Erection prob w/ partner but not with married woman

[The Great Randu]

Please see my post title Erection disfunction.  It was a poor name.  I misunderstood how to post.

[lil mz innocent]

my boyfriend  is only 19 and a couple of days ago he lost his virginity to me.. but for some odd reason he cannot keep an erection.. he doesnt know why and i dont either.. and i know that he is attracted to me because i work out to keep a nice body and i know im not ugly. but we cannot figure out whats wrong he is to shy to talk to me about it what can we do?? could that be a medical problem that he has

[complete]

Hi,You need to wake up! You did not hear what I told you. Go back and look.The man does not want to be with you ,he has no erection problems except with you.The man is having an affair with another woman,wake up!You do not want to hear what people are telling you.Get rid of him and move on with your life.This man will only drag you down and make you feel worthless if you kept seeing him.I know its hard to face the facts, and you want to close your eyes to the truth.Find someone who will want to be with you only. Dont kept yourself hanging on chasing after a dream that is really a nightmare!Good luck.

[The Great Randu]

AND, why the hell would he keep me around???  I don't understand.

[The Great Randu]

The pain was BEFORE he started having sex with her!  After he told me the pain subsided, he started to have the affair with her!

[who_is_this]

A swift, hard, well placed kick to the testicles would go a long way towards solving many of your problems.  Be sure to have a lawyer on retainer and your finances readily available before administering this cure, though.  

You'll feel better almost immediately, and you won't care about his problems any more.

[SweetKia]

he sounds like a jerk. the pain is because of YOUR body? JERK. you deserve better.

[complete]

Hi, he has fallen in love with her.The pain he is feeling is because him and her are having so much sex .The other pain is in his heart because he is in love with her,and thinks he has to have her.When he gets her then he want want her.All he will do is mess up several peoples lives and cause a lot of pain for everyone.I would drop him and move on.Find someone that wants only you.Good luck

[who_is_this]

I'm dumbfounded you would be worried about his erectile problems.  I'd GIVE him an erectile problem he wouldn't forget anytime soon.  

So the gist of your question is what to do about his testicle pain and erection problems, and not what to do about your situation, which is that your husband is having an affair with a married bimbo on you?

[The Great Randu]

No, my question is:

Was it me causing the erection problems?  Or could it have been testicular pain?  

[The Great Randu]

BTW - thanks for all the comments.

HINT: Beware of any man who uses the online identity that I used for this post.

[AndiJ78]

I don't think there is any fault to be placed on you. This man obviously had another woman in the wings and most likely, due to his age or other factors, was unable to maintain or perform due to sexual encounters earlier in the day.

And like EVERYONE else, why on earth would you care about his problems. He WANTED you to find out, otherwise he would have either not taken the pictures or would have cleared them off of the camera.

You can rest assured he does not care for you, any one who cares for their partner would just as soon walk through fire themselves than to hurt the one they love in the manner in which he hurt you. It is time for you to move on with your life, leave him as nothing more than a distant memory.

Andi

[PammySue]

If he could be heartless enough to tell you that your body disgusts him, it is highly unlikely that his affair started after the pain subsided.  I think he's probably been up to his shenanigans for quite some time and you are just not aware of it, perhaps even with someone else before her.  I agree with who_is_this, kick him hard then kick him to the curb.

[The Great Randu]

Ok - here's the post so you don't have to look elsewhere:

A couple of months ago, my ex-bf said that it physically hurt him when I would give him oral sex. During this time, he was also complaining of testicular pain. The pain occurred all the time (not only during sex) and felt like a dull throbbing ache in his testicles. Our sex life continued to decline. Whenever we would try to have sex, his penis would start out hard and then become soft. I thought it was because of the testicular pain. BTW - the pain lasted for months. Naturally, he was very upset b/c he couldn't perform in bed so we stopped having sex completely. A couple of weeks ago, he said that his testicles felt better and that he thought that we could have sex but I was afraid to initiate and he didn't intiate so nothing happened. The following week, I found all types of dirty photos on his digital camera - a girl performing oral sex, vaginal sex, anal sex WITH HIM. Turns out the girl is married with a child also. When confronted, he said that its a thrill, etc - "I wasn't supposed to find out and not to worry about her." Of course, I asked him to stop and we would work on our sex lifes. However, it didn't end (like he said it would) and they continued while he wanted nothing to do with me sexually (but companionship-wise he did). How come he can maintain an erection with this woman and not me? Do you think his testicular pain had something to do with it? When we broke up, he said his erectile disfunction is b/c my body disgusts him. BTW - he's 50 yrs old, I'm 30 and the other woman is 31 (an ex-gf). Could the pain be caused by kidney stones?