22 with porn induced erectile dysfunction?

[bummed_out]

The first two times I tried to have sex I couldn't get an erection at all, one time was sober one drunk. Then the next girl was kind of a 3-night stand over a weekend with the only improvement being getting a half-erection and penetrating momentarily before it was too flaccid to go on.

Now, I've met the woman of my dreams, definite soul-mate and drop dead gorgeous...I ended up telling her about my past failures in intercourse and she joked it would happen with us but I was sure it wouldn't because theres a real connection with this girl, unlike the other two. And she's beautiful too, out of my league even...But sure enough the other night it was time and of course I couldn't get an erection...

I managed to get a decent halfer at first when the clothes started coming off and she grabbed around, but then it just wimped out and went away...

I've looked at internet porn since I was 12, now I'm 22, There have been times where the internet porn addiction got kind of bad, but it always mellowed out to calmer more normal routines, but always frequent. Sometimes I'd masturbate daily, multiple times daily, but then other times I'd go for a few days or so without any porn or masturbation.

Either way this girl is really cool and understanding and we talk about it openly with next to no embarrassment on my part anymore, I was going to see a doctor but then we decided it might be porn induced or psychological, and after that night I've written off all porn and I'm not masturbating again for a while.

My question I guess is was this enough for any of you? What was your porn addiction like in level of seriousness/frequency?

I'm hoping just abstaining from any kind of porn or sexual release for a while and only allowing myself to get off with her will work...If not I'll be crazy bummed...but I guess I'd go to a doctor...I'm just hoping porn has Temporarily (hopefully very temporarily) given me this problem and its on its way out very soon.

Any help or anything at all is appreciated, its kind of hard to talk about this stuff openly with your friends or "the dudes" and my girlfriend isn't knowledgeable or experienced in this...

[electriceyes]

You have an addiction to sex in the form of masturbation. Sex is literally like cocaine. Every time you masturbate to porn, your brain releases dopamine...a feel good "drug". When you masturbate excessively your brain has to produce more and more dopamine to get the same high. Just like a drug user has to use more of the drug to get high. ALSO you now have a mental association with the porn images and the feel good drug. STOP watching porn. Stop mastubating and just let yourself be for a while si your brain can reset itself back to its natural dopamine levels. Also your penis will regain sensitivity. It's really just this simple. You will begin to respond to your beautiful girlfriend with patience and allowing your sexual brain to heal. Its all about finding a sexual balance. Good luck.

[msm517]

Hey thanks for the advice, I almost gave up that day, but when I was about to do it I decided to close my browser, turn off my computer, and went outside to get some air. This is my ninth day without porn or masturbation, I am training every day, and trying not to use my computer too much during my free time. But being away from porn and masturbation still a big challenge, hope I will be able to overcome these first couple of weeks. Good luck to everyone going through the same process.  

[ben213]

I'm trying to determine what counts as relapse to porn. If you see a sex scene on a movie or pictures of hot women on the internet does this mean you have to start over? I'm trying to avoid this type of stuff at all costs but this **** is everywhere. Im on day 80 of no masturbation and havent seeen much results and im starting to wounder if this is beacuse i was looking at women on facebook and dating sites before i realised that even this might not be good for me. It would be absolutely heart breaking if i had to start over now because of a sex scene i saw on tv, or pictures i saw on the internet. If someone could clarify this for me it will be  much appreciated.

[same_same]

I have lived through ALL the exact things that you describe,,,

I am on my 6th or 7 th week now of no P. I have masturbated a little, but I would recommend to stay away from it... The first couple of weeks can be really hard for you... You will have urges and feel ****** about yourself, but stick to the plan, It works! Be aware that the recreation is not linear - if you get your morning woods back one week, it might be gone again the next week. Don't freak out abut it!

[rakesh751]

HAS THIS HAPPENED TO ANYBODY BEFORE

I was a frequent masterbater.... i'm not sexually active...suddenly one day i just stopped getting mornign erections and spontaneous erections...now it seems like i have to try harder to get an erection when i masterbate..but eventually i do get an erection....i'm 22 years old and i've stopped all porn n masterbation...plz helppp

[msm517]

HI, I am 25 years old(26 in a couple of moths), and like 7 months ago I started to notice a problem with my erections while beeing with girls (I had 3 awful embarrassing moments)...and like 3 months ago it got worst, I couldn't even get an erection while I was watching porn and trying to masturbate but somehow i was able to have an orgasm (is this normal??, I am really freaked out), last week I read the thread you posted in this forum, so I decided to be abstent from porn and masturbation for as long as necessary, this is my fifth day of no porn or masturbation...is it bad for the recovery process if I masturbate without watching porn?? I know that this urge I am feeling is part of the process, but it feels out of control. Thanks