Blushing red face shy

[BasemantJack]

i have a huge fear of public speaking, interviews reading aloud in front of others, making speaches, answering questions in groups.
i go red like a tomato every time, my heart beats so hard that it leaves stretch marks on my tee shirts. my confidence is very low.
do i have social phobia? can i get medicATION? what can i do to stop going red? how do i become confident again...

this is ruining my life. please help

[Noemi93]

i have this at times, i know how it feels
but just remember god is with you and your not alone
and you cant fear anything*

[KOPL]

Same problem here... its been around for a while now. Interestingly it does not occur when its cold, i mean when my face is cold, so my tactic to have a normal life mostly in winter:D is to stay in cold until my face gets cold... and then go to speak in front of people for a while and get out again. We must act like a swat team. Quickly in and quickly out. So you cant think about the situation.. always say yar in a hurry...
god..i wish there was a medicine for this..

[lubird]

My brother robert always turns red when a hot girl talks to him .. he's wondering if there is any medicine out there for him.

He thinks that girls can see through his pants and he knows he has a small one
please help him get over his fear of being red all the time

[KkaseyY]

Hi, well my name is Kasey, i just turned and i do believe i have socail phobia.  My face gets red everytime i read, speak infront of people (presentations!), answer a question if im called, i cant stand being stared at, being talked about even if its nice, being introduced to people because my heard beats faster and faster and my face begans to turn beat red.  Most of the time i shake, stutter, and my mouth becomes dry super dooper quickly.  I hate it, i want to do so many things and share my opinions out loud about things but i cant because this stupid thing is holding me back.  Is there really medication for this?  What are the effects if you know any?

[KkaseyY]

lol sorry i thought this was to post something like you just did....how do you work this thing?

[Rich_]

Seems like you are too self concious about yourself. The trick is to focus your attention towards something else which may help you to relax more and not worry about what other people are thinking

[leif ericson]

good luck with the interview and remember, you are DARTH VADER
you own the galaxy and you kick ass !!!     l.e.

[BasemantJack]

LOLOL

[BasemantJack]

cheers for the response. i guess i just have to figure some sort of method that works best for me. I have a job interview next week and already feeling really nervous about it.
Preperation is esential

[BasemantJack]

lol i like the darth vader one. will give it a try.

i went to a doctor about it like a year ago. he prescribed me Inderal 40mg (propranolol). That didnt seem to help. although i only took it for a week or so cos my g/f said it made me more angry.

What about goin red.....ive heard you can have surgery done to stop that from happening. any other methods you know of?
thanks for all your help. you dudes rock

[leif ericson]

this might seem funny, but i know a little about what your dealing with, what I did was start a kind of goofy therapy. whenever i walked into a building (such as a bank or store or anyplace really) i would hum (in my head) the DARTH VADER theme. after a while i noticed that when i did that, i stood taller and walked and spoke with far more confidence than ever before. in fact someone once said i walked into their store like i owned the place. try it !            l.e.

[rusalka]

I had the same problem and still have sometimes.  I joined a theatre group and it helped. If I have to do a speech I always have notes in order and know what I am going to say. I never do impromptu unless it is broached upon me. I will tell you the more you do it the easier it becomes though. Imagine these people looking at you are standing there in their underwear or naked. Choose three points slighlty above peoples heads when you speak in a large forum one to the left, one to the right and one in the middle. You can always start your speeches by saying geez just standing here makes me red in the face. Your audience relaxes more and understands you are human. Take deep breaths before you start. It's worth a go. Don't worry I have broken out in a sweat and hives.

[sparkeler]

You should see a therapist to address your fears.  You clearly have an anxiety disorder of some sort.  Don't worry, it's not uncommon at all.  It's time to control the anxiety instead of letting it control you.