22 with porn induced erectile dysfunction?

[bummed_out]

The first two times I tried to have sex I couldn't get an erection at all, one time was sober one drunk. Then the next girl was kind of a 3-night stand over a weekend with the only improvement being getting a half-erection and penetrating momentarily before it was too flaccid to go on.

Now, I've met the woman of my dreams, definite soul-mate and drop dead gorgeous...I ended up telling her about my past failures in intercourse and she joked it would happen with us but I was sure it wouldn't because theres a real connection with this girl, unlike the other two. And she's beautiful too, out of my league even...But sure enough the other night it was time and of course I couldn't get an erection...

I managed to get a decent halfer at first when the clothes started coming off and she grabbed around, but then it just wimped out and went away...

I've looked at internet porn since I was 12, now I'm 22, There have been times where the internet porn addiction got kind of bad, but it always mellowed out to calmer more normal routines, but always frequent. Sometimes I'd masturbate daily, multiple times daily, but then other times I'd go for a few days or so without any porn or masturbation.

Either way this girl is really cool and understanding and we talk about it openly with next to no embarrassment on my part anymore, I was going to see a doctor but then we decided it might be porn induced or psychological, and after that night I've written off all porn and I'm not masturbating again for a while.

My question I guess is was this enough for any of you? What was your porn addiction like in level of seriousness/frequency?

I'm hoping just abstaining from any kind of porn or sexual release for a while and only allowing myself to get off with her will work...If not I'll be crazy bummed...but I guess I'd go to a doctor...I'm just hoping porn has Temporarily (hopefully very temporarily) given me this problem and its on its way out very soon.

Any help or anything at all is appreciated, its kind of hard to talk about this stuff openly with your friends or "the dudes" and my girlfriend isn't knowledgeable or experienced in this...

[ananda76111]

I made the reboot period of 8 Weeks, and today is the week number 2 out of reboot period so I want to share my experience.
The first day out of reboot I visit a paysex place and came in the condom while girl masturbating (erection  not full)
Last week, I visit another paysex place and there was no way, my penis was not reacting to the hand of the girl.
Today again I visit another paysex place and I had the first eyaculation inside a vagina I have experience during my whole life. I just observe how my mind and my body is reacting to the different situation and I still realize there is a long way to cure what I have been doing myself for so many years, but today for me was like.. uauuuu, I still have a chance.
Thank you guys for sharing your experiences.

[hands9]

I'm 20, and it was about a year ago I split up from a 3 and half year relationship. Since then I've tried (and failed) to sleep with 3 other girls, all of which have been when I've been drunk and I couldn't get it up. At first I thought it was just the drink, but over christmas just gone I slept with my ex a few times, one of the times I was very drunk, but had no problems at all. Since then I've tried to have sex sober with another new girl, and the same problem has occured. The problem is it took me nearly a year with my ex to finally have sex properly with her, and now I'm desperate for that not to happen again as I'm not looking for a relationship at the moment, but of course would still like to be having sex.

I've read all sorts on ED and was left feeling confused as I know I'm not depressed or feel nervous when I go to have sex with another girl. It was only today I found this forum and am so encouraged by the amount of people out there who believe their problems could be down to internet porn. I have been masturbating almost daily over porn since I was about 14, except for when I was having regular sex with my ex. Since we split I'd never even considered porn as being the issue, but actually having read this, I'd admit I'm probably addicted and unfortunately a real naked girl (except my ex) just hasn't done it for me lately. It's definitely a control issue, with porn you're in control, with my ex I knew what she likes and that's why it wasn't an issue with her. I'm going to give up porn starting today and for as long as it takes to get through this, as good sex is a million times better than any **** I've ever had! Well done to everyone who has managed to work through it and I'm hoping the same will happen to me. Thanks a lot.

[DM2605]

Hi Guys - I think that I have recently suffered from porn induced erectile dysfunction. I split from a long term girlfriend last summer and spent 6 months without dating anyone else, during this time I was watching a lot of porn.

A few months ago I started dating a really good looking girl, the first time we had sex I couldn't manage a full erection (it was hard enough to just about manage penetration but but I lost it quickly) - I thought it was down to nerves / having a few drinks and using a condom. This happened another couple of times.

I did a bit of research online and found this site as well as a few others and realised that it could all be porn induced so I straight away stopped watching any porn or masturbating.

After about 6 weeks I feel like I've made a full recovery - we had sex the other night (I did take a viagra just to make sure and as a confidence booster) and ever since I've felt like I could get hard whenever necessary.

My question is should I allow myself to watch porn again? I haven't watched any since I realised it was the cause of my problems and now I'm worried that if I watch any I'll revert back to where I was - which is a shame as watching porn is enjoyable!

Anyone got any advice or experience of this?

[marvin323]

A couple of suggestions.

Erection problems can be mainly physical, mainly psychological, or a mambo combo. You say that you are unable to maintain an erection during intercourse. Can you keep an erection when she touches your penis with her hands or mouth, or when you masturbate?
Some men have problems keeping erections at the beginning of a relationship. Then, after they become more comfortable with their new partners, their erections become more reliable. Pay attention to your erection patterns to help you decide if you need to see a urologist or a sex therapist. If you have erections when you wake up or through masturbation, but not with a partner, that's important information that says your body is working correctly, physically. For the time being, why not receive pleasure and not worry about erections? These kinds of difficulties are common and transient. You can view them as part of life rather than as problems. Or, if it is a problem for you, sex therapy may make a difference

You could be experiencing "desensitization" from your masturbation, or "performance anxiety" due to your lack of actual experience with a partner.

To overcome either of these the most effective "technique" is for you and your partner to:

1. Go into your bedroom and get as comfortable as possible. You both need to be very relaxed (not via alcohol, or drugs). Try soft lights, soft music. Remove your clothing and continue to relax together.

2. Slowly begin to lovingly touch each other with NO goal to engage in sex. As your level of excitement rises relax and enjoy the feelings. Again you are NOT going to have sex (tonight), only pleasure.

3. If you feel yourself nearing "the point of no return" back off, and/or have your wife apply the Semans procedure, aka "squeeze", "pinch" procedure. A firm (not painful) "pinch" to the head of your penis. Then when you are able continue "pleasuring" each other. This will allow you to experience having erections for longer and longer periods.

For LOTS MORE information you can go here

[chuck105]

For the longest time I have been somewhat secretly depressed about this issue. I am 21 years old now and from about 16 when I lost my virginity I knew there wasn't something totally clicking.

I have been masterbating probably about everyday since around 7th grade when I found my first porno walking home from school. I never thought twice about it. I always thought it was the same as sex just more convenient and of course i'd rather have sex but for the time being I will just stick to this because it is fun and I wasn't having sex.

When I am with a girl I can get an erection after quite a bit of work on her part which is always embarrassing for me and they often either say they are not in the mood anymore or I will finally get an erection and we will have sex but not form a relationship.  I have since have had sex with about 4 different girls. Same thing happening every time. There was one girl where at one point sex was a pretty regular thing for us and I stopped masterbating all together not because I was forcing myself but because I didn't feel the need to. But once that relationship ended I was back to masterbating about everyday. A couple months ago I was making out with a girl things went a little farther we were both naked wanting to have sex and I couldn't get it all the way up and she just called it quits. I told myself I was going to stop all sexual activities including masterbation untill I figured out what the hell was going on. That lasted about 2 days untill I masterbated again. Now was brought me to do some research and google stuff was from what happend last weekend. At a party and got extremely drunk made a fool out of myself and somehow ended up naked in bed with two extremely good looking girls who were also both naked. We played around a little bit and I got no erection at all. not one bit. After being pretty depressed for the last week about it I started googling just normal ED's ( I had no idea there even was a thing for porn-induced ED's) I am really excited to be able to move forward and know that I am not the only one with this problem. I have deleted all my porn off my cell phone and computer. I have made a promise to myself to stop masterbating and looking at porn altogether.  I have also made a promise to myself to stop the uncontrollable drinking. I will update my progress as the weeks go on. As of now I am just three days in but atleast now I know there is hope and other people dealing with the same problem. Thanks Guys.

[healthysexlife]

I just wanted to encourage you guys again. From what I read, many of you are doing great! And when you think you can't do it anymore, don't give up, you can do it!

For those of you who aren't married... (yet) There is such a concept to "wait" for the right one you know! It won't Kill you to wait you know. Plenty of guys have actually done it before in times past. I understand your frustrations but there are a lot of virgin men who have struggles waiting too... What I'm saying Is, its Not impossible!

So since my last posting my hubby went back to the Masterbastion & Porn. But he has now stopped Feb.23...so Its been two months now. He actually had more of a epiphany than anything that made him stop. He had a series of dreams that weren't too pleasant and became so disgusted by it and so he just stopped cold turkey.

I'd have to say, he's said it many times before, but this time he means business... "Time is short" he says... He wants to do something with his life and doesn't want this addiction holding him back.  I know He's dead serious this time.  He'll probably decide to do public speaking on the issue one day soon because he's so determined to help other men with their sexual addictions. When he does, I'll post about it to let you know.

And yes, the half-hard boners do go away. The softness eventually becomes a normal hard-on. Just Don't concentrate on it.  Ignore it. Just give it TIME and A Lot of it. This issue didn't happen overnight... It took Years for you to get yourself into this... At least allow yourself a few months to get yourself out of it!