's and this problem (of being impotent) started about 7 months ago (late July I think). Me and my girlfriend at the time had only been dating for like a month. We had had sex plenty before this problem reared its ugly head. Then, one night, it happened. I got soft. I thought I had had a sex addiction in the months leading up to meeting her and that was on my mind. I chalked it up to the sex problem and we decided to stop trying (but it made her feel really bad and I felt like I failed)...this problem happened for the duration of our relationship which ultimately ended in September. Since we broke up I’ve tried to have sex with 3 other chicks (No strings type things). Each time we got back to my place it happened again. It was like this psychological cycle: I would think about my ex (who it started with) and then i would become afraid of it happening again, and then it would. And I’d feel terrible all over again. So recently, it happened (like 2 weeks ago). I was able to make a valid excuse (lack of condoms) to not make it seem like it was her, but i knew the truth.
Every time it happens I become absolutely obsessed for weeks after. It hinders my ability to talk to new chicks because it is such a wall. Like if I went out with them, they digged me and we decided to have sex I wouldn’t work and then mess everything up.
So the reason I am here is because after she left that night (the last chick that is), I immediately went to a porn site and successfully masturbated. I put it together finally: I am not "broken" (at least in the medical sense), I am addicted to porn. It really made sense but really made me mad. I have a history of addiction (I am a recovering heroin addict- clean for 3 years now). I chatted with a couple [trustworthy] friends in the 12 step program that I go to. Apparently this kind of intense viewing of pornography isn’t typical. So now it’s time for me to lose the habit. I know (from kicking the drugs) I have to keep it in the day and not project. But i have to be honest: my worst fears of this addiction cripple me. I am afraid I'll just never be able to have sex again - ever. I think sometimes, that I'll die alone because of some stupid websites that I wondered on to while I was bored (and because of my personality, got hooked on). I mean it was really getting serious. I had a couple of paid subscriptions and a library of downloaded stuff. The stuff that I was looking at was becoming more intense too.
Anyway, what I am doing about it now is: I totally deleted all of the libraries of videos and cancelled all of the subscriptions and I haven’t masturbated for 2 days. I am going to tell my therapist about this when I see him this week. My fears are there but I am hopeful to give this nasty, nasty habit up too. Any suggestions would be appreciated.

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Hi,

I am a 33 year old British guy living in Sydney and I am quitting the porn habit.

I am not quite sure how long I have been watching porn for sure but porn usage has shot up over the past two years. I am not totally sure why. I think I was feeling unfulfilled with my wife in bed and I felt "well, I might just as well watch porn...". But I think that this just became the excuse after a while. Another reason is because I do like porn, it turns me on but it just became habit. I would get that urge and i would just follow it and somehow find myself sitting at the computer for an hour flicking from scene to scene, genre to genre.

So, I began enjoying watching porn more than making love to my wife. What i was watching on the screen somehow spoiled the reality of sex. I found myself watching types of porn that I have really no idea how I ended up watching. Transexuals, gay porn. I mean in real life it does nothing for me. I didn't watch harder and harder stuff just different porn to keep it interesting.

I would watch at least once a day. Sometimes i would binge and would somehow manage three times in one day! Most times I would masturbate to orgasm also. I knew what i was doing couldn't have been good for me. But you know, whilst you are doing it it feels great.

It was last year that I noticed Mr happy was not so happy any more. First I thought it was just tiredness, I was not getting morning wood any more, spontaneous erections but most of all i would not get truly hard, i mean that full 135 degrees stiffy. I could, can, still make love to my wife but it doesn't stay hard for very long and it takes me longer to orgasm. First I went to the doctors and found my cholesterol was high and my testosterone was low. They are both sorted now but still no hardon's!


So, I kind of stumbled upon this during post porn/masturbation guilt; About | Your Brain On Porn. It is basically saying that porn related erectile dysfunction is a huge problem for men now. It rewires your brain into receiving pleasure from porn only. It totally screws with your dopamine levels etc (still trying to make sense of it to be honest). 'YourBrainOnPorn' seems to be one of the few sites out there that doesn't recommend you give yourself to Jesus and he will sort it out!

And I am currently trying to reboot my brain as it recommends. Basically quit the porn totally, try not to fantasise about porn and don't masturbate or orgasm full stop. Let your brain return to normality. The problem is there is no set time scale. It seems to be at least 6-8 weeks to notice any difference but if you keep at it Mr Happy will be even happier than before.

So, this is day 6. It's harder than one would imagine. It's strange, I don't crave porn, it's more the feeling of sitting down and clicking on my favourite site that i miss. that feeling that something is missing. The hardest aspect to resist is thinking about sex and fighting the urge to masturbate. I keep getting flashes of sex in my mind involving my wife but it never connects to where it counts. In matter of fact it feels pretty numb down there to be honest but this seems to be what happens when you first start doing this.

Anyway, my greatest fear right now is that this does not work. I am really afraid that I could still be doing this two months from now with no improvement.. Only time will tell.
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I suggest this article from your brain on porn: "Why Do I Find Porn More Exciting Than A Partner?"

It explains in more detail how porn addiction can trump real sex. It expands on the concepts in the video series.

YBOP doesn't say how long because no one can. Some older guys recover in 8 weeks. Younger guys who start early on Internet porn are taking 120 days, and longer. Even after 120-150 days, they still see improvements for months.

Second - there are two types of guys giving up porn: those with ED and those without ED. Different set of criteria for when they feel rebooted.

Third, rebooting doesn't mean you are out of the woods - as some guys return to porn. That's why AA based addiction models say you are always in recovery. Not a fun thought.
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That's a really interesting article. But i do not miss porn at the moment. That's the honest truth. I am aware though of the power of those images. they drag you in and you become entranced by them. If I looked I would be in there for at least an hour and I so don;t want that. But what is really intense is that urge just to log on to a porn site. I almost get a shock of pleasure(?) emanating in my chest and guts at the thought of how easy it would be. There is a little voice saying "Go on, **** it. It's no big deal". I know that if i did I would feel awful after so I leave the computer when that happens.

It has only been 8days but I sort of feel better mentally. Hard to describe really, I guess I am happier, I certainly have more time on my hands, I am a lot more into my wife at the moment... in fact I have spent a lot of time fantasising about my wife, ha. But not in a hardcore porn context as I used to, more a normal bedroom/couple scenario. There is 'stirrings down there' but no sign of the full whack. When I first started this a tried to resist all thoughts to do with sex but now i sort of embrace those ones that involve me and my wife until I err, you know, want to 'crack one out' etc, then I stop thinking about it. I see this as being good somehow because it does mark a drastic shift from my past thoughts. Is it OK or will it slow the reboot down?

My wife is totally supporting me in this. She is so cool. If anything this could improve our sex lives in more ways than one; i get to concentrate on other techniques that give her pleasure and not me.... I'll be a God!

So, she is away on a business trip Sunday for a week. That will be hard I think. But you know, I feel sure i can stay away from the porn.
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I know what you are saying. I see a sexy woman and think "Oh yeeeeah" but that's it. I mentally check my **** it's a no no. Feels ****? Yes.
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as weird as it sounds little  bird in the nest ***** especially when there is a goddess before you and the little sob wants to stay in the nest, anyways me and my brothers are Electricians. we were pulling in a couple run feeds back to the panel.Going through a exterior stem wall of concrete with hammer drill all was good, got wire through fed in panel everything was fine except I was setting on the concrete outside and it was wet no big do this kind of stuff all the time. wellnot this time cause the wire had a nick some were and I found it right up through the leg and yes through part of me ball sack as it would be. help me mommy that was like the first time getting it in a zipper as a kid. except wtf later through the day and the next 4 or 5 days could not keep it from getting excited, I mean damm ever try to wear a tool pouch with mr boinger.why is this doing this cause last week my rod was grounded and would not do J.S.

                           Thanks    Gary - Tucson
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