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Cumming too fast! Please help!


I am 20 years old. Since I was 18, I realized I had a big problem. The first time I ever tried to have sex i premature ejaculated instantly after penetration, and have been scared to try to have sex again ever since. Ever since then I notice that whenever I am with a girl, no matter what we do whether it's foreplay, dry sex, ect, I ejaculate extremely fast, sometimes within several seconds. With my first girlfriend, I lasted a decent amount of time during a handjob, possibly 8 minutes. But ever since my first time attempting sex with my second girlfriend I can only last a couple of seconds(yes, even during foreplay) no matter what I do. The strange this is that at home with masturbation, I am able to control it way better than when with a partner, and even then it is still not that long. My premature ejaculation problem has given me much less confidence than I've ever had in my life, and I sometimes wonder if it really will be this way forever. I fear I'll never be able to keep another woman. Please help. Thank you.

-Dan
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Wear a condom.
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Develop friendly relationship with females just to enjoy company , Let the sexual situatuon come in a natural way. Your fear of failure creates this situation. If you main goal is companionship you will be natural and will be able to perform. Develop this patience.Best of luck.
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Read good literature on Sex.Read and learn and experiment. It will be very interesting and rewarding experiences.And it will help you in other areas of your life. Sex is a good thing. even masturbation is also a good habit.Everybody does it. don't feel guilty about it.Premature ejeculation is also common.
Read books on visulization.This can help you to achieve anything in your life.Be positive.
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search for the word Kegel. Dr.Kegel is devised these exercises specilally for the people who have problem as you have. I am pasting part ot it.
A popular way to identify the pelvic muscles in men and women is to stop the flow of urine midstream. This is accomplished by contracting the pelvic floor muscles. Restarting the flow of urine is accomplished by releasing the pelvic floor muscles. Once identified this way, the pelvic floor muscles can be contracted and released independently of controlling urination. Kegels are most frequently performed in sets. Here are a few techniques:

    * Quick pumps: do 15 reps of quick pumps, pause for 30 seconds and repeat. Start at 15 and work your way up to 100 reps two times a day.
    * Hold and release: contract the muscle slowly and hold for 5 seconds, release slowly. Work your way to at least 25 reps two times a day.
    * Elevator: slowly contract 1/3 of the way, pause, then 2/3 of the way, pause, then all the way. Do 10 reps two times a day.

Full explanation is given in the website.Physiotherpist can help you to understnd the exercise better.Go AHEAD
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Squeeze Methods Developed by Masters & Johnson
Masters Johnson method to control Premature Ejaculation
Developed by Masters and Johnson, the squeeze method describes stimulating the man to the brink of ejaculation. When the man feels the onset of orgasm, he squeezes his penis hard enough to inhibit ejaculation and to partially lose erection.
The partner stimulates the man's penis until he is close to ejaculation. At the point when he is about to ejaculate, the partner squeezes the penis hard enough to make him partially lose his erection. By circling the hand just below the head of the penis, a squeeze will prevent ejaculation. The goal of this technique is to teach the man to become aware of the sensations leading up to orgasm, and then begin to control and delay his orgasm on his own.
This technique progresses from manual stimulation to motionless intercourse to intercourse with both moving. Masters and Johnson reported that 98 percent of couples who learned and used these techniques had success treating premature ejaculation.
Squeeze Technique For The Couple:
[1] This is best done by the couple, but the man can do it alone by masturbation if there is no partner or she is not willing to participate.
[2] The couple start by being as relaxed as they can, and free from distractions.
[3] The couple kiss and caress until the man is aroused, and then she takes his penis in her hand and begins stroking it.
[4] The man concentrates on his feelings of arousal, to increase his sexual awareness. (He does not try to think of other things in an attempt to distract himself from ejaculation).
[5] When he feels he is about to ejaculate, he signals to his partner.
[6] She immediately stops stimulating him and applies firm but gentle pressure around the penis where the glans (glands) (head) meets the shaft. She applies this pressure for 10-20 seconds.
[7] She then lets go, and they wait without doing anything for about 30 seconds.
[8] The procedure is repeated several times before ejaculation is allowed to occur.
Practicing this technique allows the man to successfully gauge his sexual response and determine the amount of stimulation he requires to orgasm so he will be better prepared during intercourse or sexual activity. A steady progression of practicing this technique manually to motionless intercourse and finally to intercourse was reported to be successful in 98% of those who perfected the technique.
This method cures the vast majority of people, provided that both partners are keen to co-operate
I am posting this,may be it will be useful to you.
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