22 with porn induced erectile dysfunction?

[bummed_out]

The first two times I tried to have sex I couldn't get an erection at all, one time was sober one drunk. Then the next girl was kind of a 3-night stand over a weekend with the only improvement being getting a half-erection and penetrating momentarily before it was too flaccid to go on.

Now, I've met the woman of my dreams, definite soul-mate and drop dead gorgeous...I ended up telling her about my past failures in intercourse and she joked it would happen with us but I was sure it wouldn't because theres a real connection with this girl, unlike the other two. And she's beautiful too, out of my league even...But sure enough the other night it was time and of course I couldn't get an erection...

I managed to get a decent halfer at first when the clothes started coming off and she grabbed around, but then it just wimped out and went away...

I've looked at internet porn since I was 12, now I'm 22, There have been times where the internet porn addiction got kind of bad, but it always mellowed out to calmer more normal routines, but always frequent. Sometimes I'd masturbate daily, multiple times daily, but then other times I'd go for a few days or so without any porn or masturbation.

Either way this girl is really cool and understanding and we talk about it openly with next to no embarrassment on my part anymore, I was going to see a doctor but then we decided it might be porn induced or psychological, and after that night I've written off all porn and I'm not masturbating again for a while.

My question I guess is was this enough for any of you? What was your porn addiction like in level of seriousness/frequency?

I'm hoping just abstaining from any kind of porn or sexual release for a while and only allowing myself to get off with her will work...If not I'll be crazy bummed...but I guess I'd go to a doctor...I'm just hoping porn has Temporarily (hopefully very temporarily) given me this problem and its on its way out very soon.

Any help or anything at all is appreciated, its kind of hard to talk about this stuff openly with your friends or "the dudes" and my girlfriend isn't knowledgeable or experienced in this...

[newstart26]

I just read all of the posts on this thread and its really heart breaking how many of us guys, even as young as 15, have this problem, and how it messes up our lives and those of the ones we love.

So since everyone else is being really open and honest, here is my story. Hopefully there is a bit of wisdom in there that some of you younger guys can, perhaps, learn from.

I'm currently 26, my love life has been a bit non existent until recently. I kind of hid myself away at uni. I've never had a one night stand, partly because it seems kind of immoral to me but also probably also because ive been a bit of wimp and should 'man up' a bit. I met a girl this summer, we speant a night together in a darkly lit room kissing and cuddling and feeling one another up a bit, it was magical. At this point I was a virgin, not that she knew that. The sh1t thing is she lives about 3000 miles from me and after that night we had to split up. We chat on Skype all the time, and over the next month or so I eventually fessed up that I still had my 'V-plates' and I went to see her for a week this summer and subsequently lost them. I had the best week of my life and then we had to split up again.. back to Skype.

So thats the context. Our first time was a bit of a struggle.. condoms weren't working for us, so I went skydiving without a parachute so to speak, a brave (or suicidal) move for a first timer. My erections aren't what the once were, and getting and maintaining wood was a problem. Over the course of the week, things got a bit better I could manage about 70% wood and i even managed to finish on a few occasions (outside obviously). Its not good when a girl thinks your D doesnt work.. and it can seriously trash your chances of forming a relationship with them. We had a few seriously awkward conversations about it. A few days in I told her that I thought it was porn related, which really disgusted her. Not that many girls watch porn, atleast not in the same way guys do. The really awful thing was that she thought that the reason my D wasnt hard was that I wasnt attracted to her. She felt bad in herself because of me. Its a horrible feeling.

I want my D working properly. I want a rock solid erection that I can use to take her places shes never been before. Shes had a few boyfriends before, but never had an O. Being a scientist of course I looked this up, and its probably because she prefers Missionary position, which makes putting pressure on the front wall of her V really difficult and thus stimulating her G-spot impossible. The poor girl thinks she can't have one. I want to change her mind, but to do that I need the 'bone' back in my boner.

In my case I've been looking at porn since I was about 13 I think, which as I'm 26 is a depresssingly large HALF OF MY LIFE. I wish I had never been introduced to it, or we never had the internet. Back then it was just pictures of course, dial-up and all that. Things escalated when broadband came along. Porn steals your innocence. I should never have seen those things back then, especially at that young and impressionable age. You need to find these things out for yourself naturally, not looking a pics/video online. I honestly think if I had never seen it, I would have lost my virginity years ago and be in a much better sittuation now. The type of porn you look at over time definatley gets more hardcore. My poison is these amateur couple videos, especially when they are my sort of age.. which is really sad when you think about it, all that time spent bashing the bishop to those when I could have been with a girl of my own. Also, watching porn when you're a kid makes you insecure, thinking your not the same size/shape as others.. well of course your not.. your only about 4 ft tall! Unfortunately the insecurites never go though and you end up missing out on so many opportunities and magical moments that are part of growing up.

So I stopped looking at porn completely at the end of October sometime, and over the same period have been trying to cut right back / stop masturbating. Ive failed a few times but currently its been 10 days. No sign of morning wood, not regularly, and certainly nothing to write home about. Not had a wet dream in longer than I can remember, even just an erotic dream. I want all these things back, well maybe not the wet dreams. I feel like my addiction to porn growing up stole my innocence. I've had days where it is really sensitive, and others where it practically doesn't exist. Porn is completely off the menu for me forever now, I've wasted too much of my life, pleasuring myself. Over the last year or so when I watched porn and masturbated I wasn't even at 100%, I guess i'd need to elevate the extreme nature of what I was watching to make my body interested again.. and in the process only make things worse. No, thats it forever now.

So no signs of major improvements yet for me, but I'm hopeful. Im going to the gym, I bought a pull up bar, im doing kegels.. the PC mucle is a seriously important muscle to exercise by the way, for guys and girls.

Fingers crossed I'll see some improvements, and good luck to everyone else trying to kick the habit and reclaim their manhood.

[lostinmyownspace]

I completely agree with you, this problem needs to be admitted and shared to others. I came out of the closet to my partner and she was so gracious. She came to me the next day and told me how wonderful I was for letting her know about my problem. And it is a shared experience the problem belongs to both involved.

I am now 2+ months without porn and the attraction is VERY strong to re-open the habit. It really is an addiction. I struggle with the desire daily but have, so far, not given in. I am sad that my life is like this, but live in hope it will be getting better by this time next year..

[yoga110]

Hey guys, i am doctor and 29 yrs old. I am together with this amazing physician and our love life would be awesome if i could maintain an erection. I have been consuming porn since 16 or so. I would get horny that i would masturbate like 3-6 times, usully even watching porn. Often disgusted sometimes afterwards i used to always get this craving - like an addiction. So back to the present, Getting and erection when we are naked is no problem. Since we use condoms thats the moment my brain gets panic that now its the real deal, feeling even pressure or scared losing my erection yet again. Usually in missinary i feel comfortable and as used to my masturbation habits if i go fast and hard i come quckly. If we both take it a notch slower o she is on topnafter 2-3min i lose my erection. We both have taked about this since we r both in the medical field. So far we both wanted to take away the pressure and just make no big deal of losing an erection. Then again i thought maybe i was just used to be a "sprinter" during masturbation. So cutting down is the way to go.  Just wanted you guys to know that i will keep you updated. i think my brain and my erectile reflexes are conditioned to my excessiv m-habit. And advice to couples is to talk about this openly to your partner. Coz your girl might think its her and not you... I told my gf that i masturbate a lot and i am trying to limit (quit for good).. It helps!

[itsjustforfun]

Thanks Yellowsnow!

I'm 32 and been intense into porn for 8 years.  The decline started right about the same time.

There were good moments during the first semi-clean 5 months.  But nothing like my younger days.  But I got decent erections and arousals at times on my own or from girls I talked to online.  My wife... nothing.

I went completely clean for 3 months.  Felt great in general.  But didn't feel like things improved a whole lot sexually.  But I guess they did improve and I didn't realize it.  I went crazy and started mb without porn.  Then progressed to some old intense marathon habits of porn.  I've come to realize i'm an extreme user.

I'm not looking at porn right now but i'm also not completely clean.  I find it's best to find people to chat with online to keep my mind off the boredom.  Boredom is my worst enemy right now.

One dude on here told me he has had really good results from acupuncture.  Not sure if he posted that publicly... i forget.  I am trying a chiropractor for a few months of regular treatments.  And after 2 treatments, i've had some morning chubs and after nap chubs consistently for 5 days now.  he's been adjusting my vertabrae that is related to sex organs... which he showed me on xray that it was messed up as well as others.  i'm also trying to get my thyroid functioning well.  so hopefully combining 3 health improvements I will get better results soon... the 3 being....
1) no porn, very little mb (i just can't cut off unfortunately, it makes me crazy and susceptible to binge)
2) spinal health from chiropractor
3) thyroid health with treatment (thyroid is related to dysfunction btw)

And so, i keep on trying....

[same_same]

Hi, good to hear you found the site.

I'm 25 and out situations sounds very identical besides I haven't tried any meds and not planning to.

I'm i week 6 now, have done M 4 times during those weeks but no P... I can tell you that things will change, but not in a linear way... I know the frustrating felling of being horny but no respond from the lower parts. Sometimes it works for me now, other times it don't. The big problem for me is that I think a lot about it and that might affect the reaction in a negative way. Other days just fly by and everything i s good...

So, what I'm trying to say is: Stick to the program, don't get freaked out by the "flat"-periods... they will come and go over the reboot...

[nomorejerking]

a radio show on the way to work actually brought my attention to this problem which im thankfull for other wise i never would have discovered this.

im 23 never had a problem in this department had a girlfriend for 2 years, i must admit ive been jerking the turkey since as far back as i can remember but when we broke up it became a daily occurence probably 3 times a day on week days. had a dry spell with the women for about 8 months then hit the jackpot and pulled 3 different birds in consecutive weeks. first 2 i couldnt get it up but figured it was the grog then the third i was lucky enough to have some cialis and f***** like a champ. thinking my problem was gone until i heard this on the radio and realised i havent been cracking any random fats soo naturally ive been stressing. did some research and here i am.

so after reading most of these posts i put my foot down and have decided to go cold turkey and stop arm wrestling the one eyed vessel atleast until the end of the year.

its been 4 days now went on a short trip interstate its odd though because the women at the beach there were top notch and its odd because im horny as hell but my soldier is non responsive. so far nothing he fells dead almost its ridiculous quite scary really but im staying positive. will definately keep you guys posted have alot of will power so im confident i wont lapse for a while.

SO BOYS NO BUFFING THE BANANA
cheers for your help