Does need for sex decrease for men who are 48 yrs of age

I am wondering what to do with my bf who is 48 years old and having difficulty staying erect.  Our sex life was great but lately since the last year he wants it less and when we do have sex it has not been so great.  This started when we decided to live apart and now we have our own place.  This is his first time living alone in 26 years of being together.  I wonder if when we were together and when he cheated ( not that he would ever admit it but I know better) that he was capable of having sex.  We both still see each other but our sex life *****.  I have not a prude and enjoy having naughty sex which he well knows.  Im 120ilbs 34D 25 32 5'4 and 45 even though I pass for 32 since I am asian the problem is that I have not given up on him and well need more sex then he is giving me for the last 6 months.

I know he is not seeing anyone and tells me the only thing he would want is to have NSA but has not. I believe since we dont live together he has on occasion paid women from backpage but wont admit to it.  

Would this cause him to have erection problems when we attempt having sex?  I cant help but wonder why since if he was indeed getting to find out what it is like to have sex with other women that it is not benefiting me since I secretly am turned on fantasying him with another women.  Yes I have actually tried initiating a threesome but he chickens out???  SO here I am wanting to be satisfied and tired of masturbating.  Is it because he feels guilty or because of age or what.

I hope someone can give me some insight.  BTW yes I know the easy way of solving my problem is calling my male friends for a booty call but I really dont want to since I am worried that having sex with someone else as thrilling as it sounds might be disappointing and then what?




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[gymdandee]

It could be anything from seeing other woman to any medication he is on or even Diabetes
could you give more information on any health problems he could have.

[Caryopteris]

I think he should see a doctor and find out what's going on with his health.  Often the first sign of diabetes, for instance, is erectile dysfunction.  Alcohol use and smoking can also cause early ED.  I think your boyfriend is feeling pressure because he can't meet your needs.  He is trying to see if he can have erections with other women because he feels less embarrassment or he thinks it will be more exciting and help him get and keep his erection.  But it is probably a health problem rather than something going on in his head.  Making him feel bad about it is not appropriate.  You can encourage him to see a doctor and see if tablets or injections or other treatments work for him, or you can try to find a new partner who can meet your needs.  

[jenniferd9]

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