CHEATING MEN

[keekee810]

I've been with this guy for a year and a half. He stated to me from the beginning that he has a gf, but he's a grown man and does what he wants. Okay, I didn't think it would get this far to the point where i am catching feelings and feels jealous sometimes. Crazy thing is that I'm not jealous when he is with his "girlfriend" it's when I see him speaking to other women. I'm checking his voicemails, I've torn pictures up, cut shirts up,and etc. My question is WHY?? do men cheat??? My feelings are so strong for this man and he keeps me stringing along. He'll mention a little about his feelings and says that, " I don't wanna het caught up." but if he didn't want to get caught up...would he continue to be with me and her??? He also says that he can't keep seeing me b/ che doesn't want his "nose" to be open. I'm confused and in love with another woman's man. The sad thing is I know this girl  ( we're not friends) but we have mutual friends. ALMOST neighbors and she speaks to my mom (former co-workers) each and everytime they run into each other.

[keekee810]

WOW!! I'VE NEVER LOOKED AT IT AS IF I'M CHEATING MYSELF. I REALLY DIDN'T THINK IT WOULD GET THIS FAR. AS FAR AS THE OTHER GIRL KNOWING ABOUT ME, I DOUBT IT. SHE'S IN DENIAL...I TRIED TO E-MAIL THIS GIRL TO INFORM HER OF THE SITUATION...HER EXACT WORDS, "MY MAN TAKES CARE OF ME VERY WELL, AND AS LONG AS HE'S HOME TO ME EVERY NIGHT..IT DOESN'T MATTER" WHICH IS A LIE B/C 3 OUT OF 7 NIGHTS HE'S WITH ME. I ACTUALLY FELL FOR THIS MAN HARD. HE'S NEVER GOING TO CHANGE OR "COMMIT" TO ONE PERSON, HE STATED HE DOES NOT SEE HIMSELF GETTING MARRIED (DUE TO A PASS RELATIONSHIP)...HE DOES'NT SPK OF MARRIAGE...NOT EVEN JOKING. THANK YOU!!

[sammy73]

In a way he's not cheating on you, and that's probably how he sees the situation.  Cheating would be if he was having sex with someone else behind your back, and lying to you about it, not letting you know what's going on.  He's being totally open about maintaining a relationship with both you and the other girl - I assume he's being open with her about it too?

He's doing this because he can, and because both you and the other girl are allowing him to.  He won't change just because you want him to.  All you can decide is what YOU want, and what YOU are prepared to do about it.  You can either choose to continue with this relationship the way it is right now, or you can tell him that you are no longer happy to keep going this way and he either has to commit to being only with you, or you will leave.

[SeriousSam]

Whats bad is both sexes cheat, really in a way though, the people they cheat with who know the score, aren't they at the very least cheating on themselves and their own personal code of honor?

Just a thought.