Attractive woman

[IrisStar]

I'm a woman in my 30's... And I've been single for the past 2 years.. Friends family even strangers tell me I'm beautiful all the time.. When I'm intimate with a partner I've been told that I'm extremely sexy.. But why can't a keep a relationship.. And why am I rarely asked out if I'm as beautiful as people tell me I am?? I need honesty men???

[PE_KING_DUCK]

Not sure if this helps, however I have a sister who is in her 30's and all her friends there about. Her friends are very good looking and from what I'm told my sister is very attractive according to friends all of them have great bodies however they all seem to be single. I queried my sister and I did some research and apparently there where much more women born in that era as opposed to men. So I'd pressume that if you were looking for men your age most are taken and the ones that are left are probably in there 30's and single cause they don't have a single cell of confidence in there body. I also agree that a good looking women is rather Intimidating to men and since the majority percentile of men who are single are in there 20's (more men born in this era) I'd say they don't have the confidence to go for an older women as gorgeous as yourself.

As for why your relationships don't work well I'd be lying to tell you I know why but I can make a suggestion that I have made to some other girl mates. More often then not a women has a certain standard or a certain type of guy she always ends up with. For some it's the bad boy and others the sweetheart, often if this type of guy is re-occuring, although you pressume this is what is wanted more often than not what we think we want isn't what we always truely want. For example These days society and holywood tells us that women want bad boys like vin diesel, Collin Farrell etc.... And the sad story is that women end up with these types of characters but don't truly like these men and end up breaking it off. Just a suggestion but maybee you could try finding some opposites to what you think you like. Sort of lower ur standard or nicely put lower ur expectations, many of my girl mates have been helped simply by me telling them to try going out with all types of characters, shapes & sizes. Most of these ladies have found long lasting relationships. Could be worth experementing.

Hope this helps.

[sammy73]

beelzebubba does have a point that many men can be intimidated by women that are too beautiful.

It may also be the case that they assume that anyone that desirable, at your age, is bound to be married or have a boyfriend already.

It could be that you are not often enough in the right situations to meet someone new who would want to ask you out; if you spend all your time at work with the same people, socialising with the same small group of friends, then you may not be meeting enough people.

As for why you can't keep a relationship - I'd have to know you WAY better before I could even start to guess what the problem is there.  All I'll say is that looks have very little to do with it once a relationship is well under way, it's character and personality and how well two people's characters combine that determines whether a relationship will last.

[beelzebubba]

My guess is that beautiful women intimidate men. The thoughts probably are, "She is out of my league" or "She'll never say yes to a schmo like me." I have to admit that I am guilty of it. I am an average guy, not particularly handsome by a long shot. I used to write for a living, I interviewed famous personalities. One time this stunning actress asked me out to lunch after the interview. The lunch went very well and there was a connection. Did I ever call her back? I am embarrassed to admit I didn't. Why? I couldn't get past the fact that she was so beautiful. OK so maybe not every guy would think these particular things, but I thought "Why would she ever really be interested in me - I'm not good looking enough", I thought that even though she had clearly expressed interest. I also thought that if we were out in public, people would look at us and think "How did THAT guy end up with her?"
You probably think I'm a schmuck now (and I guess I was), but I'm a genuinely nice guy and believe it or not a die hard romantic to boot. I have always regreted my choices back then. It wasn't fair to her at all. It is strange that I couldn't get past her looks to see the person inside. Strange that unattractive people suffer the same fate.
I guess the bottom line is that you have to work a little harder to show men you are available if they are interested. It isn't fair but it is what it is. A lot of beautiful women seem to have a sense of entitlement and men can resent that. Be down to earth, be yourself. Frankly, being a man (and not a really bright man) I don't know what womanly ways you can use to make men more comfortable with your beauty. I'm sure there are women here who might know.
Me? Now I'm gonna go beat myself up some more for shunning that actress. You? I hope you don't lose faith and keep looking for love. It is out there for you. That much you can count on.